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How Do I Identify and Deal With Fake People?

Misbah has a Bachelor's degree in Psychology. She enjoys writing on many psychological and social subjects.

Fake friends

Fake friends

Our Society Encourages a Hypocritical Attitude

Unfortunately, our way of life increasingly encourages a hypocritical attitude to attain personal goals. Although the wrong people or friends may appear to be the best company conceivable at first glance, certain attitudes can help us to detect these selfish people.

Many people are afraid that false people will badly affect their lives to the point where they will experience anxiety, which can lead to psychological difficulties.

I had a few hypocrite friends in my life whose actions have caused me mental stress and trauma; I used several strategies that a friend shared with me, and I also studied them in my psychology classes. The article offers a few psychological keys to detecting hypocritical people, as well as ways of avoiding such people. Please continue reading to find out how you can protect yourself from such people and live a healthy life.

How to Identify a Fake Friend?

The ability to detect social hypocrisy is not only critical for improving our surroundings, but it can also boost our mental health. Fortunately, certain attitudes reveal who these hypocrites are:

1. They Respect People Out of Interest.

You may be wondering how to determine whether someone is mistreating you. One of the keys to spotting these hypocritical friends is observing how they behave when there is an interest in relationships. If you no longer exist in front of someone with influence, you may be in front of a phony friend.

2. They Want to Take Advantage of Any Situation.

The profiteers are easily detected while trying to enjoy every interaction. In that manner, a true friend will be available whenever you need them. Not only that, but they will strive to reap the benefits of a friendship/relationship in any manner imaginable.

3. They Want to Be the Focus of Attention.

One of the characteristics of false friends is that they continually attempt to be the center of attention. Whether it's someone else's birthday or another important occasion, he will continually strive to get everyone's attention.



4. They Lack Humility

A hypocritical person will always strive to place himself above you. This attitude frequently hurts the self-esteem of those closest to those people. As a result, detecting social hypocrisy and the dishonest people around you is essential.

5. They Disparage Others

While we can all commit this sin, the reality is that when it becomes a habit or happens regularly, it is a clear indication that we are in the wrong place. As a result, it is critical to strive to set aside these negative attitudes or beliefs.

6. They Do Not Keep Their Promises

Hypocrites or deceitful people never do anything without expecting something in return. As a result, they will never commit which will not result in a profit. If you notice this fake person's attitude in someone, you might try to talk to them about it or simply walk away.

Let me quote a few lines from my dear friend John Hansen’s poem “No Fairweather Friends Allowed”. John said it all in a few words.

Fair-weather friends leave when the going gets tough,

Their compassion is not off-the-cuff.

They are only around for what they can get.

But true friends say, “I just can’t help enough.”

— John Hansen

How Do I Deal With Fake People?

When you are in a situation where you cannot avoid these hypocritical people, you must attempt not to let their views impact you. As a result, there are psychological methods you can use to deal with hypocritical pals.

1. Keep a Safe Distance From Them

The greatest method to avoid the effects of a phony friendship is to avoid these types of people. We frequently have the notion that someone is not creating a favorable impression of us. While our intuition can fail us, it can also be a good sign in the face of peril.

2. Limit the Relationship

If you are unable to put these dishonest people aside, you must try to minimize the level of trust in your friendship or relationship. To accomplish this, you must limit your interactions with these hypocritical people to a minimum. You should be aware that phony people's attitudes might be poisonous.

3. Don't Blame Yourself

As I previously stated, one of the primary issues with fake people is that they might have a psychological effect on you. It is vital to comprehend that the wrong people have an inner problem and that you are not the one who is making a mistake in these interactions.

The word “friend” is a label anyone can try on. You decide who is best suited to wear it.

— Carlos Wallace

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4. Don't Lower Yourself to Their Level.

Hypocritical people often try to bring others down to their level. Whether it's criticizing others or adopting harmful attitudes, they'll try to persuade others to do the same.

5. Draw Their Attention to It

When all else fails, pointing out the wrong person's terrible attitude is a useful technique to try to stop them. Inform them of this!

6. Seek Assistance

When these hypocritical people begin to damage our life and we are unable to cope, we must seek help. If you believe that these types of relationships are impacting your psychological well-being, you should seek the advice of a professional psychologist. These phony friendships can frequently lead to mental health issues.

How Can Fake People Affect Us Psychologically?

Although these toxic attitudes are common in our daily lives, we frequently fail to recognize all the prejudices that these types of dishonest people may instill in us. When you have someone trying to be someone else around you, it might have a variety of effects on you.

  • Self-Esteem Issues:

    One of the most important reasons to distinguish false individuals is that their attitude can contribute to low self-esteem.

  • Promotes Insecurity:

    When others take advantage of you, they typically end up undercutting your decisions and even making you doubt your own. As it fosters negativity in all of its forms, social hypocrisy is destructive to you.

  • Make Bad Decisions:

    The impact of a phony friendship can force you to change your mind and make bad decisions.

  • Keeps You Away From Your Good Friends:

    The influence of a hypocrite may become so strong that it drags you away from your excellent relationships.

If you care too much about the wrong people, they will ruin your life. So, avoiding these negative attitudes will help you to appreciate all areas of your daily life.

Not everybody’s your friend. Just because they’re hanging around and laughing with you doesn’t mean they’re friends of yours. People pretend to be good. At the end of the day, real situations expose false people, so be careful.

— Quotesjin

Last Thoughts

These techniques helped me in distancing myself from a few hypocritical friends. I hope these techniques are useful to you as well. Never forget to care about those who care for you; no matter how much you care about these negative people, you'll always end up frustrated, and I hope that no one needs to get stressed over things that are beyond their control, and hypocrites are one of them; you can't handle their negative attitude, so it's always best to keep yourself safe and distant from such people.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2021 Misbah Sheikh


Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on April 26, 2021:

Thanks a lot for taking time to read and comment , Devika

Yes, almost everyone missed this hub. It didn’t appear on the feed when I published it

Much Gratitude


Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 26, 2021:

Misbah786 I no longer have any of that sort of people in my life. Well-advised and I missed this hub.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on April 26, 2021:

Fake friends are like shadows: always near you at your brightest moments, but nowhere to be seen at your darkest hour

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on April 19, 2021:

I don’t know why, but the moment I published this article, it directly went on, discover, and didn’t appear on the feed as well—I know almost everyone missed it. Please Take some time to read about fake friends and Please feel free to comment. Thank you!!

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on April 19, 2021:

Thanks a lot for your kind words, Ravi. Much appreciated. I am glad you found it useful. Much Gratitude

Blessings and Peace

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on April 19, 2021:

John Hansen is unable to find this article on his feed. A message by John Hansen regarding this article:

"I love the article, which is full of great advice regarding false friends and how to deal with them. Thank you for including the quote from my poem and linking to my article."

Much appreciated, my dear friend. Thanks a lot for granting me permission to use lines from your poem.

May God Bless You

Peace and Blessings

Ravi Rajan from Mumbai on April 19, 2021:

Thanks Misbah for this highly enlightening article. As you have rightly mentioned one should have the foresight to weed out false friends from our lives. Thanks for sharing this useful article.

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