Anamika S. Jain has been a social media consultant for six years. She has written more than 200 articles on relationships and dating.
How Do I Know if He Loves Me?
A friend of mine wanted me to write an article on how to know if your guy truly loves you. I have been asked this question several times and it is quite a difficult one to answer, as many guys are skillful at making girls believe that they are in love when they are not. But still, if you watch him carefully you may find signs to identify if your husband or boyfriend is in love with you or not. I am making an attempt to answer the following requests on this subject:
- How to know if my guy really loves me?
- How to know the true feelings of my boyfriend?
- Are there any clues to confirm that my man is in love with me?
- What are the symptoms for identifying that a guy is falling for me?
- How to know if my boyfriend is serious enough about me to want a committed relationship?
How to Know if a Guy Loves You?
Most men are quite skillful at relationships and may make you feel wonderful, leaving you overwhelmed by the feeling that he is in love with you even if he is actually faking it. To know if he is truly in love, pay proper attention to his behavior and body language. You may find some signs of his love and level of commitment.
He treats me like a queen: An acquaintance of mine said that her guy treats her like a queen and there is no way he would cheat behind her back. It is every woman’s dream to be treated like a queen. But the truth is that it is not a guarantee that he is really in love and not cheating. There can be many reasons a guy may be extra nice to you. Some of them can be:
- He has the money and he needs to spend it somewhere.
- He wants to keep a good image in front of you, his friends or his family.
- He is guilty that he is cheating on you.
- You give him what he wants so he rewards you with indulgences.
He says ‘I love you’ often: Men often exploit the emotional side of women by saying those three words or even convincing her that indeed he is in love with her. Many men use fake declarations of love to get sexual favors. The truth is if a guy says he is in love he will say it in many ways. Many things can reveal his feelings for you including the tone of his voice, the look in his eyes or his touch. So when he declares that he loves you, notice his behavioral patterns to discern how sincere your boyfriend is.
- Is he saying ‘I love you’ when he wants to have sex with you?
- Is he saying it as a response for your declaration of love?
- Does he normally say these words to everyone?
- Does he say ‘I love you’ when he is drunk?
- Does he declare his love even when you are not on good terms?
- Does he look into your eyes when he says it?
- Does he declare his love to you in front of his family or friends?
He says that he wants to marry me: Declarations of love and marriage are the tactics most used by guys to get women to bed. Most women are emotional fools and fall for these tricks. If a guy is indeed in love with you he should not have any problem making a commitment to you by putting a ring on your finger in front of his family and friends. He may even brag about you to his family and friends. Changing the topic or ignoring it when you want to discuss your future is not a positive sign of a healthy relationship. Take careful note of when he makes a promise for marriage.
- Does he promise marriage when he wants to get intimate with you or want sexual favors from you?
- Does he make ‘his world’ know that he and you are a couple or is he hiding you inside a closet?
- Does he have any solid plans about marriage?
- Does he promise to marry but keep on postponing it?
- Did you guys get engaged?
- Does he love to go out with you in public and introduce you to his friends and family?
He spends time with me regularly: This is a very positive sign when you are in a relationship. If your man is spending loads of time with you and finds excuses to spend time with you he may be serious about the relationship. Some guys may not be very comfortable expressing feelings of love, but they may spend every available opportunity with you because they love you. He may even share your favorite pastimes even though he does not like them as wants to be with you. He may even travel for an hour to steal a few moments with you. No matter how busy he is, he always has time for you and is always attentive to your needs and priorities. He takes an active interest in matters related to you including your habits and likings. When you are down he also becomes upset and puts in the effort to make you happy. You may also often catch him looking at you when you are around. If your man has excuses for not taking the time with you, beware. If he goes out of his way to do things for you, that is a very positive sign of a good relationship. Here are certain signs you can watch out for:
- Is he happy when spending time with you? Does he smile often?
- Is he spending time with you because otherwise you would nag?
- Is he spending time with you because he wants sex?
- Does he spend time with you out in public too?
- Does he frown often when spending time with you?
- Does he at least call and talk to you for some time when he cannot see you?
- Does he have eyes only for you when he is with you?
He is full of praises for me: If a guy compliments a girl it is often a positive sign. If he tells you how he loves your smile or the way you are in all probability he adores you! You can take his compliments seriously if they are genuine reasons why he is attracted to you. But when he says that you are like Miss World when you are obese, be sure that when he he gets what he wants he wont even spare you a second look. Go ahead and check:
- Is there something he wants from me? It can be anything including sex, money or a promotion.
