Jen has graduated from St. Thoms Aquanis College in May of 2009 with a B.A. in Communications. She loves writing about relationships.
Sometimes in life you meet people to help get you on the right track because maybe before the track you were on were not the one for you. It is not always a coincidence that you meet a guy and all of a sudden your whole view on life changes and you become a better person. After all that is what a soulmate is. Someone who teaches us things and makes us become the best version of ourself.
Just because someone is our soulmate does not mean that they will stay in our life forever. I have actually read that there are three kinds of people you will meet somewhere who will change your life forever that person is your Soul Mate, Kindred Spirit and Twin Flame.
A Soul Mate is someone who breaks you out of your comfort zone and there are many twists and turns. There are ups and downs. Sometimes you feel like it is love but it is not. When it is time to say good bye it really hurts because you actually thought that that person was the one for you.
A Kindred Spirit is someone whom you have common interest and they help heal your past relationship and teach you things about yourself.
A twin flame is someone who is also like your Soul Mate but that person is more like the one. There is always a runner and a chaser. You will meet this person time and time again throughout your lifetime. Each of you have been hurt in your past and you heal each other you teach each other things and balance each other out. You bring out the best in each other and make each other grow as a person.
As for all of the other people you meet in life the ones who you think you meet and are always putting you down and competing with you or never giving you a chance, well here is this story also. Maybe sometimes in life you never realized just that you were living the wrong life and you needed a huge wake up call.
For instance say your one of those people who are single and independent just doing their thing or only going after looks. Then one day you meet someone and you actually like this person but they end up talking to six different people and it gets into a huge mess. Maybe the life you thought you wanted to have fun and be single and go after looks and be materialistic was not the life you wanted after all.
Maybe then after you got in the mess and met someone who actually had their shit together and maybe wasn't a bodybuilder or wasn't a millionaire but had a great heart that was the guy you should have gone far and once you found that guy you never went back to the bodybuilders or the guys that wanted to play around.
I truly believe that the people we meet in life have an effect on us. There is a quote that I read on Facebook and I love it. It says "There is a role for everyone you meet. Some are there to test you. Some are there to teach you. Some are there to hurt you. Some are there love you and some are there to bring out the best in you." I truly believe that."
Sometimes in life we need to fall down to get back up. We need people when we are down to help heal us and along the way we meet people. Those people are called our angels. So if right now you are not with the one you feel you are meant to be with don't worry. There is a right person for everyone and life is a journey. It is a path and a learning experience also and you meet people along the way. The special people will be with you along time and your one true love will be with your forever and you will meet him when the time is right.
So the answer Are we destined to meet people or is it just merely coincidence? I don't believe in coincidence. I believe that some people you meet could chance your life forever in a good and bad way so be very careful who you let in your circle and if to people are meant to be together it will happen.
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dashingscorpio from Chicago on June 04, 2018:
"A Soul Mate is someone who breaks you out of your comfort zone and there are many twists and turns." Actually I think it's the opposite.
I believe a "soulmate" is someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least have a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.
Compatibility trumps compromise.
Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!
I know a lot of folks have bought into the romance novels and Hollywood movies where love is filled with "drama" and obstacles as well as power struggles and fights before living happily ever after. Some people don't believe it's "real love" unless there is drama and challenges. Frankly they'd be bored in a peaceful loving relationship.
However usually once we get older when finally figure out that finding a "soulmate" is more like feeling "at home" with them.
Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
Each of us has our mate selection process/must haves list.
Each of us has our boundaries and "deal breakers".
I believe at different stages in our lives we look for different traits in the people we choose to date and mate with. What made for an ideal mate at age 17 is usually not what we want at age 25, 30, or beyond. Heartaches help us to refine our must haves list.
We evolve over time and experience personal growth and self-development through both good and bad experiences.
ideally with age comes wisdom and we learn to make better relationship choices. I'm not sure if it was "fate" to have all those bad experiences or it was simply being too young, inexperienced, and not having figured out who (we) are or what we really needed to be happy. I don't think it's a coincidence most of us find real happiness when we are older and wiser.
Pain comes with learning from our mistakes.
"Knowledge is being aware that fire can burn, wisdom is remembering the blister." —Leo Tolstoy