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You Have a Crush, Now What?

Sarah is a certified Hatha, Vinyasa, & Kundalini yoga teacher. She is an artist who believes in the importance of living a creative life.


The Sweetness of Having a Crush

A warm, glowing sensation in the belly, a twinkle in the eye, and a smile on the lips. Sounds like someone has a crush! There is nothing quite like the sweetness of having a crush and exploring the variety of feelings and sensations that come with it. Whether it be a fleeting connection, or something that turns into a deep and fulfilling relationship, having a crush is an experience to be enjoyed and savored. Take risks, have fun, be flirty, and be yourself!


A Single Step

Consider for a moment the thrill of affection in action. For many of us, we admire our crushes from afar. We enjoy them in the safety of our minds and fantasies. What would it be like, to make a small gesture towards your crush in physical reality that would let them know you were thinking of them? This does not necessarily mean 12 long stem red roses delivered to their door. Perhaps, you see your crush most often in the local coffee shop. What opportunities reside inside this place? Could you buy their drink? Could you ask your crush if they ever tried the lemon blueberry scone? Observe the circumstances of you and crush, and ask yourself: where is the opportunity here? Am I willing to take a tiny risk or feel a little awkward for a moment? If yes, stay in the present moment and simply allow it to unfold before you. Breath, and allow. Stay present, and no matter if the person responds positively, negatively, or neutrally, feel the freedom of doing something that honors your desires.


A Handwritten Note

A handwritten note is something that can brighten anyone's day. In an age where everyone is texting and receiving messages instantly, it can be a breath of fresh air to receive a note written by hand. Don't panic if you struggle with finding the "right" words. Let your own voice shine through. No need to write an elaborate poem (unless of course that is your style!). In fact, a single thoughtful line will work wonders. Bring the image of your crush to mind. What is it that you want them to know? How do you want them to feel when they read it? Use your inner guide to choose what is appropriate. This could be simple and sweet, sexy, silly, or serious. Does every time you see them make your heart smile? Perhaps their kindness shows in all that they do. Or maybe their eyes are a color that you just can't describe but are so beautiful to you. Write down what comes to mind without overthinking it too much. Whether you choose to sign it or not is up to you, remember: this is your creation. After you have written the note, the next step is to choose how to deliver it. Be thoughtful, creative, and intentional. Could you replace their bookmark with the note? Perhaps tucked under the windshield wiper of their car? Delivered by hand with an adventurous smile? Again, let your inner guide tell you what would be most appropriate and appreciated.


The Invitation

If you have reached the point where you have decided you would like to explore more into the connection between you and your crush, you have reached the point of the invitation. An invitation is a request that essentially asks your crush to take a step towards you, if that is what they desire. The invitation could be as simple as asking your crush if you can walk them to their car, or inviting them to enjoy their coffee with you on the bench outside. It does not have to be an invitation to go out on date at a fancy restaurant. In fact, it does not have to be anything you don't want it do be. What makes a crush so sweet, is that it is simply being in each other's presence that is so special. Again, allow your inner guide to lead the way, and let your crush respond honestly. Honor any choice that they make to accept or decline your invitation. Honor yourself by thanking yourself for simply making the invitation.


The Commitment You Make to Yourself

Having a crush can certainly be an enjoyable experience. Other times, it can make us feel lonely, confused, or even heartbroken. When this starts to happen, ask yourself: is this still serving my highest and greatest good? If not, it is time to move on. Be honest with yourself. Remember, we can only meet a person as deeply as we meet ourselves. Love and honor yourself first, and then you can truly enjoy all that comes your way.

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