12 Ways to Make a Man Fall Deeply in Love With You
Learn how to make him fall in love with you (and stay in love!).
How to Make a Guy Fall in Love With You
Do you want to make a man fall in love with you forever? You might be asking this question because you like a guy a lot and are looking forward to him feeling the same about you.
He's the man of your dreams, and you adore him. You want him by your side right now, but unfortunately, you still don't have him. You're willing to do whatever it takes for him to chase you, like you, be attracted to you, and fall madly in love with you—but it seems like a huge undertaking.
In this article, you will learn some of the basic (and not-so-basic) things that you can do to attract a man and make him fall in love with you.
Attracting a man has one secret ingredient: You!
1. Don't Lose Hope
Don't lose hope. If you want a guy to fall in love with you, you have to be hopeful at all times. Losing hope can be a disease not only in trying to win the heart of a man but also in all things that we do in our day-to-day life.
Hope for the best, but don't lose sight of reality. When pursuing a man and wanting him to fall in love with you, there are definitely two likely outcomes, which are:
- He also falls in love with you
- He rejects your advances
When pursuing the love of a man, it's important to be hopeful and stay positive. (We all appear more attractive and appealing when we give off good, positive vibes.) But don't hang all your hopes on getting the result you dream about. He has feelings just like you do, and none of us really have control over our hearts!
He might be interested in you as much as you are interested in him. Be motivated by that hope, and take steps to find out if it is the case. You won't know until you make an effort to catch him. However, you should also prepare for any eventuality and outcome. If this man's not the one for you, there will be another man on your horizon. So don't lose hope!
2. Be Yourself
Be yourself when trying to make a man fall in love with you. It is important to be yourself and not someone else when it comes to personality and character. If you are pretending to be different from your true self when trying to make a guy like you, you are not doing yourself any favors.
By trying not to be yourself, you are clearly indicating or suggesting that you are not comfortable with yourself. Many guys will easily notice this shortcoming in you and quickly become disinterested.
You might be able to keep the façade up for a few weeks, months, or even years. But sooner or later, you'll grow tired of hiding your true personality, and he'll get tired of trying to figure out who you really are, what you really like, and when you are actually being sincere.
- If you have a high-powered job, don't dumb yourself down.
- If you hate high heels, don't wear stilettos.
- Your dog hogs the front seat of your car and sleeps in your bed? The two of you had better talk about that.
- Do you have children? That's definitely worth mentioning upfront.
The best relationship is a long relationship. When a man falls madly in love with you, you want that love to last, so be yourself right from the start.
3. Be Aware of Your Appearance
Don't let your appearance let you down. Your appearance can make you win or lose when it comes to dating. To please a man and make him get interested in you, you should be presentable. Be aware of what you are wearing, whether or not your hair is clean, and if you are dressed appropriately.
Of course, you want to look sexy for the man you want to fall in love with you, but sex appeal doesn't necessarily mean body-hugging clothing and lots of cleavage. Jeans and a t-shirt with wind-blown hair can be just as sexy as a manicured look in a formal outfit, in the right circumstances. The key? Feel confident, comfortable, and good about yourself.
Ways to Help You Look and Feel Your Best
- Choose your clothing and your style to match the occasion.
- Choose clothing that works for the occasion but makes you feel comfortable.
- Do your best to look your best, no matter where you go. You never know when you might unexpectedly bump into the man of your dreams, whether it's the one you're actively pursuing or not!
So, before you race out the door to buy the missing ingredient for your quiet dinner at home, change that grubby shirt!
4. Listen, Don't Just Talk!
When you want to please and make a man fall for you, it is important that you listen. Don't just talk. If you chatter incessantly when you are nervous, find some other way to cope with your nerves.
Many girls make the mistake of talking more than they listen when they are around a potential male partner. Girls aren't the only ones, of course. Many men do the same thing. But this is a big mistake that can easily cost you getting the man of your dreams.
Even a man who is generally not talkative will definitely have something to say. Everyone likes to be 'heard.' If you keep talking and talking all the time without giving him the chance to express himself, he's likely to be disappointed. Making it hard for him to get a word in could lower your chances of him falling in love with you.
5. Show Confidence
Liking yourself makes it easy for him to like you too. You're a good person with very special qualities. Be confident that you are worthy of being loved!
Confidence is key. Sure, some women seem to make a career out of catching men by playing the victim or the helpless female.