- Is he a seasoned flirt? Does he behave with every girl in the same manner?
We talk a lot: Communication is a very positive sign in a relationship. If your boyfriend is concerned about you and is always asking about your life and interests and talking about his likes, life or passions then it is a sign that he may be interested in you. A man who is involved in his relationship will always find an excuse to call you or be with you, be it to share a thought, or ask your opinion or because he misses you. If the guy is even nice to your friends and family and has positive interactions with them it is a positive sign that he cares about the people you care for. If a guy gives more importance to his friends or work even if you are sick or in need then he may not be interested. If he only talks about himself or does not communicate regularly then he is not the right guy to be with. There are several reasons why a woman may dump a man, and this is a very valid one. However, you can analyze some behavioral patterns to decide on how well you communicate.
- After you have had a fight, do you sit down and resolve the problem or do you ignore it?
- Do you know what your guy is doing and where he is most of the time?
- Does he share everything openly with you?
- Do you communicate regularly by whatever method it takes, be it in person, by mail or by phone?
- Does he still talk to you like normal even after you have refused to sleep with him or he does he take his time to call you again?
- Does he break up or threaten to part ways with you after you refuse to sleep with him?
- How does he behave or talk when he is angry at you? This is the time to watch out and be ready to face the truth.
He buys me gifts and remembers special occasions: Men are not very good at remembering dates. But if he is in love he will not forget any special occasion. If your boyfriend does not remember your birthday, your anniversary or Valentine's Day and gives you a thoughtless gift, rest assured that he does not care for you. Sometimes bad gifts are tolerated by women, but getting no gift is not forgivable, especially if he keeps on declaring his love. If a guy is all talk about keeping you in diamonds, wanting to go on a trip with you, or wanting to make money for you but cannot get you a gift on a special day then he is not for you. If he adores you he will remember even the tiny details about you. If he has a bad memory he will write it down in his diary or put it in his mobile so that he won’t forget a special day and makes all efforts to make the day memorable for his girl. Men in love with women will not let important events pass without celebrating them. A man in love is a doer and not just a talker. You can check his behavior.
- Is he all talk about what he wants to buy you or how he wants to spend time with you but does not do anything about it? If so, he is probably the wrong guy.
- Does he remember special occasions on his own or do you need to remind him?
- He gets you gifts because otherwise you would nag.
- What are his choices of gifts? Are they impersonal or picked up at the last minute or did he take his time out for choosing a nice gift for you. Or did he have a secretary or friend to shop for a gift for you?
To sum it up, If you want to know whether your husband or boyfriend loves you, you need to listen to your gut feeling. You can make out if a person loves you from the special shine in his eyes when he is with you. You should also be feeling positive vibes when he is around you or when he touches you. If you are miserable and suffering in the relationship and do not feel comfortable or secure with him then he is not the guy for you. If your guy is committed to you, treats you special and makes you feel comfortable and secure then in all probability he is in love with you and not faking it.
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Tan jennings on January 04, 2018:
Am 20 years old I have 3 children my boyfriend always pick on dem 2 of the children is outsiders and one is his if the two outsiders children throw way food he will vex and tell to teach them how to eat one of them is 3 years old and the other is 2 years old and he want them to sit down whole day and watch TV am thinking to leave what should I do help me
Indian Chef from New Delhi India on June 08, 2013:
Anamika, if a girl thinks I love her or not is an insult to me.. simply because I can not live with a girl who is constantly thinking about my intentions. You either love someone or not. I really feel people trying to look up things online or in books to see if someone loves someone, usually head for break though yes marriage proposal can be used to get the girl in bed but a guy can not force a girl to be in bed. A girl would go to bed with you before marriage only if she wish it, and marriage thing is only excuse she might need to jump in bed.
neetumishra on May 17, 2013:
hi i loved this article ....m in love with a guy he is taller than me m not he like tall girls m beautiful but his ex girlfriends were more beautiful than me he said 4 years before he was in love with me but he couldn't able to propose me we even don't use to talk because were not in same city now after 4year he came back his behavior was same so i proposed him some days before he said when i proposed him he wasn't in love with me but he want to get married with me because of my good behavior but now he loves me n he is serious abt me but now also he don't make me feel special his frens are more important than me he loves to spent time with his frens more than with me plzzz help me what should i do ....i love him a lot....
