Andrea planned her own wedding during the pandemic, which was an incredibly stressful time. She learned a few tricks along the way.
Wedding Planning on a Budget
If you're planning a wedding on a shoestring budget, there are some tricks you can use to still have the wedding of your dreams. The important thing is to stay within your budget. You don't want to go into debt over a wedding. You may already be dealing with student loans, car loans, and mortgage payments. Saving money is always a good idea.
The keys to having a wedding on a budget are: keeping it simple, being creative, and comparing prices.
In this hub, I'll go over a few big wedding items and what you can do to slash prices.
One of the biggest ticket items on the budget is the wedding dress. Some brides will spend thousands, even tens of thousands to get the dress of their dreams. You don't need a $10,000 dress to look gorgeous. You could even find your dress for free.
First, decide on the max amount of money you would spend on a wedding dress. Keep in mind, you will likely only wear this dress once. However, this dress will be immortalized in pictures. You don't want a terrible dress.
Second, you don't have to buy a dress. You may already have a dress in your closet that you really like. You don't have to go with a typical white gown. Bucking the Victorian wedding dress trend can be fun. If you're eloping and going to the courthouse, do you really need a giant cupcake gown?
- There are rental services for wedding dresses.
- Go vintage: shop online at thrift stores and in person. You might be surprised what you can find.
- Borrow from a friend or family member.
If you want to buy a traditional wedding dress, you can shop at bridal stores in person or go online. If you meet with a sales representative tell them you have a strict budget. You may want to shop online first to see what a store offers and if it is even in your budget range in the first place. You can explore online and look at dresses from the lowest prices first. You might actually be surprised at what you can find.
I spent about $400 on my own dress. I get it off Etsy, and I'm going to tell you now, there are some really gorgeous dresses on Etsy at affordable prices. Everyone thought my dress was beautiful and original, and they never knew what was the price. There are stores that sell dresses for less than $1,000. (Since I had such a good experience, you too might like checking out Angellure Bridal on Etsy.)
You do want to plan out your wedding dress in advance and not wait until the last minute to buy it. You may end up buying from a seller who lives overseas, and the dress may take more than a month to get to you, and if you need to make alterations you'll want time to get it done with a tailor.
Also, yes. If you find a vintage dress you really like but it doesn't fit, you might be able to get it reworked with a tailor.
Finding the Perfect Venue
One of the most expensive items on your list will be the venue. Some places sell their event space for astronomical prices, like $50,000. You can drop that number into the triple digits if you get smart.
I originally wanted a destination wedding because it was going to be cheaper than most venues + the vendors in the United States. I also liked the idea that I could select everything all at once at the place and be done with all the planning. There was one big problem: the coronavirus pandemic. My destination wedding unfortunately was planned in 2020, so my fiance and I had to reroute everything back to the United States to make it work. And we amazingly stayed within our budget during all the chaos.
When it comes to venues, my suggestion would be to look around online at everything that is close to you, look at places that are close to where the majority of your guests live, and maybe look at some destination spots too (I'm serious, destination weddings can actually be more affordable than a typical wedding in your hometown. Plus, you're bundling it together with a honeymoon.)
Most venues have a list of their prices online. Sometimes you have to send an email and inquire about prices. Often a venue will have different rooms and places priced at different ranges. For instance, the place where we held our wedding had a room for $15,000+; we went with their garden area for about $600.
- I've been to weddings that were held at the couple's house or at a family member's fancy house.
- If you are a member of a religious organization, it will often give its members discounts to use the building. Some churches will let their members use it for free, but you may have to follow certain rules. (Churches often ban alcohol.)
- Parks often have affordable prices for events.
- Elope and go somewhere beautiful and skip the big wedding ceremony.
Food & Drink
Most people when they come to your wedding will expect that you give them dinner. This has become the norm. The '90s weddings with a punch bowl and candies is a thing of the past.
As always, shop around and look at different caterers' prices. We got a great deal on our food, but we didn't realize how expensive the bar would be and that our guests liked alcohol way more than we knew. You want to read those bar prices carefully, so you don't get a hefty bill following the wedding. You may want to limit the number of drinks a person can have, so your friend who really likes wine doesn't go wild.
- BBQ can often be bought for an affordable price and can be shared among several guests.
- Pasta tins are often affordable and manageable.
- The more intensive labor the caterers have to do, the more expensive it will be. This includes tables, chairs, linens, napkins, plates, silverware, cups, and the like.
- I went to one wedding where the bride had a close friend who was a professional chef. He offered to cook for her for free. The food was excellent. If you have a friend who is a professional with food, they might be able to pull this off. I would compare the prices of a private chef, especially if you have a smaller wedding. Your chef will need an exact head count, not an estimate.
- It's better to have too much food than not enough food. Any extra food could be donated to a food pantry or taken home as leftovers. Avoid spoiling food.
Cakes don't come cheap. If you want a fancy one, it will likely cost you hundreds of dollars. For me, it was worth it to have a fancy cake. I spent about $300 for the cake of my dreams. One of my friends said she went cheap with her cake and regretted it. She wished she had gone with something of higher quality.
