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How to Determine Your Worth

Sakhile has spent over ten years writing about love and relationships. He is an expert in interpersonal relationships.

Know Your worth and fully live your life.

Know Your worth and fully live your life.

Those who are unaware of their worth may believe, consciously or unconsciously, that they are worthless. These beliefs can have an impact on one's thoughts, feelings, actions, and experiences. Knowing and believing in your own worth seems to be essential for joy and well-being. So, let us delve into the research and find out about how we can fully understand our worth.

What Prevents us from Having to Feel Worthy?

Many of us base our self-worth on external circumstances. It is unstable when our self-worth is dependent on external circumstances. As a consequence, our self-esteem can become subject to the whims of the world.

Clearly, we want to do things that bring us happiness. And doing things which boost our self-esteem brings us joy. However, if our self-worth is contingent, we may engage in actions that cause us to feel worthy whilst also avoiding things that make someone feel worthless. This could lead us all to pursue the shitty things that do not ultimately make us happy.

For instance, when our self-worth is dependent on our ability to succeed at work, we may only choose job roles that are easy. That way, we don't ever fail and always know we are worthy. Perhaps we believe we are only worthy when we weigh just under 100 kg . To avoid feeling like a bad person, we may under-eat or start engaging in unhealthy eating habits.

How to Determine Your Worth?


So, how can we as people work more towards a better understanding of our worth just so life's slings as well as arrows don't have as much of an impact on us?

1. Put learning ahead of performance.

When we concentrate on learning or growing, we can view failures as well as absence of approval as opportunities to improve. By doing so, we can eventually recover from difficult emotions more quickly.

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2. Establish prosocial objectives.

We may be able to avoid some of the blows to our self-esteem if we set goals which are good for us and also good for others. So concentrate on how you can help others and add the world's value.

3. Reduce external uncertainties.

External contingencies—self-worth dependent on factors like approval or appearance—have been shown in studies to be the worst for our self-esteem. Internal contingencies relying on morality and religiousness appear to be less dangerous. So concentrate on reducing external contingencies.

4. Concentrate on your strengths.

Consider the following:

- What defines or distinguishes you?
- What are you doing no one else is?
- Which are your strong points?
Answering these questions on a regular basis can help you boost your self-esteem.

Self-esteem is not easy to achieve.However, by better understanding how we allow external events to influence our self-worth, we will really hopefully begin to shift our worth further towards things over which we have control.

This content reflects the personal opinions of the author. It is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and should not be substituted for impartial fact or advice in legal, political, or personal matters.

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