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Gender Roles Need To Be Cancelled


Gender roles

Well, now that I got your attention - even if you got totally outraged by my statement - I would like to talk about basic (and also not so basic) examples gender roles.

"Gender roles refer to ‘normative expectations about the division of labor between the sexes and to gender-related rules about social interactions that exist within a particular cultural–historical context’ "

The only word I have a huge problem with is 'expectations'. I don't really like the thought of anyone expecting anything from me, based on only(!) my gender, and what I was born as. I don't know if anyone agrees, but the fact that in 2020, the 'norm' of attending school events for the girls is still wearing a skirt... now that's what I am outraged by.

Traditional gender roles, and rules have changed a lot in the past, and I am pretty sure they are bound to change a whole lot in the next decades, but let's look back a few decades and see for ourselves.

The very first and maybe greatest difference of all, is that the role of women has drastically altered . From a traditional mother and helpmate role, they completely moved into every area of social and business life, and achieved amazing things, became huge parts of our history, and present time.

The battle for gender equality started more than 100 years ago with Suffragettes defying their husbands and social norms to win the right to vote in America.


When WWI happened, women were required to fill traditional men's roles, and did so capably. The same thing was repeated with the next generation during WWII.

People (including those women) started to realize that women can do everything a man can, and that led to their sexual and cultural revolution beginning in the '60s. What a time to be alive!


The sexual revolution

1. The birth control pill

The invention of the birth control pill was the first step (from many) for a woman to actually have control of her body. Women didn't have to rely on anyone else anymore, other than herself. Their body was finally their body again (at least in some ways). They gained full exclusive power over their fertility.


For each question, choose the best answer. The answer key is below.

  1. After the pill was invented, within the next 5 years how many women do you think were on it?
    • 2 million
    • 6 million
    • 4 million

Answer Key

  1. 6 million

2. Gay rights

Although, this part is not so much about gender roles, or any of that, I think it's important to mention, because people openly loving whoever they want to love, is one step closer to everyone owning their bodies, genders etc.

Frank Kameny's Mattachine Society chapter, in Washington DC, campaigned openly for gay rights by confronting various federal agencies about their discriminatory policies in 1962 and 1963. By 1968 there were fifteen gay and lesbian organizations in the United States.

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The Stonewall riots were a series of spontaneous, violent demonstrations by members of the LGBT community against a police raid that took place in the early morning hours of June 28, 1969, at the Stonewall.

"In 1971, what was considered the first gay porno movie was shown at the 55th Street Playhouse in New York City. The movie was called Boys in the Sand."


After the revolution

Even though women in the '80s started to finally step in to the actual world of work , men's roles haven't changed a thing, meaning that they were still considered to be the main 'income giver' in the family.

Media started to raise more and more awareness on genders, and the importance of gender equality. Family Ties was aired in 1982 and it shows that both parents are working, and sometimes the father is at home with the kids.

By 1980 the number of female and male college graduates were equal.

In 1981 Sandra Day O'Connor for the first time in history, started her service on the Supreme Court as a woman.


Gender roles in today's society

The roles of both women and men in society are dependent on region, religion, culture, historical beliefs, living circumstances and experiences.

Gender roles nowadays aren't even close to what they were decades ago, however there are still things we need to forget.

First and foremost: people should be allowed to wear anything they want and love, apart from their gender, sexual orientation, body type and obviously they should be allowed to do this without any judgement or assault, from other people (family, friends, colleagues) Me being a girl does not in the slightest mean that I like skirts, cute dresses, and clothes, but also does not mean that a boy can not freely wear these items if he wants to. A female walking on the streets in shorts, or any type of short clothing, does not mean that they wanted to get anyone's attention, or they want to be cat-called while walking to work or school, maybe it just means that it was a hot day and they didn't want to die from overheating, or simply they liked that outfit. They shouldn't feel in danger because of their clothes, but nor should they dress differently so they avoid the comments.

Men shouldn't feel the need to always be strong, and emotionless, and shouldn't feel like if they are not the so-called handsome tall, and muscly guy, they aren't considered a man, or that women don't care about them. Men can also have insecurities, and feelings, please don't feel the need to act like you don't have those. Moreover I'm gonna go ahead and say, that a man expressing their feelings, or opening up is really attractive and maybe you should all try it.

Lastly I would like to talk just a little about family structures. Firstly, a woman not wanting children is only her business, it's her body and her life, she must do whatever the hell she wants with it. She is still 100% a woman without children.

Secondly, a woman earning more than her partner is totally okay, noone needs to feel scared about that, women are really smart and dedicated, they deserve a little praise. Men staying at home with the kids is beautiful, and amazing, and the only thing I can say about it, is that every situation can be amazing if it works for the people being involved, and if it makes them happy.

This content reflects the personal opinions of the author. It is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and should not be substituted for impartial fact or advice in legal, political, or personal matters.

© 2020 Lili Zoltai


Lili Zoltai (author) from Hungary on September 18, 2020:

Dear Stephen!

That would totally violate old gender rules, but hey, who cares right? The point is that you and your wife are both happy this way, and living as partners, supporting each other. This is great for you two!

OLUSEGUN from NIGERIA on September 18, 2020:

Well, you are living your world and should not be bothered by outsiders once you have joy and peace in your family.

Stephen Traylor on September 17, 2020:

My wife earns more than I do, although we might be able to live on my salary if I worked full time. Truth is, she is better at communication and relationships, a better manager, problem-solver and decision-maker than I am. So she leads our relationship (believe me, it's better that way), although she always listens to me before making her decision. She can support us, but I have agreed to work only part time so I can support her career. That would seem to violate old gender role rules?

OLUSEGUN from NIGERIA on September 16, 2020:

Intriguing! Good work.

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