ahh nica on January 17, 2013:
can you help me.. my boyfriend have all that qualities above except of giving me gifts on our monthsary and anniversary and he not even treat me some foods etc.. he treat me when I asked.,,huhu
Katriza41 on September 14, 2012:
My opinion talk about it, Have you ever secretly wished that you could be loved by a man as much as you love him? It is painful, isn’t it, for giving so much more in love than you are given back; for trying so hard to make a relationship work but the other partner is not willing to try as hard you are. You are not alone; many people live with that broken heart that comes from not being loved enough.
hiliary on May 23, 2012:
my boyfriend says that he is busy all day thats why he didn't get time to talk with me and he don't want to be stressed but from the above article i come to know that if a guy loves u he get some time for u don't matter how busy he is so i want to no if he really loves me
cindy h on April 26, 2012:
I love my man to bits. And what I have read fruw is that is very true and now that I know my man loves me. I don't need gifts the big gift that he gives me is his love, comfort, security, his world. And i like to thanks to this research for making me see what's happening in ower relationship. He's definitely the one for me. Thanks guys you been a great help :-) xxx
courtney doll on April 15, 2012:
i really like this guy but i have a bf the thing is i don't know what my boyfriends doing when im not talking to him amd when we text and i ask him what hes up to he says hes at work but it scares me that hes doing something else and i asked them what they liked about me and how much they liked me and my boyfriend told me that he likes me for my looks and that he liked me more than anyone else but the guy that i like said that he liked me because i am who i want to be and that he never wants me to change and he said that he didn't like me he loved me and said that he wants me to run away with him what should i do and who should i choose?
Lucia on April 11, 2012:
my bf and I love each other so much , but he doesn't trust me because i once confessed that i was cheating on him. I feel that I cant be with a person that doesn't trust me because I suffer but at the same time I dnt want to leave him because I feel that i will never be happy with somebody els either then him. How do I win his trust back without losing him?
gab on April 09, 2012:
I guessmy husband. Dnt love me I believe the article I know. Loove would be more thoughtful an special all I get are put Downs and, empty promises. I Dnt Evan have a ring wow I fill sum
Lisas-thoughts101 from Northeast Texas on April 09, 2012:
Animika, Good hub. Lots of good tips. I enjoyed it. Great advice. Voted up.
rachel on April 02, 2012:
its simply awssum...
n nw i knw.. dat my bf loves me a lot...
m feelin as if m d luckiest grl in dis earth.. cz my bf has ol d gud qualities.. a genuine lover shud hav...
aftr readin dis i hav strtd luvin my bf mre n mre..
Luna, Genelyn on March 22, 2012:
I just have a question...What if it is a long distance relationship, then he calls me every week...Should I believe him that he loves me trully.??? He calls me whenever i'd let go and I need to stop loving him coz i cant take the pain......but all the time... i forgive him.......coz i love him....so much....
Arogundade mariam on March 13, 2012:
In life we tend to love those who care, respect and value what we share with them. But women should be careful not to patch things by setting things straight from the very begining. Leave no stone unturned, be tolerant and smart. KNOW YOUR WORTH! The right man will stand by you forever. Be Happy.
Racheal on March 12, 2012:
I have someone i love so dearly but am not sure whether he loves me. His someone i wanna spend the rest of ma life with but what am sure of, his not into marriage. So i don't know whether i should move on with him or just live ma life!
tina wessels on March 11, 2012:
i hop it work because i know he do not like me but he is sitting next to me in class.lastime he askme what coulir is my oo i dident whant to look because i know im gonna fall inlove.i hope i will work :]
Michelle on March 09, 2012:
woah ... why did i even bother reading this when i know for sure he loves me? im crazy!
sweetiepie on March 03, 2012:
i still cant understand wats going on he loves me a lot i know that he always cares 4 me he dies 2 see me....he gifts me he always take care of me....he had done the whole future planning we talked whole day full nights.... but when my parents got to know abt him we cant talk i use to talk him very less bcos it is bciming impossible but now he is thinking that i m in relationship with another boy wat shul d ido................
Angie on March 01, 2012:
I have a friend that likes me a lot. We are not in a relationship yet but we are getting close I do likes him a lot the same with him he likes me a lot . Spending time with him is the most important thing for me but don't really get to at times. But now he is telling me that he loves me and we are not in a relationship as yet. Plz help I like this guy so much
Lucky on February 29, 2012:
Dear M. although u will feel bad, I think I need to say that he doesn't love u. u should try to meet other friends and forget him, I know that's very difficult for u, tho. anyway, u really love him, but he doesn't know how to keep ur love, that's his loss, not ur loss. be happy
corinthian on February 24, 2012:
what would i do if i found out that my husband fancied too many gays and even wamt to marry a gay befoe he met me?
ami on February 18, 2012:
hi i have a bf just some weeks ago n i want to know that does he really love me, n now i have got solution that how know he loves me or not thank u so much i'll use this trick thanx a lot.
famina on February 18, 2012:
hi i am famina i have a boy frnd.He is my colg mate.first he proposed to me and after some days he proposed to my friend.i asked to him why u r proposing to all.He said that he is kidding her.After some days he said that he is in love with my friend and my friend did not accept his love.Now again he is proposed to me and he saying that he is madly loves me and he wants me to be with him.i cant believe him.Now he is trying another girl to have friendship with him.please help me .i don't know wt to do.
