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How to Ask a Girl to Be Your Girlfriend

Want some helpful advice before you ask someone to be your girlfriend? Read on.

Want some helpful advice before you ask someone to be your girlfriend? Read on.

Will You Be My Girlfriend?

Maybe it is just a guy thing, but sometimes we take it for granted that because we like a girl romantically she feels the same way. Even if we have been dating the same girl for a couple of weeks we often jump to the conclusion that she is now your girlfriend, even if neither of you has discussed your official status.

Girls in one respect are just the same as guys, they too like to go out sometimes with guys just for fun, with no romantic connotations whatsoever. You know the one, a casual relationship with no strings attached.

Of course, if you have both been dating for a couple of weeks then the chances are that you are both on a similar wavelength and are developing feelings for each other.

Maybe now could be the time to ask her if she would like to make it official and become your girlfriend.

Read on to discover tips and advice for asking the special girl in your life to be your girlfriend.

Read on to discover tips and advice for asking the special girl in your life to be your girlfriend.

Embarrassing Friends And Parents

Have you ever noticed that if you are seen talking to a girl for more than ten seconds your friends, and especially your parents, assume that you like her and that she is your girlfriend?

It's embarrassing, isn't it? especially when your parents start going on about it.

Imagine what is going through their heads when you actually go out on a date with a girl, they automatically assume that you are boyfriend/girlfriend and you are both tagged with that label from then on in even if that first date went really badly and you both decided to go your separate ways.

Parents are really annoying, and if you go out with a girl for a second time, mum and dad begin planning your engagement party. Go out for a third date and the wedding bells begin ringing in your parents' ears as they arrange the seating for the reception.

Your parents and your friends assume that you and that girl are boyfriend/girlfriend and you assume that you are boyfriend/girlfriend when the truth is that you don't really know if you are.

Why Ask Her to Be Your Girlfriend

Asking a girl that you have been dating for a while to be your girlfriend may seem like a pointless waste of time and energy but there is a good reason that you should.

Commitment is a big thing; she likes to know where she stands with you, she likes to know that you are serious about her and, of course, she likes to know that you feel the same way about her as she does about you.

The simple question, "Will you be my girlfriend?" answers all of those questions in her head and means the world to her, as it shows her that you are committed to her and her alone.

From Friend To Girlfriend

So you and this beautiful girl have been dating for a couple of weeks and you realize that you are developing some feelings for her, the odds are in your favor that she is developing the same feelings for you too.

Even if you think that she considers you to be her boyfriend, it is only right that you ask her about becoming your girlfriend, even if it is a formality. This way, you both know exactly where you both stand in your relationship and make it official.

Once you have made your decision to ask her to be your girlfriend take action don't wait for the right time, you can't afford to wait too long because if you miss your chance you could lose her to someone else.

On the other hand, though, don't run up to her in the middle of the street and shout out in front of all of her friends "Will you be my girlfriend!" Although it may sound romantic it would embarrass her and she probably wouldn't want to see you ever again.

One of the surest ways to sweep her off her feet is to pose the question with a big romantic gesture.

One of the surest ways to sweep her off her feet is to pose the question with a big romantic gesture.

How to Ask A Girl to Be Your Girlfriend

Make sure it's the right time. Try not to think of what you are going to say because no matter how many times you rehearse it in your head things never go according to plan. Whether you take her out for a meal, a walk in the park, or a walk along the beach

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Test the water before you ask the question. "I really like you a lot" is a great opener, and if she replies with something similar then it's the perfect time to ask, "Will you be my girlfriend"?

Girls like a small personal token from you, not something that you have run out and bought. For example, your class ring, the chain that you wear around your neck, or even the sweater that you are wearing—anything that you have on you that you wear or use regularly. This token item helps to prove your commitment to her.

If she says yes, don't jump up screaming! She can change her mind very quickly, so keep it simple with a cuddle and kiss to seal the deal.

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Comments

Desmond TT on June 18, 2020:

I chart with a girl on my facebook which we had never meet before she agree to be my girlfriend but she like for me to less see face to face and she ask me a help i offer to her already so now what i do?

Gber A.Kenan on April 09, 2020:

I want to fall in love with a girl and she said that if i am serious i should see her mum. but personally,i dont know how i will start talking to her mum if go there. please,may you tell me how?

