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Becoming a Strong Woman Part 2


What does it take to be a Strong Woman

Within the context of the Bible there are many women who lived exemplary lives in both great productive situations, and as well as under strenuous conditions. They exude an excellent strength that allowed them to still keep their femininity enact yet be quite forceful. They kept their focus upon the Lord. No need to ever be confused about yourself as a woman. The Word of God has an endless wealth of wise godly counsel. There are many women all throughout the Word of God. They continued to grow spiritually as they made their mark upon the world discovering who they were in the Lord. It is about seeking and pursuing your purpose in Almighty God. It is indeed a marvelous yet sometime tumultuous journey. Yes, you too can still make your mark and also be content in the background, on the sidelines, foreground, or right out up in front!

For example, Miriam worked faithfully alongside of her brothers Moses and Aaron. Rahab was a harlot; gave up her promiscuous life to help the spies of peace and all that was in her household were saved. Esther although very beautiful was driven yet with integrity and tenacity, her perseverance under insurmountable odds saved her people. Deborah my namesake was an extremely discerning wise insightful judge & seer whom a multitude of people came to for spiritual counsel & direction.

Spiritual Christian Counseling

Godly Spiritual Christian Counseling is never about leading people away from God. Nor is it about leading people to you. It is about helping others discover who they are in the Lord and pointing others to God, His Word and His principles. For there is a comfort found in God like no other. He truly is there for us always. Spiritual Christian Counseling is about helping and encouraging others to seek and discover viable solutions to help us/you better navigate through life. One must be led by the Lord and conscious of His omnipresence. You must operate from a place of discernment. This makes us dependent upon God for guidance for what or whomever is placed before us. Not everybody wants to do the work... Yes, we all must learn to utilize godly wisdom wisely. You must study, apply and daily embrace God's Word. You must also become astutely aware of the contrasting entrapments of the world... But take your directions from God even when no one else understands. God always knows what's best. He will never lead us to do wrong. Yes Lord, for "we are to be in the world but not of the world!" It is always about allowing the Lord to use you as His willing vessel, be an instrument that is willing to shine the Light on the Narrow Path that leads to God.

God holds each of use accountable and responsible for what we do, say, preach, teach and live out loud in His Name!

Spiritual Counseling is always about providing godly insight & correction to help others embrace who God is, and helping them discover who they are in the Lord. But keeping in mind that they always have the freedom to choose. It is also about having healthy boundaries. God is omniscient and He always knows everything about everyone at all times past, present and future... He also knows whenever anyone is sincere or trying to manipulate. This is not something to play with or seek out if you are on a power trip. Yes always remember, God holds us accountable. We can trust God to give us much spiritual insight when we are relying upon Him to guide us. That is true when we are truly seeking His will & way above all!

No one can manipulate God!

Know this, no one no matter how clever or spiritual they think they are can ever manipulate God or His will for us, because God cannot be manipulated. Our position within the Body of Christ is fully known to God. Keep in mind, God is not a respecter of persons. Nor is He subject to any man/woman. Many try to dictate and tell God what to do, how to do it and where to go? God is sovereign & omnipotent He does not take directions from anyone... Yes, we can ask Him and make our requests made known. We can boldly pray and commune with Him. But remember He is omniscient, and He knows before we even speak what we are going to say. He is the Alpha & Omega, the Beginning and the End, The First & the Last! He also uses whomsoever He desires male or female.

Deborah who I mentioned earlier was a woman who also led men into battle and helped to victoriously win the battle. She also had a very supportive husband Lapidoth who loved the Lord and fully trusted her. Jael, who was a woman in fact actually defeated Sisera. She smote him with a nail in the temple of his head. He was the commander of Jabin's army that pursued Israel. It was also the women who remained at the cross when Jesus was brutally and heinously crucified. And it was the women who were the first to actually bring forth and proclaim the “Good News Gospel” that Jesus had risen from the dead and was now alive! Know God and His Word for yourself. This is the most important thing we can do in life. For GOD is life eternal! " It is in Him we live and move and have our being..." Acts 17

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There are many, many more strong godly women mentioned all throughout the Word of God! Take the time to check them out! This is why it is so very important to know God and HIs Word for yourself!

Having a personal intimate relationship with God is very important!

In order to know God personally a woman must have an ongoing personal intimate relationship with Him. This involves daily commitment to His Word as well as times of stillness and solitude. "Praying without ceasing" becomes natural. As you go about your customary tasks throughout the day you also turn your focus inwardly to Abba Father God. One can enjoy social engagements on occasion, but it is crucial to spend quality time with Lord in His presence. Whenever or wherever you are out and about or even in the midst of worship always pay attention to what's going on around you. For we are living in a spiritual warzone.

Pondering and meditating upon His Word yields much insight and wisdom. Occasionally flicking through the pages of the Bible and pulling out a scripture or two will not do. Frequent emotional displays of impatience and an unruly tongue should not be embraced. You will need to take time to develop your personal intimate relationship with the Lord. It is during this time our discernment is also sharpened as we bond with our Creator & Maker. This will spare you much heartache, for you learn to make less senseless decisions. However, we will always forever remain dependent upon our wonderful God. He is without doubt the greatest Counselor! This is why we all need Christ Jesus as our Lord and Savior. This will also bring much inner peace and discipline. Your relationship with the Lord is the most important relationship that you will ever have! Prayer keeps us/ you connected to the Lord!

I am thankful for parents who loved and cared for me. For a mother who taught me to be autonomous and strong in the midst of all my brothers yet ladylike. Not to follow the crowd but represent who you are wherever you go... To have and know proper etiquette and also dress like a lady. To not do anything for show but because it is the proper thing to do. To dress to express yourself but, not to empress others. To help others, yet be aware of those who will try to help themselves to you... Not to fear anyone yet be meek and to be aware of God's Omnipresence for He is always with us. She raised me to know that women are different yet equal. That we can rise to the occasion to do whatever the Lord would have us to do. Strive daily to be the "Best You!" She taught me to be respectful and even instilled in me whenever she was called to be with the Lord if I was strong my brothers would have to also then be strong. She faithfully loved the Lord. She also taught me that God always loved me best and never to let anyone make me doubt that. They too should believe the same. If everyone believed this the world would be a better place.

Many are having an identity crisis

In this 21st century as a woman it is even more so important to keep your femininity intact. Today too many men, women, boys and girls are confused about who they are... They will follow every trend and lose their original self. There are very few good role models. This is why so many are in the midst of having an identity crisis. This should not be! But still, it is so. The world has provided many options. Many of them go against what God has to say. Don't bury your head in the ground like an ostrich, be aware of going on all around us. As a believer seek the will & way of the Lord! Know this is not a popular position. Whatever we do as godly women we are accountable to God! God's moral principles for man & woman have not and will not change. He created Man & Woman to come together as Man & Woman only in a marriage betrothal. This is His union of "Holy Matrimony." Marriage is sacred in the eyes of God.

God knows right where each of us are; and He Loves us! But He never condones sin in anyone. One must commit to developing a quiet time with Him in order to contemplate and digest His Word and apply it to your life. It is at this time, as a woman you are able to develop a keen sense of who you are in Christ and then commit to living by the Truth of His Word. Yes, we live in the world and are to interact, socialize and fellowship with one another. But in order to grow in God's wisdom, grace and knowledge you must learn and embrace spiritual boundaries!

We are to travel the Narrow Path that leads to God. it is the road with fewer travelers. In these "Latter Days" spending time with God is absolutely necessary to withstand the pressures of life. Know that there are many paths. Know this; They all do not lead to God. For there is only "One Way" to God. Remember; "JESUS CHRIST IS THE WAY THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE!" There are times you must isolate yourself from the world to spend quiet moments as well as extended time with the Lord to refuel and refresh yourself. During this time you become nurtured and insulated by His Holy Spirit.

Family life & family values

Being a strong godly woman is inclusive of many things. It takes a strong woman to organize and efficiently run a household and or a business. To create an environment that is inclusive of spiritual development and enrichment, positive healthy safe family dynamics and fun and enjoyable activities for her husband and the family, as well as sometimes for neighbors, friends or workers to engage in and enjoy! To be vulnerable and kind but remain strong in the Lord!

It is important that the family is able to come together and openly discuss their concerns individually & collectively as well as express appreciation to one another. Know that there is a significant difference between a strong godly woman and a strong worldly woman. Pray for discernment!

As a woman when the Lord Blesses you with a husband and children you learn to wear many hats. You also learn to multitask. The family is the first institution God created. Building healthy families everybody benefits. I am thankful to have also married a strong man of God who has integrity. He is creative, loving, funny, intelligent, multi-talented, well-rounded and daily embraces and appreciates GOD and HIS WORD. He is not intimidated by anyone. He knows who he is in the Lord! It is important that you do whatever is necessary to create a loving, safe, warm consistent environment. Raising children as strong individuals requires dedication and sacrifice. Selfishness is not a characteristic of good mothers who properly and attentively nurture their children. Nurturing them while in the womb is important as well. This is in addition to all your other responsibilities... Always be concerned, but do not worry about what others think. Your husband and children are or always should be a priority. Life is a precious gift from the Lord. You often think about everyone else before yourself. You want them to know that they can depend on you, and you are accessible to them at all times. This helps them to feel secure!