Ash.... on February 14, 2012:
Really cnfused..m sure nd i believe he loves me...4 last one n half year we r in relationshp..bt he dnt wish me in any occasion...i love him a lot..plz pray 4 me..
Angel clare on February 13, 2012:
You are simply d best. U jst made my decisn 4me. So help me God
Brayo on February 08, 2012:
your rilly good at this:)
Omolade.O on February 03, 2012:
Hmmmmm! I love this article. It's really interesting .
Alexander Thandi Ubani from Lagos on January 28, 2012:
Wow! You must ve schooled with a ph.D at the university of relationship. Quite outstanding, true, and amazing piece. It is a must read. Kudos.
Alana on January 28, 2012:
I have a bf & we've been together for 2 months but a week before my birthday he just suddenly started ignoring me & being a complete jerk! He said really hurtful things to me & when we broke up he was laughing about it but he always said he loved me & we got back together a week later & he said he only said those things because he was mad...I'm a freshman in highschool & sometimes he doesn't even talk to me after school & he doesn't even eat lunch with me,he doesn't walk me to class anymore;( He still kinda likes my best friend...& he told my other best friend (his ex gf) "if I could have u back I would but I'm with the LOVE OF MY LIFE ALANA!!!" idk if he really loves me or not? He says a lot of sweet things to me & he says he'll NEVER hurt me again,he says he wants to marry me in the future,but sometimes he listens to his friends not his heart...Sometimes if I have to text him 1st otherwise he probably wont text me;( I still love him but idk if he feels the same way about me? What do u think?
sayli on January 27, 2012:
hi guys m sayli my age is 21yer can u plz help me i don't know my bf is serious abot me or not m in relationship still 1year and 5month he age also 21 year he always fight with me but whenever i say him abt marrage he promis me abt marrage and my parents knows abt my relationship and my mom talk with him abt our relationship bt his family does not kno abt our relationship he told me i speak my parents abt its after few days when m doing something.... so plz tell me he is serious about me or not...?
ido on January 26, 2012:
AM MARRIED FOR 6YRS NOW AND MY HUSBAND TRAVELS BUT HE IS NO LONGER CALLING FREQUENTLY ,HE IS NOT TAKING GOOD CARE OF THE KIDS,HE INSULTS ME AND TALK TO ME ANYHOW.WHAT SHOULD I DO
Frankca taiye on January 18, 2012:
Pls help me out.l ve a bf now and he is working bout each time l ask him money he wil complan, dat he don't ve money .my question is donts dat yug ve pain for futurt.
sawin on January 16, 2012:
he does not love me ,its clear
AKASH on January 16, 2012:
very nice line it show that you have very deep knowledge of love and you also love some one...
xyz on January 16, 2012:
i think this gunna helf those gals who unknwgly falls in love...never knowing that they have been fooled by someones fake love...
nish9087 on January 13, 2012:
i really need help...i have a boyfriend which i have been dating for about 4 yrs now..he is really nice and he cares for me and loves me a lot but every time we talk about future he says he can see me being his wife but he also cannot because he doesn't know that if he can live with me day to day bases. I don't know if i should continue with my relationship with him or leave him? the only thing i would like to add is that i get more mad at him on daily bases then the other way around. we are still very young to get married but i want to know if i continue to date him do you think in future he could ask me out or his answer about our marriage will never change? i would appreciated if i can get some reply.
lucsy on January 12, 2012:
hi I don't know english very well but .. i want to say something about all this articals it nice ang good also . all most girls have same problems , i have also my b/f tell me that he loves me but he had a realation with other girls also with a sexually n iam mad i still love her what i do .. i don't know ,i don't want to leaven he flrting orhers girls also n tell me if u want to go then go but i don't change my nature.. and i alwys give money also .. atlest 40,000 i spent .. plss help me ..
