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How would you describe TRUE friendship?

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True friendship

True friendship is defined as a natural and spontaneous reaction towards a person with unconditional love and ultimate support to a person in all areas of life.

True friend is the one who is always with you when the entire world rejects you. The true friend is like a mirror who reflects a real you to you.

True friendship is like a 100% safe journey in this rough and unpredicted world of twists.True friendship is always fresh and rejuvenating .

True friendship means a mothers unconditional love , a lovers affectionate pat, a friends lovable hug.

If we observe children, they share their feelings, things and thoughts among themselves without any inhibitions. They console their friends when they are in problems and share happiness when they are happy. We will find a fresh and wonderful relation of friendship among kids which is the real and true manifestation of friendship.

As we grow, Once we reach towards teenage, we will be attracted towards worldly possessions and here, we will get confused on who is our true friend and who is not. We will be busy in deciding our future career or aping all fashions and we may miss the track of friendship here.

When we reach thirties, we will be busy in marriage and taking care of kids and their education. But we need somebody to meet and share our ideas and need suggestions from friends. Here also , we miss true friends as all will be busy in pursuing their future.

When we reach forties, we will be more close to ourselves and start analyzing ourselves more intensely. We need friends who are like our shadows who can tell us what are our mistakes and what are our strengths and weaknesses.

When we grow older, we again feel like kids and we need more friends to true friendship. If we are fortunate enough to maintain childhood friendship to this level, then that is wonderful. Otherwise, we have to search for them to lead a meaningful life.

I remember always my wonderful childhood friends who share with me food and shelter and I always wonder at their empathy and caring.

I got one mail from my friend which explains about priorities in life and the importance of friendship which I am sharing here for readers


When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours

in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 Beers.
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in
front of him.

When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty
mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the
jar; he shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between The golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.
Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the
jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous 'yes.'
The professor then produced the two beers from under the table and
poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space
between the sand. The students laughed.

'Now,' said the professor as the laughter subsided, 'I want you to
recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things---your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions---and if everything else was lost and only they
remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house
and your car.

The sand is everything else---the small stuff. 'If you put the sand into
the jar first,' he continued, 'there is no room for the pebbles or the golf
balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on
the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important
to you.

'Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Spend
time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with

Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play
another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the
disposal. Take care of the golf balls first---the things that really

Set your priorities.

'The rest is just sand.'

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the beers
represented. The professor smiled and said, 'I'm glad you asked.'
The beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem,
there is always room for a couple of beers with a friend.'
Please share this with someone important to you.



Diana Grant from London on June 12, 2012:

Well, the story of the glass jar has certainly done the rounds - I received the same email, in London, in May 2009, and I've kept it all this time because it's so clever

Indecisions on April 28, 2012:

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A stand out hub, i really enjoyed it and it was very well written.

riddhi nath on April 28, 2012:

my friends are the only thing which i want . I don't want to loose them ever.

I like ur Friendship Discribe on February 23, 2012:

So, I would like to u, Do u want My Feiend

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on January 27, 2012:

Beautiful hub! I have linked it to my hub: Thanks for the mayonnaise illustration.

ElenaZadorozhnaya from Ukraine on November 23, 2011:

You can't buy a true friendship!

Fatima on October 26, 2011:


naturalsolutions on September 15, 2011:

I love my friends and i can say that having them is one of the most greatest gift i ever had.

greatly appreciated hub.

Rastamermaid from Universe on September 05, 2011:

Awesome stuff,I love it!


Thelma Alberts from Germany on August 04, 2011:

Good article about friendship. I love the story about the mayonnaise jar and the beers.

Mavhe Quijada from Taguig on July 05, 2011:

Amazing illustration!

someone secret on March 05, 2011:

this is the best article about friendship. i hope who ever that is a bully or mean would of learned a lesson. i love the picture with the elephant and the girl it's so cute.always be a good friend.

unknown on March 05, 2011:

this is the best article about friendship.

rjay bombongan on February 06, 2011:

...i like it!!!

Maria Cecilia from Philippines on November 30, 2010:

First I want to say I love your first photo the elephant with the Little girl.. I like hub that talks about friendship, and quite lucky to know I still have too many true friends....

I think I can identify with the Mayonnaise jar, because at this point in my life, the golf balls are the ones the keep my life happy and meaningful in spite of absense of material wealth...wishing the same happiness to you

Lyra Mae Tantay on November 29, 2010:

NICE :D that was a cute one !

You are a ray of sunshine

In a world that’s sometimes grey.

The magic of your company

Will brighten up the day.

You’ve guided me through bad times

Wiped away my tears,

And brought me so much joy

As we’ve travelled through the years.

It warms my heart to know

You chose me as your friend,

A loyal, loving person,

On whom I can depend.

If I could have one wish,

I’d make it just for you,

I’d ask God for his blessing

In everything you do.


Shane Belceto from WA USA on September 15, 2010:

I have heard the jar senario done in diff ways but like this picture it draws of our lives and friends. Now for me more app to have a couple cups of tea but yes right on!

Also appriciate your timeline of how things change over the years. Thank YOU for creating this well organized HUB>

~Expect Miracles

Eiddwen from Wales on September 06, 2010:

Really good hub thanks.

nivas (author) from Texas on July 06, 2010:

Thank You Very Much Agaglia for your encouraging words


Annette Gagliardi from Minneapolis on July 02, 2010:

good article. I have seen this exercise before, but not tied so well to friendship. thanks.

nivas (author) from Texas on January 13, 2010:

Hi Creaminizer23,

Thanks for your appreciation and inclusion in your compilation of quality hubs.I feel it as a great encouragement and try to write similar hubs. In this particular hub, the mail i got from somebody has really helped me in compiling it in better fashion.


Nivas Ameya

Creaminizer23 from New York, Usa on January 12, 2010:

What an extraordinary hub about friendship! Congrats, your hub has been included in my compilation of quality hubs about friendship

nivas (author) from Texas on November 16, 2009:

Hi Dreamer32,

Thanks for your encouraging words. Always trying to be a good friend and keep up the meaning of friendship.


nivas ameya

dreamer32 from Mississippi on November 14, 2009:

This is a very good article on friendship! This is well written, which I think people need to talk what the meaning of friendship seriously.

nivas (author) from Texas on June 22, 2009:

Thanks Kim

Kim on June 19, 2009:

That was a very touching article.

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