Without confidence, you risk being left behind. If you want a guy to like you, you need to have a sense of confidence in yourself that will ultimately make you approach him without fearing or sensing any danger.
Having fun together is a great way to foster a relationship and build confidence in yourself.
6. Smile and Laugh
When you are working on ways to make a guy fall in love with you, it is essential to smile and laugh. Don't present an unfriendly face. Be as outgoing, friendly, and social as you feel comfortable being.
Guys generally like girls with a sense of humor who can make them feel good. Tell him enjoyable stories, and don't be afraid to laugh. Remember not to go overboard and look like a comedian. It is great to have a partner who is enjoyable and outgoing, but very few people like the idea of living with a comedian.
7. You Have to Give, Not Just Take
You have to give, and not just take, to increase your chances of him falling in love with you. A man can easily differentiate between a girl who wants something from him and one who cares for him.
There are certainly girls who are after money (gold diggers). Differentiate yourself from the typical gold digger and let him see you are interested in him for his love and not his money or any other material thing.
8. Let Him Put Some Extra Effort In
Let him also put some extra effort in. If you keep chasing after a man for months while he is going on with his activities, you'll most likely be seen as a desperate woman. Being available to him always is not really a good thing. Don't let him get bored.
Instead, allow him to make advances towards you. Many men enjoy the thrill of the 'chase.' Catch his eye and his attention, and then let him work a little to win you over. Let him notice how much he misses you when you are not around. As soon as he suspects he's falling in love with you, he will definitely do something to get you.
9. Get to Know (and Understand) What He Does
This is something that could dramatically increase your chances of winning his love. Take opportunities to get involved in things he does. Ask him whether he needs any help to accomplish a task. If he discovers that you are keenly interested in his plans, he will see that you care for him and that you could be a good partner.
Be patient with a new potential partner—they may surprise you.
10. Have Patience and Don’t Push Him Too Hard to Make Important Decisions
Patience will definitely pay off. Be patient and go slow when trying to make a man fall in love with you. Don’t expect him to fall in love or say yes to your advances instantly.
Many men will definitely need time to decide whether he is ready to enter into a relationship with you or not. If he likes you, he will make it obvious. But don’t ever push him to make a quick decision on whether he likes you or not.
11. Don't Be Possessive
Don’t be too possessive. Many women make the mistake of being too possessive of a man before he even admits his love to them. When this is the case, she may try to protect him from other women so that she remains the only woman in his life.
Possessiveness is not only unattractive but it can be extremely toxic and harmful to both you and your potential partner. This is a strategy that is doomed to fail. Allow him to decide on what is best for him. If you are the one for him, he will definitely fall in love with you.
12. Have Good Morals
Good morals are a necessity in convincing a man to love you. Nobody wants to get involved with someone who can't be trusted. Men like women who are disciplined and are not pushovers. Behave maturely towards him and be respectful of him, just as you expect him to be respectful towards you. Furthermore, have respect for yourself and your values; know who you are and what you stand for.
If you can be true to yourself and demonstrate all these types of qualities, your perfect match will definitely fall in love with you!
© 2012 Daniel Long
Comments
Shubh on September 10, 2020:
We have met on social sites. Because of quarantine we haven't met yet. Bt now our bond has became more than a friends. Im getting same love nd care from him bt he dont want to commitment wht should i do to make him fall in love with me for commitment
Anita on September 09, 2020:
I like it
Me on September 08, 2020:
My boyfriend lies a lot and he tells me that he's not another woman and that he never has time for me until like 9:00 p.m. to like 10:00 in the morning and then throughout the day he just text me all the time he might call once but if I call him he's never able to answer the phone so now I don't even call him anymore.he always gets me the book trips and he never shows up or he's never ready but he always put in emphasis like we're going somewhere and he never comes out on top.his actions are speaking way louder than his words things that he say he has I found out he doesn't have so what should I do should I tell him about himself to leave him alone or should I just let it run its course and move on with my life?
naleen on August 28, 2020:
i have this crush on this guy at work, and i am sure he does as well, I am an indian and he is white, but he is afraid of making a move what do i do,we have a good relationship we talk and understand each other.
Yumiko on August 26, 2020:
The first thing that I think when I wake up and before sleeping is him. But it seems like the is not interested in me. Because he replies too late. Our daily chat is 10 messages on average (by each person). But when he replies he acts like he also likes me. He is in another country. That's why I sleep late and wake up early for taking to him more (because of our time difference. It's 9 hours). But he is always busy with his life. Maybe I'm in the another country. So doesn't think relationship with me. I was also not into relationship. And I never had. It's first time that I feel like this. But because of his actions I get hurt. What should I do?
