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Is Having Too High Expectations on Love Hindering Your Chances for a Real Relationship?

Jennifer has a B.A. in Communications. She is an expert with self- help. She studied two years of marriage and family therapy.

Dating Expectations Being Too High

Women being lonely because her dating expectations are too high

Women being lonely because her dating expectations are too high

Expecations when it comes to love

Everyone has expectations when it comes to love. Everyone's expectations are different. Introspection is actually great when it comes to looking for love. So many people go out to clubs or online dating or wherever they prefer and if they don't meet the person they want right away they get upset and say "How come there are no nice men out there?" How about doing some introspection? What are your expectations like? How high or low are they? If they are too low and you settle for anything, men won't see that you have respect for yourself. You can't be too eager for a relationship. Otherwise you will be attracting the wrong partners in.

When your friend is in your ear

As long as someone puts in the effort and communication that they love and care about you and they want to see you that's all that matters. Now, yes there are the men that do play games, and your family and friends do want to protect you from those men. Things come up in relationships, work, family stuff, people get sick, life happens. Loyalty, Communication, Honesty, etc. is realistic those are important qualities those are good things. If you want someone who has no flaws, then you will be looking for a long time for someone. There is good and bad in everyone. No one is perfect. However, if one time one of you can't see each other because of an obligation the both of you have to work around it. That is what being a team is. You cannot have high expectations and expect to have a relationship. Especially once the kids are involved because kids get sick the last minute. You could have plans and then the kids get sick and you have to cancel. You have to go with the flow. Now, I am not saying cancel on your friends all the time or your partner I do not believe in ghosting. I am just saying when you are looking for a partner make sure your expectations are realistic. Loyalty, Communication, Honesty, etc. is realistic those are important qualities those are good things. If you want
someone who has no flaws, then you will be looking for a long time for someone. There is good and bad in everyone. No one is perfect. Remember you want someone who wants to build with you. Looks are important but it will not give you a family in the end. The only thing that will give you a family, is a man who wants to share his life with you. You can't make someone stay that does not want to stay. I have noticed it so many times before that two people click but the minute something goes wrong and outside party chimes wrong because they have too high expectations and that tear the couple apart. Meaning this, A man and women start dating they agree to go to a Valentine's lunch at a nice restaurant because one party has to work, they have a great time together. When they tell the outside party the outside party says "move on from him and all Valentine's dates should be at night."

Realistic Qualities in a Relationship

As long as someone puts in the effort and communication that they love and care about you and they want to see you that's all that matters. There is good and bad in everyone. No one is perfect. When you are searching for your partner, make sure that the qualities that you are looking for are realistic.

A Family Consists on Building

Remember you want someone who wants to build with you. Looks are important but it will not give you a family in the end. The only thing that will give you a family, is a man who wants to share his life with you. You can't make someone stay that does not want to stay. With that being said make sure your expectations are realistic and you will be sure to meet the one. Good luck!

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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 Jennifer Panaro

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