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How to Spot a Charming Person in Your Inner Circle

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How to Spot the Signs of Someone That is Charming

It's not very difficult to spot in social situations. It's not always the handsome lad that is well dressed with the smile on their face. Sometimes we pass up charming people and may not even know it. Charming people is what the world needs since it radiates good vibes and positive emotions. You may have a charming friend in your inner circle and you may not know it.

Here is some ways to spot who has the charm in your inner friendly circles.

  1. Selfless conversations
  2. Socially comfortable
  3. Great listener
  4. Positive words
  5. Impressionable
  6. Shares a unique trait
  7. Very Confident

The 7 Ways of What Makes a Charmer Explained


Some people would rather not have the spotlight on them in a conversation. The people you may know that divert the conversation from themselves to others, is the charming person in the group. These type of people tend to steer the focus elsewhere and not make it all about them. They would never make themselves the dominant subject in a conversation among friends.

Example: How was your vacation? Can you tell me more about it? Oh, mine? I think your experience maybe more interesting than mine. Tell me about.

Social Comfort

Charming people are great at managing conversations from turning into something negative. Notice how any of your friends or associates are able to turn an uncomfortable situation into something more positive. These are the types of people that would like others to feel at east. If you notice this person turning a conversation around or turning an awkward situation around, this is a charming trait.

Great Listener

Take notice in their listening skills. Does this person talk over your or seems dismissive? If not then this is another trait of a charming person. Think about the ways others would rather listen to your conversation rather than dismiss it. Charming people ask great questions that they would like the answers to. They would rather hear your story than tell theirs. This also goes along with the first point of being a selfless person. It's never about them and they would gladly like to know more about you. Don't take it as insincere or ingenuity when this type of person asks you questions. Charming people certainly would like to get to know you better.

Positive Words or Actions

We know that not everyone can keep a strong demeanor of positivity. Some people display a hardy personality trait or thick skin. What it really means is that a charming person can decode their language in social situations to where negativity is kept at bay. Such things as gossip, negative speak, or negative language is never used around charming people. To reiterate a previous point they are good at turning around negative social situations. If you ever notice that one friend that doesn't gossip or spill tea they have an attractive charming trait. For example if something is negative brought up in a conversation about someone else notice how this person doesn't participate in such trivial matters.

They Know You by Name Not By Face

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We get it some people are bad with names. No fault of their own but you have other people who could care less about your name. Not so much for charming people. People with a charming personality trait genuinely want to know other people. They'll always remember your name. Ever notice how your waitress or your barista turns on their charm? They do so by calling your name. It feels refreshingly personable to have someone know you by name.


There's always something unique about a charming person. Sometimes it can be something quirky or odd that interest other people. It does make for fun conversations and of course the more unique people in your inner social circle the better.


Confidence is a major charming personality trait. Confident people carry an air of great responsibility also they are self aware of others around them. Charming people want to give you some of their confident energy. Confidence encompasses a person's mental state, demeanor, gait, dress, self esteem and their language that is used with others. It's not just an attractive confident face that these type of people have a certain physical appeal to others.

*This is solely the opinion of the author and does not represent 100% factual claim. There are charming people out there that can deceive you. Be careful of these types of people in your inner circle*

This content reflects the personal opinions of the author. It is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and should not be substituted for impartial fact or advice in legal, political, or personal matters.

© 2020 Oe Kaori


Oe Kaori (author) from Yokohama Japan on December 09, 2020:

Meet more charming people it's a great experience

Oe Kaori (author) from Yokohama Japan on November 22, 2020:

Thank you for reading!

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on November 22, 2020:

All the traits you mention are appealing. I think that this is a good guide to identifying the charming individual. Thanks.

Oe Kaori (author) from Yokohama Japan on November 20, 2020:

It's in all honesty. Most Americans I have met are charming.

Liz Westwood from UK on November 20, 2020:

You paint an interesting character portrait in this article.

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