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A Marriage Prayer For a Deeply Troubled Marriage

I.W has a B.S degree in Exercise Science. He works in Rehab Services at a Hospital. He also teaches Bible Study & offers spiritual advice.

Prayer Image - Picture of Praying Woman

Prayer Image - Picture of Praying Woman

The Miracle of Prayer

A Couple That Prays Together Stays Together

A Couple That Prays Together Stays Together

If a friend or an acquaintance were to approach you and say "Help me save my marriage, or how can I save my marriage?" How many of you would tell this person to try praying about it?

For those of you who might be going through marriage problems or about to be divorced due to infidelity, unselfishness, financial issues and so on, it can be tough trying to take on all the stress all by yourself. However, if you believe in God, and have the faith that He can turn your situation around, why are you not praying to Him, asking Him to help you? According to the writers of the spiritual song entitled " What A Friend We Have In Jesus", we often give up peace and suffer needlessly simply because we tend to leave God out of the picture.

This is what this special verse of this song has to say " Oh what peace we often forfeit, Oh what needless pain we bear, all because we do not carry everything to God in prayer!"

Praying is just the simple act of communicating with God, just in the same manner you usually communicate with others. You are just having a conversation or dialogue with God, asking Him to do you a favor. Go into your bedroom, living room, bathroom, or somewhere where it 's quiet -- get down on your knees and just open up your heart, problems, worries and pain to God. Below is a marriage prayer you can use.

Premarital Guidance

A marriage Prayer

Dear most caring, loving and understanding God, You are already aware of all my marriage problems, worries and pain I am about to take to You in prayer right at this blessed moment. Father God, I have tried my best and have done all that I could possibly do to try to resolve all the issues that have led to this present status of my marriage.

At this point, there is nothing else I can do, so I surrender everything to You! I sincerely plead for your divine intervention! Please take matters in your hands, and do what You have to do to fix my marriage.

Forgive me for the things I have done or unconsciously done that have contributed to this present state of my marriage. If there is anything I should have done at any point and have not done, or should have been doing and haven't been doing, God please forgive me.

Father I know that I am far from being perfect, for this reason, I must admit that I am not blameless. Talk to me, show me what I have to do. Give me the wisdom, knowledge and understanding I need to play my part, day by day.

Touch the heart of my partner, and open up his/her eyes dear Lord. Talk to him/her in a special way so that he/she may obey and be willing to meet me halfway. You know what exactly have changed the once loving, caring and understanding person I have initially married.

The person I stood beside in your Sanctuary in holy matrimony and make my vows to remain with for richer or poorer, and through sickness. The person I have pledged to remain with until death.

Father God, I believe in You and so I trust in You to take care of all my marriage problems. There is no favor too big to ask of You. I know that all I have to do when I pray, is to surrender everything to You and just have the faith to believe You are going to help me save my marriage. I know it has to be done your way and at a time chosen only by You -- so choose your own time and have it your own way great, merciful Jesus. Thank You God. Amen!

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I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on September 08, 2019:

Hi Lisa, first and foremost, I would like to express my sympathy for the pain and suffering you have endured in this marriage.

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Here's a scripture I want you to meditate on:-

"Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance, character; and character hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us."(Romans 5:3-5 NIV )

You might have heard that when God appears silent, it's usually the time when he is actually quietly working out a plan for your situation. His moment of silence can be compared to that moment when students are sitting in a classroom doing a test(very silent and focus). Not a word from anyone. A total quiet classroom!

Be patient, and be still. God is working!

Lisa on September 07, 2019:

Thank you for that wonderful prayer. I have been praying for my husband for the 35 years of our marriage. I am a Christian raised in a loving Christian family. I married my husband knowing he was not a Christian. I'm at a point where I feel like I just can't be with him anymore. I don't want to divorce him but I can't see myself living in the same house with him. It's gotten to a point that being around him has affected my health. As yet my prayers have not been answered. Our three daughters pray for him. My parents and family pray for him. Friends pray for him. I turn in prayer request at church for him. I know everything happens in God's perfect timing but I am at the end of my rope. I will continue to pray using your prayer as my hearts guide. Love in Christ...Lisa

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on March 03, 2019:

Thanks for your comment Francine Glasser. I certainly agree with you 100%. God works in mysterious ways!

Francine Glasser from Kingston, NY on March 03, 2019:

Thank you for pointing out the power and healing aspects of prayer, very good hub.

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on January 20, 2019:

Sonia, I wish I could tell you or anyone else that God will always takes care of your problem the way you would like it to be done. But the truth is, although He promise that He will be there for us in the time of needs or trouble, He never promise us that He would always do things for us the way we want it to be done.

My advice is that you take your problems to God, and just be patient while he takes care of them. "Father knows best."

FYI: "The grass is not always greener on the other side." It's just a matter of time.

