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The Psychological Keys to Detecting and Dealing With Hypocritical People

Misbah has done her Bachelor's degree in Psychology. She loves to write on different psychological and social topics

Fake friends

Fake friends

Unfortunately, our lifestyle increasingly favors a hypocritical attitude to achieve personal goals. Although at first glance the wrong people or friends seem to like the best company possible, there are certain attitudes that can lead us to identify these profiteering people.

Many people fear that fake people could affect their lives so much, that on certain occasions, hypocritical people cause us concerns that can even lead to psychological consequences

How to identify a fake friend?

Being able to detect social hypocrisy is not only vitally important to improve our environment, but it can also benefit our mental health. Fortunately, certain attitudes show us who these hypocritical people are:

1. They respect others out of interest

You might be wondering how to tell if someone is wrong with you. One of the keys to detecting these hypocritical friends essentially sees how they behave when there is interest in relationships. If, in front of someone with influence, you no longer exist, there is a possibility that you are in front of a false friend.

2. They want to take advantage of any situation

The people profiteering easily detect when trying to enjoy every interaction. That way, a true friend will be there whenever you ask them to be. Not just only that, but they will try to get benefit in every possible way, what a friendship/relationship can bring them.

3. They seek to be the center of attention

Normally, one of the traits of fake friends or fake people is that they constantly seek to be the center of attention. Whether it's someone else's birthday or some other special occasion, he will always try to grab everyone's attention.



4. They are not humble

A hypocritical person will always try to be above you. Many times, this attitude ends up having effects on the self-esteem of those who are closest to those people. Therefore, it is essential to detect social hypocrisy and the fake people around you.

5. They speak badly of others

While we can all commit this sin, the reality is that when it becomes a habit or happens to usual, it is a clear sign that we are in front of the wrong person. For this reason, it is important to try to put aside these types of negative attitudes or thoughts.

6. They don't keep their promises

The hypocrites or false people never do things without anything in return. Therefore, they will never make a promise that does not make them any profit. If you detect this fake person's attitude in someone, you can try to talk about it with them or simply walk away from them.

Let me quote a few lines from my dear friend John Hansen’s poem “No Fairweather Friends Allowed”. John said it all in very few words.

Fair-weather friends leave when the going gets tough,

Their compassion is not off-the-cuff.

They are only around for what they can get.

But true friends say, “I just can’t help enough.”

— John Hansen

How to deal with fake people?

When you find yourself in a situation where you cannot avoid these hypocritical people, it is essential to try that these attitudes do not affect you. Therefore, there are psychological tricks with which you can deal with hypocritical friends.

1. Stay away from them

The best way to avoid the consequences of a bogus friendship is to try and leave these types of people behind. Many times we have the feeling that someone is not making a very good impression on us. While our intuition may fail, the reality is that sometimes it can be a good sign in the face of danger.

2. Limit the relationship

If you are in a situation where you cannot put these fake people aside, it is essential that you try to reduce the level of trust that your friendship or relationship may have. To do this, you must limit yourself to interacting as little as possible with these hypocritical people. You should know that the attitude of fake people can become toxic.

3. Don't blame yourself

As I have already mentioned, one of the main problems with fake people is that they can affect you psychologically. It is important to understand that the wrong people have an inner problem, so it is essential to recognize that you are not the one who is making a mistake in these relationships.

The word “friend” is a label anyone can try on. You decide who is best suited to wear it.

— Carlos Wallace

4. Don't stoop to their level

The hypocritical people always try to bring others to their level. Whether it is criticizing others or certain toxic attitudes, they will seek to get others to do the same as them.

5. Point out to them

When all else has failed you, a good way to try and stop the wrong person is to point out their bad attitudes. Let them know that!

6. Ask for help

When these hypocritical people end up affecting our lives and we can't cope with them, getting help is essential. If you feel that these types of relationships are affecting you psychologically, it is essential to have the help of a professional psychologist. On many occasions, these false friendships can lead to a mental health problem.

How can fake people affect us psychologically?

Although it is common to find these toxic attitudes in our daily lives, we often cannot perceive all the prejudices that these types of fake people can cause us. When you have someone around you pretend to be someone else, it can affect you in various areas of your life.

  • Self-esteem issues: one of the main reasons, it's important to identify fake people is that their attitude can lead to low self-esteem.
  • Promotes insecurity: when there are people around you taking advantage of you, they often end up diminishing your decisions and even making you indecisive about your own thoughts. This is why social hypocrisy is bad for you in the sense that it encourages negativity in all its aspects.
  • Make bad decisions: the influence of a fake friendship can cause you to change your mind and make decisions that affect your life.
  • Keeps you away from your good friends: the influence of a hypocritical person can become such that it ends up pulling you away from your good relationships.

The wrong people end up damaging your life if you care about them too much. Therefore, keeping away from these negative attitudes will allow you to enjoy all aspects of your daily life.

Not everybody’s your friend. Just because they’re hanging around and laughing with you doesn’t mean they’re friends of yours. People pretend to be good. At the end of the day, real situations expose false people, so be careful.

— Quotesjin

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2021 Misbah Sheikh


Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Rebels. on April 26, 2021:

Thanks a lot for taking time to read and comment , Devika

Yes, almost everyone missed this hub. It didn’t appear on the feed when I published it

Much Gratitude


Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 26, 2021:

Misbah786 I no longer have any of that sort of people in my life. Well-advised and I missed this hub.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Rebels. on April 26, 2021:

Fake friends are like shadows: always near you at your brightest moments, but nowhere to be seen at your darkest hour

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Rebels. on April 19, 2021:

I don’t know why, but the moment I published this article, it directly went on, discover, and didn’t appear on the feed as well—I know almost everyone missed it. Please Take some time to read about fake friends and Please feel free to comment. Thank you!!

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Rebels. on April 19, 2021:

Thanks a lot for your kind words, Ravi. Much appreciated. I am glad you found it useful. Much Gratitude

Blessings and Peace

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Rebels. on April 19, 2021:

John Hansen is unable to find this article on his feed. A message by John Hansen regarding this article:

"I love the article, which is full of great advice regarding false friends and how to deal with them. Thank you for including the quote from my poem and linking to my article."

Much appreciated, my dear friend. Thanks a lot for granting me permission to use lines from your poem.

May God Bless You

Peace and Blessings

Ravi Rajan from Mumbai on April 19, 2021:

Thanks Misbah for this highly enlightening article. As you have rightly mentioned one should have the foresight to weed out false friends from our lives. Thanks for sharing this useful article.

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