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Stockings, Suspenders, and Seduction
Girls, here for your enjoyment and edification is the fabulous Gina’s Alphabetic 6 Step Guide to seduction. Here, you'll find tried and tested advice on how to attract men and what clothes to wear that guys cannot ignore.
First, a word of caution. This guide is not for loose women or girls who make a habit of one-night stands. My sage advice is don’t seduce strangers – it’s a big mistake. Save your flirtatious moves for one of two situations:
- Your current relationship needs to move up a level. You, the sensible lady that you are, have carefully managed your relationship and dictated how far things should go. Now you want to let your guy know you’re ready to raise the stakes, so to speak.
- Alternatively, your current, mature relationship, perhaps a marriage, is in the doldrums. Your man may be bored in the bedroom, and fire has gone out. Time for you to take control and fan the dying embers of your affair into flames of burning passion!
Yes, seducing strangers is a perilous journey on the rocky road to slutdom. It also demonstrates desperation. If a man is only interested in you because you make it clear you are ‘available’ and ready for a one-night stand, then the relationship is unlikely to stand the test of time.
He certainly won’t respect you and will take your affections for granted. On the other hand, the guy who is prepared to wait is much more likely to be genuinely interested in you as a person and not just what’s in it for him.
So let’s get back to seduction. Here are the six key elements based on the word SEDUCT. Without further ado, let us begin at the beginning with the letter ‘S’:
S - Seduction Is Serious but Don’t forget the Stockings and Suspenders!
First, seduction is a Serious business. It’s not a game. The biggest mistake many girls make is to assume that the less clothing they wear then the more seductive they appear. Rubbish!
A tight skirt that ends at the tops of your thighs and a top that barely covers your boobs is not seductive and means you will not be taken seriously. Dressing like a tart in public is more a sign of Surrender than seduction!
Before we go any further, we need to consider the Scenarios in which seduction might take place:
Here are three possibilities:
- Your seduction begins on a date. The more public the location the more interesting the seduction becomes!
- If you don’t cohabit, then you arrive at his place either as a surprise or for a prearranged encounter
- Alternatively, you invite him around to your place or, if you live together, you wait for him to arrive home.
For scenario 1, your seductive efforts begin with Smart, conservative clothes. Chose something that covers well but is easy to adjust to reveal more. What sort of clothes, you ask?
Think Sophisticated. A longish Skirt, figure hugging with a subtle Slit is ideal. Alternatively a skirt that unbuttons at the front. A smart blouse with a highish neck that also unbuttons at the front is ideal.
You can now control exactly how but much or little you wish to reveal by unfastening those buttons!
Possibly, the most interesting items of clothing for the female seducer are Stockings and Suspenders. I therefore dare you to wear a suspender belt (or garter belt) and stockings under that long skirt.
When the conversation in the restaurant flags, encourage him to glance under the table. You’ll find a furtive glimpse of your white thigh contrasted against a black stocking top will do wonders for his concentration. If you are dark skinned then white stockings will work just as well.
Finally, Smell. Don’t forget that a quality perfume is a great tool in the arsenal of the seducer.
E - Elegant, Entertaining and Engaging
Let’s move on to E. The second letter. In the public place seduction scenario, be Elegant, Entertaining and Engaging. Be an Extrovert. Make sure that those around you admire how you look and behave. He is sure to notice the approval of others.
Remember your End game and work towards it. At some point you need to get him alone, Ensnare him with your charms and then complete your seduction in private! Gradual Exposure (remember those buttons) should do the trick!
D - Dressing Up, Décolletage and Derrieres
Our third letter D reminds me of the joys of Dressing up. This approach is ideal for scenarios 2 and 3 but never for scenario 1, the public place.
Lets face it, you don't want people to think you are a Strippergram!
If you want to surprise your man at home then you can dress up in lingerie or an erotic costume, perhaps to fulfill a fantasy of his or even act out a fantasy of your own.
This form of seduction is not without risk however. I once went round to my then boyfriend’s house and dressed up as a French maid. I decided to surprise him when he came home from work.
The costume was pretty minimal consisting of a very short tight, low cut black dress, a tiny white apron, a frilly hat and a feather duster. I was walking down the stairs in my costume when I heard the key in the front door. I paused to dust the banister and bent over suggestively in a deliberately seductive pose.
