How to get over a breakup fast.
Having a broken Heart isn't just overwhelming .
You are left with a lot of pain and wonder how you can start all over again. You wonder how you can ever get through it and even feel better. Having a broken Heart sucks and it can pain for a long time. Anyway, there is good news since you can get ways on how to get over that pain. Falling in love has the same effects on us like cocain has effect on our brain. Withdrawal from romantic love has some effects like those who are drug addicts. It’s a painful process to withdraw from it and it takes patience to completely heal.
You experience depression, anxiety, stress, lack of appetite and even lose of interest in what you once loved. Some relationship addicts will try to cling,nag and go after their once known lovers even if they already declared that the relationship is over. This only creates more heartache and makes there affected person turn to listening to music, visiting the places they once shared or even eating the food they once ate together.
The following are ways to get over a heartbreak.
• Accept that the relationship is over.
• Stop communicating with your ex.
• Give yourself permission to grieve.
• Build your support system.
• Stop ruminating.
• Get to know the real you.
• Take good care of yourself.
1) Accept that the relationship is over
Many people straggle with denial and cannot accept that the relationship is over. This is also know as the protest phase. A heartbroken person tries anything and everything to win back the love of the other person. In order for us to heal, we've got to accept that the relationship is over and that we have to move on. This helps us not to have false hopes and fantasy that the relationship isn't over. It may be difficult. I know it is and accepting that it is over may be one tricky way.
2) Stop communicating with your ex
As much as it May be difficult, it is very important to go cold on communications with the person who broke up with you. I know that some people may try to check on you to “know how you are doing" after dumping you. Do not give them the chance of coming back to ruin your life. Cut all the communications with them. From phone calls, sms, video calls, emails, Facebook, Instagram and any other social media they are likely to reach you or you reaching them. Remember you are trying to heal and you don't want anything reminding you about them. Lover’s relapse the way drug addicts do.So, keep your distance.
3) Give yourself permission to grieve
After a breakup, it is normal to feel shock, anger and even frustration. Don’t try to suppress them with drugs and alcohol. You have to go through the feelings in order to heal and emerge strong.
4) Build your support system
Some people keep it to themselves and try to figure it all out. Having a supportive network of friends can be very supportive. Consider two to three people you can reach out to when you need someone. Every time you want to send a text message to your loved one, you can reach one of your friends and family members who act as your support system. Have a multiple of people so that one friend does not feel like you are reaching them over the same issue over.
5) Stop ruminating
Passive for us on someone,or constant thinking about somebody. It is like fantasizing, playing recorded calls and videos with the person you were with. This can bring back their memories to you. Process your emotions and write them down. Write an honest later to your ex thanking them about what good they did to you and what you didn't like about them. Include all the things you are grateful for and all the things you were disappointed about. This is a good opportunity to get it out. This will help you to be free with your thoughts and feelings. After you are done, it is up to you to decide whether you want to send it or get done with it. The more you worry about your broken relationship, the more it will keep you away from your positive set up.
Right now you should focus on your life and nothing else matters.
6) Get to know the real you
Practice talking to yourself and you will know the real you better.
7) Take good care of yourself
We all know the importance of maintaining
Our physical and psychological health. This includes healthy eating and exercising .
In conclusion, being single is not a crime. It allows you to take care of yourself and to be who you want to be. You can flirt with people at the party or date whoever you want but, that doesn't guarantee you a ticket to sleeping around with anyone. Just be careful and take care of yourself.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2021 Millicent Okello
dashingscorpio from Chicago on February 18, 2021:
I would also add keep things in perspective.
In order for your ex to have been "the one" he/she would have had to see (you) as being "the one".
At the very least a "soulmate" is someone who actually wants to be with you! (And vice versa)
"Some people come into our life as blessings. Some come in your life as lessons." - Mother Teresa
"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
- Oscar Wilde
Every ending is a new beginning!