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8 Love Advices for Women in a Love Relationship
Are you by any chance in love? How’s that going for you? We bet it’s like a rollercoaster, sometimes it’s thrills and good moments and then it seems like all’s going down and you feel helpless to do anything to change directions. Well, the good news is you’re not alone on this ride, hopefully, there’s someone with you that gets all that and still wants things to work out.
The truth is that love’s complicated and a lot of work (if you want things to work out). Love (if it’s the real thing), changes you, it has to, otherwise, you get stuck in a relationship that’s going nowhere. There are stages for the love journey and all of them are different and require different things from you and him.
The honeymoon stage is all bliss and romance and it seems like you’re in a fairytale. As you progress in the relationship, things start to change (and that’s a good thing), it may seem that the romance and good times make a disappearing act. Well, it doesn’t have to be that way; you just have to make the effort to restore things. Don’t procrastinate, you know what to do. Take a good look at how things are right now and trust your instincts.
If after some pondering you feel that something’s not right, then speak up and talk about it with him. Most of the time, that’s just what it takes to get things working again. What else can you do? Here is more advice for you, 8 tips to help you navigate “this thing called love”. ☺
Advice for women in long term relationships
Just because you’re in love in a long term relationship doesn’t mean that things are going to work for the relationship. It takes a lot to keep a relationship going. A long term relationship is based on compromise. You two have made a commitment to make each other happy and you should relish on that. Take notice of the following advice, it’ll help you work on to keep things going.
1. When something is bugging you, speak up
Never stop communicating. If something said or done is bothering you, don’t keep it inside just to evade a discussion or a fight. You’ll only succeed in feeding the anger bomb and someday, when you (and him) less expect it, it’ll explode. So, even if it’s a small issue, if it bothers you, speak up, don’t let it fester.
Don’t hold grudges and learn to pick your battles. It’s better to talk it out until you feel that it has been addressed enough so you can let go. Holding grudges in long term relationships leads to bad relationships, and you don’t want that.
2. Don’t try to fix or change him
If you have very high expectations about what you want in a man (which is not a bad thing) you’ll probably spend a lot of time seeking the man only to realize that it doesn’t exist. So you’ll settle for the next best thing and then you try to fix him or change him so he meets your standards.
The hard truth is you can’t change someone who doesn’t want to change. If he’s reluctant to change or plain doesn’t want to, walk away. Don’t lose any more of your time. Your heart will thank you later.
3. Don’t put your life on hold.
Just because you’re both crazy in love doesn’t mean that your life as an individual has to stop. You are going to need your own space. You have to give yourself time to do things that you like, to work on your hobbies and personal projects. Go out with your friends and have a good time.
It’s important to keep your independence and your identity. This would benefit the relationship because you’ll always have things to talk about, otherwise you’ll get bored in the relationship, and it could become a routine.
4. Give him emotional strength
All that macho stuff is just for appearances; the truth is that he needs your support and occasionally a strong shoulder to cry on. The support has to be on equal parts, but sometimes he may need for you to hug him and tell him that everything’s going to be OK. Men really appreciate women who are strong enough to be a rock when things are not going great. Giving him your support will go a long way into building a strong long term relationship between you two.
Advices for girlfriends in love relationships
Are you a good girlfriend? Do you want things to work in your relationship with him? Keep reading, we’ve got some advice for you too.
5. Give him space
It’s not that he doesn’t want to hang with or share things with you, it’s just that he needs space to hang with “the boys”. Don’t feel excluded if he doesn’t invite or start to think that he’s drifting apart. It’s just a normal thing guys do. It could be that the time he spends apart from you would make him appreciate you more and cherished the time you two spend together. Don’t let jealousy be your adviser, trust him and give yourself some space too.
6. Be confident and embrace your strengths
If you excel at something (work, or have a special ability) talk about it, don’t play it down to avoid hurting his feelings or his ego. Guys like it when their girlfriends are good at something; they like to be around women who can talk with confidence about their challenges and victories. So don’t play down your strengths and abilities, confidence is a great turn on and some men find that very sexy.
7. Surprise him once in a while
Guys like to feel special and they like it when you shower them with affection when it’s just the two of you. Sure some PDA is much appreciated too, but it’s more special when you’re alone. So do something special for him, something nice and totally unexpected or unsolicited. You know your guy so you’ll have some ideas on what you could do to surprise and show him your love. This shows independence and guys find that very attractive too.
8. Compliment him
Don’t underestimate the power of a good and totally unexpected compliment. Guys can be inferred that you’re really proud of something he did at work or the way he solved a problem but the thing is, they need to hear it. So when you like something he did or are proud of his achievements and success, tell him. He’ll really appreciate that, choose your words, look him in the eye, smile and tell him. You’ll make him feel like a superhero. ☺
3 Troubling Relationship Issues and Problems Faced by Women in Love
That thing they say that now that you’re in a love relationship with the right guy you’ll live in paradise because you’ll never have conflict or problems… that’s a myth. In reality, being in a relationship means you’re going to have some bumps on the road. You didn’t fuse into one person when you entered the relationship, you’re still two individuals and it’s not always easy to share your life with someone else. But since you’re in love and are committed to making things work you need to have good communication and a sense of partnership.
The following are some troubling issues or problems you may face during your relationship. Take notice so you’ll be prepared.
1. No time for each other
A lot of couples in a relationship will face this problem. You have a lot of work or you have other responsibilities that take away the time that you could be spending with him. The best thing you can do here is sit down with him and talk about what you can do to help each other take some load off so that you can make time to be together.
2. You don’t feel secure about your future together
You and he may have different approaches and plans for the relationship. You want to move in together and he’s not ready for that. You want to take a big step in your carrier that may include moving to a new country and he doesn’t want to move. Talk about it at length and try to find a way so that both of you could fulfill your dreams and stay together.
3. You feel misunderstood
He doesn’t have a magic ball to know how you feel so you’ll have to tell him. Instead of complaining that he doesn’t get you or understand you, learn to express yourself in a manner that he gets the picture. Do it casually and don’t stress about what will happen later. If you were clear, that should be enough.
Love Quotes for a Woman in Love
There are many ways to say I love you. If you’re in love and need some inspiration we’ll leave a couple of quotes for you, women in love.
I could not tell you if I loved you the first moment I saw you, or if it was the second or third or fourth. But I remember the first moment I looked at you walking toward me and realized that somehow the rest of the world seemed to vanish when I was with you.
— Cassandra Clare, Clockwork Prince
A magnificence that comes out of your eyes, in your voice, in the way you stand there, in the way you walk. You’re lit from within.
— The Philadelphia Story
In case you ever foolishly forget, I will never stop thinking of you.
— Virginia Wolf, Selected Diaries
You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.
— Amy Bloom
Love’s beautiful, love’s complicated, love has the power to change you and make you a better person. Being in a relationship is nice but also a lot of work; it is making the effort so you don’t take each other for granted. So a wise woman would listen and take all the advice thrown at her because one of that advice could resonate with you and help you right a wrong or rekindle your relationship. So… you’re welcome. ☺