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Dating Asian Older Women

If you're looking for a wife then why not look for an older Asian woman? Asian women tend to age gracefully, and love the security that a Western man can offer them. Here are some tips for finding an older Asian woman of your dreams...

Older Asian women are often smart and sophisticated. An older Asian woman could make a very good wife!

Older Asian women are often smart and sophisticated. An older Asian woman could make a very good wife!

The younger Asian girls are a lot of fun, but beware of younger girls who are usually marrying for money rather than love.

The younger Asian girls are a lot of fun, but beware of younger girls who are usually marrying for money rather than love.

Why date an older Asian woman?

If you register with one of the many Asian dating sites like Cherry Blossoms and ChnLove Club you'll no doubt receive many admirer smiles and emails from beautiful and sexy young ladies.

Another problem with young Asian girls is that a lot of these girls (particularly from mainland China) have fairly conservative upbringings. Consequently the younger Asian girls you'll meet on dating sites are often very inexperienced at relationships. If you date one of the girls be prepared for a lot of potential heartbreak! Aaargh, I'm speaking from experience here, but dating a lady younger than 40 is a nightmare at times!

If you've ever been to Thailand or the Philippines then you'll no doubt see plenty of middle aged Western men with beautiful stunning 20 year old girls at their side. While this is great for our egos, the majority of these girls are normally girlfriends, not wives. There seems to be a bit of a myth that Asian women prefer much older men as husbands. While I guess this is true for some women (my sister prefers older men), it's only true up to a point. If you look on a Japanese or South Korean dating site you'll not find that many 20 year old girls looking for 50 year old husbands. So bear in mind that if you are being contacted by much younger ladies it's normally about the money. Some guys are fine with this. But if you value love more than youth then you're normally better off with an older woman.

The good news is that Asian ladies age gracefully, so an Asian woman 10-15 years younger than yourself could look a lot younger than a Western woman of the same age. I guess some of this is down to genetics. But it's also lifestyle related. Asian women (particularly of Chinese origin) don't tend to smoke or drink alcohol that much. Not many Asians have cars, so they have to walk or cycle a lot more. Asian diets are also packed with nutritious fruit and vegetables, and Western junk food like donuts and TV dinners are thankfully rare in much of Asia.

Finally, there is a lot less competition for older women. On dating sites 20-30 year old women get a lot of admirers, but the older ladies are not so popular. An older woman will really appreciate the interest from a sincere Western gentleman.

Asian countries like China are developing at a rapid pace and are now attractive retirement options for Westerners.

Asian countries like China are developing at a rapid pace and are now attractive retirement options for Westerners.

Countries where you can find older Asian women

Thailand is a good choice if you want to retire to Asia. The cost of living in Thailand is low by Western standards. Housing is cheap, and the weather is great. In the major cities like Bangkok it's also possible to get access to high quality healthcare and other essential services.

A less well known alternative is to retire to China. While many Westerners are often suspicious of China, it's a great place to live. The areas of Guangdong Province bordering Hong Kong are the most popular with Westerners. Guangdong Province has a sub-tropical climate and is a very pleasant place to retire with your lovely older Asian woman.

These parts of China are much more Westernised compared to other parts of China. It's possible to get access to Western goods and services. The cost of living is much lower compared to Hong Kong itself. Popular cities in the area include Guangzhou (Canton), Zhongshan and Zuhai. Hong Kong and Guangzhou's international airports make this part of mainland China very accessible from other parts of the world. Living costs in China are very low, with low apartment costs, very low taxes and food is incredibly cheap. Restaurants are so affordable in China that you wouldn't need a kitchen, even if your wife was an excellent cook (and Chinese women usually are!)

The Philippines is also a popular choice for Western men looking for older Asian women. Filipina ladies are popular as they normally speak good English. They are also usually Christian and very family orientated, which makes them particularly popular with the many men for whom religion plays an important part of their lives.

Where to find an older Asian woman

There are loads of online Asian Internet dating sites that allow Western men to find older Asian women. You can either try a site that has Asian women from a range of countries or sign up with one that caters for a particular niche. The online dating market is dominated by huge players like Consequently it is the niche sites that thrive. If you want to find a mature woman from Asia then Cherry Blossoms or Asian Kisses is worth a look. If you know what country you want to find an Asian wife from then sites like AsianEuro, Thai Kisses, Chn Love (for older Chinese ladies), Filipino Cupid or My Filipina Passion (for older Filapina ladies) are worth a look.

Alternatively marriage agencies like Anglo Thai Introductions will help you in your search for an older Asian woman. I much prefer marriage agencies as they take a lot more care to weed out scammers as well as ladies who would be totally unsuitable for marrying a Western man. Sure, some people don't like the idea of these agencies. But let's face facts. A lot of people don't like dating or are too busy to find a partner (this applies to woman as well as men). A lot of the men and women using these agencies have already been married in the past, so they're through with the fluffy romantic stuff and don't want years of dating and lavish weddings. A marriage agency can therefore make a lot of sense to both the man and the woman.

Good luck with your search for a beautiful older Asian woman! Here are some more second time around dating ideas.

Would an older Asian woman make a good wife? Any dating stories to tell? Post comments below...

Robert on February 25, 2020:

Very intested .im not crazy about american women

frnka on November 03, 2019:

looking for long term relationship. a good Wife , for the rest of my life .

daryle officer on May 15, 2019:

looking for older asaian fr marriage

David from Australia on February 23, 2017:

I think that this is pretty good advice. If you really want an Asian wife from the East or South-East, maturity is likely to bring you the greatest chance of happiness. A younger woman is good for the ego for maybe a hot moment, then the foolishness of the choice will become apparent. My Thai wife and I are both middle-aged ( I am 10 years her senior) and she brings me great joy and companionship. Having said that, we met and live in my own country, though I am open to moving to Thailand in the future.

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Blair Davis on September 13, 2014:

As the years role by one day your mother and father will be gone and all you have left is love follow your HEART !

captain elvis on June 15, 2013:

l belive love does not know boundries where i fine my love i belive is she

TravisPerera on April 01, 2013:


I'm 28 and having an relationship with a beautiful Chinese woman age of 34. We both go to gum and workout. When I talked to my parents about her they said, You'll look like walking with your mother in 5 years from now with her. I don't know what to do. Please advise...

chuy on September 26, 2011:

Asian women are reared to respect the family and especially their husbands. I just lost my Okinawan wife of 47 years to cancer. She exemplified the wedding vow "in sickness and in health, for better or for worst until death do us part". She was a true love for me and my children. So yes, if you want love forever, Okinawan women are the best in my book.

Bowhunter on January 10, 2011:

I believe asian women are very caring and loving, as well as sophisticated.

I married a chinese lady of 45, and I am 32. We have had a baby together and I love her more than I can tell her. She is honest, family oriented, beautiful and has a heart of gold.

China has a wonderful tradition and an interesting culture that keeps me close to the country.

If you are looking for a good wife, and a faithful partner, try an asian woman, but don't expect that you can roam "At Large" MUST be ready for a lifetime affair.

tom on December 17, 2010:

i have worked with a lot of asian ladies in my life. everyone of them had a special beauty. each her own. but all were beautyful people. and i miss all of them. aloha. tom

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