katey on January 12, 2012:
So, im in a relationship, we have been dating for almost 3 months. Yeah, we are both really young and don't really know much about love, but who does? I really think that our relationship could go far, not because i want it to, but we both do. Can you tell me, he says he loves me before i do and he always tells me that he would protect me through anything. When a guy trys to flirt with me, he respectfully asks me if i can stay away from whoever it was. He always talks to me, and even when i tell him he can go hang out with his friends if he wants, he says no, i wanna be with you. Last time he said he loved me in person was when we were in front of all his friends and mine. He looked into my eyes and said i love you so much, i don't ever want to los you. Can you please tell me if this is true, or just him trying to get something from me? Thanks& great article!
enhle on January 12, 2012:
my bf guyz don't call me hee oonly does when he want to have sex with me what to do[crying]
SHERI on January 11, 2012:
I BEEN WITH A GUY FOR 4 YEARS WE GREW UP TOGETHER SINCE KIDS. HE NEVER EXPRESSES HOW HE FEELS UNLESS I DO FIRST, HE NEVER GIVES ME COMPLIMENTS AND ALWAYS TELLS ME HE IS BROKE. WHEN HE COMES AROUND HE ALWAYS LOOKS DOWN AT LEAST THE FIRST HOUR BEFORE HE FEELS COMFORTABLE. AND HE WANTS TO MOVE IN MY HOUSE AND WANTS ME TO MARRY HIM. I broke it off with him yesterday did i do the right thing.
Cindi on January 09, 2012:
i and my boyfrind has been together for 1 year, but we only spent 1 and half day together because of he is busy with his restrant. i only could see him after 9am the day we meet. surely we have no time for dinner and i even did not received any gifs from him.
now i am begining to think about leave him. i am full of conplaint in my heart. i could not see any future with him. but he always says he love me and treat me well. i do not know.
please let me know how to do
Hanan on January 06, 2012:
this is so true"If a Guy is indeed in love with you he should not have any problem with making the commitment to you by getting engaged by putting a ring on your finger in front of his family and friends. He may even brag about you to his family and friends. Changing of topic or ignoring it when you want to discuss about your future with him is not a positive sign of a healthy relationship."
Rachel on January 06, 2012:
ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.
Suzana on January 06, 2012:
i started liking a guy from my class. i dis not like him that much when i first came to school coz i never belived in love in first sight. but then slowly when i came to know that his love was constant for about 5 months.... i slowly started falling for him. So what do i do now?? accept him?
lady12 on January 05, 2012:
I love it! cause it makes me feel better because I was too angry I was thinking that he don't love me .thanks.I love it!
rika on January 05, 2012:
krutika on January 05, 2012:
ur words really touchd...
my bf n i, r dating sinc 3 years.. n d bonding in us is really strong... i know he lovs me n evn he knws dat i lov him but v do not meet... i stay just near by like a 30 mins distance from his hom bt whenevr i ask him 2 meet me, he never gvs time..as he is free nw n is always at hom bt don't giv me time.. bt v are continusly in contact wit ech other lyk on cell phon, mails, etc.. bt whenvr i ask him 2 meet me he jus avoids or ignores.. i dint get wht problm he having .. :-( as i lov him soo mch n dis abov sum wht realy matched to him n m really worried nw..bt i know his lov for me...:-( can u judge atlst wt might b d reason behind dis not meeting..??? in a 3 year realationship v cud have met nly 40-45 times i guess..n most of all wenevr he wnted 2get physical.. now its really hurting.. do reply
sim on January 05, 2012:
tru 1... really felt it.. hurt bt its d truth....
Nancy on January 04, 2012:
Hei...anamika.I am married & it was love marriage.But i really can't understand my husbands behaviour. Even b4 marriage & after marriage as well i encounter a same prob that is when he get angry he will shout (at home & public as well), use vulgur word , talk bad about me , my parents, he really like to call his parents & sibings to complain abt me , throw anything to me , he have been slapped me & feared me by showing knife . The anger is coz of misunderstanding only but his reaction is very weird.Apart frm this he neve go out with friends if i am with him, neve eat alone (always with me), neve leave me alone, pay for car,house etc (both of us are working)& if i want to go for shopping he would nagging & shouting asking me to go by myself.