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on January 20, 2019:

Hello Brenda, I can only imagine how you must be feeling deep within. However, God is still in control. According to the bible, "For where there's envying and strife, there's confusion and every evil work."KJV: James 3:16. Negativity and strife are not good for any relationship. They can block your blessings! I would advice you to stay away from these kind of negative vibes, as much as you can. Try to spend some more time communicating with God. It will pay off sooner than you may even imagined.

Sonia on January 20, 2019:

My husband had a new lover, he has done this before but never been gone this long!!!! This is the worst!!!!

Brenda on January 19, 2019:

My marriage is in deep trouble... i cant seem to trust my partner.we fight all the time..we come to no solution

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on June 29, 2018:

Hi James,

First and foremost, I would like to thank you for reading this hub, and also for sharing your current plight. I'm so sorry to hear that your marriage might be possibly coming to an end soon.

Bitter words and unforgiveness can equally destroy marriages. However, always remember that despite our faults, and ungodly ways, God still cares about us. Thus, all you have to do is to keep on praying. I will also keep you in my thoughts and prayers. God bless.

James on June 29, 2018:

My wife wants to divorce me. I know that I hurt her with ungodly words in the past but I have changed this about 7 years ago. Now she is always angry at me and wants a divorce. Please pray for restoration of our marriage. I believe that God will reveals what we need to learn in this situation and restore our marriage. It hurts to be lonely and sad at home.

Patricia on June 14, 2018:

Thank you for the marriage pray. I feel blessed God bless you.

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on June 04, 2018:

I know it's painful Patricia, but just try to be patient. Continue to use this prayer, I have but together. It's a very sincere prayer.

Patricia on June 04, 2018:

Thank you for your kind words. my husband left me for another woman. I am very hurt and heart broken. I need help in prayer as I want him back. We were married for 23yrs.

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on June 04, 2018:

Greetings to you Patricia. All the honor and glory belong to God. I'm just a vessel of God. Thus, I'm always willing and happy to help whoever I can, with something as simple as a kind word.

With that said, I can only imagine how heartbroken you are on your Anniversary. However, it's written in the bible that ''Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning."(Psalm 30:5)

Keep holding on, because that joy will eventually come. I wish I could tell you when, but I'm afraid I don't have the answer as to when or how God will work it out for you.

I will continue to pray for you; but remember to continue pray for yourself earnestly. God bless.

Patricia on June 03, 2018:

Thank you for the blessing for my marriage. My Anniversary is coming up soon and my heart is broken because my marriage is in trouble. Because we are not together. I have put in the hands of God with pray.Thank you for the blessing and support you have shown me.Please keep me in your prayers.

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on May 07, 2018:

Your'e certainly welcome May. The flesh of mankind is weak. Our minds and ways constantly keep changing like the direction of the wind. However, God knows the answer to it all. Just keep trusting in our good Lord. "Give it all to Jesus and He will turn your sadness into Joy."

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on May 04, 2018:

STEVE, a few days ago, I left a feedback to your comment "WOW-aM....." I just realized that I referred to you as EZEKIEL. My apology!

May on May 02, 2018:

Thank you for this prayer. Trusting God to restore my relationship after a nasty break up. Asking God to have an encounter with my husband. Only God can soften his heart.

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on April 28, 2018:

Ezekiel, when dealing with marital issues, at times we can become mentally drained or exhausted, to the point where we are left with no energy to fight! Relationships can be very complex, simple because of the complexity of human's behavior. In fact, only the Creator knows the mind of mankind. With that being said, I strongly advice that you keep holding on to your faith in God, as He is the only one who really knows why things have come to this end. Wish I could tell you why, or even what He has in store for you!

Steve on April 24, 2018:

Wow- Am in the process of a divorce with what I feel is a contemptuous wife who walked out on the marriage 5 weeks. As a believer I have struggled with granting her requested divorce, I pray that God will take her heart of stone and replace it with a heart of flesh (Ezekiel).

I do not have the strength nor faith anymore to fight this battle. I have to leave it in the hands of the Lord.

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on December 09, 2017:

Thanks for stopping by Munroe. I sincerely do! Life can be a real headache, but sometimes one simple prayer can resolve many of our trials and tribulations.

Munroe on December 09, 2017:

This prayer is soooo timely....ty

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on November 23, 2017:

Sifa, I sympathize with you from the bottom of my heart. I may not know the answer to everything, but one thing I know for certain is that we serve an awesome God who is fair and just!

The Lord, knows about not only our past, but also our present and future. He saw your present situation before it even happened, and he knows what the outcome will ultimately be.

Keep on praying and "trust" that He will make you victorious in the end. Believe me, God will not give you more than you can bear. "Trust in God with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him and He will make your path straight."(Proverbs 3:5)NIV.

