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Simple Advice for Adults in a Relationship

Being in a really serious relationship can leave you feeling overwhelmed at times. But by educating yourself about how to effectively communicate and nurture your life and improving on things together can help make your life easier.


Communicate clearly

Communicating clearly is a part of a healthy connection and the knowing when to talk and when to listen. Developing the ability to just listen to your partner, not interrupting and letting your partner finish their thoughts and feelings. You can do so just by truly listening. Listening is an important skill to have not just in a relationship but even in work or when your out with your friends. Don’t try to come up with a response while someone is talking.

You want to make sure you’re spending plenty of quality time together so you can keep those lines of communication open. Negative communication can lead anything to deterioration. So Without clear communication a relationship can quickly break connection's between people.

When you have a want or a need, you have to express it to your partner clearly so they can understand what your needs are. Never try to say something you think will please your partner when it makes you unhappy. To properly communicate allow yourself to express clearly and directly and take responsibility for your own thoughts and feelings while avoiding blame and accusations toward others.

Don't expect your partner to be able to figure it out your mind or If you have a need or want to express something, you need to communicate it yourself. It’s not fair to you or your partner when you don’t communicate your needs. Likewise, don’t hold in the things that bother you. If something is bothering you, say something to your partner.

Show affection and admiration

By showing affection and admiration to your partner by thanking them or telling them what you appreciate about them and what they do, no matter how big or small. Take time to admire your partner in spite of their flaws. This also strengthens your friendship, and your affection for each other, leading to more respect.

Make time to discuss stuff with your partner. Sometimes when changes occur or schedules become busy and you may miss time to connect or talk about things. You may want to bring up goals and expectations, as these can sometimes change. Ignoring difficult topics or hoping they will go away is one way for a relationship to crumble.

You may discuss about moving in together, sexual satisfaction, marriage, children, or plans to move. Be clear on what you want and how your partner fits in with that.

Give each other space

Try to give each other space as much as you can and don’t give unsolicited advice or minimize problems and stress. No one can fulfill everything and every role for another person. Let your partner have time with friends and family and engage in hobbies.

It’s important for each person to have their own friends and activities that are enjoyed on their own. Sometimes all we need is just for our partner to listen and validate our experiences. We just want support. By doing this, it shows respect for our partner.

While you may want to spend every moment together during the beginning of the relationship, respect each other enough to spend time apart and know that time spent apart doesn’t mean anything negative for the relationship. Support your partner in maintaining friendships.

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It’s important to have friends and the emotional support they provide. Avoid giving up your friends or pressuring your partner to give up friends. Likewise, don’t allow your partner to dictate whether or not you can see your family.


Talk Openly and honestly About Everything

If something bothers you it will not make it better if you don't talk about it so you must be willing to talk about it with your partner and let them know what's been bothering you. Doing so builds trust, and trust builds intimacy.

It may hurt, but you still need to do it because no one else can fix your things for you. Along with respect, trust was the most commonly mentioned trait crucial for a healthy romantic life. Trust your partner to go off on their own, don’t get insecure or angry if you see them talking with someone else, etc.

Be prepared for ups and downs

It’s important to recognize that there are ups and downs in every couple. You won’t always be on the same page. Sometimes one partner may be struggling with an issue that stresses them, such as the death of a close family member. Other events, like job loss or severe health problems, can affect both partners and make it difficult to relate to each other.

You might have different ideas of managing finances or raising children. Different people cope with stress differently, and misunderstandings can rapidly turn to frustration and anger.

Don’t take out your problems on your partner. Life stresses can make us short tempered. If you are coping with a lot of stress, it might seem easier to vent with your partner, and even feel safer to snap at them. Fighting like this might initially feel like a release. Find other healthier ways to manage your stress, anger, and frustration.

No one can meet your needs

No one person can meet all of your needs the only one who can truly meet your emotional needs is you. In fact, expecting too much from your partner can put unhealthy pressure on your partner and yourself.

To stimulate and enrich your romantic life, it’s important to sustain your own identity outside with your partner and preserve connections with family and friends, and maintain your hobbies and interests that makes you feel fulfilled.

If we don’t know how to fill our own if we rely solely on our partner for emotional fulfilment. There’s nothing wrong with turning to your beloved when you’re feeling down and need a boost, and it’s totally natural to look to your partner first when you’re going through some kind of struggle.

Don’t always expect your spouse to carry you, to be your everything, or to continually fill your emotional for you. It’s not fair to them to think they should “complete” you, and it’s not fair to you either. It is important if we feel like our partner is the only one who can help us cope with life.

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