sasi on January 03, 2012:
Hai anamika i like this article very much.iam in love but i can't say he is loving me becoze the situations are like dat.he is very close to me and always he says i lv u with a condition if my mother accept for our maragie only i wil marry you .if not marry another guy.i am totally confused abt his behaviour he don't have dat much dare to spoke vth their family abt me.his frnds nd his sister said better to marry another guy bt iam madly in lv vth him .recently he spoke vth his mother abt me bt she didn't accept and he told me to marry another guy but he don't want to loose me so he is trying to convience their parents what i have to do in this situation plz help me what to do
PRECIOUS on December 29, 2011:
WAT A GUD ARTICLE,IT REALLY TEACHED ME LOTS OF THINGZ
Kathy on December 29, 2011:
Hi... My fiancé did not give me any present for this christmas... he says that he simply does not know what to give me... however, he bought a shirt for one of his female colleagues for this occasion... he laughs more with her than me... i think he wants to spend more time with her than me too... am i just being foolish or paranoid???
sadia mohammed on December 28, 2011:
well i agree with what you said makes perfect sense, i am not in a stable relationship due to my husband is not happy with his life and just want to ruin the rest of my life.i have meet an old friend and we do have a good relationship but he is married , this is a bad decision but i really love him so much i donnot think he knows this.he and i would spent time together and somehow i think it is not good,because whet we separate i feel as if a dagger has paise into me.hesay he loves me but recently show limited signs. this is what this relationship gives being with a married man.what should i do he does not go anywhere with me this remind me of my married husband please give me advise.
Yannie Seyer on December 27, 2011:
well i think it's true. nice one.
Katie on December 23, 2011:
I read this article, and it breaks my heart. My man doesn't like spending much time with me, even when he has days off. We've been together off and on for a year and a half, and I love him; but I don't want to ruin the rest of my life by making a bad decision. He says that he wants to be with me... so riddle me this: why would a guy want to be with me, say that he loves me, but not show many signs of love? He's not dependent on me, I know that for sure. He's not staying in it for the sex, because he won't go to that level until marriage. So... what do I do? I'm so confused. It's a huge life decision. I desperately need help.
Confused N on December 22, 2011:
The way this man looks at me says he loves me,he says he loves me, he makes efforts to spend more time with me..helps me with my car when it breaks down, and anything else I need a hand in.. HOWEVER, he doesn't get me gifts on special occations!!! and he says he is not ready for merrige as Yet!!!!!! what does all this mean!
Aishwarya.p on December 21, 2011:
I love my boyfriend very much actually he is in my school means it's my 1st year in this school I don't know anything about him then I like him isaw him in school trip at the 1st time for me it was just like 'love at 1st site' but he was not knowing about it after few days i told to my friend she din't sayed anything on it after one week she told him that aishu likes you ,one day the boy that I like his friends came to me and were asking me that u really like my friend then why don't u propose him so I did like dat only how his friends told dat boy siad me yes I ALSO LOVE U so we camed in relationship ,and one day at night he send me a msg dat he wants to talk with me on fone Itold him that tode it is not possible for me so for tode we will do msg chatting but he SAYED no i don't want to do msg chating he was requesting to me plz then i said k he told me dat i will call you in five mins then my mother was not iving me alone so it became very difficult for me so bfore he call's me i send him a msg dat plz don't call me bye , and from next day he is egnorring me and after dat day his friend came to me and said that your boyfriend send a msg for u dat he is saying Iluv u after school got over i was calling him cause i wanted to say him sorry about that day but dat time also he was ignorring me and I cannot live without i really luv him so much ,i am not getting dat if he really luvs me or not what 2 du plz help me guyz....
jenny agcito on December 16, 2011:
i just look the eyes of my boyfriend and simply ask a question if he truly loves me.....if he don't answer me breaking up will do....
Sarah on December 12, 2011:
This article is sweet and simple:)
Thanks for writing it!! Some people make things so complicated but you made this so easy for me to understand!! Once again, thanks!!!!
Mouzeyr on December 09, 2011:
Hey Anamika thanx a lot...my huzy 2 b lurvs me..
Kim Vaiphei on December 07, 2011:
One of the greatest article I've ever read, i really love it, if my boyfriend misses any of these then he is out of my life....LOL...!!!
Anamika, you've lift my BURDEN... thank you... I love you...!!! Keep it up...!!!
Confused_girl on December 06, 2011:
Great article! I can truly relate myself to the article. But things are often harder than they are seen. We have been dating for almost a year and everything was so perfect in the beginning. My bf and I have some communication problems. It seems that I'm always the one trying to make thing works between us and he doesn't make any efforts at all. Lately, his new job kind of stress him out and he doesn't has much time for me. Whenever we meet for a while, I wanted so badly to ask him to accompany me for a little longer but I could not bring myself to ask him.. he always look tired, unhappy and not in the mood to talk. I wanted to be his good listener and understand his worries but he never really open up to me. He claims that he love me but I'm unsure about it.. I really love him and hope things will work out well between us. I don't wish to lose him but his coldness upset me
shannon on December 06, 2011:
Hmmm maybe he does love me
shravanthi on December 04, 2011:
It is really wonderful.By tis article i think many have saved their life.My boyfriend[MANOJ]Loves me a lot.Even i was loving him a lot but in middle of our love we have breaked up for certain reason.But after somdays i came to know tat how much he loves me.Again i went back to him .I LOVE U CHINNU[MANOJ].Thanks for tis articl.
