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The list of 15 awesome Relationship Goals for 2020
When we are in a relationship, we have a separate life and identity that are only experienced and revealed between both partners. As long as both partners love each other, their relationship is like a magical bubble that life cannot pop.
In order to further strengthen that bubble, relationships need goals to achieve and challenges to overcome. As human beings that are naturally programmed to want to belong and create intimate relationships with others, we really cannot escape the cycle of building connections.
As couples, goals can be set to further build trust between you and your special someone as well as emphasize the love you have for each other. We tend to become preoccupied with work and other responsibilities that there are times when we neglect to nurture and improve our relationships. The following are some ways to achieve those #relationshipgoals that everyone’s talking about.
Cute Relationship Goals
1. Start a tradition
Create milestones, activities, and events that are unique to your relationship alone. It can be making Fridays as pizza night where you make these addicting comfort food from scratch and enjoy the whole messy yet satisfying process or visiting a favorite relaxing spot routinely to unwind and catch up.
By establishing something that is just you and your partner’s, you get to create lasting bonds that strengthen the relationship. Plus, we all like the feeling of following and fulfilling traditions, especially when it was created by you.
2. Exchange keys
This is a big milestone in any relationship and symbolizes taking things to the next level. Usually initiated by the guy, exchanging the keys to your home shows that one partner is ready to make the other an integral part of his or her life. Giving the keys to your home is like giving the keys to your life. You give your partner the power to barge in at any moment from then on.
This goal is something to look forward to for new and developing relationships.
Whether you’ve been married for many years or have been together with your loved one for a few months, exchanging vows is a sweet and endearing goal to have this 2020. It doesn’t have to be declared to the world unless you’ve reached a marriage milestone and you want to celebrate with others.
Make your vows raw and real. If you are in a new relationship, make promises to each other how you will support one another and choose love above all or if you’ve been together for years, you can renew the vows you’ve given each other whether directly or in passing in the past.
4. IG boyfriend
With the trending need to post Instagram-worthy pictures, another cute goal to have this year would be training your boyfriend to become an IG boyfriend. The proper angle, lighting, pose, look, etc. must be achieved in order to create that perfect shot with the potential to garner many hearts.
Don’t forget to make a shout out to your wonderful partner who was patient enough to take a thousand shots of you. Many will envy your gorgeous posts, all thanks to your IG boyfriend.
For those who aren’t into picture-taking and posting on social media, this could be a new thing to try or a goal to have for this year as well.
Funny Relationship Goals
5. Role-play dates
To add some spice and definitely a lot of laughs to your relationship, why not try out role-playing.
Being in a relationship for a year or so may start feeling monotonous, especially if you and your partner work so well together that you fell into a nice routine. So, why not hit pause and rewind. Go back to the first date, to the first moment you set eyes on your partner and press play.
Meeting your partner again for the first time and pretending you know nothing about them is a great idea for an anniversary date or a new goal to have in the relationship. It would be a smart way to brush up on your flirting skills as well.
Aside from going back to relationships firsts, role-playing themes can extend to anything and everything. It stretches as far as your imaginations can go.
6. Playful pranks
A popular theme in trending videos on social media today are pranks. Especially funny are those that couples play on each other.
Remember the verse, “Love is patient, love is kind…?” Well, love will definitely get tested if you’re constantly on the lookout for a possible prank. While it may seem like a crazy relationship goal to have, it is definitely fun to do, although not so great if you are the target.
If you keep it along the lines of good and harmless pranks, your relationship will stay alive and kicking. You can pretend to shave the beard or cut the hair of your partner but really had precut fake hair in your hand all along, or you can randomly shout in public that your partner farted or wait for hours in the closet to try and scare the other; the possibilities are endless.
7. Matching OOTDs
Matching outfits are usually cute and great for Instagram posts but in this case, go the extra mile in creativity. How about a shirt that says “The other half” for the guy and “The better half” for the girl. Or “If found please return to (the girl’s name)” for the guy and “I am (girl’s name)” for the girl.
Thinking of fun captions, printing them on outfits is a unique and funny goal to set in a relationship. It’s great because you guys will also be adding a splash of humor everywhere you go while wearing those outfits.
8. Random Notes
This idea is completely random and unscripted. You can leave little notes on places in the house that you know your partner visits often. Under the pillow, in their shoes, the coffee machine, are places where you can hide a funny note in. It will add a smile or elicit a good laugh from your partner and strengthen the relationship in the long run.
Freaky Relationship Goals
9. 50 Shades of Sexy
In case you haven’t watched the movie Fifty Shades of Grey, it’s basically a very sensual film about a guy who has very uncommon quirks in the bedroom. It might not be your cup of tea, but the movie can serve as a reference if you and your partner decide on doing something kinky during sexy time.