We are thankful to have many shared precious memories in raising our children. I can say that I was always there for them... They were raised with Biblical principles. They knew that we did not just go to Church, but we "lived Church!" They also knew that they were a priority. For this we are very thankful. When they were young, I taught Piano and was also an independent Interior Designer. I taught them piano as well. This gave me the room to continue to grow creatively right along with them... Healthy structure helps children know what to expect. It helps them to learn healthy boundaries. I am forever grateful to the Lord! By the Grace of God, Our children never had to worry if we or one or the other would be there for them.

Our children were not raised by a village... (Neither of our mother's allowed us to be raised by a village as well.) Nor did we vicariously live through our children. You have the right to make what choices are right for you in raising your family. We raised five independent thinking, smart, intelligent, loving, caring yet strong children who love and respect the Lord. Raising children requires a lot... Whenever we traveled, they traveled with us. They have been involved in a lot of Ministry Outreach... both inside and outside of the walls. We every now and then took an occasional weekend but then they were in the care of my Mother. (It was a breeze since I did not have to pack matching coordinating outfits for (7) seven for each day...) WOW!

The Lord let us know early on we would have to live out the very principles in which we spoke and talked about. We never could have done any of it without the Lord. I also realized when you have so many children you don't have time for much foolishness. You depend on the Lord to help You and you don't take it lightly... You learn to be strong and "as wise as a serpent, yet as harmless as a dove." Know God's Word is Alive! It is relatable in every aspect of our lives. There is nowhere you can go or nothing you can do, say or think that God is not aware of! He is always keep in mind omniscient. This is another Blessing in disguise. Our now adult children always knew that God was the top priority within our daily private & public lives. You will learn to relate to people and things differently when you believe and trust God. You have to live out loud what you talk about in front of your children. My children know that I did not disrespect my husband and he also always respected me and so did our close relatives...

It was not until after they became of age and on their own just my husband and I were able to travel extensively and see even much more of the world for extended periods of time. It has been an interesting journey. We have worked fervently in ministry... and supported the Church. We professed Christ Jesus as children and have been continually growing in His grace, wisdom & knowledge. We as well have taken many on tour... Sponsored artists, concerts at home and abroad, preached, proclaimed and taught the Word, provided counseling etc... After both of us being part of the Church all of our lives we grew up together... We thank the Lord for allowing us to take "Ministry Beyond and inside the Walls" as His Ministers, Elders and Ambassadors.

Much is happening all around us everywhere

Time has brought about much change in this 21st century. Not everyone respects family values. There is much today within God's Church that is not of Him. "The Wheat and the tares are growing together..." Wheat closely resembles tares but it is NOT the same..." (Many have brought their worldly tactics with them.) PRAY to know the difference; PRAY FOR DISCERNMENT! But this is not anything new. There is much going on all throughout the Word from the door to the pulpit as far as worship. Even in Revelations God continues to speak to the Church's need for correction and the things that needed to be addressed...

The Word of God is being fulfilled. This is why we see some of everything going on. In the world within families, marriages as well as within His Church! There are those who want to attach themselves to you to bring division... They are so used to confusion they seek to recreate it unconsciously and sometimes on purpose. Wanting to control others yet having very carnal attitudes and little self-control themselves... Be Prayerful! There are many different family dynamics not everyone values the same things. Some good and some not so good. Make it a priority to embrace good healthy balanced spiritual family dynamics and respect and embrace God's principles. It is important to share the same family values with your potential spouse.

Make it a goal to strive for what works best for your family. Don't try to be like someone else. God has a plan just for you. Seek His will for You. Be unique and stay on the Narrow Road. Yet remember; It is the road less traveled. As a believer, keeping God's principles should always be Your priority. I believe we are responsible for the children the Lord blesses us with and entrusts to us. It is an honor to be godly parents. Good co-parenting yields stable children. Nothing that comes our way gets by GOD first! Therefore, we always need to seek His directions first. The greatest legacy you can give your children is a genuine love for the Lord, your love and His Word. This is true for single parents as well. He will in His time supply you and them with whatever they may need... God always keeps His promises!

There is a vast array of pursuits for a woman nowadays. So, pick and choose wisely. If you are not happy at work or in life, you must be conscious not to take it out on your children. Many careers allow you to flex work from home to the office. Not everyone can discipline themselves to do so. If your patience is short, you want to consider other options. Yelling and screaming at your children all the time should not be... For they will do the same. They need to have patience modeled to them in order to learn how to be patient. Do give them your undivided attention and take time to listen to them. If you raise your children right, they will learn not to be selfish and also learn to be responsible, caring and GOD-CENTERED!

Many have too often will put aside God, make their spouse & children secondary and conform to the world’s ways. Marriage God's way is about spiritual "Oneness!" You can still have a career and raise your children in a healthy home. If you are single this may be your only choice to raise your children alone. But of course, it will not be easy. God is there for you as well. Don't just go to church. Be God's Church every day and everywhere. You will have to learn to trust the Lord even more so. You are a single parent because of your choices. God is more than able to help you still raise your children in a way that pleases Him.

Saved by GOD'S GRACE!

While our children were young as I said before, I taught Piano and also did Interior Design. It helped me to be creative, keep a clean orderly home and work with all ages... To also allowed me to develop business acumen and actively listen to others. It also gave me much insight to personality dynamics... I share a little personal insight from time to time because people do not have clue as to what time and energy it takes in raising a family. This is also why the Lord led me to also be effective in "One-on-One Ministry" & Pastoral Counseling as well. In His eyes as believers, we are all His sheep regardless as to what your station is in life. Salvation is a precious "Gift from God!" I am forever grateful I had the flexibility to always be there for all of my family and many others. I returned to college to further my extended graduate education in Pastoral Counseling. We had also started our own IT Consulting Corporation together and had many professional consultants..." You seek God for works best for you. "Who you really are is when nobody, but God is watching." Your interest or idea of raising a family may be quite different. Just make sure as a believer you seek God's Will above all. He is more than able in any and every situation.

God is not a respecter of persons... You do not have to compromise godly principles. You can also run your own company and maintain your integrity. There are many reputable business opportunities. If you have been Blessed to have children, it is important that you keep their well-being a priority regardless of your career or job. Spending quality time with them is really important. It lets them know that they are a priority. We are accountable to God for this. If you have not today is a good day to start. REPENT! Don't live in regrets. Change & start anew! This really will help them to become responsible independent nurtured adults. In an ever-changing world they still really need a "Solid Rock Foundation."

It is important to remember that we are SAVED by GOD'S GRACE! It is not by the works we/you do it is by HIS GRACE. It is because of HIS LOVE for us. Therefore, know that GOD is there for you no matter what. He has given us Christ Jesus; His Living Word as a Personal Savior to help us not to allow sin to overtake us. You just have to invite Him into whatever is happening or not happening within your life. If you are not "SAVED" invite Jesus Christ into your heart today as your Lord & Savior! By the way this means that you are turning from sin and committing to embrace GOD and HIS WORD and live your life His Way. Don't allow sin to be at the forefront of your life. Confess any sin to THE LORD. Having the Lord within your life will or can make all the difference in the world the sooner the better. Each day is a day to grow in God's Grace! GOD has given us HIS PRECIOUS HOLY SPIRIT: HIS COMFORTER to guide, direct, protect and lead, us to all TRUTH! THANK YOU HOLY FATHER!!!

You cannot change anything that has happened. But you can begin to go forward with the Lord now! No matter how old or young you are God has a place and a plan for you too. He knitted you together in your Mother's wound with a purpose in mind for your life. It is up to you to choose to seek Him daily to discover what it is.... I recommend not spending a lot of time hanging out in the midst of gossipers. Know this dulls your spiritual gifts and discernment. You can rightly rebuke or choose to ignore an offense. Always be willing to say face to face anything that you say about others to them... Be willing to humble yourself and apologize whenever necessary. Let no one make you bitter but always strivinng to grow in grace to be better. Yes, you must also learn how to "guard your heart!" Choose to strive and thrive daily to improve yourself and your walk with the Lord!

We serve an Omniscient God. God created life for us to grow in His grace, knowledge, wisdom and understanding as well as to learn and enjoy living! Life is precious so take little time in or for foolishness. You never know when the Lord will call you home. Many ask can a woman do it all or have it all? Hmm that all depends. What do you mean by ALL! With God you have everything you will ever need. But not always at the same time. HE will provide a path for you to do the things HE has in HIS WILL for you, however; ALL in HIS time. One must surrender to HIM! “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

It is important to spend time with God in His Word

Each of us have been created with varying temperaments, all of us having both strengths and weaknesses. Self-control is a virtue and lessens any weaknesses. You instead allow The Holy Spirit to rule and govern your mind. It matters lest what people say about you when you know GOD KNOWS YOU! Know there are some that will say some of everything. They will make many assumptions as well. So, learn to be strong in the Lord! (See Ephesians 6) It is important to spend time with God in HIs Word. This is why we all need CHRIST JESUS as SAVIOR & LORD! We will forever need the Lord to guide our path. Let His Word become "A Lamp unto Your feet and a Light unto Your Path..." As we grow in His grace, we ourselves and any weaknesses abate. We become strong in HIM! Self-control rises to the forefront when we submit to His control. "The JOY of the LORD is My STRENGTH" becomes or can be your theme! Spiritual growth naturally happens as you abide in Him. He has given us an inner Guide, His precious Holy Spirit. His Comforter is absolutely amazing. What is so wonderful about God, He says: “My Grace is sufficient for you, for MY STRENGTH is MADE PERFECT in weakness.”