Mayannie on August 21, 2020:
I'm deeply Fall in love with a man who's in love with another woman, but Everytime when we're together he treated me like his girlfriend we did like couples doing, especially when we're together in bed he cares me a lot, when I'm sick he took care of me his very sweet, he always cooked for dinner and lunch... But there are times I don't understand him, I don't understand him.. and I can't read his mind. I just wanted to know if loves me too but his really good in hiding his feelings, and I don't want to be assuming... Please help me... What should I do... If his just take for granted maybe I should change my self?
Kriti Chouhan on August 19, 2020:
Hii.. I have a crush On a In my neighborhood. But he always teases me and make fun of me. It hurts me a lot. What should I do ?
Gift on August 15, 2020:
I love him but he does not replie my message he does not pick my calls
sacha on August 15, 2020:
Iam in love with a boy who loves my friend, How can he stop loving my friend and love me
Neha Singh on August 14, 2020:
How can i make a heartbroken guy fall in love with me who's ex has been married ?
Christianah on August 11, 2020:
He has already have one kids but not marrying the woman again but 4years to this time he’s taking his boy back from her but am always unhappy that won’t he latter go and marry the woman that born for him at early stage
k on August 11, 2020:
i need help
Tife on August 06, 2020:
I love this guy at first sight, and he claim to love me too but his work is 7am-7pm and we only chart, but he keeps saying he can't promise marriage because he doesn't know what the future hold
Nana P on August 06, 2020:
I love a guy and he loves me and his friend loves me too, but I don't know what to do because the guy's friend is a jealous fellow, if I be the guy's girlfriend, the guy's friend may do something bad.... Please what should I do, I am 17yrs old.
Silvia on August 05, 2020:
I love a boy and he loves me
He wants me to be his girlfriend but I am not ready, even though I love him.
Please should I accept or what should I do?
Racheqi on August 05, 2020:
I love this boy and he loves me too
I am not ready to date but he wants us to date each other
What should I do
Nelly on August 03, 2020:
Hi I think I kind of maybe juust little bit love my friend who have Girlfriend and I wanna know if he is falling for me
Bcs we can joke about getting married about sleeping in the same bed he would have half of the bed and like that then he said finally someone who can understand him is me then we can talk even for hours and we were yoking about being NEIGHBORS and helping each other and that he said he will be the only one in my bed the only NEIGHBOR and also Im I was helping him a lot with things he didnt understand with his girlfriend and he also said that he like me kind of and also he siad If we would end up together when we will be 20 he would be glad and also he said he love his Girlfriend soo much but also he had this feeling with another girl too and also I think maybe He is falling in love with me Im not sure but I wanna know please answer me thank you for reading it answer bye
Sahiba on July 30, 2020:
I really love him ..he is married because he have not time for me ....i only waiting of his ....but he dont care
Hayley on July 29, 2020:
I told him i like him but he didn't reply like he is not sure what do i have to do????
Princess on July 29, 2020:
If i love someone i will do anytin to make him feel d same for me thanks my advise is dat do not hide ur feelings from d one u love unless another girl is on d way to snatch.
bbco on July 27, 2020:
I have a boyfriend , he love me because of my pretty look on my face, but he don't know that i have a scar on my forearm and i always hiding it. because i am afraid to let him see it. i think he only love me because of my appearance what should i do? what am i going to do for not to leave me.
Khadeejah on July 23, 2020:
We live together, talk to each other and we're soooooooo close but don't admit we're in love so what do I do to make him admit it
Natania imoh on July 20, 2020:
If you were crushing on someone for over 3years and you stopped crushing on that person, later on you had a boyfriend that you love and told you that he loves you but dont know how to talk to girls,and later on the on you was crushing on later came back and tells you that he loves you,what do you think i sjould do know pls?
K.srujana sri on July 13, 2020:
I love u
Zalia on July 12, 2020:
Um madly in love with one guy but I can't tell him any time we call each other and chat but i don't know whether he also loves me or not
hamees on July 08, 2020:
there was a guy that i had a crush on and then we talked . everything was fine and he said he has feelings for me too. then we drifted apart. i was lost and didn't know what i really wanted for a couple of months. we kept talking but not as frequently. now, we are back on talking so much and i want him back , he was the one for me and i'm sure of that now. i want to make it up for him and show him that i really love him; but he said he has feelings for a girl. i don't know what to do. i want to have hope and try to get him back.
