How often do you come across a couple that has been in a relationship for years and has grown old together? Not very often right? A healthy relationship is never perfect. It goes through both good and bad times. A healthy relationship involves understanding each other and constantly working on improving oneself in order to sustain the relationship. The following tips will help you and your significant other to maintain a healthy relationship.
When you are in a relationship, you should be able to talk openly with your partner regarding any issue or concern without feeling as if you are "walking on eggshells". For a relationship to be healthy it is best to talk about things that are bothering you rather than holding it all in or giving your partner the "silent treatment". Silence, though a very potent indication that something is wrong, does not solve problems. Good communication is the primary ingredient in building healthy relationships.
Trust and Honesty
A relationship without trust is like a car without gas, you can stay in it if you choose but it won't take you where you want to go. Now, please don't go making reference to electronic cars because without a battery the results are the same. Having the proverbial "shoulder to lean on" in a relationship can be a very tight rope, depending on who that shoulder belongs to. It is that notion that your partner has an option which often leads to irrational behavior and erosion of trust. When partners think that there is a possibility of infidelity or cheating, this can cause serious problems in a relationship. Honesty in a relationship builds trust which therefore strengthens the relationship.
Being on the same page is essential to creating and building a healthy relationship. Couples should share a common interest and both want and expect similar things, outcome, and goals. Before committing to a relationship, topics regarding Monogamy, Marriage, and Children should be discussed. One would not want to continue a relationship if one partner wants kids and the other don't or if one person wants to have multiple partners while the other want to be in a mutually exclusive relationship or there is no marriage in the future when one person really have plans on tying the knot. If there is no mutual interest, that relationship will die out really fast.
Respect is a two-way street, you got to give respect to earn respect. Couples need to respect each other's wishes and views. Mutual respect means refraining from insulting your partner, calling them names, trash talking, being rudely sarcastic or fake hysterical laughing. Never make your partner feels stupid or unappreciated. Losing respect for each other can damage a relationship and lead to emotional stress and an unhappy relationship. Words can be one of the most deadly weapons, they can scar you for life. In a healthy relationship communicating respectfully is essential to show that you love and care about each other.
Respect - Aretha Franklin
You can't force your partner to change their ways if they don't think they are wrong. However, as couples, you should be abe to meet each other half way to create a win-win situation. No one wants to feel defeated but at the end of the day, couples need to learn to listen and understand each other's point of views. Partners need to fight fairly, disagreement is a natural part of healthy relationships. It is solving these problems that can bring you closer together even if it means compromising with each other.
Anger is an emotion that can easily be triggered, everyone experiences anger but it is how we channel that emotion that affects our relationship with others. When there is a disagreement or conflict in a relationship it is important to practice anger management techniques such as trying to calm down before dealing with a problem, counting to ten, closing your eyes for a moment, think before you talk or call a time out. The bible says a soft answer turns away wrath so try to speak in a soft calm tone of voice to avoid getting your partner angry as well.
Sex is an essential part of a mutually consenting relationship. Each partner should be comfortable with the sexual activities that take place in the bedroom so that neither feels pressured. you should have to have sex continuously to keep your partner. A healthy sexual relationship will make couples feel loved and also feel attractive. The demand for too much or too little sex can cause problems in a relationship. Intimacy does not have to be planned but couples should, therefore, discuss their expectations or cues that can tell their partner when they are ready to get physical.
Being in a relationship does not give you the right to know everything about your partner or that you should be included in every detail of their life. A healthy relationship needs space and privacy.Each partner should be able to do or like different things, you do not need to have the same friends or hang out with the same set of people or go everywhere together.A couple still needs to have their independence or show their individuality. Therefore setting boundaries in a relationship can help couples to understand the type of relationship they are in.
Couples should encourage each other, a little reassurance goes a far way especially when it comes from the one that you love. Knowing your partner or significant other has your back against all odds, be it a family member or friend is a priceless feeling. You feel as if you can fight any battle and overcome any obstacles that stand in your way. In times of distress be that shoulder to cry on, that emotional support and constantly remind your partner that you will always be there for them. Being in a supportive, healthy relationship allows you to feel more connected and to accomplish more than you ever could on your own.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
dashingscorpio from Chicago on February 20, 2017:
If either you or your mate has to change core values in order to make a relationship "work" it usually means you're with the wrong person.
Compatibility trumps compromise!
Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!
One note on anger: "Anger is the Mask that Hurt wears."
If we keep this in mind it's easier to reach a resolution if we understand we'll dealing with (hurt) feelings. Otherwise it's easy to fall into a "fight fire with fire" mentality. Odds are when people are in love they aren't "intentionally" setting out to hurt one another in a healthy relationship.