What really is important in life is when the day is over and the stillness of night is upon you, are you content? When it's all quiet and still can you feel the presence of the Lord? Start and end the day with the Lord. Remember to spend time with God in His Word. Each day the Lord helps you to release what has been to Him and rise anew afresh and ready to go forth in Him. Life with God is beautiful even in the midst of storms... Do you feel that you are moving towards fulfilling your life’s destination? Don't allow others ever make you doubt who GOD is in your life once HE has revealed Himself to You... KNOW GOD and HIS WORD for yourself! GOD IS LOVE! Absolutely no one or nothing can separate you from GOD or HIS LOVE unless you let them...

A Godly Marriage

In a godly marriage even the marriage bed is undefiled. Know that nothing is sacred to many... Keep God in the Center of your marriage!

We all are quite different, what works for one may not work for another. We each are unique like pieces of a puzzle no two alike. But God’s principles apply to all of us! That is just how utterly amazing the Lord is! Have you experienced the marvelous JOY that only comes from truly knowing the Lord! It brings much inner contentment and peace...


The LORD teaches us in HIS WORD, that we should be "One" in a godly marriage. Your marriage and your husband's well-being should be a top priority. The two of you are "One!" Make sure you marry someone who you respect, and that they respect you and you both desire to grow together. Having a good strong loving relationship with your husband helps to strengthen your children. You should make it point to live out those very vows you made to one another. If you are married to an unbeliever pray regularly and consistently for your spouse. You have an additional responsibility to model and live out your faith. Seek the Lord in every area of your life. Yes, you should love your spouse, family, friends and… I THANK GOD we share and pray together as husband and wife and ministry and are partners. We have always enjoyed one another's company. We are strong together or apart.

Our love for one another continues to grow and flourish in the LORD! It takes a strong man to lead a strong woman. Two really can walk together in harmony. There is strength in submission especially when both are submitted to God... It is wonderful to have a man who fully Loves & Trusts God. Who can stand firm upon HIS WORD without a doubt! You learn to be content in the forefront or the background. You can easily shift gears... But as a woman of God you must also praise, worship and adore the Lord as well in your home. WORSHIP IS ALWAYS about GOD and who HE IS! Many are so busy in their place of worship that their home life has taken a back seat... Coming to worship becomes more of an escape. A double life is not acceptable with the Lord. This should not be. “God should get Center priority everywhere in everything!” Every day: should be a day of Honor, Worship, Thanks & Praise the LORD!

God has placed a void in all of us only He can fill! A place deep within our everlasting soul! You can become “like a tree that is planted by the rivers,” you can stand strong when you are rooted in Him! Bad things do happen to good people! But you are able to go through with Him and help others to go through as well. Learn to be careful and cautious. Some will say and do just about anything not really realizing that GOD REALLY IS OMNISCIENT! You do not have to impose yourself upon others. Some will be receptive to you, and some will not. Don't fret! When you are among people who always misunderstand you learn to; "BE STILL & KNOW!"

"God is not the Author of Confusion"

Persecutions, trials, tribulations and misunderstandings are also a part of life. They stretch us. Know people will misunderstand you. But one can still be of good cheer! Be sincere NEVER look or seek for the approval of a man or woman over the APPROVAL OF GOD! STAND ALONE UPON HS WORD WHENEVER NECESSARY. Always be aware in the midst of a crowd or congregation. Some of everything is going on everywhere and worship is no longer excluded, nor is it sacred to many. During these "Perilous Days" we must stay prayerful and ready. Many subscribe to "group think." They will go along with the group in lieu of the Holy Spirit! "God is not the Author of Confusion!" The Lord always knows and understands where we all are coming from... He is always everywhere we are. I can truly say I never feel alone for I know without doubt the Lord is with me/us always and forever. I Thank the Lord daily for HIS OMNIPRESENCE!

Having the Lord in your life truly brings an indescribable abiding Joyous inner Peace from knowing that Jesus has overcome the world for us! "GREATER IS HE that is within us than he that is in the world..."

Traveling and being aware of God's Omnipresence

Traveling is a wonderful experience that can expose you to different lifestyles and cultures. It will help to broaden your perspective and give you valuable insight. It goes far beyond your local community... Lord willing we have had many wonderful spiritual journeys and there are still more to come. You learn to be content wherever you are because you know that God is always with you! Don't let people put you in their little box. The Lord's creation is astounding and vast. Realizing that everywhere you go God is with you, you become more aware of and appreciate the little things in life as well as His marvelous handiwork all about you! He releases you from conforming to man. Instead through the unction of His Holy Spirit, He transforms and renews our minds as we embrace the TRUTH of HIS WORD!

This world is God's magnificent creation spoken into existence through Christ Jesus. If you can't travel, then take a nice scenic drive and really enjoy what you see that reminds you of the goodness of God. Pray as you go along the highway and as you are amidst people everywhere. Take an online virtual tour. You can even take a mall walk and notice the myriad of people and plethora of cultures; just enjoy being alive! Make it a point to be aware & all throughout your day; "Pray without ceasing..."

Today, one can travel and communicate all over the world and never leave their home or office. Make it a priority to welcome the presence of the Lord in your home. Our world is on a slippery slope going through many transitions. “The grass is not always greener on the other side.” It remains green wherever it is watered and consistently attended and maintained. Being religious and being spiritual are not the same. Know True; "Security and Significance" can really only be found in the Lord! GOD IS THE ONLY ABSOLUTE!

Commit to being the same person you are at Church at home, school and at work. Meaning don't act like you live for GOD in front of others. Of course, you can express your love more freely within your home. Always be aware of your surroundings. When not at home you must be more cautious of course. Love should freely abound within your home even more because your family knows you... Always be real with God! Everything you will ever want, or need is possible through Him! Know God is not a genie at your command. He always deserves our respect. everywhere we are or go He is there. You do not have to become dull or uninteresting or give up having healthy wholesome fun. Quite the contrary!

Strive to be the "Best You!"

You can age gracefully always striving to be the “BEST YOU,” No one can be a better you than you! So don't worry when you are overlooked or rejected... God has created each one of us with a plan and purpose in mind. He did not make us to be robots or to become somebody else's puppets. God does not want "Coward Soldiers" It is a choice to pursue life His way, do your own thing or the world’s way. Study Proverbs 31 and take note of the integrity and character of the "Virtuous Woman." There is much here to learn, embrace and cherish. God's Word will always withstand the tests of time. It's alive!

At some point you may need to perhaps take time and get away from it all. A vacation or retreat is good. Or plan out a spiritual journey. Wherever you go remember you represent the Lord. Be ready to give an answer for the hope that lies within you. Always make it a priority to draw close to the Lord. It is important from time to time to take a personal inventory to see just where you are in your walk with the Lord! Don't get pulled into the latest trends. Develop your own style. Classic style in some segments of society is appreciated. Today the Church often takes their cues from the world... Not Good! Yes, you should see continual progress of growing in His Grace! Yes again, there are fewer travelers on the "Straight & Narrow Path!" Remember you should also set aside some quiet time “To BE STILL and KNOW” Put yourself in check! You don't want to become stagnate.

Ask yourself? Are you growing spiritually? Are you bogged down by the pressures of life? Are you conforming to what everyone else expects of you? Remember; Don't go along with the crowd to be accepted. Go along with the Word! Are you consumed with everyone else's life and don’t have one of your own? Do you seek the approval of others above the approval of God? Have you simply gotten into a ritualistic rut? Are you on a fast track that is taking you to a destination that someone else wants you on or designed for you? Allow the LORD to silence the doubters... Let Him lead you in every area of your life.

Are you faithfully keeping the embers burning within your marriage? Marriage is sacred in the eyes of God! Remember there is no marrying in Heaven. For we God's Church is the Bride of Christ! Singles are you staying close to the Lord until…? Are you at peace or are you constantly stressed? Are you sad? Are you overeating or under eating... Are you being the “Best You?” I realize that there are many things going on in life. It can be overwhelming with all the “stuff” going on about us in the world. To some degree we all have been impacted in one way or another. Yes, do see the spiritual warfare for what it is. But you have to make a point to not let it get you down. Nor do you just roll along and let life happen.

Are you depressed? If you are you must change your focus... If you are depressed, you must begin to learn to let that inner passive anger or rage; GO! It may be hard for you. But it is not hard for GOD! Let the Lord calm the agitations of your soul! Pull from your memory chest of "GOOD TIMES!" (I am not taking about carnal minded activities) I mean good wholesome healthy fun. This is how you stay consistent and balanced. Learn how and when to shift the load to the Lord. Learn to be more responsible for your happiness! If you don't have many happy memories to remember, make some NOW! Begin to practice shifting your focus to God. Give Him His rightful place in your life; NOW!