Olamilekan Saheed on December 04, 2019:

I Like The Girl

Ok I really love this girl so much in my class. She wants me to ask her out but I'm too shy. I want to ask her but I'm really shy. What should I do on November 26, 2019:

Pls help me

Jesseobi on September 17, 2019:

I asked a girl i know on facebook to be my girlfriend, she said its not possible What should i really do i like her alot

Bob Mukind on August 13, 2019:

What do i do next when my girl lover mum said she she didnt want us together again but that we still love each other

Bello on July 15, 2019:

I want a girl to be my girlfriend but she isn't giving me time

D Boy on July 12, 2019:

I Love A Girl, She Is In A Relationship But Not With Me. How Do I Win Her

Michael on June 23, 2019:

A girl in my class with the same name as mine Divine Michael. We were friends before I don't know what happened and we were not friends again.I don't know how to ask her for friendship again.

Godfrey on February 26, 2019:

I met a girl and I asked her to be my girlfriend and she said she cannot be my girlfriend but can only be a friend, just a friend to me. Since then I have been following her up, her word remain the same. So I don't know what say to her again. What do I do?

Isaac tunchy on February 01, 2019:

I ask a girl out and she said though I like you but am sorry I can't do it. What should I do in order to convince her

Hassan lawal on January 16, 2019:

Am afriad of girls to talk them pls hw can i do

Kelly on December 12, 2018:

I ask a girl to be my friend and she said yes what is the next step to take

isma khan music on November 09, 2018:

Am ever starring at her,and she as well,,but my heart pumps harder whenever i try to meet and propose to her........i really love her but i fear to tell her how i feel.

Gus on May 26, 2018:

I like a girl we are in 7th grade I know she likes me but she is I a relationship what do I do

Jake on March 01, 2018:

I like this girl named Kelsey we’re both in the 6th grade I’m thinking about asking her to go get ice cream with me I like but I don’t know if she liked me this has helped and now I feel more confident about asking her -jake

Francis on December 03, 2017:

I want a girlfriend

Secret on October 15, 2017:

I like a girl in fourth grade and she is about the same age as I. I wanted to ask her if she could be my girlfriend, but I'm scared that I would get rejected and she would tell everyone

Its personal on February 04, 2017:

I like a girl, who is same as my age 25, but the problem is now i am final year college student hence I don't have a job, I suspect her parents are searching for a bride, if i get employed i'll surely start chatting with her, yes even for chatting i feel afraid before i become independent, she is having a elder brother(unmarried) who is presently doing his higher studies, I hope her parents may delay her marriage. Any advice on this guyzz

Tony on January 01, 2017:

My experience is that nice girls get engaged before they graduate from high school.

Michael on August 27, 2015:

I love a girl in primary school , I'm only 10 but I think she loves me as well but I'm dying to kiss her , shes so pretty!

Brian on August 02, 2015:

guys can I have your help coz I what to get back to my Ex girlfriend she loves me but she cn n't say it I need your help to make her too do so!

samus on March 05, 2015:

i like her but she doesn't know im in fourth grade

half bl00d prince on March 05, 2015:

I love a girl..but i didn't said to her...because we started our relationship as friend.....she loves friendship very much.....i know that she likes me very much as a friend.......she too knows that i like her too...i dont know what will be her reaction when i say it to her...how do i say it to her??

chris on February 26, 2015:

I have a big problem here,I like this girl,but I dont know how to ask her to be my girl . Im not sure how to start the conversation with her can you plz help me? Cause I really like her.

Herc is not a jerk on November 07, 2014:

I like this shy girl and i'm 9 and she is 10.How do I get her?

alissa on September 13, 2014:

Just ask her if she says no then she's not worth it I should know. I am a girl to

Please help on April 10, 2014:

I know a girl in my class and I really like her but so does my best friends but im ugly :( :( :( and I really think she doesn't like me. How could I ask her out without being nervous? HELP.

Young love on February 26, 2014:

I'm 11 and a girl there's a boy that always shows off for me...... He told me today that he was in love and we are not even going out !!!!!!!!!!!!!plz help!!!!!!i have a crush on his cousin ,but his cousin tells me everything about him...............btw his cousin is sooooooooo freaking hot!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jim on February 19, 2014:

I been taking girl in class for short THIMe take other girls to

Really like just tell her and ask be Girl-FIRend what says ps .

