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First Things First
I won't claim to be a relationship guru, but I do have some experience in how to make my wife happy. I've been married for nearly ten years now, and our love is as strong as ever. Here are a few pointers for you guys out there that want to go the extra mile for your partner.
Let's Get Started
A lady never stands alone. If your female accompaniment would like to go for a cigarette or if she is waiting for a taxi, ask if she would like your company. It is a nice gesture to show that you enjoy being around her, and it also ensures her safety. Many women are able to protect themselves, but there is strength in numbers, and nefarious men can strike at any moment. Better safe than sorry.
Treat her as your equal. Women are incredible beings, capable of just as much as their male counterpart, if not more. Treat them as such. DO NOT belittle them, make them feel weak, or assume they need help with everything. If you want to do something for a Lady, simply ask first. Once you get to know this person, the rules shift, however. No need to ask to carry something for your wife or a long time friend, if you know she will say “yes, please.”
Pay attention. Sometimes the little things count the most. Open your ears and your heart to a Lady, and they will respect you for it. Never blow someone off, If you are uncomfortable with a topic, politely ask to change it. This is part of healthy communication, which is paramount in any type of relationship. Also, pay attention to any changes in looks or behaviour, complimenting on a new look or haircut could go a long way.
Some More Pointers
Remember, remember. Important dates for her are just as important to you. Keep a journal and write things down if your memory is not of the sharpest. Don't, however, hold on to the negative things. Forgive and forget.
Honesty. ALWAYS be honest. Whether it be with your significant other or with your friends and family. I cannot stress the importance of this enough. Would you like it if someone you care about lies to you?
Don't take her for granted. She is not a plaything, she is a human being that deserves respect. Do give her the occasional compliment, but don't over-do it. Share chores if in a relationship, she is not your maid.
A random gesture. When she least expects it, take her out on the town, or cook a lovely meal at home. Don't just do things for anniversaries and the like, celebrate her on a random day. She deserves it.
Respect. This is the big one, and a culmination of all of the above. Every woman in your life deserves your respect. Period. Take your mother for instance; the person who gave you life should get anything she ever asks for. You would simply not be here, reading this, if it wasn't for that woman's pain and suffering. Be grateful to her. There's also the matter of harassment, no woman should be 'cat-called' or touched inappropriately by anyone, especially not by a Gentleman. Not only is this disrespectful, distasteful, and vile behaviour, It can have serious consequences.
That's it for now, Ladies and Gentlemen. Until next time.
This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.
Shakira Shareef from Kandy on July 06, 2018:
I fell in love with the article.
Lars Melby (author) from Ontario on March 31, 2018:
Wonderful input and many good points. Thank you and cheers!
dashingscorpio from Chicago on March 31, 2018:
"I do have some experience in how to make (my wife) happy."
Therein lies the secret. Knowing how to make (your lady) happy.
Let's face it there is no "one size fits all" for either gender.
What pleases or makes one woman happy isn't enough for another woman. There are women who actually want "bad boys".
You could stick such a woman in a room with 5 guys and have four of them drop to their knees extending their heart out towards her while the "5th guy" sits in a corner sipping on a cocktail acting as if she does not exist. That's the guy (she) wants to get to know!
He's a "mystery", "challenge", someone who will make her "earn" his attention and affection. She has to prove to herself she can "win him" over. If she knows other women are interested in him it just makes his stock go up. Competition brings out the best in her. It's as if the motto is:
"We ignore those who adore us and adore those who ignore us!"
If the world were filled with women (who only wanted gentlemen) for mates there would be no "gangsters", "jerks", "losers", or "abusers" with girlfriends and wives! Sadly this is not the case.
However the "upside" is in a world with over 7 Billion people the odds are by simply (being yourself) there are people who will be attracted to (you). The goal is to be loved and appreciated for who (you) are.
People who are "in love" naturally make the attempt to make their partners happy. They enjoy seeing them smile and hearing them laugh. Nevertheless each of us has our own definition for love and what love should "look like", "feel like", and how people "in love" should "act like". Ultimately we're all looking for someone who expresses love (the way) we want to be loved. Until that happens we're not going to (feel loved) no matter what is actually in our mate's heart.
"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
- Oscar Wilde
There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships. We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.