"Be God's Church every day and everywhere!"

Ministry is a way of life for us. You really do not have to prove anything to anyone when you know that Abba Father God knows you from the inside out. Don’t let life just pass you by and not find some time to enjoy it. Christ Jesus did not speak this world int existence for everybody else to enjoy it and not His own people who is His Church. It all belongs to God the Father, His Son Christ Jesus & His Holy Spirit! Therefore, "be God's Church every day and everywhere" you are or go. God our Father, Creator and Maker really does have it all under His control!

Spending quality time with God will always help point you in the right direction. It will really do wonders for your prayer life. Prayer is not always verbal. Nor is it for show. "Praying without ceasing" is a cognizant state of mind. You should pray all throughout your day. God is more interested in the posture of our hearts rather than if we are keeling, standing walking or laying prone flat. You become or need to be aware of God’s Omnipresence wherever you may be. Prayer is communicating with God; prayer also involves being still and listening. Pray for and also with your spouse. Pray for your children, family, friends and GOD'S CHURCH. Pray for your desired future spouse if you are single? Pray for your pastor, ministers/clergy, our government and this world!

Be prayerful and mindful whenever you "Lay hands" on someone. There is a transference happening here. So, make sure you are focused and strong in the Lord. The WORD even tells us not to lay hands on no man/woman suddenly. Sometimes you may or will have to pray for some at a distance. Not out of fear but because you are being wisely directed by the Spirit of God.

As a woman of God eternal life with God is an absolute certainty. “For It is by GRACE you have been saved, through FAITH and this is not of yourselves. It is a GIFT from GOD not of works.” Ephesians 2 The Word of God has power to strengthen and daily renew your mind. I thank God for the " Call" upon my/our lives. We have experienced a plethora of worship service and over the world... We pray before we enter into worship as well as "pray without ceasing " during worship. For we know whenever or wherever there are many gathered together there are both WHEAT & tares... It is not till the end that Abba Father God will do the separating.

Yes Lord! We have no doubt that our final destination is Heaven! "Where the wicked shall cease from troubling and the weary shall be at rest. All of the saints and the angels will set as His feet and be BLESSSED!

God teaches us how to guard your heart, and He will also manifest and multiply the Fruit of His Spirit within you. Self-control is part of the Fruit of His Spirit Your emotions and actions can & will be transformed by the power of His precious Holy Spirit! Remember, God does have a purpose and plan for you. It is your choice to seek to discover it above the ways of the world. GOD Loves you and HIS Love lasts through Eternity. GOD'S LOVE is inspiring and invigorating. It also corrects us. With God at your side, you can be a confident, loving, content, strong Woman of God. "Be God's Church every day and everywhere." This is a lifelong process and always remember "we are “forever becoming!” Therefore, thrive & strive to live every day before; "An Audience of ONE!"

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Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on June 24, 2012:

MsDora, Wonderful! & Thank You! So Glad that you have been inspired! I will also link "Rahab" to this as well! Thank you again for stopping by to share,

Peace & Blessings!

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on June 21, 2012:

Great inspiration for the strong godly woman. Beautiful pictures, too. Later today, will link to :"Rahab: Could Change Her Role But Not Her Reputation."

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on August 20, 2011:

Arya Queen of Elves, PRAISE GOD! So glad that you have been encouraged! You are so welcome! Thank you for stopping by to share, In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings!

Arya Queen of Elves on August 17, 2011:

God-inspired AWESOME Beauty beyond words!!!!!!! This is a wonderful and powerful guide for all women. May God bless you and keep you!!! Thank you for such great hub.

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on August 15, 2011:

Dyamond, It is commendable that you decided to spend your time building a stronger relationship with the Lord until the “right one” came along. I find it interesting that this man decided that he was not the one…. It makes me wonder if perhaps he was just momentarily perhaps filling a role? The feeling of attachment and finding someone you can relate to can be exciting… But if he was truly sent by God to be the one I believe he would still be there! It is understandable that you are hurting and perhaps feeling somewhat alone but I think if you resume allowing the Lord to fill that gap and remain a bit guarded until you recover, this will position you in a better place. Don’t give up hope! Your time was not in vain because you now know that you can have a respectful relationship... I think that this has opened up possibilities for you and this particular man was just a bit premature ?

Being a single Mom is not easy and can place you in a vulnerable position. Perhaps getting together with a few other single Moms that share your same values, doing some recreationally fun things together and building a small support group will help; Or even perhaps starting a small Bible Study Group!

Be encouraged! You certainly are a strong woman waiting for fifteen years! Keep looking to the Lord! Thank you for sharing, In HIS Love, Grace, Peace & Blessings! GOD BLESS YOU!

Dyamond on August 13, 2011:

I am reading this in such a time of pain. As a single mom who struggled for so many years, I vowed to keep myself close to God until God sent me the one. Well after 15 years of waiting, the one arrived. It took me 4 months to agree to allow him to take me out. He treated better than I had ever known, honored and respected me....... after about 4 weeks of the best days of my life, the armor began to tarnish, but I still do not understand. He finally realized that he perhaps was not the king for this queen. He told me that I was a real lady and he loved respecting me, but I wondered if he didn't think he could live up to whatever ideas he had in his head. I believe our conversation was good but what hurt me the most was, I felt like I had never before and even thanked God for respectful and wonderful God allowed this man to be towards me. I had not been with him long enough to morn the man, but long enough to morn the warm, safe, and exciting feelings that came with the situation. Your words as I read them helped, but after creating all that greatness and developing all that strength while trusting in God..........I am very happy with my life......but what does a single girl do. 15 years is a long time, will I have to wait 15 years to laugh like that again. I just want to be real with God and I want that kind of happiness for the rest of my life. Single!?!?!

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on July 30, 2011:

dawn-shilo, WONDERFUL! You are so welcome! No doubt you have a terriffic loving Mom! You have a lot to be thankful for! Thank you for stopping by to share, Please do come again! Peace & Blessings!

dawn-shilo on July 27, 2011:

Thank you for sharing it. My mom is a policewoman and she have done so far. She is a mom that never fails to say ILOVEYOU...a woman in service and a great mother for us.

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on May 13, 2011:

Tatiana, I am so pleased that this hub ministered to you! I Praise God that you have been lifted! So glad that you were able to get this off of your chest and move forward to all the Lord has in store for you! Your transparency here will help to serve many others! No matter how difficult this has been you have managed to persevere! PRAISE GOD!! The Lord has enabled you to rise above this devastating season in your life to higher heights! Through Jesus Christ in your life you are VICTORIOUS!

It has been a pleasure as well as a Blessing! You are a living witness of how important the Lord is to us; through Him “ALL THINGS are TRULY POSSIBLE!”

Your words of encouragement are most apprectiated! Thank you again for taking the time to share! In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings! May you continue to allow the Lord to lead, guide, protect and direct you! GOD BLESS YOU!!!

Tatiana on April 26, 2011:

Yes, I agree with everything what you say, love :) I found a great deal more relieve along with your hub, moreover I left everything what was bothering me out of my chest, lika a conclusion, all I can say now I would NEVER wish my fate to another women, ever, even to an "enemy". I will never ever put it on other women's shoulders, they should be spared in all circumstances from such cruelty, both in war and peaceful time and I admire true godly men who didn't lose values of knighthood and chivalry for women, so rare unfortunately. What happened, happened, I will spend my life in peace.

It's very nice to meet you, Deborrah. Keep your good work up, you're doing really great!!!!!! thousands of Respects and kind regards,Bog te Blagoslovio = GOD BLESS :)

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on April 25, 2011:

Tatiana, GOD truly is GOOD! You are so right! These crimes do not come from Him! Anyone who uses the Lord’s Name in vain to do such things is perverted! I agree they are from the “fallen world…” Lord Help Us! There is much spiritual warfare about us! Keep Looking to the Lord! He will never leave nor forsake you!

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on April 25, 2011:

Tatiana, It was Joseph who was falsely accused of rape by Potiphar’s wife who made advances towards him and he then fled and left his coat behind… She then accused him and he was imprisoned! Rape is never the fault of the victim it is an act of domination, control and anger! I was not aware of this movie with Angelina Jolie but I thank you for sharing. I think it is important to be sensitive to the things that unconsciously support rape. Therefore I believe the protest are warranted….

Yes! It is much more important what God KNOWS rather than what people think! The Lord truly does understand you. It is from Him understanding comes and He most defintiely LOVES YOU as well! Thank You again for sharing your thoughts here. I am so happy that you continue to draw closer to the Lord! In HIS Love, Grace Joy, Peace & Blessings, God Bless YOU!