I am very shy need help think will yes likes back . Even is shy

Like me tell her a lot .

girl steeler on May 16, 2013:

I loved this girl a long time then this boy comes then he stole my freaking girlfriend named Alese Hamilton then when he stole her then it felt like my heart already has been broken you guys out there please don`t let that happen to you know i`am trying to get a nother girlfriend. mark you just have to say something sweet to her and just be yourself i know you can do it mark i believe in you all you have to do is believe in your heart believe you can do it.

garybarnes on January 13, 2013:

i have a crush on some1 in my scool and im a litle shy what do i do

Unknown on November 25, 2012:

There is this girl I like, we are in 8th grade, i have some of the same classes as her and she is very nice. In our school(like many others) she is one of the more popular kids, I am near the middle. She plays volleyball and basketball and I play baseball and basketball. What I think hurt my chances is that now she probably thinks of me as a friend. One night me and her sat on our iPads emailing each other all night and part of the next day. What should I do? Every day I want to tell her I like her a lot or even love her, but I dont. Should I tell her how I feel, spend a lot of time with her so that she might fell the same way, or just try to supress this "crush". The only thing is maybe it isnt a crush. If anyone could help me out I would appriciate it a lot.

T-rev on August 28, 2012:

im sixteen and the last time i had a girlfriend was five years ago and i still cant rebuild my confidence. im in need of desperate help to rebuild my confedence so that i can ask this one girl out. can you help me?

young on July 19, 2012:

hi i m 17 i really need help about my girl friends because she ask me i never say something to make it happy

p l on July 19, 2012:

i really need help

franko on July 12, 2012:

it is hard enough to meet a GOOD WOMAN NOWADAYS as it is, especially that many of them now have such a BAD ATTITUDE PROBLEM. and to ask a woman that you would like as it is, to be your girlfriend, has become so impossible too.

Jacob on June 08, 2012:

Hi I have been trying to get a girl for 2 months, I have finally found one! yet I still am yet to ask her out, so little advice please. you see it is my first time and I am 15, my friends are all saying no! to her but when we first met I................ felt a certian warmness in my heart, she smiled I did the same, yet I have dreamed about her every night since, one time I saw her screaming, that really freaked me out, when she told me she was leaving for Colarado I nearly fainted. Please advice, advice i do not want to spoil this one she is HOT!

logan s. on May 19, 2012:

hi, i'm in forth grade. i have a girlfriend but her birthday is coming up and i don't know what to do. we met last year by the way

luk likes bella on May 11, 2012:

Well I finally asked her out but she said don't tell anyone so I didn't but then after we stopped a theatre show we did together she stopped texting me. It has been 3 months should I text her or wait I will have to see her in a month what do I say. Now I dont know if I like her anymore and I am interested in someone else what do I do PLEASE HELP PLEASE ANYONE

Hey on May 01, 2012:

This is for the guys who are ages 17, 18 and 19 how can i get this guy to text me back and ask me out he has told my mom that he liked me but when i found out i texted him and he said that he did not know if he liked me and that he had a GF who is his Ex now but i dont know what i should do on his birthday i texted him happy birthday but he never said anything back and he is single now but he has told a few people that he is not going to date any other girls and i am not like alot of them girls. HELP ME??????

Brittany on April 27, 2012:

I am a 16 year old girl to tony i think she likes you but she is playing hard to get so what i would do is when she is with her friends and she tells them that you are her BF say no i am not i have a girlfriend then she might tell you if she likes you or not. GOOD LUCK=)))

tony on April 26, 2012:

Hey,there is dis girl I like whenever we go out she introduces me to her friends as her boyfriend but wen I tell her I like her she saids she's already datin......I really need help................

Exactly Who You Thought I was on April 18, 2012:

Ok so I have a question. There is a girl I like who likes me back and whenever we see each other we flirt. It's quite obvious that we both really like each other. As of yesterday, she sits next to me in tech (I should really thank my teacher for that). We don't really know each other too well. Here is my question: Should I ask her out right away, or strike up a friendship and get to know her first?

Person on April 15, 2012:

Jamie if you're wondering what seventh grade is its if you're 12-13 you're in seventh grade (and I think that's eighth year in Britain but I'm not sure) and 13-14 is in eighth grade (ninth year for you I think) and so on.

ben the winner on April 12, 2012:

I am 14 yrs old and I am crazy for this girl I know. I berarlly see he I only see her about 3 hours a week and I don't know what to say to her I freeze up when I talk to her and my responses to what she says end up being, "ya. Or (A nod)." What could I say to her? And how can I build the courage to talk to her?

ethan langley on April 09, 2012:

are you looking for a boyfriend yet

David on April 06, 2012:

So there's this girl I txt and she likes me and my friend. Me and her went out once but broke up and I don't like her that much but she likes me. What should I do? Bye the way, me her and my friend are 11.

in love on April 05, 2012:

im 10 and i like this girl she is ten to so i asked her out but she said no should i tell her again when we are in middle school yes or no

Unpopular and Proud on April 04, 2012:

Hey marcus I'm adhd too one thing that worked for me is to just start quietly flirting with the girl like in the middle of class just try to catch her eye and when you do smile or hold her gaze or if you're doing an activity where you hold somebodys hand try to be near her. Also just "accidentally" bump into her or brush against her in the hall. Another thing that works is if you're good at something show off to her. Don't be a total a-hole just sorta do it nonchalantly like at show and tell or something. Like if you're good at sports be sure to do something cool and pretend to be showing it to your friends but make sure she's around.

