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Aromantics and Asexuals and the LGBT Community

There are many gatekeepers to the LGBT+ community who argue that aromantics and asexuals do not belong in the community. Their argument is that we do not experience romantic or sexual attraction, we should not be welcomed into a community that started out as a safe place for gay and lesbian people.

The thing of it is that this argument would mean the exclusion of trans* and bisexual people, since trans* and bisexual people might still be in straight relationships. Excluding them would mean taking out both the “B” and the “T” in the acronym, and both of them are reportedly integral to the identity of the community.

Since aromantics and asexuals are both groups of people who are outlayers to the heterosexual community (since they do not experience romantic or asexual attraction), that should include them in a community that is for people who do not fit or belong with the heterosexual community. While it is possible for aromantics and asexuals to be in heteroromantic or heterosexual relationships, that does not mean that we are part of the heterosexual community (just the way bisexual and trans* people are not part of the hetero community, even if they are in a hetero relationship).

If both of these groups are so integral to the community’s identity that they are part of the acronym, and yet, they are both capable of being in straight relationships (which would keep them out of the community per the gatekeeper’s arguments), shouldn’t that mean that aromantics and asexuals should be a part of the community as well?

When you come down to it, the LGBT+ community is (and should be) for anyone who is not cis-gengered and/or heteronormative. Aromantics and asexuals certainly fit that requirement as neither group is heteronormative (even if anyone who identifies as either might still be in a straight relationship). And really, isn’t there enough room in the community for either of these groups? The community is supposed to be a place where those who do not belong with cis and/or straight people to find acceptance.

Instead of excluding people who do not feel they belong with cis or straight people, there should be room for them, and they should be given the love and inclusion the community should be giving to sexual and romantic minorities.

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