P.P.S Tatiana on April 17, 2011:

Like Margaret,I've experienced callous and heartless attitude for my ordeals, such as "God knows the nature of women,they use rape as tool for their own good to blame men"--one example in Bible,(I can't remember the names, a woman who falsely accuses in attempt of rape...),"women dress immodestly,so they provoke men"; "if she doesn't yell,she's a whore"-typical Deutoronomy,old Jewish stereotype; and here,Hollywood bunch led by Angelina Jolie tries to represent a love story between Bosnian woman and her Serb rapist in a movie. Every woman who protested agaisnt it,were made fun, harshly criticized and blamed both by Americans and Europeans,... so,this should have been expected from this modern sexualized society, where elementary morality doesn't exist anymore,rape is regarded as "fun",often glorified, just an "entertaiment", everybody has right to do what he wants to get money, in the name of "high budget","talentuous acting"... such sickening "love story"(which of course never occurred in war time) is "natural",why not?! it's so "hot","sweet", you stupid woman, why thinking about your bad experience, enjoy a good sado-masochistic story, it's an art---Typical consumer and sex-obssessed cynical society.

BUT- even such human stupidity makes me extremely angry, I know only GOD has true compassion and true understanding,He's much kinder and wiser than all people representing a "society" I described above.I know I msut not give a damn about human approval and opinion,but rely on God's love,if people don't understand me,He does.

Tatiana on April 15, 2011:

Thank you! You know,as I realized,hatred for people of another religion or ethnicity like in Nazi Germany or Fascist Italy,revenge in the name of "God" like in Dark Ages,destroying defenseless peaceful villages,torturing innocents like in Inquisition times,using rape and abuse of women and girls as a weapon of war, for "purifying" the race,vengeance and sign of booty, like for example did Greeks, Romans, Israelites,European colonialists or Spanish conquistadors,(like Milosevic's armies did to us) all these heinous crimes come from sinful and twisted material world,dominated by Devil,evil men,warriors and Machiavellic rulers invented it and tried to represent it as morally good, for the sake of "God", "religion", "motherland","interests of State" or whatever.... twisted and aggressive pseudo-patriotic and pseudo-religious people misunderstand the word of God and justify every suffering,sacrifice human dignity to incorrectly realized values. That's what I understood during these days. God is always good,but people aren't always, these crimes don't come from Him and I'm sure He doesn't condone them at all,nor He allows them,but from fallen world.

Lord bless and keep you too!

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on April 05, 2011:

Tatiana, Thank You! You have inspired me! I am humbled by your heartfelt expressions. When you KNOW that the "LORD will never leave nor forsake you no matter what He imparts HIS Peace in your heart! The Lord can truly heal you everywhere you hurt! HIS LOVE is more powerful than anything! May HIS JOY abound in your life! KEEP looking up! Our loved ones that have gone on to be with HIM will forever be in our hearts! We can REJOICE knowing that we will see them again! Great is God's FAITHFULNESS may He continue to grow you in HIS Grace & Love now and through forever! May His will continue to be done in your life as He works everything together for GOOD! May His FAVOR rest upon you! In HIS Love, The LORD BLESS & KEEP YOU!

Tatiana on April 05, 2011:

Thank you for your kind words!!! :) Yes,he was an ideal brother,just like Murtagh,who posted above, and was 100% intolerant for aforementioned violence as I said and recognized absolutely no excuse and motivation for it, so is my Father Bogoslav,I love and respect him so much... God bless such noblehearted men and such true knightly warriors,don't come across them everyday and everywhere! They're more precious than jewels.I'm grateful God sent me such gifts,took one with Him and other is on Earth yet,with me.

I know God and Jesus Christ desire to lavish their love on me, show me great and marvelous things and take away all my sufferings and tribulations,greatest encouragers and good shepherds.

Lord be with you eternally,dear :)

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on April 03, 2011:

Tatiana, PS> KNOW THE LORD LOVES YOU! Nothing that has ever transpired in your life is unknown to the HIM! He is continuing to work it all out for your GOOD! There is no doubt in regards to the horrific decadence and insensitivity of those who forced themselves upon you out of their weaknesses… To even attempt to control you through scientific experimentation is unspeakable… Yet you have demonstrated along with Diana & Margaret you can rise above it! This is why we are to “OVERCOME evil with GOOD!” Yet, you have managed to overcome them by being STRONGER ! Thank the Lord for giving you a loving compassionate brother who was a warrior for the LORD to help you through! What a special Blessing to have a God fearing man of God who is a wonderful fatherly role model to help you through all of this as well! No doubt the Lord Loves you and continues to “Supply all your needs according to His riches in Christ Jesus!

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on April 03, 2011:

Tatiana, THANK YOU! Diana & Margaret stories are truly heartfelt! As you stated; “I believe God can send happiness and blessing even in most horrendous sufferings and atrocities...” Amen! I so agree. Both of these ladies are excellent and inspiring examples of what is possible when one perseveres through the tumultuous tests and trials of life! They have succeeded victoriously despite extreme circumstances which is commendable and encouraging! I applaud you and both of them as well for sharing these most interesting life experiences! It also speaks volumes to all of us of the importance of having respect for the “gift of life!” and having FAITH in GOD! YES ALL THREE OF YOU are STRONG HEROIC WOMEN!!!

Thank you for stopping by to share your amazing story as well! This will serve to further help and encourage many more… Thank you for being such a wonderful example of what the Grace of God in one’s life does… It is evident that the POWER of HIS LOVE is far greater than words can explain and you too have emerged VICTORIOUSLY! PRAISE GOD! In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings! GOD BLESS YOU!!

Tatiana on April 01, 2011:

P.S. Even if I suffered a real martyrdom, including "scientific experiments" on me which I forgot to mention,I know God Almighty is ALWAYS here,He and His Son Jesus Christ will receive with my soul in their loving arms when I leave this world peacefully,I will see again my dearest older brother Matija,who died unfortunately in war, he was a true honest christian warrior, NEVER EVER IN ANY CASE and BY NO MEANS touching women,no matter what their religion,race was,killing and fighting ONLY men,unlike those heathens who forced themselves on me or Diana,I remember he shot down his own soldiers,whom he commanded,so great and strong was his hatred for violence on women.He was always very tender and kind to me,he was able to face my pregnancy with me,always helped and took care of me,like true protective brother and I know he would be a wonderful uncle and now is in Heaven!!!

I find true comfort in prayer and Bible meditations,with my priest(I belong to Orthodox Church),who's like a real father to me. :)

Tatiana on April 01, 2011:

My God,this hib is simply beautiful and encouraging like your other ones :)

I'm so touched by Diana's and Margaret's stories. Such women are true heroines in my eyes. I believe God can send happiness and blessing even in most horrendous sufferings and atrocities. I know how hard and difficult is to bear the child conceived by violence, being a single mother,I experienced it,too, but I'm still pro-life and think that we must never kill the unborn baby because of the crime committed by his/her "father", besides,it's a human being and not mere "bunch of cells". I experienced multiple types of abuse: war and prison rape,beating,torture,insults,forced prostitution and harassments continuously,permanently,day and night, starving in inhuman conditions of rape camps.I was like a living corpse,suffered after this ordeal numerous physical and mental problems,bleedings,infections, fears,nightmares,depression etc. all what is called rape traumatical disorder,but I had healthy and beautiful children and loved them at the first sight.I don't mind who is their "father",they're only mines.. GOD and my sweet babies helped me to recover and now,I live perfectly.I don't regret my choice of rejecting abortion.Some say, rape children become aggressive and violent rapists too,(?!) what a nonsense.My girl has nothing of agressiveness and neither my boy,he will be a good and honest man,I know that!!!

Three stories here of women who had rape children, impressive!!! That is a true heroism,in my opinion.


Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on March 28, 2011:

Almasi, You are so welcome! God truly is AWESOME! Thank you for stopping by to share! Please do come again, In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings!

almasi on March 27, 2011:

Thanks for an inspiring hub and for reminding us that we can be strong women in the Lord and in the power of His might.

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on March 23, 2011:

Diana, You inspire me... You are so very welcome!

Diana on March 23, 2011:

Thank you,thank you,thank you for your kind words:))) GOD BLESS YOU TOO

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on March 16, 2011:

Diana, So glad you have been encouraged by this! You are a strong woman! It is unfortunate that you had to grow through all of this… You are a living testimony of what happens when you persevere rather than give up you have pressed forward! You have not allowed a very painful season in your life to stop you… This is admirable! Praise GOD!

I find it interesting that they perceived it as exerting power on you by violating you! This really shows their own weakness and insecurity that they had to take advantage of you… They were in no way “warriors” for the Lord!... This only further showed their religious inferiority and misguided ignorance! To impose such horrendous treatment upon you… Remember how the Lord too suffered much pain for us on the cross! He deserved none of it neither did you… You have emerged victoriously. You came away with two lives that you can wonderfully shape with the Love the Lord has instilled in you for them!

Life is a precious gift from God! I am thankful to hear that from this harsh mistreatment that you continue to prevail! You have managed to overcome evil with GOOD! You have overcome your captives by loving the children that the Lord has entrusted to you! Your trauma is quite understandable. But it is important that you always keep in mind that in no way shape or form was it your fault. I pray that as each day passes that any bitterness turns to joy and the Love of God grows deeper and wider to cover any and all inner pain. Know that the Lord loves you and He can heal you everywhere you heart! "The Lord can keep you in oerfect Peace when your mind is stayed on HIM!" Isaiah 26. Your children have God as their Father along with a terrifically strong mother! They are reminders of God's Love for you, your strength and the GRACE of GOD actively present in your life!