Bless on June 22, 2020:
Please I love this guy and he said he loves me too but the problem is that he's thinks he can't take care of me... So he said we should be friends rather... But I really love him..am confused please what should I do
stacey on June 19, 2020:
im inlove with someone but he doesnt even care
Riya pandey on June 18, 2020:
So we were in a relationship 4 months but suddenly he left me coz he was confused. In me n his ex n now we still talk as a friend's n we get attach again he has respect n love n. Care for me but he don't want any relationship coz coz he is broken due to fake love n fake friend's n he asked for. A break he want me to move on wid someone else
Simran on June 12, 2020:
The one whom i love...he has a past story....he told me that his life was screwed up after breakup..and now he doesnt want to love or be in a relationship again...i guess he's scared of being in a relation....he talks to me...avoids me at times....i told him my feelings....he said....he told he dont like"relationships".....he doesn't talk to any girl....i told him to block me...but he doesn't block me....even though i text him now...he will reply to my text...i dont knw what to do....can you help me...what to do? Or have idea what is he upto?
Patricia on June 11, 2020:
What if his in another i
Faith on June 06, 2020:
This guy likes me but he cant get over his ex
Azka on June 04, 2020:
I have a friend since 2 months now we talk daily on phone bcz hes not from my country so , im starting to like him & he says he likes me too but as a bestfriend , i did told him that i have feelings for him but he says that we are so far & if you were in my country i would love to meet you in person , like he said that we could be a thing if we were in same country , but our countries are not friends either Pakistan & India ... What should i do ....
Anne on May 29, 2020:
I'm in a long distance relationship. The communication was okay but kinda boring. The thing is, i want to see him through videocall but he is making some excuses. He got cheated with his prev partner. What should i do to make things work out between us?
Ghost Angel on May 23, 2020:
I been with my man for 4 years now , we had some issues here and there and separated but I always felt like I still had our relationship & future that was our glue. While we were separated I never had any other guy in my life that I would be close to or even have feelings for , I couldn't see myself even having a sexual relationship nor even just dating another guy. My heart and mind still was set on my one and only love. Wherever he was or whoever he was spending his time with. I convinced myself that he only had love for me and it really felt as though we both felt the same. I felt like I was his woman and he was still my man, and we were just taking the time apart to get to know how much we actually miss eachother and stay true . Also find our way back in each others arms, and really understand that we need to have more trust and confidence in our relationship. I missed him . And couldn't wait until the day we could both come to our senses and never want to be apart like that again . But sometimes I wonder ... Was he feeling the same as I was ? Or was he actually trying to forget about me.
Cassandra on May 23, 2020:
I'm dating a married man and he agrees to marry me with some terms and conditions which I'm fine with
Is it advisable to marry him?
Sandy on May 23, 2020:
I love this guy from my church and he is also my Facebook friend though when ever I try chatting him he won't reply, when I managed to ask him why he always aviod me he said he hadly chat on this platform vand am confused on what to do,so what can I do
Debbie on May 22, 2020:
I love this guy who happens to be my pastor's son and my Facebook friend but he seems not to notice me each time I try chatting him on Facebook , so what can I do?
Aubree on May 14, 2020:
i ment he doesnt like me but his siter keeps saying he is lying and that he likes me idk if i should beilive it...
Aubree on May 14, 2020:
wht do i do if i like the boy and he likes me back ive known him for awhile and i started liking him from thismyear from last year his siter says hes hiding something from me and ik he isnt with someone and he keeps turning pink when i ask him sertion things he also tells me things ive never heard him say to other people his sister says he acted like that last time he had a crush does he actaully like me...?
