Not everyone in the world has the privilege to have a sister. Some have several sisters and some may have just one. A sister can be one of the closest friends you will ever have in a lifetime. Some people develop sister- like relationships with other girls though there is no actual relation.
Yes, a sister is biological connection, but in reality it is so much more. The fact that there is a biological connection can make the relationship even deeper if developed correctly.
Many people have a wonderful kindred spirit with their sisters, but on the contrary many do not. Why? I don't want to dwell on the negative side, my purpose is to unveil the beauty of a sister, but I will say briefly why so many fail to be close.
- Personality contrast: Many sisters are very different from each other, they have completely different taste, talents, abilities, strengths, weaknesses, or even looks. This should never ruin a sister friendship, but you should communicate and be very understanding of each others differences. Take turns, just like you had to when you were kids, share your time with her and her interests and she will do the same. If she loves to shop and you despise it, go shop with her and she might return the favor and go swimming with you, though she's terrified of water. Sometimes you have to compromise your own selfish feelings to keep the tie strong.
- Jealousy: So many let jealousy put a wedge between sisters that should be rootin for one another. Celebrate her accomplishments, complement her and encourage her to be all she can be.
- Competition: GROW UP! Quit comparing yourselves with one another. Quit bragging and putting you and yours on the pedestal of praise. As adults you and your sister should be sharing, not hogging your lives with one another. Quit comparing kids, this is not only damaging to your relationship, but it is immature and unhealthy for the children too. Just agree you both have onry kids, laugh about it and enjoy each others families.
I know there is many other reasons sisters can't be close, but those are the three most common.
Some cute gifts for sis:.)
Gifts for Sis
Thank God For Sisters
I have to say I have one of the best sisters in the world. We are best buddies, we have built a friendship that has been intended to last forever. Have we always got along? Absolutely not!!!! We fought, slapped, griped, connived, deceived and a bunch of other unmentionables. Why are we best friends? Well, why not? We are very different from one another, but yet share the same blood, that is one good reason to love each other. Even though I threw a high heel shoe at her when I was 8 years old and wanted to cause her pain, love soon resolved the matter and we tearfully made it right and moved on. A moment of forgiveness is more powerful than years of resentment, refrain, abandonment, discord, degrading and avoiding. There is a certain amount of love and commitment when you are of kindred blood, but if that isn't enough then we have to selflessly invest into the relationship and be a die-hard mediator that pursues unity.
Don't hold a grudge!!!! A grudge usually is two sided. If I feel my sister is mad at me I want to forsake my own feelings and communicate and not rest until there is a resolve. Why? Because I refuse to lower myself to the level of childish behavior that so many have resorted to for years. There is many sisters that haven't spoke for years over stupid misunderstandings or piddly differences. I know some sisters are impossible to get along with, but don't quit trying. When you get the news she has passed away you don't want to have any regrets that you didn't try.That is why me and my sister has devoted ourselves, we were planned by God to share membership in our family so by God we dare not let that circle be broken.
Sisters share concerns and criticism. I may not like when my sister confronts my wrong, but she loves me so I will consider her opinion and many times she is right and vise versa.
I thank God for my sister because I can share with her things my greatest friends will never hear. God put in the heart of a true sister an ear to listen and trustworthiness that will never betray intentionally. I understand so many don't have that privilege, but I would like to pay tribute to all sisters that still remain friends.
I propose a prayer to all that share my joy or those who would like to make some advances toward your relationship with your sister.
May we never take one day that we have with our sister on this earth for-granted. May we strive to build a friendship that exceeds this life and celebrates eternity. May we never allow a hedge to separate our union we have shared since our birth. May we always search for the best in one another and work out differences with a mutual understanding. May we represent peace an harmony within our family that will honor our parents and influence generations to come. Thank you God for sisters a beautiful compliment to life. Amen
Why don't you give your sis a call or drag out the stationary and write her a note and start today, picking up where you left off and forgetting the things behind you. Move on!!!! Love her while you have her:.)
Candace Green (author) from OKLAHOMA on March 05, 2013:
Beautiful comments :)
Luanne on March 21, 2012:
I love my sister with all my heart. She has been there in good times and bad. We grew up together and shared happy and sad memories. I wish I could have more time with her but God is calling her home. She will be missed here terribly and no one will be able to fill the hole that will be left in my heart. I wish her peace and love.
Elizabeth on March 04, 2012:
My little sister and i have had alot of arguments in the past ten years, and thanks to this i know now how to fix them. Yes i understand that most sisrer fights are over really stupid things, and now that i am looking at the past it looks like we have had more of those fights than the approeate things.
Candace Green (author) from OKLAHOMA on May 19, 2011:
Thank you, you are welcome:)
Alexandra on May 19, 2011:
I love this tribute and advice
thank you so much for it
Carisa Gourley from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma on April 20, 2010:
It's been a couple of years since I've read this. I read it again today and cried just like I did the first time :) You are more of a blessing to me with each passing year. I'm so proud of how God is working in your life and of the beautiful woman that you've become inside and out. I'll love you always.
Candace Green (author) from OKLAHOMA on June 03, 2009:
Congratulations to my sister fellow hubber blessedmommy who is expecting her 4th blessing! She just went through a very long illness and God brought her through and now a baby. Yeah!!!!:.)
Lisa Nance from North Carolina Mountains on December 01, 2008:
I love your prayer and will probably copy it and send it to my sister. I, too, am truly blessed with the most special relationship with my sister. Only she shares with me the memories of growing up with our parents. We have a hidden world of sayings, fragrances, and sounds that we can each hear or smell and have the exact same memory. All I have to do is think of her and she calls...Sisterhood is truly a magical bond...Lovely hub!
Carisa Gourley from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma on January 16, 2008:
Well Little Sis, you made me cry...as you probably already knew that I would.
I feel so honored to have you as my sister. This comment box doesn't have the adequate space for me to begin to share the wonderful wacky times we've had. We've been together through the happy and sad, the silly and the serious and everything in between. We've had our ins and outs, ups and downs, which has only made our bond stronger. If we began to share some of our stories, some people probably wouldn't even believe them :)
I appreciate and love you more than you will ever know. You are indeed a treasure and I'm blessed that you're my sister.
I don't remember the high heel incident, but I do remember the time when you were about 5 years old and you said that I was uglier than the devil. I guess being a sweet little Christian girl, that was the meanest thing that you could think to say.
Excellent hub. I too encourage all those who have sisters not to neglect the beauty of sisterly friendship.
Candace Green (author) from OKLAHOMA on January 16, 2008:
Thanks for the nice comments. greenmommy, you have it right on target, your girls are blessed to have such a good example. Blessings!
greenmommy from Massachussets on January 16, 2008:
very nice! I have three, and I agree, they are the best thing in life. My first daughter was a girl, and I was determined that she would have a sister. My next was a boy....and although their bond was strong, I knew it would never be quite the same. I am happy to say that now I have 3 girls, and I believe that my guidance will lead to the kind of relationship that you and I both value....and I believe they will bring their brother right along with them. In general, I believe siblings is the best gift you can give your children......and sisters are even more!
MrMarmalade from Sydney on January 16, 2008:
I loved your sister, may they all live for along time.
Earth Angel on January 16, 2008:
A loving tribute to sisters everywhere!! GREAT Hub!! Thank you for sharing!! Blessings to you and your sisters!! Earth Angel!!