Many blessings. Keep the faith.

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on November 02, 2017:

Good night Sandy Garcia. My sympathy for the emptiness you might have been experiencing at the moment. However, you started off by saying something extremely important "It's time for me to have faith." I couldn't agree with you more on this! In fact, Hebrew 11:1 reads as follows: "NOW FAITH IS THE SUBSTANCE OF THINGS HOPED FOR, THE EVIDENCE OF THINGS NOT SEEN." If it's God's will that you both are re-united, then you just have to wait on Him! God's time is certainly not man's time! Be bless.

Sandy Garcia on November 02, 2017:

Thank you for the awesome prayer. Its for me to have faith, because my husband moved to Meeteetse Wy. with his mother, this is where he always takes off to. And I live in Greeley Co about 7 hrs away from him. Im on ignore right now, you see he was the one to mess up, so I get punished for it. I love him and wamt pir marriage to work. But I don't see how when he is so far away

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on October 25, 2017:

Your'e certainly welcome Pv. Just keep holding firm to your faith. Once you surrender it all to the Lord, leave it in His arms. "Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." Hebrews 11:1

Pv on October 25, 2017:

Thank u for ur encouraging words , Ur words warm my heart and help ease my sadness and helps restore my faith. Thank u

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on October 25, 2017:

Good Morning Pv. There are two things in particular that I would like to leave with you this morning. This could possibly be a spiritual warfare that has been waged against you and your significant other. However, if you believe and trust in God, no weapon that forms against you shall prosper....(Isiah 54:17).

P.S. You have no control over them forming! However, they shall not prevail! God bless.

Pv on October 25, 2017:

AMen!!!!! Just asking the lord to keep the devil away and restore and united what he once united as one!

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on October 24, 2017:

Hi Pv, thanks for reading. I don't know exactly what your situation is at the moment; however, I hope this may help to bring some form of comfort. God is willing and able. Sometimes things happen, just to allow us to experience His goodness. God bless.

Pv on October 24, 2017:

i needed to see this today more than ever.

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on October 04, 2017:

You are certainly welcome Leticia. God is exceedingly able!

Leticia on September 27, 2017:

Thank you for the marriage prayer I needed it.

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on August 15, 2017:

Thanks for stopping by Ashley.

Ashley B. on August 15, 2017:

Love this site!!

Mrs. Thomas on May 03, 2017:

I am in desperate need of this prayer. Thank you so much! Now to wait on God patiently!

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on December 28, 2015:

Hi cm, thanks for turning to this prayer for comfort. More importantly, I'm glad you were able to find that much needed comfort!

I couldn't agree with you more; Jesus is such an awesome comforter!

cm on December 28, 2015:

thank you for this prayer it comforted me through all the pain and anger i was feeling this morning JESUS is surely my comforter

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on December 15, 2015:

Keith, I don't think there's anything that prayer cannot resolve. Anything you ask of God, He will grant you your request. However, it has to be according to His will, or in other words, He will give you whatever He thinks is best for you, but only at a moment that He thinks is the right time. In fact, It's written in St. John 15:7(KJV)."If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you."

When you pray, quote this scripture above. Tell God that according to His words, He says that "If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you." so this is why you're asking Him to help you resolve this issue you are currently having with your wife and family.

FYI. God always honor his words, for this reason, this is a very effective approach to praying!

I assumed you have already asked your wife for forgiveness, so I also recommend that you ask God for forgiveness for all you have done to her.

keith on December 14, 2015:

please pray that my wife can forgive all the hurt i caused and that she wants to give our marriage a second chance and her love for me grows stronger every day,and we can be stronger for each other,and our family,i am really sorry for all the hurt i caused and really hope all my prayers will be granted, i really love my wife so much,and really miss her and our kids.

Sima Ballinger from Michigan on July 10, 2014:

Magnificient! You gave a marriage prayer and counsel all in one. This was beautiful, and I hope many will be blessed by it! Voted Up and Beautiful!

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on June 19, 2014:

Amen to this Michelle! You are so intimate/close that there's not even a micro-inch of space that will allow the devil to get wedged between that couple!

Michelle Ascani from Deep in the Heart of Texas on June 19, 2014:

I love the saying A couple that prays together stays together. No matter how hurt or upset you are with someone, when you are in prayer together, its about as intimate as it gets.

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on June 19, 2014:

Thanks for dropping by Ras. As I become more determine than ever to build and maintain by spirituality with the Higher Power, I will be more than happy to share whatever wisdom, knowledge and understanding I have gained throughout the process! Peace and Love.

Marvin Parke from Jamaica on June 19, 2014:

Prayer is a great solution. Forgiveness is another method. It is very thoughtful of you to publish a prayer.