Marcus on April 02, 2012:

i really like this girl named Dynasti brown she is always nice to me i dont know how to know how to pay her back. i always act hyper because i have adhd but im trying to grow up so she can like me ps im being myself

Unpopular and Proud on April 01, 2012:

Ok so I'm in sixth grade and I like this girl on my team. She is a little taller than me, we're both not that popular but we have a decent number of friends, we're both some of the smartest kids on her team, and I think she has noticed these things just as much as I have. She is taking every chance she gets to stand or sit as close to me as possible, catch my eye, hold my hand, or just have a conversation. I want to ask her out but I have two problems. Problem 1: Her friend, who I've known since kindergarten (I met the other girl in the beginning of the year) seems to not approve. I'm not sure if the one I like told her, but lately the friend has been trying to get between us. Problem 2: Me. I'm generally shy around girls and my face turns red and stuff. That and I don't know when or where or how to ask her out, and how to avoid her friend while doing it. So I just need to know what to say and when and how to say it, and to at the same time avoid awkwardness from her friend.

Quentin Beverly on March 25, 2012:

Hi my name is Quentin and I like this girl like I'm in love but I'm not. I can't describe how much i like this girl. But when I get around her I get butterflies and i get shy. So one day we was playing truth or dare. I all ways pick dare and the girl i like sister ask me truth or dare so i pick dare , she told me to ask the girl i like out. I did and she said i will think about it. Four mouths later she goes out with my friend. Now they broke up because he was not treating her right and i sweaped her off her feet. Now me and my friend is now me and him are fighting over her. HELP pleas..

daniel on March 21, 2012:

Hi, i really like this girl 9.5/9.75 (1-10 how much i like her) and she knows. my best friend is (almost) dating her best friend (ironic) whos had quite a few boyfriends, and im getting advice from her. the person who i like still likes this guy, but she cant decide between me and him, and the last time she saw him was 2 months ago. i gmail chat with her almost everyday, and i talk to her, my best friend and her best friend at recess everyday. i'm in 6th grade (12) and i don't know what to do. im thinking about telling her that i like her a lot soon, but i don't think i have the guts. shes a year younger than me. please help!

logan on March 19, 2012:

thank you soooooooooo much for the anwser a nice and quiet date if it weren't for you id be dumped from my cute/hot girlfriend thnx so much i will always count on you. :-) thnx. o by the way chiaualover when he ask you the question '' why didn't you said yes the first time '' say that you were nevorus it will make him say ''o'' and will smile and start to go out with you as a couple just like me and my girlfriend.

chihuahualover7 on March 16, 2012:

This guy asked me to be his girlfriend. I turned him down

Ik guys.. dont freak out. We don't go to the same school, i love him, and he loves me, and im only 10. Im gonna see his school at middle school because were eating there. What if he asks me again??? I might say yes but what if he says oh. Why didn't you say yes before i ask you? and i'll feel so bad.

logan on March 13, 2012:

i got a girlfriend already in wizard 101 and real life also and they are the same girl. we went on a couple dates togeter, we kiss, we joke around (didn't take it serously). but i asked her to be my girlfriend but a bully went aside us. next day i asked her out again she said yes and her birthday is in one weak and she wants something speical from me. can you give me the advice that is related to something special. o by the way i am in ninth grade 14 years old plz/please help me. and same thing if you under 12 you can't go out it's a fake.

Wes on March 06, 2012:

I have a girl that i like but she doesn't like . What should I do?

elias (twin) on March 05, 2012:

i like this girl in my class that people tell me she likes me but on wizard 101 she asked me out (in game)

i want her to be my girlfriend

xxsadokxx from TUNISIA on March 04, 2012:

Hey, I like this girl in my highschool and i don't know her , i'm shy to talk to her also i'm don't know how to start talking to her , i say to myself sometimes maybe i have to go akking her to be my GF with out knowing her , plz help me

Amanda on March 03, 2012:

If a boy gives you a candy herat saying he text me does he like you?

SmArTy on March 03, 2012:

Im 14 and i don't have a GF.......can u believe....!!!....well i do like a girl bt im extremely SHy.....how should I start talking with her......and den ask her for date.,??...plz help me guyZzzz...

Jcgman on March 02, 2012:

I like this girl but I don't know if she likes me. She is really cool and smiles at my jokes . Should I ask her.