Diana, Thank you for sharing, I pray that others too are inspired by your tenacity and determination! May the Lord Bless and Keep you and may each day bring you closer to Him! Yes! God is with you and HE will never leave you nor forsake you! The Blood of Jesus is Powerful you have been shielded by the power of His Holy Spirit! Keep Looking Up! May the Fruit of the Spirit of the Lord bountifully multiply in your life! GOD BLESS YOU!

Diana on March 15, 2011:

Hello,Deborah,I'm extremely delighted to discover such reassuring and inspirational hubs... I remember Margaret's comment, who posted that she was a victim of assault and had babies.Well,same happened to me,but several times.Once,I was forced by my own abusive and drunkard step-father,became pregnant,but lost poor baby after he beat me repeatedly,so,I suffered an awful miscarriage... then,it produced during war(I come from Bosnia,but now live in U.S.) the death camp,soldiers committed a typical war and prison rape crimes continuously on me,in name of "divine revenge and God","ethnic purification and chastizement",they wanted to show their religious,ethnic "superiority' and "domination";etc.... this was simply atrocious and horrible as earthly Hell.I became pregnant again and bore twins,and we have a wonderful relationship,like in Margaret's case.Even if I still have some psychological trauma(less serious though)from that experience,I always know that God is mreciful and loving,He gave me the strength to overcome the emotional struggles,and He has never ever laft me alone,nor He will ever do so.Those "christian" warriors weren't supposed to do what they've done,they ended up in prison after the war and no doubt,got their punishment.Today,I live peacefully,with my two lovely children,who didn't choose their father and don't even know who he was,neither do I and of course with God..I believe,one day,He will wipe away every tear,and will disappear every suffering of each woman who experienced the same horrors like mines,regardless of their age,race,religion,..suffered from spousal,incestuous,war,prison or any other kind of rape,abuse,and violence,be it physical,emotional,moral..

P.S.Oh,and there's a very moving and interesting Peruvian-Spanish movie by Claudia Llosa "La teta asustada"-Milk of Sorrow, literally afraid of scared breast,it's about an introverted young woman whose mother was raped shortly after childbirth,and her fears and memories of horrible experience was transmitted by her breastmilk to her daughter,many other Peruvian women shared the same fate...Very good and beautiful film :)

GOD BLESS YOU and KEEP UP your beautiful,and terribly good work! :)

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on February 28, 2011:

DR Pastorcarlotta, You are so welome! Yes you are a great woman of God! Be encouraged! Thank You! In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings! GOD BLESS YOU!

Pastor Dr Carlotta Boles from BREAKOUT MINISTRIES, INC. KC on February 26, 2011:

Wonderful, well written encouraging Hub. Thank you my friend! I am woman! lol, lol, Love you! Voted-Up!

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on December 06, 2010:

Murtagh, May the Lord Bless & Keep You and draw you closer to HIM! Continue to seek the LORD above all else...

THANK GOD for JESUS CHRIST! HE is the only pure and HOLY LAMB of GOD it is because of HIM we have the gift of eternal life through HIS plan of SALVATION... To GOD BE the GLORY!

In HIS Love & Service, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings!

Murtagh on December 04, 2010:

the loss of our parents could not make me forget,that for you,my darling little sister,I feel enormous love,much greater than the whole world,that despite of numerous hardships of orphanage I have endured,I've never fell in despair because of you,my adored princess.

Then now,I want to tell you that for eternity,you are in my heart and you are the only one who brings me hope

and light.If I have so much strength and courage,to fight again and again in this life which is difficult,hard and sometimes unfair,it's because of you,my beautiful flower,and our Lord,who gave birth to you for me,for you're my main motivation that allows me to move forward in the right path,paved in your sweet and pretty light.

I know you're proud of your brother,who loves you the most and the best.I know you see my soul,sheltered in disguise,you see my true heart,which appears to the eyes of earthly men to be cold,but it's just wounded by past scars I bear.... Everytime I thank our Lord for giving me such a treasure and for giving me a strength to sacrifice myself for you. Until my last breath,I will pray for you,I will see your face again and today,you are the air I breathe,my source of well being,reason of my existence. I would shout out loud that I love you madly,with a pure,true and sincere brotherly love,infinitely greater than material Earth.

Over the seas and over the lands,whenever I go,I won't be able to survive without you.Even if I die,I will watch you from above,when you will cry my death with pure sisterly tears,tender as blue violets.

Remember,that you are for me,my one and only love,my own cherished flesh and blood,strong woman of God,my shining star,my lovable white lamb.

I enjoy to give you an embrace,put my arms protectively around you,for soothing every pain of your little noble heart,to tell you that you can sleep quietly,for I'm here,to be a guardian of your sweet dreams.....I will never get tired of being with you!!!!

P.S. Oh,I feel fine,because I could finally express my feelings..Thank you for existing,and also for your touching hubs,keep up your good work!

God bless you eternally.In His love,grace and mercy!!

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on October 29, 2010:

TreasuresofHeaven, THANK YOU! So glad that you have been inspired! God Bless you and Please do come again to share!

In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings!

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on October 29, 2010:

Rowena, GOD Bless YOU!

Sima Ballinger from Michigan on October 29, 2010:

Wonderful reflection. This is very inspiring. Bless you for the work you do for the Kingdom Deborrah!

Rowena on October 25, 2010:

Thank you,dear. :)))

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on October 24, 2010:

Rowena, Yes! We must encourage Anna to keep moving forward… It is okay to remember from where you have come, but not to allow it to take away from where you are going now! There is much spiritual warfare that has taken place in an attempt to derail and discourage her… I think as a friend your concerns for Anna are admirable… Praise God for the ongoing Victory in her life as she continues to go forward! It is important to make a conscious effort to not let anyone pull you away from focusing on the Lord’s purpose for you… The “JOY” of the Lord” is where one’s spiritual strength resides!

I am thankful that this ministered to Anna. What has happened cannot be undone. But there is always Hope in the Lord! God truly can make a difference in your life! Your being there for her speaks volumes… So TRUE! The Lord will not abandon her! Together you can encourage one another which will help immensely to build healthier and happier memories….

Thank you for sharing, In HIS Love, Grace, Peace & Blessings!

Rowena on October 23, 2010:

Anna,darling,don't let disagreable memories haunt you all the time :)

And Deborrah,thank you for such wonderful work :) actually,my friend Anna was a victim of constant bullyings,offensive inuendos,gross sexist comments and mockeries at high school,inasmuch as she was virgin,she never drank,never smoked and so on.Students suggested her ironically to strip on student parties,even worse,star in porn videos,or films.School psychologists,both women and men,insulted her because of her morals and religion,added to this the offensive jokes and stories in school paper.Moreover,some drunk guys once tried to kidnap her,(in their logic,for fun)drug and violate her,there was also a small satanist group and I can't even imagine what horryfying acts would they commit..This shocked her so much,she even wanted to kill them,burn school building then commit suicide,thank God He saved her from this.Later instead,she remembered to phone to her family.....poor girl! her situation was so overwhelming,we needed together to try everything for her recovery..

Now today,she's okay.As she said,she's really very emotional and sensitive,she can cry or get angry easily when something or someone makes lose her control.But she's the sweetest and nicest adorable girl I've ever seen.Sometimes she curses very hard "shitty bunch of sluts,perverts,and pseudo-scientists,artists,music,clip and film makers" who create a Hell for innocent people.She calms nerves like this.

She told me about you and your amazing hub,and how it soothed deeply her heart,hurt by the past.Thank you for existing,continue your activity,you're certainly blessed by God :) He won't abandon our Anna and will protect her from all evil,I hope she will forget little by little her sufferings and concentrate on pleasant things.

God bless you uncountable times! :)

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on October 18, 2010:

Patricia, THANK YOU! You are quite welcome! Feel free to share your thoughts and concerns... Hmmm perhaps:

Let me know what you think?

Thank you for stopping by to share. Please do come again! have a wonderfully blessed day!

God Bless you!

Patricia on October 18, 2010:

Thank you for your kind words,dear Deborrah,glad you loved my long comment.As an Irishwoman,I'm very talkative both in English and Gaelic in my Baile an Sceilg(Ballinskelligs) village :D

Do you have any other articles like this one? It's always very nice to find people who do such great and helpful work.

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on October 17, 2010:

Patricia, I think that being a woman is an honor! The fact that God made each one of us uniquely is so amazing… Yet as individuals He has given us all basic principles in His Word to live by. It is your choice if you want His Light to shine through you... The world continues to attempt to redefine and change those principles.

If one studies the women Jesus encountered during the time He was on earth in a sinless body of flesh; you will discover that there were exceptional relationships between them.

Childbirth in itself is a spectacular, yet, daily miracle! The Lord allows life to grow and mature in the womb of us as women. This is a beautiful experience… It is clear regardless if one admits it or not that they did not create the child it is a marvelous mystery… Yet such a wonder to behold. Children are only momentarily entrusted to us for a season! Think about it… The Lord knows the eternal destiny of each of us. He is the Creator & Sustainer of Life. It is in a relationship with Him one can grow spiritually. Becoming a strong woman means knowing who your are through Jesus Christ!