- The more labor intensive your cake, the more it will cost.
- Cupcakes can get pricey too, but they tend to have a more fixed price than a cake.
- Each layer of your cake will add more cost.
- Each new design element you add into the cake will add more cost.
- Typically, most bakers work with chocolate and vanilla. If you want a different flavor, it could cost more.
- Book a baker as soon as you can if you want a professional. I suggest booking at least six months out.
- Walmart could be the way to go. There is nothing wrong with a sheet cake.
- If you have a friend who is really good at baking, have them bake a cake for you.
- I went to one friend's wedding where they skipped the cake and asked everyone to bring a pie instead. There were a ton of pies to try.
Floral arrangements make for great centerpieces. Flowers are generally given to the bridal party and the bride's attendants get bouquets. This can all add up really quickly in cost. You want to have a budget range for your flowers if you plan to use them. You can trade out flowers for other objects that are cheaper, or go with fake flowers.
I love flowers because they're biodegradable, they smell nice, and they're romantic. Flowers are such an easy thing to put into a wedding that makes everything look nicer.
I do recommend working with a professional florist if you use flowers. A home gardener probably doesn't have the resources to make sure your flowers stay fresh throughout the day and also doesn't have the variety.
- Buy flowers that are native. There are many reasons why you want to go native and in season. It will cost you more to outsource flowers. Buying tropical flowers in the Midwest will make the price go up.
- Ask the florist to help you to keep the price down. Ask them what are the lowest priced flowers rather than trying to create flowers based off a color palette or aesthetic.
- Limit the flowers you buy. Do all your attendants need bouquets? Does your flower girl or boy need fresh petals? Cut down on the number of corsages, boutonnieres, and other arrangements.
- Use house plants and succulents for centerpiece arrangements instead.
- Keep it simple: instead of a bridal bouquet, carry a couple of roses.
Bridal Party Attire
It is customary to buy dresses or suits for the bride's attendants. There are some ways you can lower this cost and make it easier on yourself.
First: keep your bridal party small. You don't need all your closest friends up at the altar with you. You don't want an army surrounding you. 3-4 bridesmaids is manageable. 8-9 bridesmaids can turn into a circus. Each bride will add up in cost with shoes and their dresses / outfits.
Second: I recommend buying things new or as a collection. If you have your bridesmaids all pick out their favorite black dress, their favorite pattern, etc., it could look like a mess. You might get various shades of black. You might get various patterns. You don't want your team of bridesmaids looking like a mess. I used the company Cocomelody for my bridesmaids. Their dresses were beautiful, affordable, and I could help bridesmaids pick different styles in the same color. This was really helpful. They also have accessories for men, so we could get ties, pocket squares, and other items in the same color.
Etsy is also another great place for shoes, bridesmaid dresses, and suits. I had one bridal attendant wear a suit that she already had and she matched to the color I picked through Cocomelody.
You also want to get the dresses early so that there is enough time for alterations. Keep in mind, you don't want your bridal party to look shabby. They may only wear the outfits once, but they will be immortalized in pictures. Even if you don't get a professional photographer, your guests will likely take pictures and put them on social media.
- Shop around on Etsy. Read reviews closely to make sure you're not falling for a scam.
- Be on the lookout for discounts.
- Don't buy all the bridesmaid's dresses all at once. Space it out, so you don't deplete your funds.
Hair & Makeup
My suggestion is to enlist the help of a friend or close family member who is really good at these things. Hair and makeup can cost a fortune, but surely one of your bridesmaids or guests has a deep love of making people look pretty. This was the route I took.
If you don't have a friend like this, I would recommend trying to get someone to be really good at this and watch tons of YouTube tutorials on makeup and hair. You can drop a ton of money on a stylist, and sometimes that person doesn't entirely get you. I've seen a lot of people opt for a stylist and not get the results they wanted. You have to do extra work with a stylist: you need to look through their portfolio and see if their looks match what you desire.
You as well could learn how to wield a curling iron. Practice with your friends in advance and see if you can make yourselves look pretty without a stylist. If you can pull it off, you'll save a lot of money. I've also gone to weddings where they amazingly skipped the makeup, and believe me or not, it worked just fine. Not all of us can rock the natural look, but if you never wear makeup it might be because you're naturally pretty. You might also be uncomfortable in makeup if you never wear it.
I will admit, however, in photographs it is easier for your photograph if you're glammed up. It makes it easier with lighting.
- Look for discounts if you use a stylist. Look for affordable, but not so affordable that you look like a disturbing pageant queen.
- I would rather you spend the money on nails and getting massages than sitting in a hair salon with lots of hairspray.
- Read some books on hair.
- See if your regular hair stylist can cut you a deal.
- Don't make any huge changes to your hair in the months ahead of your wedding. Avoid chopping off all your hair or dying it. Making drastic changes before the wedding, especially if you never do these things, could spell regret. Now is not the time to experiment with new hair looks.
Also last thing: brides don't do your own hair or makeup. There is a chance that you could burn your veil or get makeup on your dress. You need someone to do these things for you.
© 2021 Andrea Lawrence