The swagger on March 02, 2012:

I like this girl im 10 and shes ten but my friends sister is friends with her sister ans saysnthat she likes my other friend but she laughs at all my jokes and always stares at me what should i do

Jamie on February 26, 2012:

I like this girl in my class, not sure if she likes me. What do I do, she's always with her friends and I don't know what I should do. Btw I'm 13 and all you 10,11,12 yr olds during puberty, your views and choices on girls changes a lot, so the random girl in your class suddenly becomes the only person you can think about. Also when interacting with girls, the big no-no is looking at their chest and lower body parts, it is not only unattractive, it's also disgusting and u can look like a pervert. Just another note, I'm English so I have not got a clue to what 7th grade is. I used to stay and go to school in Vancouver Canada, but that was years ago. If anyone can help me with that, I'd be very happy, thanks!!

DUDE on February 22, 2012:

I like this girl and she likes me i think I not sure how do I tell

Ruben on February 22, 2012:

Hey ummm Im knew to this school I'm 13 Chubby a Christianand I really like this girl we dontalk to each other that much butt I like her I want to know her and then ask her out but I'm afraid she says no!! Because I'm fat how can I make her say yes if I get to know her? ????

big bro on February 18, 2012:

Hey, oops it happened dude, here is some advice. Say," hey after that question you asked me, I thought about it some more and came to realize that I like you more than a friend. So, you think you could be my girlfriend? " P.S. don't pop that question yet. Your are only in the 5th grade.

Bramanr on February 14, 2012:

Hey I need some advice I have a girlfriend and I had been dating her for a year I was planning on breaking up with her the summer before freshman year but then got diagnosed with lung cancer. I feel so terrible because her father caused her cancer with all of his marijuana problems he actually just got sent to prison recent ally . To makes matters worse my girlfriend wants me to pop her cherry and I just would feel terrible if I did since I don't have feelings for her anymore.

Please help this is really hard on me and I could really use do solid advice.

big bro on February 14, 2012:

Hi. I am 12 and I like this girl and I think she likes me, but I am not sure. Any help?

Robert O'Loughlin on February 11, 2012:

Hi i am 13 and would like some advice

[warning will be long and sappy]

ive liked a girl since a year and a half ago and don't have the balls to ask her out. ive been dating since i was eight but my last gf died in a car accidentwhen i was nine im over her now , i see all the signs but don't know the time place and what to say she calls me stupid while blushing and laughing at my jokes im not sure if she completely likes me but i like her a lot please help me find the words to say i don't want another bad break up

I got SWAG on February 11, 2012:

Hi I'm a girl who is younger than all of you and I can gives some tip's

One first fun out I the girl likes you and to do that you could take the risk of asking she will most likely not tell te truth and if you don't wanna ask her get someone else to ask her for you for example a friend of hers an yours

After try talking to her a lot and add her on the websites you both have

(it is a bit easier to ask things over devices)

Then if you have te nerve to ask we if she would ever have a boyfriend and then name hers and your grade

After that over a device or in school or something tell her you like her more than a friend and see what she says if she says I just like you as a friend sometimes she is just embarrassed and will tell you that afternoon for example maybe on Facebook or something

kiAn on February 10, 2012:

im 17 and i started to like a girl in our class,i went and became friend to her i use to text her a lot before..i told her that i lyk her and she too told me that she lyks me too..we went out together few times..together we both had a good time..in class she sometimes does stares at me ..and i do the same..she use to smile at me few times..ryt know im not so close to her lyk b4 but i do see her..as she is in our class..n im not in contact wid her lyk b4..she duznt text m much lyk b4..she does know that im in luv with her..but i jst want to ask her to be my valentine..how do i do that?in a good way..cuz i knw she too would lyk m as her bf..

William97401 on February 08, 2012:

Guys it easy all u need to do is be yourSelf if your 12 like me then it should not be that hard.If u as really nervous ask her out over text message.LOL hope I helped I'm a boy by the way and yes I do hav a gf

sad guy on February 04, 2012:

I asked a girl to be my girlfriend and she kneed me in the balls. But know were dating,but HURT!!!!!!!!!!

Nigel on February 04, 2012:

Hey there! I am 15 now, I have been in love with this girl since I was 13. She knows that i like her but when I tried to ask her to be my gf a couple of times before, she says she only loves me as a friend.

But now she is begining allow me to move beyond the friend zone. A few boys had stead with her during the two years, all of them ended breaking her heart.. She knows that i have stayed faithfull to her.

Recently, we changed classes after two years and

We are kind of depending on each other as we are the 'left outs' among friends.