Today many do not want to acknowledge that there are physical as well as mannerisms that are different between men and woman and this should be, However this does not mean less than nor unequal it just means different. I think that those differences should be respected... The world would cease to exist if those differences did not remain… Rather than embrace the world’s ever changing concepts to redefine mankind I believe It is important to seek out the Lord to discover your individual purpose! It is important to KNOW His Word! Yes! I think we should be proud of ourselves as women! To GOD Be The GLORY!

Thank you for sharing your thoughts as well as words of encouragement! God Bless You! Please do come again. In His Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings!

Patricia on October 15, 2010:

Dia dhuit(hello,literally-God be with you)! :)I read both your articles with pleasure,I really loved them!

I've always been sure very firmly that being a woman is an immense honor.No matter what earthly world's opinion is.I know,there are some people who say derisively,"oh,what's good in being woman?!,they suffer in childbirth,they hadn't any rights since the beginning of our humanity,they're weak,there were no female geniuses in history.."and all this kind of blablabla. Well,I would answer to them: first of all, physical strength isn't necessary for surviving,then, childbirth isn't that horrible thing,it's a miraculous experience,it's creating a new life,new child of God!!! I have a lot of friends here,in Ireland,who tell me that they feel more energetic,beautiful,more compassionate and more powerful after their babies.So,this doesn't uglify nor destroy woman's health.

It isn't a simple hazard that a lot of words are led with word mother.

We,Irish have one wonderful proverb : A man loves his sweetheart the most,his wife the best,but his mother the longest." According to Bible,we are all made from the dust ground,and when we die,we return to our "mother",

Really beautiful symbolism...

I want to say also,that it isn't necessary to be Einstein,Da Vinci,Mozart.To be Genius doesn't mean only creating marvelous statues,paintings,writing romans,poems,or music.Of course,they had a talent given from Him,but in my opinion,if you're blessed by God,if you're capable to do everything for Him,if you have a spiritual wisdom and if you can resist the vanities of this world,you're already a godly genius.

Were not all the saints,martyrs geniuses? women weren't inventors,builders of architectural sights,so what?!

There were instead various virgins,married women,widows,young or old ladies,who lived only for Christ,either in monasteries,or they suffered a martyrdom.Not to mention numerous great female leaders... I always remember the epic line,said by English queen Elizabeth:" I may have the body of a feeble and weak woman,but I have the heart and stomach of a king!" what amazing words...

Indeed,strength and leadership of a woman has another charm,no less admirable,as Morrigan said. :) I don't underestimate men nor I'm disrespectful of them by my long monologue,no,not at all,simply I wanted to say that we must be proud and joyful to be women. :)

May God be with you and bless you,grant you many years to live,give you strengh to keep up the good work.

Slainte (cheers) !!!

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on October 13, 2010:

Anna, The LORD knows your heart! "The TRUTH sets you FREE!" We are forever in the process of "BECOMING...." KEEP looking to HIM HE will give you "HIS PEACE" that surpasses the understanding of man.... In HIS Love, Joy Peace & Blessings! GOD BLESS YOU!

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on October 13, 2010:

Selena, BEAUTIFUL! So glad you have been encouraged and inspired! I TRULY LOVE being a feminine woman in every way! GOD truly is GOOD! It is a Blessing to be a woman who loves the LORD! It is in HIM you can discover your true purpose in life!

I think it is important to be “The BEST You!” you can be. God has made us all uniquely… Knowing that HE LOVES us is medicine for the soul! Yes in HIS eyes we are precious… PRAISE GOD!!! Yes! THANK YOU LORD for opening my HEART To be a woman that LOVES YOU! Thank you for a husband who LOVES YOU and me as well...

We must strive to become Women of EXCELLENCE in the LORD!

Thank you for stopping by to share your wonderful words that will serve to encourage others. You are always welcome! GOD is truly WORTHY of ALL the PRAISE! Let HIS LIGHT shine through you... Let’s live to make HIM proud and bring GLORY TO HIS NAME….

Anna on October 13, 2010:

Oh yes,I've been indeed very radical and harsh. :) I was rather a little bit angry on that situation I described.. generally I'm very emotional and sometimes something bad,or unpleasant makes me crazy,but it's not very long,I calm down few minutes after. :)

Selena-an excellent comment,good for you.. :)

Selena on October 13, 2010:

Very touching and beautiful article :)

What a miracle is being a woman!!! God gave us so many virtues,I just can't express how I'm lucky and immensely happy because of my gender.

May all goodness come upon you,dear Deborah,and may God bless you forever,you make me remember how much we are precious in the eyes of the Lord,how much worth and dignity we have,He loves us as His beloved daughters,so strongly,that He send His only Son through feminine body of Mary,And then,how many female saints or martyrs were in ancient times,and they gave such a beauty to the world..

I say everyday with all my heart to our Heavenly Father: "thank you,MyLord,for making me a woman!" this is one of the greatest gifts He ever gave me. :)

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on October 12, 2010:

Anna, Thank you! I too am touched and humbled by your kind words… May the Lord continue to grow us in His GRACE we are “forever becoming…”

There are many spiritual landmines designed to pull us off course! It is important that we spend time daily meditating on and embracing the Lord’s Word! Much of what God has declared an abomination or perverted is being embraced by non Christians as well Christians. This is why it is so important to spend time with the Lord developing an intimate and personal relationship so one is not so easily swayed!

“Today's society doesn't want to understand that sexuality is only for marriage...” Amen! You are right; “ As a matter of fact they possibly will see you as legalistic and dogmatic… There are some definite things that the Lord has told us to void… No need at all to be paranoid! But It is important to be mindful of those who mean us harm. Self defense classes should be welcomed and promoted...

As you stated, “But anyway,we have to be active and vigilant,we must not surrender to perversion,evil and Satan's web,I'm sure God will give us courage of soul to face this challenge. Let's pray God to protect us and give us strength to endure vigorously.. “ Yes, Becoming a strong woman means to be aware of what is going on about you at all times…

Thank You for sharing, Please do come again! In HIS Love, Joy Peace & Blessings! GOD BLESS YOU AS WELL!

Anna on October 10, 2010:

Dear Deborah,I must tell you that your Godly words or blessings touch deep to hearts,fill them with spiritual wisdom and with joy.God bless you eternally and keep up the good work!!! :)

I totally agree with Eowynmaiden. One of the threat that lies upon us,christian women is the universal immorality,in the form of pornography,"sexy" image of woman,sexualisation of woman's body,legalisation of prostitution,porn videos,immoral fanfiction or literature,declaring homosexual,incestuous acts,masturbation and adultery as normal, a Freudian so-called psychology,which denies all morals,all divine values and presents human being as sexual beast,pollutes even the most intimate,loving and pure brother-sister,father-daughter,mother-son relationships,verbal offensive slang against women, and other disgusting abominations.... most immature men and guys go angry when virtuous women don't respond their lustful desires,that's why they insult them,inspired by Devil.Doctors are sinful too,for declaring such godly women as asexual,frigid and so on.Some declare this godless behaviour a "sexual freedom"(?!) and say they're proud to be perverts.I even discovered a sect of christians who propose a "christian pornography",justify other forms of sexual activity as "given by God".Either they are serious,or they're kidding and make fun of christian morals,I don't know,their website:"".I glipmsed it by accident,but it's so sickening,I couldn't read and all that I can say,is that sadly,even some christians are touched by total corruption.

Today's society doesn't want to understand that sexuality is only for marriage,if a person wants a normal relationship,he or she can marry and live happily,but if a person wants to stay single,then he or she must keep body and mind purely,because our body is a holy temple.In the one hand,we have a God-given free will to choose whether or not to marry,and on the other hand,we have an OBLIGATION,in both cases,to stay pure by soul.

In my opinion,women and girls must develop a self-defence attitude towards this immense threat,and treat their bodies as sacrosanct,Holy Temples,we must dress modestly,get rid of everything impure,avoid the dangerous society,when it's possible,and not to give lustful men any right to touch our chastity.I have some female friends,who practice martial arts and wrestle for this purpose :) Of course,there are pathological rapists,and sadly,even the most chaste women can become victim of their violence :((( But anyway,we have to be active and vigilant,we must not surrender to perversion,evil and Satan's web,I'm sure God will give us courage of soul to face this challenge. Let's pray God to protect us and give us strength to endure vigorously.. God bless you again,and be joyful :)

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on October 07, 2010:

Eowynmaiden, Thank You! The Lord has provided us with a plethora of marvelous examples of strong women in His WORD! I am not really familiar with the “Lord of the Rings” but I look forward to taking some time to view it to see it for any spiritual value…. I can relate to a degree…. I see myself as a “Handmaiden of the Lord!” PRAISE GOD!

‘It's sad that when we say the word strong woman,people associate this with masculine,mean woman,who looks like a man in stature,voice or something like that…” So true I think it is a beautiful thing to be a woman in the truest since of the word is to be “strong in the LORD!” We are made to be feminine and I enjoy all the things that come along with being a woman…. We are not men and should not want to be like them. We should respect one another’s rightful place in life… The Lord has made each of us different and has a place and position we alone can fulill…. We should be the Best “Me” we can be….