I watched the door open but my saucy grin that quickly faded when I realised it was his mother. She stared at me disapprovingly.
“I’m just doing a little cleaning,” I said weakly.
“Don’t mind me dear, I’m just here to pick up Tom’s washing,” his mother muttered coldly.
She never mentioned it again but I’m sure her disapproval was one of the reasons Tom and I split up a few weeks later.
This brings me neatly on to Dressing gown. If you are wearing anything hot, saucy and revealing at someone else’s home then, for safety, cover yourself with a dressing gown just in case.
You just never know who might have a key! Another sound reason to wear a dressing gown is that at the moment of your choosing you can gradually allow the garment to open. Another example of exposure for maximum impact!
But enough of my adventures. D also stands for Décolletage. This is another word for cleavage and not a fancy art project. Just a reminder that for public seduction, use breast display sparingly.
As a general rule, if you have great boobs and want to show them to best advantage then keep your legs covered. On the other hand if you have great legs on display then wear a high neckline.
‘D’ also stands for Derriere. You might be surprised (or not!) to know that men also like bottoms (butts if you prefer). Wear a tight skirt or dress to show your figure off to best advantage.
As far as clothes go, the right Dress is also great for seduction and I find the Little Black Dress) or LBD seldom fails!
U - Undressing and Underwear
Next up is ‘U’. A reminder You are the key player in the seduction drama. Also a remember that at some point you may wish to Undress a little (or a lot). Think about how to accomplish this elegantly. Make sure you wear some great Underwear and give some thought to what you might leave on for the final scene.
Consider hanging on to some chunky jewellery, for example a wide choker or an arm bangle can look very sexy. Also retain stockings and suspender belt to add some fizz to the final frame. Generally, being almost nude is far more erotic than not wearing a stitch!
C - Creative Caresses and Corsets
Moving on to ‘C’, this remind us to be Creative. Find out what turns him on. Be imaginative in what you wear and what you do. Do Caress him. Touch is a vital ingredient of seduction. In public, lay your hand on his arm or slip your arm through his when walking.
As far as seductive clothes go, one of my favourites is the Corset. You can even wear it for public scenario 1, together with the long skirt. With suspenders attached, it provides support for seamed stockings, gives you a great shape and looks sizzling when the skirt is removed.
It also works well with the dressing gown in scenario 3. I favour a red corset for seduction with hook and eye fastenings at the back and a lace up front. Allow him to unlace you for maximum devastation!
I like to think of my lingerie collection as an arsenal of weapons with the Corset as the most deadly; my favorite Weapon of Male Seduction!
T - Temptation, Teasing and the Trench Coat
Finally ‘T’ is for Tease, a key element of any seduction feast. For example, if he’s seen your fabulous stockings in the restaurant and as a result wants to skip dessert and immediately get the check/bill and order the taxi home, make him wait a little.
Choose a yummy dessert and lick your lips suggestively while you slowly eat it. Then linger over a coffee and order a refill.
Don’t forget also to throw so much Temptation his way he is powerless to resist you. What about clothes? Why not see how he reacts to a silk Teddy? A style of lingerie often under rated.
Finally for scenario 2, the surprise arrival at his place, why not cover your fabulous underwear with a smart Trench coat. Trench coats are often flattering but never more so than when covering unexpected lingerie!
So there you have it. Six sensational steps to seduce your man. Gina’s SEDUCT program will instantly raise your relationship to the next level.
But enough of the theory. Now is the time for action. Look Online right now for suitable clothes or lingerie to enhance your seduction wardrobe.
Finally, don't forget that if you really want to be explosive, then the Corset with Stockings is the Weapon of Mass Seduction in the arsenal of lingerie. Go on, light the blue touch paper. You know you want too!
Jess on July 18, 2020:
Never underestimate the power of nylons. Making legs look amazing. Playing footsie under the table. Also, remember pantyhose allow for a short skirt!
DAVID JOHN ASHMAN on December 17, 2016:
nothing like wearing a shiny mac with tight belt, nice waist line is a must. start with mac fully done up with hood up.