Light bondage, blindfolds, and the use of ice to stimulate the senses are some of the things you guys can try to take your sex game to the next level. By doing so, you get to discover new things about each other that maybe you didn’t even know about yourself.
10. Sexual bucket list
A sexual bucket list is basically a compilation of the places you want to do it in or the things you want to try with your partner. This can be a new year’s resolution between you two and enjoy ticking off the items on the list as the year progresses. Again, this is highly subjective and would require mutual consent.
It may seem counter-productive but somehow, the saying “Absence makes the heart grow fonder” is actually effective in rekindling the giddy feeling of a new relationship in an established one.
The same applies to intimacy. Sex can become boring, especially if a routine was established. So, one idea for a relationship goal would be deprivation. Try to go a certain number of days or weeks without sex and then plan an out-of-this-world experience in bed with your loved one.
Long term Relationship Goals
12. Fight more
No relationship is perfect. There are times when you are so close to choking your partner or choosing to never talk to them again and it’s totally fine to feel that way. In fact, couples who argue more are closer to each other and stronger together compared to those who don’t fight things out. The key here is to do it well.
This year, why not set it as a goal to talk things out and never going to bed feeling like you want to kill each other. Apologize, agree with each other and hear each other out more. Watch as your relationship blooms in ways you both never imagined just because you guys are better at clashing.
13. Encourage a dream
In the beginning or sometime in the relationship, you might have mentioned how you wanted to take up a master’s degree or how your partner wanted to take up a certain hobby but never really did anything about it. Now is the time to go back to those dreams and take the first steps in making them a reality.
You are in the relationship for the long run and supporting each other’s dreams is a great way of strengthening the foundations of that partnership. Besides, isn’t your partner one of the first people you want to have your back and to celebrate with when you succeed?
14. Learn the love language
One long-term goal to have this year is to learn and master each other’s love language. Do you show your love and respond best to words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, spending quality time or physical touch? By discovering your primary love language and what it means, you can further improve your relationship because the understanding was achieved.
In case you aren’t familiar with it yet, the test can be taken here.
15. 5-Year Plan
Do you plan to move out together, have kids, travel, migrate, or change careers? These are goals that can be set in a 5-year plan with your partner. Setting a plan and sharing them with each other makes you accountable for one another. You will be in sync when it comes to decision-making moving forward.
From the examples given above, you now have an idea of some relationship goals you and your partner can set for 2020. They don’t need to be difficult or complicated, and most of all, they need to be suited to your relationship bubble.
In the course of setting goals and fulfilling them, your love, trust, and respect for each other will be strengthened.
Muriel B Tewes (author) on January 07, 2020:
Thanks for your input! Certainly, there are some loopholes if relationship goals are done in an extreme way (e.g. setting ambitious timelines to exchange keys or get married).
As it is the new year and in 2020, it will be good to set some directions for our relationships, at least it works for me! When done in a balanced manner, goals will help strengthen relationships that are already working and make failing relationships more obvious to the couples in denial.
Like what you mentioned, love is like a garden. Goals are like what we intend to plant in our garden. If I set out a patch of soil to grow roses and they bloomed beautifully, my love for the garden deepens. If the opposite happened, well, I still love my garden and I might as well take my learnings from the failed attempt of roses and try something else.
We have to be mindful not to fall into the obsessive mode of "I only want to grow roses and why can't I grow them?!". An obsessive form of behavior, applied anywhere, will simply be destructive.
Exploratory relationship goals attempted with a mixture of fun and adventurous mindset can bring out a new set of chemistry between the couple. At the same time, have some spillover gains of personal insights of yourself.
dashingscorpio from Chicago on January 06, 2020:
Some things should be about "setting goals" but rather doing what comes naturally. For example don't force yourself to give someone a key to your place if you're not at a point of trusting them that much.
Attempting to set your heart and emotions to calendar timeframe rarely works; "After 3 months we should be professing our love, after six months we should be exchanging keys, after a year we should be moving in together, after our second year we should be engaged and making wedding plans...etc. (Otherwise we're going nowhere!) Seriously???
That's how a lot of people actually view relationships.
Everything is on some type of timetable. It's usually (women).
The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for a relationship as you, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least have a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.
Compatibility trumps compromise.
Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!
There is no amount of "communication" or "work" which can overcome being with someone who does not want what you want!
Life is too short to be trying to change water into wine.
The goal is to find someone who (already is) what you want.
When you're (in love) with someone you will naturally do things to nurture your relationship because you don't want to risk lose them. Too often people confuse "commitment" with being able to "relax" or take each other for granted.
Bear in mind there is always going to be competition out there and people who want your man/woman.
The same thing it took to get your baby is the same thing it's going to take to keep them. Love is like a garden:
Nurture it and it thrives, neglect it then it dies.