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on September 17, 2013:

I must have sung this song a million times from childhood days up until adulthood, yet I never one day paid attention to those quoted words. Then one day while I was going through a rather tough time, I decided to pour out my distress to God. As I search through the Hymnal for comforting songs, I stumbled across this song, and for the first time I came to realize that I could avoid enduring all my pain simply because God had already promise to redeem me in time of sadness -- all I have to do is to talk to him! Thanks McKenzie, and God bless.

Susan Ream from Michigan on September 17, 2013:

mackyi, " O what peace we often forfeit, O what needless pain we bear, all because we do not carry everything to God in prayer." It's true!

I loved reading your prayer so filled with passion, humility and transparency. God is able to meet our every need and He will meet us when we surrender to Him in prayer.

Thank you for writing on this important topic!

God Bless You!


I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on April 23, 2013:

Thanks for reading a commenting Jackie. I do validate your thoughts on this subject.

Jackie Lynnley from the beautiful south on April 18, 2013:

I agree with you and we should also remember to thank God when we have a good and happy marriage and not take those for granted. As Jesus told us with The Lord's Prayer what to say when words escape us, He knows, and all we have to do is believe for the answer and with Jesus standing good for it, it may be easier to do!


I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on April 08, 2013:

Thanks for stopping by betty30. I will reciprocate the good deed!

mackyi on March 07, 2013:

Your are certainly welcomed Sidekemp. I am also 100% in agreement with what the pastor/marriage counselor had to say. Actually, when two people become involved in a relationship, that relationship is officially now a partnership. Partners consult each other before they make decisions, and they work together every step of the way. If partners fail to assume responsibilities or contribute unequally, they are definitely setting up themselves for failure. In any relationship, self-interest, and selfishness, get you nowhere!

Sid Kemp from Boca Raton, Florida (near Miami and Palm Beach) on March 07, 2013:

Thank you for such a beautiful prayer. One line about my partner "meeting me halfway" reminded me of a thought from a pastor who was also a marriage counselor. He said that when both people in a couple feel like they're doing 90% of the work, then they're each doing half, and it will be great!

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on November 23, 2012:

Hey Carol7777, thanks for stopping by. Hope you had a great Thanksgiving. I certainly don't have much to offer to those persons who are going through a rather tough marriage relationship or even a common-law relationship problem. The only thing I can offer is this prayer, along with my sympathy and personal words of prayer. If by chance anyone of these individuals happens to read this portion of your comment " I have learned to overlook many really important", this in fact, could offer an additional source of strength for them. Thanks for your contribution.

carol stanley from Arizona on November 22, 2012:

I know several people who could use this prayer. It is easy to get into fight mode with your partner. I have learned to overlook many things and focus on only what is really important. Great hub.

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on November 01, 2012:

Nyamache, like I mentioned above in the second paragraph of this Hub, we often forfeit peace and bear needless pain simply because we fail to take our problems to God! If you don't invite God into your home, then you are leaving the door wide open for the devil. Once the devil walks in, there will be continuous strife and marriage problems!

Joshua Nyamache from Kenya on November 01, 2012:

Amen! Nothing works in solving problems effectively than prayers. When we request God to intervene and take control of our lives including marriage, then surely He will.

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on September 18, 2012:

Thanks for stopping by again midget38; I must admit that the Prayer of St Francis is definitely a deep, divine, and sincere prayer. I wish many more people out there would learn to appreciate it and use it when they find themselves in deep distress. I am glad that you would suggest prayer, if someone were to ask you that question! God cares, he is awesome, and he is able to fix just about any problem.

Michelle Liew from Singapore on September 18, 2012:

The Prayer of St Francis has always been one of my favorites. I would say yes to your question of whether I would ask some one to pray for a troubled marrriage. Lovely to connect over this!! Thanks for it!

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on September 16, 2012:

Thanks for your feedback on this hub carol7777. I agree, you have to be thankful when you have a happy life, because for many, it only gets worse day after day --- so sad! However, with God all things are possible. In fact, he has the answers to all our problems.

carol stanley from Arizona on September 15, 2012:

I wanted to read this but thankfully we have a happy life. what could be worse than facing a person everyday with conflict. You said it all.

I.W. McFarlane (author) from Philadelphia on August 22, 2012:

Thanks Mhatter99, I know you are aware of the importance of prayer! Prayer should always be one of the main components for cultivating a successful marriage. However, we shouldn't wait until things start to get out of hand before we start praying. In fact, we should try to pray every single day.

You mentioned that your wedding pictures helped you a lot -- thanks for sharing this. This sounds logical -- good memories and a reminder of a very important day where two people had made a vow to remain together until death! I am definitely sure others who read your comment may find your approach very logical and interesting. Thanks for your input.

Martin Kloess from San Francisco on August 21, 2012:

Amen and thank you. I am not putting down the important value of prayer. What got me through my rough times, and some were BIG, were our wedding pictures.

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