Plain Jane on November 28, 2011:
I'm definitely bookmarking this article. I've been in a long-distance relationship for some time now. My boyfriend always treats me wonderfully when we're together. However, when we're away from each other, I feel like I'm the one who has to start the conversations and that he wouldn't talk to me if I didn't do that. Worse, I'm developing feelings for another guy...This article might help me decide if my relationship is worth it or not.
angel on November 27, 2011:
hey ally. i think you should give your husband a second chance and i think he deserves it. So give it a try and good luck! :)
Shun on November 27, 2011:
This is awesome. I have been married for awhile and have been feeling my marriage is over reading has helped me. I think a divorce is in order! Thanks lady.
samah on November 26, 2011:
extremely wonderful article. thank you soo much.
Grace on November 23, 2011:
I really luv dis,it gave me a perfect answer to my question
Sana on November 21, 2011:
its nice.... I like it. I am Cheated by a person(Male). If i've found this page before, I would've been careful.
dhez07canaya from philippines on November 20, 2011:
thanks anamika for these clear signs FOR ME HE REALLY DON'T HAVE REAL LOVE IF HE CANNOT SHARE HIS TIME, TREASURE, AND TALENT.IF A GUY NOT TRUE AND OPEN TO HISELF
lezel on November 16, 2011:
Thanks for this articles!!!! it helps me understand
ekta on November 14, 2011:
hey anamika its great readng u i need a hlp frm u i dnt trust guys i mean i dnt undrstand y so i wnt to b in a serious relatn wid a guy bt i hate talkn to them
thabi on November 14, 2011:
sumtym is no right 2 be ur bf always coz wat if is cheat on u
Harman on November 12, 2011:
Very good article
shanaya sharma on November 11, 2011:
how to find my boyfriend love me truly or not..?
jessabel on October 25, 2011:
what about if he says something bad about you what would you do to make him loves you?
Rohit on October 23, 2011:
Thnx.. It will help evryone..
Angel MiMà on October 13, 2011:
I have now my first relationship with a friend of mine .. I blieve that he loves me I really do but the problem is i feel sometimes that i need him to stay with me for all the day & that's what he can't do . and since he doesn't i feel that he wouldn't be with me i know i'm the problem what should i do !!
grace on October 11, 2011:
i always think that my boyfriend is cheating on me but most of the time when i need him his always there and worse part is people always spy on him and tell me what his doing with his ex.please people help me cant broke up with him we love each other n what can i do
to ignore people
kristhina on October 08, 2011:
So i don't listen to my boyfriend i always seem to go my own way and not see his side and well he said he loves me but doesn't want to be with me?he gave me one more chance i am lost on what to do.He also said he didn't want to kiss me until hes okay with it.Its been a week now haven't kissed we still talk like normal.
shumi on October 08, 2011:
i found this article very interesting i love my boyfriend and we shall soon be getting engaged in january 2012 :)
Ally on October 03, 2011:
Thank you for this...i have been with my husband for 12 years - 8 years dating and 4 years married...we are/were madly in love...but then i found out a month ago that he got close to one of our friends - a lady who was being cheated on by her husband and she was going through emotional trauma - she used to talk to my husband and cry in front of him all the time...she has always had a thing for him i think and i have no idea what else she may have told him to draw him close to her...this was one of my best friends...i can obviously never forgive her...my husband started to write loving messages to her but i am certain that nothing physical has happened as there are no gaps...or at least i hope so....when i confronted my husband he told me the truth and told me that he started to have feelings for her because she was in such a bad place and was so emotionally distraught...he said that he felt pity for her which turned into something a little more...he did not hide anything from me...he has since stopped writing anything...has apologised so very much and has even cried...when i told him that i wanted to leave he said that he cannot live without me and that i am the only woman he has ever really loved....he has never cheated before...he says it will never happen again...even when he was writing things for this woman i did not feel a change in the way he loves me or makes love to me...it was like he was the same...i am very confused!!
can i believe him and trust him? should i stay and save this marriage or is it time for me to leave?
