Fernando is a millennial writer, natural philosopher, and Engineer looking to reinterpret social subtleties and add value.
You learned what love is. And, what love feels like. You've dealt with long distance. But, What to do when your relationship is falling apart? If you’re looking to figure out how to fix a broken relationship, this is the place for you. It’s difficult reading your partner’s mind. It's easy to grow tired of a relationship. It’s important to understand the situation you’re in. It's also important to understand how to stop being clingy. That way, you know where to put your resources. Regardless of what situation you are in, I hope you can learn from my experiences.
So, how do you fix the seemingly toxic, failing relationship you're in? It's not always easy. But, if you know what you're doing, and learn the proper material, it's possible. Here are 10 things you need to do when your relationship is falling apart.
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Back in the day, things were far more simple. You'd show someone how much they mean to you if you wanted to remain with them. Today is relatively similar. Except, every now and then relationships start to fall apart without further notice.
Luckily, there's always something you can do about your situation. You need to take a step back and understand what situation you're in. Sometimes the feelings of loss are hard to understand. Other times it's not easy to understand why you lost or are losing the person you love. It's your job to figure out why things didn't work out.
The process of self-improvement starts within yourself. You need to be willing to look deep and acknowledge your short comings. By doing so, you'll have the aptitude and ability to learn from your own mistakes. As a result, your feelings and situation will improve over time.
My Relationship is Falling Apart.
It's one of those tall-tale questions with vague answers. It truly depends on why the relationship is failing.
Of course, there are a few things you can do to ensure you fix things as fast as possible.
- Stop being clingy. Unfortunately, this tends to cause more bad than good. Your partner needs to breathe. It's of considerable question whether or not this may be the problem here.
- Learn to listen. Sometimes, the root of the problem is either of you isn't listening to the other. This one's harder to fix. However, the first step to fixing just about anything is recognizing the problem's there.
- Don't step on toes. You shouldn't be trying to upset the other person all of the time. In the same token, that person shouldn't try to pull your hair out, either.
- Learn respect. Respect is everything and is key to a good relationship. If the relationship is falling apart, perhaps respect isn't there yet.
- Stop being too much. It's understandable to want everything your way. However, there are times that is not possible. Learn to recognize when you're being too much or when the other person isn't being enough.
- Comfort. Everyone likes and loves comfort. Try to be more comforting.
- Don't be pushy. Just because you can't have sex doesn't mean you should be bugging about it so much. And if you need it right now, think about how pushy you're being. Or don't.
- Don't overwhelm your love. Learn to keep boundaries and keep yourself busy. Sometimes taking a step back is all it takes.
- Adapt to your partner's needs. Do this right and they'll adapt to yours.
- Pay attention to their life. It's inevitable things happen. It's important to understand when they're having a bad day. If you're there when it matters most, you'll notice an improvement in the relationship.
It's important to understand how the relationship is progressing. There are times where we must reflect upon the situation and find solutions to move forward with. You came here wondering, "my relationship is falling apart." First, pay attention to your own feelings. And then figure out what's wrong, find solutions, and execute those solutions. You'll get that lovebird the next time you see them.
This content reflects the personal opinions of the author. It is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and should not be substituted for impartial fact or advice in legal, political, or personal matters.
© 2018 Ferny Vise
J on September 15, 2019:
Fernando, I just found this article, while I been working on the things you put in this article before finding it. As being in a relationship that kinda became stale and am trying to make it better again, in these situations can they comeback to the way they were before, If I follow this guidelines?
Ferny Vise (author) from San Francisco, CA on August 15, 2019:
Thanks, Andrew. Hope all goes well!
Andrew on July 19, 2019:
i'm glad i found this article before things got to worse. Thank you so much
Denise McGill from Fresno CA on May 11, 2019:
What great advice! Thanks for sharing.
Ferny Vise (author) from San Francisco, CA on May 09, 2019:
Thanks for the reply, Jeremy. I'm glad it has helped you. The intention behind this article was to help others like you!
I have also remodeled the whole article to make it more reader friendly and to the point.
Let me know what you think,
Jeremy on May 01, 2019:
This article answered so many questions and made me view my relationship differently. I know now how crucial giving space is and it’s something I’ve lacked for most my relationships. I hope this article helps mine out and all the others that seek the same thing. Thank you again for this, it’s very insightful.
Cedric Kabuchu on January 07, 2019:
Very encouraging and wise words.
Luis Echeverria on May 09, 2018:
I really liked this article