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Make Your Man Appreciate You In The Relationship


Make Your Man Appreciate You

Every woman deserves to feel appreciated.When a man does not appreciate you, it means that he doesn't love you. Many at times women tend to blame themselves and see themselves as victims thinking that they have failed.You should remind the man of your body and your importance.
It is important for a man to be worried about losing you.

Make a man feel worried about losing you by doing the following:

  • Let go of your anger and stop talking about how you feel
  • Stop pursuing him
  • Prioritise yourself
  • Look good, beautiful and gorgeous
  • Talk when the time is right
  • Be willing to walk away

1) Let go of your anger and stop talking about how you feel

If a man doesn’t treat you like he did before, you can feel worried or even get angry about it .It will definitely make you want to talk about it.You’d want to explain how you feel and maybe let him talk about it to you the in the same way. You’d want the love and attention that you once gave you but don't worry about it do not ever feel angry neither should you be talking about it all the time.

Talking about being angered by your man again and again may probably make things worse and he may not be ready or interested to listen to you . It's always important to let go of your anger and be at your own self. So, despite how you are feeling, you must not let him know that you are angered or worried.

2) Stop pursuing him

Stop feeling like your man is taking you for granted when is not pursuing you.Your instincts will tell you to try to hold him closer or even talk to him. It is normal to feel this way but instead,you should not be pursuing him all the time. The man is supposed to pursue you and not you pursuing him. This is because men are supposed to pursue women. They are normally not prepared to be pursued by women.

Men like competing with other men for your attention. If you try to go after him, he may think that other men are not interested in you and therefore lose interest, so why should he? This is when your value will begin to go down.

Remember, he is a man and he is supposed to pursue you. You must let him initiate contact or communications 80% to 85% first. This means you have to stop checking on him first, or even texting him first, asking to see him or initiate plans. Instead, let him do it first. It may be difficult to do because you miss him or want to talk to him, but you must do it.

3) Prioritise yourself

You should come first before him. Learn to love yourself before you can love him. When in a relationship, it is common for a person to get very focussed on their partners to an expense of taking care of themselves first. Don't consume so much of your thoughts and energy thinking about somebody before you can think about yourself first.

You need to be psychologically and physically happy. You don't need to be depressed over somebody so much until you forget about yourself. Treat yourself like you are the most important person in the world because that is what you are.

Focus on your family and friends because you also want to have a personal growth with them. Make your own plans to do your own things even on days when you might not be able to see him. If he is taking you for granted, then you need to prioritise yourself. Don't cancel plans with him but make plans with your family and friends without him. When he calls you out when you have other plans, he will realise that you are prioritising other things than him. By doing this, he will realise what has done and start making you his priority.

4) Look good, beautiful and gorgeous
As a lady, if the man is not prioritising you, you got to remind him by looking glamorous . Be in your best physical shape. Go to the gym if you feel like you have added some pounds unlike when you first met him. Make working out and physical fitness a priority.

Make sure he understands how important this is to you and that you have particular fitness goals that you have to meet. He should be happy that you are making this changes and that you are going to be more attractive to everyone, other men included. Don't be surprised when he asks you why you are trying to look so good.

Glamorous your looks as well apart from your physical fitness. This you should do when you are with him or when not with him. Dress well, make sure your,hair and skin is glowing.look your best. He is going to notice when other men pay more attention to you. This will remind him that other men find you attractive.

If you are always looking your best, change your hair colour or length, your style of clothing or change your make up.Just make sure that it’s enough of a change that he will notice , change that makes you look sexier and more glamorous. He is going to ask himself why you are changing. Is it because you want to look better or attractive to other men? This will provoke a little bit of fear that someone might try to take his place. He will also wonder if your feelings are changing as well.

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5.)Talk when the time is right

With the above few, your partner will ask you why you are making sudden changes in your life. This is when you are going to give examples of being taken for granted. The differences in the way he has been behaving. If he really loves and cares for you, he should notice these changes and be willing to talk about it.

6) Be willing to walk away

Any man who doesn't appreciate you for who you are is someone who does not deserve you. If he is not willing to change, you have to be ready to walk away.He has to experience this fear of lose. He has to know that you are willing to walk away from something that is not right for you.
The above tips are to remind him that you are amazing and if he wants to be with you, he will not be willing to let you walk away.


This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 Millicent Okello


Millicent Okello (author) from Nairobi, Kenya on August 22, 2020:

dashingscorpio Thanks for the beautiful comment. I appreciate

dashingscorpio from Chicago on August 22, 2020:

Life is too short to be trying to change water into wine.

The goal is to find someone who (already is) what you want.

If you're not being appreciated it means {you chose} the wrong man! Thankfully there are over 7 billion other people on earth.

There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships. We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.

No one is "stuck" with anyone! Suffering is optional.

One man's opinion! :)

"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

- Oscar Wilde

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