xyz on October 02, 2011:
anamika,my bf is married ,he told me he is taking a devorce,but knw he is saying he don't have money to give her after devorce.....he is married man i came to know after a long time.......now he is flirting with other girl where he works....and he always says i am wrong......i am deeply n blindly in love with him ....i accepted him as he is ......but every day i die...this time i found him with another girl ,he was flirting........i stoped talking with him.......whatever you have written its matching with his character but he introduced me with his brother n sister family,even with his friends......wht kind of man he is?
paschaline on September 28, 2011:
my boyfriend told me that another girl is pregnant 4him.pls what can i do
kaylie on September 24, 2011:
my boyfriend is not talking 2 me. i didn't go 2 go 2 school one day and the next day i came he never said hi or any thing. we went to a flied trip with the whole school i saw a friend that i never see him i hug he saw me doing that k so after that ii hould his hand so he couldn't get jelaes the next day i walk pass by him and he nevr said hi what do i do
tracey on September 23, 2011:
Hi I have been seeing my boyfriend for 6 months, we met on a dating site, we spend a lot of time together,we have had fallouts but it has been because of questions or he does not say much, however i was patient and we both have been married before and we do need to be careful and don't want to make a mistake.
We have become stronger and he is gradually saying things to me eg: your a superstar/your special/im honoured to be with you. We both have not said we love each other.
What do you think? I do have a wall in front of me ans i let it fall down slowly, however i wont let it fall completely x
Asfa on September 19, 2011:
It's a really wonderful article. I think everyone who is in a relationship should know these things.because these small small things which we may not notice in our relation are actually very important to know dat whether we are in a good relation or not... Thanx Anamika... u have written a very meaningful article for all those who r in a relation.
WillSteinmetz on September 17, 2011:
Thanks for the tips.
achimey darling on September 16, 2011:
i wonder why my boyfriend took my memory card in my cam without my knowledge, for what the purpose and why he do that to me..? he has no pic their in the said memory card or even our pic together is nothing so why he do that..? help me plz guys..? thanks...
someone on September 14, 2011:
madria you need to sit him down and talk to him while yor alone no destractions wen me and my bf started to not see each other as much not spend much time together i sat him down and pretended to be upset cuz wen your upset they listen but when u nag they zone u out my friend told me that nd it wrked for me and the worst thing 4 a guy is when u say im not happy i dnt feel like where connecting.hope i helped :)
someone on September 14, 2011:
i enjoyed the article i know my bf is in love with me because hes always calling me beautiful as soon as i wake up he tells me he loves me all the time and if im at wrk n he goes wrk he rings me just to tel me he loves me he just txt me sayin love u bby sweetdreams as he dnt finish wrk til 2moz morning is there something i can do to make him smile the way he makes me smile?x
Val on September 13, 2011:
Ummm my bf does not do this....so he loves me?
Madria Sparks on September 10, 2011:
My husband Gary and I have been having problems for quite some time and it really just doesn't seem like he's interested in me or that he loves me any more. He avoids spending time with me by being on his PS3 game all day when he could be talking to me. He stays on the game all night when we could be cuddling. He constantly calls me a liar about all kinds of things and we constantly fight, mostly over discipline of our 4 year old daughter. I have no idea where to go from here. Any advice sounds very usable right about now.
zohra on September 09, 2011:
nice blog anamika.congratulations.my boyfriend and me are in long distance relationship.we have met only thrice.he says you are beautiful for me.but i am not.can he be true?
Ella on September 06, 2011:
To be honest, i learnt my lession after reading your article. This is what i was looking for someone to direct me on. Thank you and God bless you.
Jennette on September 03, 2011:
these are very useful things for me...thank u
mina on September 01, 2011:
Anamika S Jain (author) from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India on September 01, 2011:
@m I personally do not see any future in this relationship. Looks like he has lost interest in you and does not trust you. There is no point in trying to continue such a relationship because it would end up in even more hurt. This is harsh but the earlier you get it into your head the better.
m on September 01, 2011:
Please,help me guys.i m so confused abt my relationship.our relationship will completed 3yrs in the next month.my boyfriend never says i love u to me..always i said it 1st den he gives rply dat he loves me too..he meets me,talk with me,behaves like i m his duty,not a girlfriend.and always says dat he is not trust on me.i deleted all the friends(boys)after it he is still not believe on me,instead of it,he talks to all the gals,but i never says anything about it.and,now a days he trying to ignore me and always says no to meet.what should i do?i cnt liv wthout him,bt not also with him this type of behavior.and,if i talk with him about this matter,he straightly says,if u dnt wnt this,then brokeup with me.plz,help guys.plz..