Karabo on May 10, 2020:
Am new here ND I haven't sent pictures yet
Amber on May 06, 2020:
I want my bf francesco to fall in love with me i need help please
Jaymama on May 01, 2020:
He doesn’t wat me to see his status
Etta on April 29, 2020:
Thank you that was really helpful. me and my boy friend have been getting along
Hillary on April 28, 2020:
How to know if my best guy friend likes me and loves me what should i do should i tell him that i really like him and love him or should i wait and have him tell me how he feels about me
nkuah on April 26, 2020:
I love a guy very serious and I
told him and he said he have a girlfriend, but I also love him badly what should I do
Yinky on April 25, 2020:
There is a guy i love i know he has a girlfriend before we started dating but it seems things are not working well between them again he ask me a question that if he get me pregnant what will I do which i ask him if his ready for that he said no until next year i ask him if his planning to spend the rest of his life with me which he said if God says but his not use to calling me and always saying he love me which am confused maybe he truly love me or not
Bella56 on April 24, 2020:
Heey
Iam so glad to share this with you
What should I do
If the man IAM interested in he interested in me too but suddenly he ingores my messages and calls and everything about me
Please answer me
IAM in love with him
Gena on April 23, 2020:
What should I do if the man I interested in him likes talk with me and suddenly he ingores my calls my messages everything about me
Lea on April 14, 2020:
So i have a boyfriend, we live in together for almost a year and a half. We always fights and i always physically hurt him more.. Our fights are perhaps due to some cultural differences, he is a muslim and he dont allow me to talk on my colleagues or even boss out of work time, while these instances are very rare and emergency as i am an executive secretary.. He is 34 and i am 28.. I feel like im adjusting too much for him and but he is the one who cannot understand everything which makes me irritated and later leads to a fight. I dont know, im inlove with him so much and im pretty sure he loves me too dearly. So on April 7, it was my birthday.. we are both working abroad, so this is my 2nd birthday out of my hometown, and due to the coronavirus we are at home celebrating my birthday. But then, after we cook spend time together as usual, he makes me feel special for cleaning the whole house.. Then we supposed to get drunk. However, he gaves me an attitude which raise my blood pressure. Its my birthday! No one should gives me an attitude. So we fought, then after an hour he reached out to me and told me. youre not happy are you? I said im happy. He keeps talking too much and mentioned that youre not happy i know, because i cant give you the life you dreamed of, youre a materialistic lady just like any other lady.. Like, WTF? We are living for 18months and im paying everything in half! I have higher pay than him, perhaps thats the reason why he is intimidated. So, Now.. I am not talking to him for almost 5 days now and so does he. Any advice?
i need a man. on April 12, 2020:
i need a man.
Nicky on April 11, 2020:
Plz help
Shak on April 01, 2020:
Is it good to do all of those
Nisha on March 30, 2020:
How can we know the boy was in another relationship ? If I think he is in another relationship what can I do?we both are engaged but I think he is not happy ☹️
Precious Jabla on March 28, 2020:
i love this guy
elizabeth merrett on March 17, 2020:
My now ex broke up with me and I still like him and I think he likes me but my fake friend ex best friend and someone else like him so how do I get him to fall for me and not them ?
Emma on March 08, 2020:
Online date.. I'm new to it and haven't posted a picture because I'm not sure if I want people to see me in the big ocean of fish..
Ok, first and foremost, I'm older.. 54.. I think I'm cute. So my question is this. How do you know when its appropriate to exchange numbers and/or set up a meeting coffee date.. I have been single for about 3 years, so this is all new to me.. (dating online).
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on March 07, 2020:
There's a simple way to find the answer to your question, Random Person. Just ask him, "Why don't you hold my hand anymore? What's changed?"
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on March 07, 2020:
Essy, if you are not happy it is time to move on. Maybe some day the guy you think you're in love with will decide he can't live without you and come chasing you to the ends of the earth, begging you to be his girl. But don't hold your breath for that day. There's every possibility he'll always remain the kind of guy who can't open up or commit.
So, what do I think you should do? I think you should walk away with your head held high and leave him to dwell in his own misery. Don't let yourself get upset about might or might not be with this guy. Move on and see what the future holds!
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on March 07, 2020:
Madison, everyone I know has been rejected at least once ... including me. When the time is right, you won't be rejected and the wait for the right partner will feel worth it!
Random Person on March 06, 2020:
The guy i like used to say things like "hold my hand" and "you know friends are likely to end up dating right?", but now he's distant...what does that mean? he doesn't like me right?
Essy on March 06, 2020:
I love this guy. But i think i pushed the relationship. He lefted his babymom before we go together but they still had a thing going on. They are completely over their break up but the feelings for her are still there and i feel like im getting the shitty e d of things cause its like hes scared to open up to me and say he loves me n tell me I'm beautiful. What should i do ? Im confused
madisonhenley on March 06, 2020:
why do people reject me