Kerrian is a professional relationship expert and analyst. She loves to write on her observations and research concerning relationships
The media and movies always portray the single life as a sad, lonely existence during the search for love. This is a huge misconception that has played quite well into the mentality of a lot of people. For a lot of people, regardless of a good life and impressive achievements that should bring joy, they forget to be happy. A lot of people believe that single people are not happy, this is according to a 2008 study in the European Journal of Social Psychology
These stereotypes are wrong. Just like there are benefits in being in a relationship, there are benefits of being single as well. You should not let anyone convince you that you cannot be happy alone. Or that you must aspire to be with someone to be happy. Even when you are in a relationship, putting your partner in charge of making you happy could cause a considerable strain in the relationship.
You are the sole authority on how happy and joyous your life is or should be. If you yearn for a significant other, their entrance into your life should be an additional ray of light and not the only source of it.
There are lots of benefits and advantages of living the single life. Here are a few;
1. Your mind is free and uncluttered
You might find this hard to believe, but relationships are emotionally expensive. When you are in a relationship, for it to be a healthy companionship, you have to be considerate towards their feelings and needs. It’s an unconscious act, and you might not know it, but having to care and worry about another person while it’s a great character trait, requires some emotional effort. Such acts like worrying about a fight with your partner or your partner's wellbeing could be emotionally consuming, and they could inhibit your happiness.
When you are living the single life, you are not bothered about thinking on someone else’s needs and feelings or worrying about quarrels and fights. You are living and thinking about your best interest. Your thoughts are more individually focused on what’s best for you. There is less emotional discord and worry inhibiting your happiness.
Being single allows you the opportunity to unclutter your mind and be free. Giving you room for positive thoughts and outlooks on life that helps growth.
2. You are more open to life and adventure
Being single can make people more free-spirited and willing to try new things. With no constraints or partners to hold you back or rein you in, you are open to exploration.
When you are living the single life, especially if you just got out of a relationship or marriage, you suddenly realize that your life is entirely your own and you can do whatever you please. Now you are more likely to go on adventures, explore your interests, find new activities to try out and chase your ambitions. Nobody is hindering or holding you back.
3. You get in touch with yourself and figure out your life
A lot of people who are or were in toxic relationships lose themselves while trying to serve and meet the needs of their partners. When you are entirely focused on making a relationship work out, and the effort is not being reciprocated, you can quickly lose yourself in the process. That is why experts’ advice that couples should not stop doing individual activities while in a relationship.
When you are alone and living the single life, you have enough time to focus on self-development and how to keep in touch with your authentic self. It allows you to reflect and figure out what you want for yourself, the direction you should be heading and what matters to you. This reflection lets you know the changes you should make, the traits you should develop and how to achieve your goals.
4. You become financially responsible and independent
Being able to share financial burdens and responsibilities; as well as having a backup, is one of the perks of relationships. However, according to experts, the single life can teach you a great deal about financial responsibility and independence. When you realize that you don’t share financial obligations with anyone, it pushes you to become resourceful and responsible.
5. You learn to enjoy your own company and take care of yourself
Being single doesn’t mean you are lonely. Enjoy your own company, reflect and focus on goals and positivity. Now you can identify areas of your life that need attention and take care of yourself more. When you have a good understanding of your needs and values, you can cultivate great relationships, not only romantically but with friends and family.
When you look at it, you can either be unhappily single or happily single. So being happy is the best-case scenario. To be able to do this, you have to live in the present and work towards enriching other aspects of your life, by doing that which you desire and which also makes you happy. You have freedom; you can connect with friends, go on a cruise, harness your creative side, besides, JK Rawlings, wrote Harry Potter when she became single again, after a divorce. So, don’t miss out, live your best life.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2020 Kerrian McMahon
dashingscorpio from Chicago on June 11, 2020:
"The media and movies always portray the single life as a sad, lonely existence during the search for love," - Very true!
It also doesn't help that most women have been practicing being married and mothers since they could walk and talk. One of the first things a little girl is often given is a baby doll with a stroller for to push around. She's also fed stories about princesses being swept off of their feet by knights in shinning armor or a prince charming while decorating "Ken & Barbie's Playhouse".
While men are encouraged to "play the field" in their youth most women desire to "couple up" and hopefully get married before they reach a certain age. Being the "last one" among a group of girlfriends to find a partner weighs heavily on some women.
Oddly enough according to an AARP survey in the U.S. (women) initiate 66% or 2/3rds of all divorce filings. Apparently many women discover marriage doesn't live up to the "fairytale".
They then appreciate their newfound freedom!
There are always going to be single people who wish they were married or in a relationship and there will always be attached or married people who miss being single and free.
"The grass is always greener on the side you water."
- Neil Barringham