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Attract Your Soulmate by Making a List

You Have the Power to Attract Your Soulmate

One day I realized that I was in one dead-end relationships after another because I really didn’t know what I was looking for in a partner. I strongly believe that creating my list helped me: A. Attract my Soulmate and B. Set higher standards for myself.

It didn’t happen overnight but I did meet my Soulmate! I swear we share the same brain.

1. Brainstorming

Think of what you want and don’t want in a mate. If you’re not sure at first, write down things you do not want in a partner and by contrast, what you DO want will become clear.

Be as specific as possible. If you write: “I want a good man” this will send a general message to the Soulmate universe and God only knows what you’ll get.

Be creative and have fun with this exercise, for your excitement is part of what attracts your Soulmate!

Examples of traits /qualities

  • Honest
  • Financially stable
  • Lives in or near my city
  • Athletic/physically fit
  • High sex drive
  • Faithful
  • Great sense of humour
  • Employed/good career

2. Create a Draft of Your List

Now you’re ready to build your list. It should contain only positive statements. For example, if you want to attract someone who is not lazy, write: I want someone who is physically active. I know it seems crazy but this makes a difference.

After you’ve transformed the negative statements into positive ones, discard all of the negative statements that you had written in the brainstorming session. Your Soulmate won’t come to you when you’re negative.

3. Start Your List With at Least 10 Statements

You should now have a much better idea of what you’re looking for in a man.

Start with at least 10 points. As you think of other attributes you’re seeking in the man of your dreams, add them to your list. As you do this, only keep the latest version with all of the most current points.

4. Make Each Entry Meaningful

Although your Soulmate list is intended to be a “living” document that can be updated at will, don’t be too quick to remove statements or add new ones. The attraction happens when there is some meaning behind each entry.

5. How Long Should the List Be?

There really is no magic number of points that you should have on your list. Mine had 30 points. Here’s how I knew my list was complete. Of those 30 points, there wasn’t one I would have taken out and I couldn’t think of one more thing to add. You’ll know your list is complete when you reach this conclusion.

6. Keep It to Yourself

I know it can be quite exciting to “order” your perfect match from the Soulmate catalogue but you really should keep the list a secret. I am not an expert in energy transference but please just trust me. It works when you don’t share it with anyone…why risk it?

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Use Your List to Attract Your Soulmate

So the idea is not to write the list and forget about it.

Think about when you write a grocery list and leave it at home…what good is that? You need to use your list and do so often.

Take out your list and read it with confidence and conviction that it will happen. Be grateful in advance, visualize him when you go over each trait you've chosen and see the two of you being together in your mind’s eye.

What to Do When a Potential Soulmate Comes Along

Imagine that while you’re out with girlfriends, you meet a man you think is Soulmate material. DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT TAKE OUT YOUR LIST to conduct a 30 point interview! Act as you normally would and don’t over-analyze him. This is not the time to make comparisons between the man you’ve just met and your checklist.

Once you’ve gotten to know more about this new man, start to compare what’s on your list with what he’s offering. Allow yourself some time to reflect on whether or not he does meet your expectations. It would be uncommon for a man to reveal everything about himself during the first meeting so don’t dismiss him if he’s not scoring high on your list at this point.

Don't Settle

If the man, however, has some serious shortcomings and/or does not meet most of the requirements on your list, let him know and let him go immediately. Be upfront and honest by telling him that you are not interested in pursuing any type of relationship and then move on. Don’t make the mistake so many women make by overlooking the early signs that a relationship is destined for disaster.

Realistically, you may fall madly in love, marry and grow old with a man who doesn’t have each and every point on your wish list and that’s fine. Just don’t settle for a man who does not meet your standards.

Put the power of attraction at work right away and create your list! Have fun and good luck!

I welcome your comments about your list-writing experience and of course…On how you met your Soulmate!


hubpages on October 30, 2015:

what happens if you tell someone? (about your list) will it not work anymore? or will you just have to stop talking about it?

kavita on February 10, 2014:

gud one to believe

laura on January 23, 2014:

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