Millicent okello is a freelance writer and a teacher who writes about various subjects, including education and creative writing.
Have you ever felt like your man is distant from you and that the relationship that the two of you have could be falling apart? Well, When you feel like this, it may be probably that something is missing. The man may start being apart from you. Maybe he has stopped texting and calling like he used to do.
As a woman, this can worry you so much about your partner. The only way to make him miss you is through doing the following seven tips.
- Stop initiating communication.
- Be a little bit mysterious.
- Make him realize that he has an amazing woman.
- Stop talkingabout missing him.
- Give him something to miss.
- Prioritise your life and start saying no.
- Be willing to walk away.
1) Stop initiating communication
If you are in this situation, I assume that you will be the one who is texting and calling him all the time. You should not be the one who is always on the reach first.If you want the man to really miss you, my dear, you must pull away. Therefore, do not initiate calls or texts. I am not saying that you should stop communicating.What I mean is that you should stop being the one who is always texting and calling .You are not the one who is going to start with a good morning text or call. Instead, let him do it. Eventually, He will recognise the difference and wonder why you have suddenly gone silent on him. Let him feel a little down and realize that he was happier when things were different.Your silence should be of value and he will initiate communication pretty quickly. Also don't forget to make him wait before you return his calls and texts.
There could be an urge to return his texts and calls immediately especially if you have been waiting to hear from him for a while, but taking sometime before responding to him sends him a message that you are busy and not just sitting around waiting for him to respond Have patient and wait for some time before responding. This will make him yearn for you.
2) Be a little bit mysterious
You don'thave to share with him every detail of your daily activity. This is not encouraging you to keep secrets from your man but just don't explain everything to your man unless he asks. Share bits and pieces of your life slowly and make him earn your trust again. When you are going out for dinner with your parents, tell him you are going out for dinner. You don't have to tell him who you are going out with unless he asks. When you have plans with friends, tell him you have plans with your friends and don't break your plans with your friends. This will make him realize that your time is valuable and he needs to put you first in his plans, not just texting and making calls because he has nothing to do.
3) Make him realize that he has an amazing woman
When he notices the changes, that is when he will realize your worth as a woman. Be honest with yourself and with him if you want a long-lasting relationship.
Don't Missing Him.
4) Stop talking about missing him
This one may be difficult to do but you have to do it.When you notice that your man is not texting or calling you,or making plans as much as he used to, it is natural to become worried and concerned about why he has suddenly changed. So, you start paying attention to what he is doing and eventually bring it up to him. You talk to him and you tell him that you have noticed the change in him and you ask him what is wrong. The man may tell you that everything is ok or he is just busy. He could even tell you that you are too sensitive and that you need to stop worrying about him. He may even deny it. For most women , you can't just forget about him.You may find yourself tarting to pay attention to everything he does. This may make you feel worse because you will find many reasons as to why he has stopped texting and calling like he used to. You will start to complain and this will have a negative effect.
Things may become worse. He will start to see you as the one who is always complaining and nagging. The solution is this, stop bringin this up to him so that you will not be seen as the one who is nagging all the time. Despite what you are feeling, you must not let him know that you are upset.
5) Give him something to miss
This impacts your attitude and conversation. Be that confident and happy person that he misses..Be the person that he fell in love with. You have to rock his world better than no one else will.leave him craving more and the only person that can do that is you.Create that feeling that he cannot get anywhere else. Such that anytime he thinks about you, He is going to think about fun things. He is going to associate you with everything fun. Not once but every time fun, easy going and confident. Not disappointed, or frustrated about where the things are going.
6) Prioritise your life and start saying no
In other words, don't always be available for him by always saying yes especially when he is calling with short notice. Send him a message that you have other engagements or commitments that are taking priority at this time that he is asking. This forces him to recognise your independence and not just sitting by the phone and waiting for his call. Remember, that one of the most things that a man finds attractive in a woman is independence. He has got to know how full and complete your life is and if he becomes part of it, is because you allow him to be part of it and not because you need him to be part of it. Be yourself and make yourself a priority. Keep your plans with your girlfriends and keep yourself busy.
7) Be willing to walk away
If it isn't working, you can't lie to yourself about the relationship. Although he isn't really showing you the love and affection that you need,and expect, He will change to get you better. People change if they absolutely want to, for who we want to. For that matter, He will have to change or he is going to lose you. You need to tell him in demonstration in your behaviour. He has to know that you aren't going to tolerate the behaviours of his actions and he has to agre with it. He has to be afraid that he will lose you when he doesn't step up his game and he will experience this when you are only willing to walk away.
Don't be worried about this tips that he will become upset or even lose interest or he will forget about you. If he loves you, values you, doing these things will make him appreciate what he loves. Also remember, the most important is to overcome the fear of being rejected. Overcome your fear of this relationship ending.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2020 Millicent Okello
dashingscorpio from Chicago on October 21, 2020:
Sound advice! Especially #7
Life is too short to be trying change water into wine.
The goal is to find someone who already is what you want.
If your needs aren't being met there is a good chance you have chosen the "wrong person" to be your mate.
In the beginning of most (new relationships) there is an "infatuation phase" whereby both people bend over backwards to impress and please one another. No wants to say or do anything which might "blow it".
However it's not until there is an "emotional investment" or commitment where people relax and secure enough to reveal their "authentic selves" without the fear their partner will instantly walk away. In some cases they don't care if they do.
The mistake a lot of folks make is holding onto those memories of the "infatuation phase" and hoping those times will return.
You really don't know if you're truly compatible with someone until after you've had some major disagreements and misunderstandings. That's when you learn about each other's boundaries, expectations, and "deal breakers".
If you have to pretend to be aloof or "mysterious" to hold someone's attention/interest rather than just being yourself you're with the wrong person. He's not "the one" for you!
"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
- Oscar Wilde