Everything belongs to the Lord.. “The earth is the Lord and the fullness thereof the world and them that dwell therein..” Psalms 24. As we are obedient to Him He will lead us and help us through Jesus Christ to be All He created us to be…. THANK GOD for JESUS!

Thank you! I am humbled by your kind words and most appreciative for the Lord’s constant presence in my life! YES! “I am proud to be a woman!” Again thank you! God Bless You! To GOD Be The GLORY!

Thank you for sharing, In HIS Love, Joy, Peace & Blessings!

Eowynmaiden on October 02, 2010:

Thank you,Deborah,for this amazing and heartwarming article. :) I've always admired women with great spiritual strengh,I greatly admire female saints and martyrs,especially Virgin Mary,I'm always amazed by christian Queens,great historical ladies who cared for their people and land,for example,Elizabeth the 1st....

You know,I'm a huge fan of Lord of the Rings trilogy,and my favorite female character is Lady Eowyn of Rohan. Because she reminds me spiritual warriors,admire her courage and fighting skills,also because she usually wears beautiful white dresses. For me,she's a symbol of bold,courageous christian woman,gifted with powerful divine energies,a daughter of Kings,and her white garment-our future immaterial clothes,which will be given us in Heaven,with immaterial bodies.I feel like a shieldmaiden of God,I totally trust Him,for He gives me an inner strengh,I wish to be His warrior,spread fearlessly His word.

It's sad that when we say the word strong woman,people associate this with masculine,mean woman,who looks like a man in stature,voice or something like that.. and God-like ladies of dignity and nobility,who speak with honor,behave quite differently from modern "ideal" "sexy" women,are even called "bitches". It's also sad that feminists forgot a real equality of woman with man: an equal worth,equal Holiness before God,not equal salaries,professions,brains and so on. In God,we are One,man and woman,equal in His Heaven.

And you,are the strong woman,Deborah,for encouraging us with divine words.God bless you,Ms K.Ogans :)

I'm proud to be a woman... it says everything.

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on August 10, 2010:



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Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on July 09, 2010:

Eirene, Thank you for taking the time to stop by and share! So glad you have been encouraged! Yes! I pray others are encouraged as well! In HIS Love & Peace! God BLESS you!

EIRENE JOY on July 09, 2010:


Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on June 21, 2010:

GmaGoldie. Thank you! So nice of you to stop by and share! Please do come again! In HIS Love, Peace & Blessings!

Kelly Kline Burnett from Madison, Wisconsin on June 17, 2010:

Great Hub - and the photos were wonderful too!

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on May 18, 2010:

Madison, You are quite welcome! So nice of you to stop by and share! Have a beautifully blessed day! In His love, Peace & Blessings!

Madison from NYC on May 18, 2010:

Thank you Deborrah! A great article on being a strong Godly woman. I enjoyed reading it very much for thing this morning. :)

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on April 05, 2010:

Andrea, So glad that you were encouraged! Each day is an opportunity for a new beginning! God makes all the difference in the world! Draw close to Him He has a purpose and a plan just for you!

Thank you for visiting and sharing! Please do come again, Peace & Blessings!

andrea on April 05, 2010:

great words of wisdom and encouragement. It really did bless my spirit, learnt different ways to gain strength from the Lord daily.

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on March 12, 2010:

Marliza, Thank you for stopping by! Please do come again, Peace & Blessings!

Marliza Gunter on March 11, 2010:

Nice blessed

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on January 16, 2010:

Itakins, "Keeping feminity intact" is important especially so in this 21st century!

The strength of a strong woman comes from her relationship with the Lord and by honoring Him and His principles. This is what gives you "security and signficance." Your relationship with your spouse is a reflection of your love for the Lord. Thank you for visiting, In His love & Blessings!

itakins from Irl on January 16, 2010:

DeBorrah K-

I like the reference to strength, and keeping femininity intact-so often a strong woman is confused with feminists rather than feminity.

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on December 01, 2009:

H.a.Borcich, You are quite welcome! "The JOY of the LORD is your Strength," I am glad that you are encouraged. Thank you for sharing and please do come again. Blessings!

h.a.borcich on December 01, 2009:


Thank you for writing this hub. The world does not recognize the value of a Godly woman. Drawing closer to God is where I find my stregnth to be all that He calls me to be, and your hub has encouraged me to stay focused. Holly

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on November 25, 2009:

Myownworld, Thank you and I am so glad that you have been inspired! Thank you for your gracious comments! You have inspired me as well! Thank you for sharing and visiting. Please do come again, Blessings!

myownworld from uk on November 25, 2009:

inspiring words as always....may many find comfort and courage in them. keep spreading light and joy wherever you go! all my love x

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on November 23, 2009:

Precious Pearl, Thank You! It really is a Blessing to know who we are through Christ Jesus! Having Him in our lives makes ALL the difference in the world. His precious Holy Spirit is an ever present Comforter! The JOY of the LORD is our strength! Again THANK YOU for stopping by and sharing, Be encouraged!!! Blessings to you as well my Sisiter in Christ!

Dawn Bostick on November 19, 2009:

Hi Deborrah, EXCELLENT! It always blesses me when another woman of God encourages us to remember who and whose we are! We are strong in Him! I appreciate your wisdom and insight!! Blessings & Love, My Dear Sister in Christ!

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on November 19, 2009:

Sweetie 1, You are quite welcome! I see there are some women in India who are beautiful strong and feminine. Thank you for sharing! Please do come again. Blessings!

sweetie1 from India on November 19, 2009:

Thanks for such a great Hub.. we got some in history in India.. One name which came to mind is Rani Laxmi Bai who till her husband was alive was very feminine but when her husband died and British rulers tried to take over her empire she fought them tooth and nail till she breath her last.

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on November 17, 2009:

Seriina, This is so true! I am glad that you have been encouraged! Thank you for visiting and yes well said; "God's Grace is sufficient." Blessings!

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on November 17, 2009:

Rev Lady, The Word of God contains a plethora of wisdom and examples that are priceless! As we continue to share the benefits therein as well as principles others will seek its bountiful treasure! When embraced those principles will and can give one strength and a true sense of who you are or can be through Jesus Christ! Thank you! Your comments are welcome and thank you for sharing, In His Love, Blessings!

Seriina from Anywhere on November 16, 2009:

In order to know God personally a woman must have an ongoing relationship with Him!

Once again, your words are encouraging and such a reminder! Gods grace IS sufficient:) Thank you!

RevLady from Lantana, Florida on November 16, 2009:

An honest presentation on the characteristics of strong women in Christ Jesus. It not only highlights the strength exhibited by certain biblical women, but it also accentuates how this strength is (or should be) manifested in our everyday lives today. Thanks DeBorrah for another gifted hub.

"She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. Proverbs 31:17. enjoyable Reading.

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on November 15, 2009:

Madison22, Thank you! You are quite welcome and thank you for taking time to stop by! Blessings!

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on November 15, 2009:

Lady E, Thank You! Remember, "Greater is HE that is in you, than he that is in the world..." I pray you grow stronger as each day passes... I thank God for you! Thank you and as always it is a pleasure, Enjoy your week as well! Blessings!!!

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on November 15, 2009:

JesusmyJoy, Thank you sis! Blessings!!

Madison from NYC on November 15, 2009:

Thank you for a very nice hub.

Elena from London, UK on November 15, 2009:

Thanks again for an inspiring Hub. I pray God makes me a strong woman, particularly inside me.

I like the way you help me with my prayer points.

Have a Blessed week and may God prepare you for the challenging tasks you have at hand. The anointing makes the difference :)

Betty Bolden from Bucyrus Ohio on November 15, 2009:

wonderful hub sis

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on November 14, 2009:

BkCreative, God creating man and woman really was a marvelous event. We just need to keep in mind why He really created us. Instead of looking to the world which continues to redefine who we are meant to be we need to look to God's Word!

Thank you for sharing. I must go over and visit one of your wonderful creative hubs! Blessings!

BkCreative from Brooklyn, New York City on November 14, 2009:

A nice tribute to the beauty and strength that is woman. Sometimes we forget who we are.

Thanks for this hub!

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans (author) on November 14, 2009:

Nobody, You are right my brother, when God is in the center of your marriage there is not a power struggle. A strong healthy marriage takes two strong people. You really do want what is best for one another. Being a strong man or woman does not mean doing any and everythng you want to do nor trying to dominate and control someone else.

This is why I have come to appreciate you because you genuinely are looking to encourage the Lord's Way in life and that is where it is! I always welcome your keen spiritual insight. Time is of the essence and I know you see the big picture! We are a collective body of believers connected by The Holy Spirit. As Ephesians says; "...but speaking the TRUTH in LOVE, may grow up in ALL things into HIM who is the HEAD - CHRIST from whom the whole Body is joined together by what every joint supplies. according to the effective working by which every part does its share, causes growth of the Body for the edifying of itself in LOVE."

I agree with the healthy co-dependent statement you have made. Like co workers or co pilots you challenge and encourage one another to do things God's way! (This is not at all like the term codependency as in a dysfunctional relationship....) Thank you for doing your part! Love to you as well, Bob Much Blessings