Education in Values: The Family
The family is
* The most powerful and enduring transmitter of moral values
* The first and most effective school for education in values
* The community of love and solidarity
The Family And The Natural Law
Natural law is observable and understandable. Simple observation and apprehension, judgement and reasoning leads to this conclusion:
1. The basic instinct of the procreative act is the inclination towards survival of the human race.
2. Every human being is born-not independently, nor in isolation but into a family.
3. The child needs to be nourished and nurtured in order to survive and develop to his fullest potential.
4. The first and most natural nurturers and educators of the child are the parents.
5. Family life provides the natural setting for learning lessons in moral principles and the universal truths of love, respect for the dignity of others,justice, freedom, work and for the practice of virtue.
6. The child, as a social being, learns his first lesson in socialization and good citizenship in the mini-domestic society-the family.
7. The material cause of society is not the individual who lives in isolation from others and who demands absolute rights, rather society is composed of families who live in cooperation and work for the common good.
8. The state has the obligation to protect the rights an interest of the family because family solidarity upholds and strengthen society.
Parents as A Role Model
Our children are watching us live, and what we Are shouts loader than anything we can say.The wise mother and father perceive the demands of this reflection, they struggle to practice more and preach less. But the well-meaning mother and father who nag and endlessly lecture, who do not realize,how observant the child is, do not: they underestimate the impact of role modelling.
Role Modelling Defination
Role modelling is the very special craft of knowing what or what not to say or do as a mother or father in the right time when dealing with one's child in order to instruct and draw forth the best in the child.
Requires sensitivity to effects of one's example.
Demands the practice of virtues to be worthy of imitation.
The Process of Role Modelling
Mothers and fathers are often oblivious to the signals which they are sending to their children: they are unaware of the strength and repercussions of their words, local expressions, tones and moods.
Personal role modelling in moral values and virtues presupposes that parents are seeking truth and trying to do good.
When the child identifies with role models, their parents, he absorbs the values of his father and mother and " models his behavior " after the behavior of that person.
The child learns to do what the adult does as well as what the adult tells him to do.
When a child identifies with a person he admires, without any pressure or direct teaching involved,he will imitate the patterns of behavior he observes in that person.
Child- Rearing Practices in Values Education
How Well parents educate the child in moral values and virtues depends initially in their role perception on whether or not they recognize the main task of parenting in Education, of which role modelling is only one of the necessary and significant functions, instruction is the other.
Parents As Teachers
Fathers and mothers do an astonishing amount of teaching.
The relation between parents and children is essentially based on teaching. Many of us forget this.
Some think it is based on Love, others on control.
But you can give a child as much love as it can absorb and still make it an idiot to face the world: while the best and surest way to control your children is to explain the rules you intend to enforce.
Parents are the child's first teachers, and parenting is vigorous and powerful interaction between mothers and fathers and their child.
The task requires reflection and know-how.
Factors Contributing To Parental Success
1. Solid and wholesome upbringing
2. Environment and community which share common moral values derived from moral law.
3. Schooling experience and religious instruction which reinforce the values taught at home.
4. Natural teaching ability which applies suitable child-rearing methods to meet a situation and the particular needs of the child
5. Empathy and well-directed love.
" It is not just a matter of knowing what to teach: it is of great importance to know How to teach ".
© 2020 Cynthia