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How To Hidden Transformational Secrets That Attract Right Relationships


How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you. Rupi Kaur

Relationships are a crucial part of our lives and our societies, the communities we build or find ourselves in are all based on relationships. Be that as it may you have to understand that whatever relationship you find yourself in comes to you because of what you have sent out based on what you believe about yourself.

Haven’t you ever asked yourself why a man or woman always seem to attract the same kind of personalities in relationships. I too used to ask myself why I seemed to only end up with a certain type of people whose traits I didn’t particularly admire. Well Now I know why and that’s what I am going to share with anyone out there who seems to be stuck with the worst kind of of characters for friendships or even in their spouses.

I think most people are probably aware of the law of attraction where it is stated that like attracts like. You really need to understand this so you can help yourself, and always remember it’s not the other person who needs to change- The reality and sad truth is that it all starts with you and ends with you.

SELF LOVE | Positive Morning Motivation | LISTEN EVERY DAY!

I am going to make you so proud. - Note to self

So if you really want healthy relationships like we all do, then pay attention to those people that surround you right now. Let’s start with your friends, what sort of characters do you have and do you drag along as friends. In your work place, what sort of people serenade your environment?

What sort of man do you call your boyfriend?

What sort of husband do you have and what kind of traits does he exhibit?

It is always said that if you want to attract someone who truly loves you, then love yourself first.

I didn’t understand that one for many years, but I now know that I must first and foremost have a happy, healthy relationship with me if I truly want healthy, worthy relationships all round.

So perhaps you have sort of accumulated all types of not so good characters around you then the first step you need to do is to work on yourself. You may not realize it but all these sad characters around you are actually telling you that there is something you need to weed out in yourself


Her Life changed the day she learned she was just as valuable as everyone else-

Examine yourself closely and be honest with the following:

  • Do you love yourself?
  • Do you think you are worthy?
  • Do you see your own worth?
  • Do you value yourself?
  • Do you think you are important?
  • Do you think that you matter?
  • Do you think you are worthy of love?
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''It's not your job to like me... It's mine! '' Byron Katie

It is important for you to take the time to self-evaluate yourself because if you don’t love yourself chances are you will never see your own worth and that will lead to your always choosing people who will never see it either.. These people will definitely:

  • Manipulate you
  • Take advantage of you
  • Abuse you
  • Use you
  • Treat you like trash
  • They won’t care about you
  • They won’t care about how you feel
  • They won’t give you the time of day unless they want something from you
  • People will only come to take from you and never give back to you.
  • You will always have one sided relationships where you do all the caring to people who can’t be bothered about you.
  • You will always have a husband who doesn’t appreciate you

It is not their fault that they treat you this way, they can't help it until you change how you treat you.


''To Fall in love with yourself is the first secret happiness'' Robert Morely

The turning point is when you start seeing your won value, that’s when you choose people who treasure you and consider you of uttermost importance. Do you know that a husband who values you will think twice before he cheats on you? Generally, at least.

Don’t concentrate on your short comings and don’t compare yourself to anyone. Know that you are unique, you are special and you do count.

Tips on how to improve your self-worth:

  • Nurture yourself in a loving manner
  • Stop blaming yourself for things you can’t change.
  • Don’t criticize yourself, you didn’t create yourself so make do with the way you look
  • Accept yourself just the way you are
  • Learn to laugh a lot that’s helps boost your moral
  • Celebrate yourself
  • Reward yourself with small gifts, even to the point of sending yourself Roses, orchids
  • Do those very things you wish someone would do for you
  • Stand before a mirror and learn to complement yourself positively
  • Appreciate your talents
  • Keep a journal for all the things that you want to do for You-It could be on a weekly basis or even monthly
  • Take yourself out on a date
  • Be so busy with yourself and enjoy you.
  • Make sure you give yourself time to rest

Self-Love Affirmations: "I am Beautiful" Affirm your Self Worth

Be Bold Enough To Be Your True Self- Queen Latifah

  • Enjoy nature and the it’s creations
  • Never be afraid of doing things for yourself
  • Be kind to yourself and then extend that kindness to others
  • Voice out your feelings
  • Never allow yourself to drown that child in you that seeks expression.
  • Always remind yourself that you are more than able.
  • When you concentrate on all these things you will begin to attract characters that are loving, that respond to the new vibration in you.
  • You will attract those characters that do see your worth and think that you are worthy to be rewarded for it.
  • You will attract that man/women that will treasure you and seem to think that you matter so much in their lives more than anything else.
  • Your salary will definitely get a hike as your boss now realizes that your presence and work is invaluable to the company.
  • You will definitely get the respect that you deserve.
  • It is important that you work on yourself first because if you don’t you will never have relationships that last and relationships that are worthy of you. You will only have the domineering type flock to you and suppress you more.

Love yourself so much to the point that

Your energy and aura rejects anyone who doesn't know your worth.- Daily Inspirational quotes

We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and imperfections . If we cannot love ourselves , we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create.- John Lennon

If you don't love yourself , you 'll always be looking for someone else to fill the void inside you, but no one will ever be able to do it- Lori Deschene

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