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The Top 7 Things Women Want Most From Men

Cristale Adams is an online author and publisher. Her articles vary in topics and focus on real life. She always enjoys learning new things.

What Is Up With Women?

Women are unique and different from men, with many different characteristics. This fact is demonstrated and displayed throughout life, from the way women and men handle certain situations to the different ways they think. Differences include women thinking, acting and reacting, and even feeling in opposition to men. This is a normal and natural part of life and love that makes it so interesting. The differences between women and men are numerous and very difficult to take an actual count of.

The differences women and men have do balance each other to create an equal, peaceful, and harmonious life with love together. A woman can not exist without a man because it is his seed that creates life. A man can not exist without a woman because that is who gave birth to them and brought them into this world. Men are complex in many ways and go about getting things done in a completely different way than women do. For example, men love tools, cars, and procrastinating. Women love talking, cuddling, and shopping. In the end, they both just want to be loved by the other sex.

Women Have Wants Too

Women are also unique and different from men because a woman's brain functions differently than a man's brain does. Women are ruled by emotions and feelings, which is usually the deciding factor when it comes to making many of her decisions and choices. Women are highly involved with their heart and how they feel because that is how her brain is wired. A woman's favorite way to start most sentences and conversations is by saying "I feel..." because women can feel so much, even more than a man, and often will express it verbally to others. Since women enjoy talking, they like to talk about the things that matter most to them, like family. Women can be thought of as being very difficult by many men, but the reality is that she is simple. Women do have a hard time making up their minds most of the time and are often described as being fickle, but sometimes women do know exactly what they want and just how to get it.

Do You Give Your Woman What She Wants?


What Do Women Really Want Most From Men?

This famous question has been asked by men for many centuries, but they still can't seem to find an answer that fits. Women are emotional creatures that usually think and feel with their hearts, instead of their brain and logic. Women can be fickle and indecisive most times, but women do know what they want when it comes to certain things. Sometimes it may seem like women don't know what they want, but that is far from the truth. Women may have a difficult time expressing exactly what they want because they communicate differently than men do. Women are known for dropping subtle hints and continuously talking about something that they want, but will usually never come right out and say it.

So what do women really want? Besides shoes and cuddling, women want the same things that men do, just in a different form. Women really want the things that make them feel good about themselves and about their relationship. Women really want to feel comforted and encouraged by their men, along with having the support and reassurance necessary for daily life. In reality, women really want their man. Women want their men to do certain things that make them feel special like they are the only girl in the world. Now, that's not too much to ask for, is it?

1. More Time Spent.

This is the number one complaint that many women have about their men, that they do not spend enough time with them. Men not being home in time for dinner together after work is the biggest thing that all women despise. Time alone with each other is another big issue that women have with their men. It is often difficult to do with children and other responsibilities to tend to, but women like to be high on a man's priority list. Time together for intimacy, laughter, and for fun makes any relationship stronger. This also allows for time to reconnect with each other and to focus only on the other person. Women do not like to be or to feel alone when they are in a relationship. Men do work much of the time, but they also need to spend more time with their woman to make her feel like she is important.


2. Punctuality.

As we all know, men are not the best timekeepers. Men procrastinate because it is in their D.N.A. and it is a part of their being. Men lack promptness and are rarely punctual to any event. Men often can take longer than women do to get ready to go anywhere. Punctuality is simply the fact or quality of being on time. This is important to women because we are punctual and prompt with many different things, often all at one time. Women do not like having to repeat their selves and hate having to ask multiple times for certain tasks and duties to be completed. Women want this mostly because it is annoying.

3. Listen, Then Do.

Believe it or not, but women actually don't nag as men say they do. Women have to ask men multiple times about or for something, which comes across to men as nagging. Really, women just want an answer or for a task to be completed and after asking only once. Women don't want to ask multiple times, or even after the first time. This is a miscommunication because men perceive it differently than what it really is, which annoys women even more! So when women ask for or about something the first time, then have it be completed and done. Then it's completed with no hard feelings from either party.


4. Lots of Romance.

Women are in love with romance, and it's because of all the television shows, books, and movies that demonstrate romance. Romance is defined as expressing one's love for another person. Women yearn to be 'swept off their feet' by their man. It's not difficult to be romantic with a woman because it's the small things that matter most to a woman. Having romantic evenings with your woman, or even having romantic moments with your woman often, is a definite way to satisfy her. Being romantic is sometimes best for when she has had a bad day or just feels insecure at that moment. A few ways to be romantic are:

  • Surprise her by taking her to somewhere that she enjoys.
  • Doing what she wants to do for the evening.
  • Buy her flowers unexpectedly.

5. Much Appreciation.

Women do so much to take care of that special man in their life, and they want to be noticed for all of the things that they accomplish every day. Women work very hard outside of the home and within the home to make sure everything is taken care of. Women want to be noticed for their hard work, just like men do. Women want to be appreciated in ways that only their man can give them. Some great ways to show a women appreciation include:

  • Tell her "thank you so much" often in a sincere and meaningful way.
  • Give her an extra long hug and kiss, then finish with "thank you for all that you do/did."
  • Spend a romantic evening cooking for her, then having a conversation over dinner about how you appreciate everything that she does for you.
  • Give her a back and/or foot rub while listening to what she wants to talk about.

6. To Be Surprised

No matter what women may tell men, deep down they enjoy surprises from their man and being surprised by their man. Since women enjoy romance, they also enjoy romantic surprises. A romantic surprise from their man is extra special because he actually took the time and invested the effort to produce something that is extra thoughtful just for her. Romantic surprises can be a surprise exotic vacation or a surprise gift, for now, reason at all. A woman can be very surprised by her man if he cleaned up and did all of the laundries for her so she doesn't have to do it. Creative romantic surprises can be found anywhere, just with a little imagination.

7. Passion.

Passion is defined as the object of an intense desire, ardent affection, or enthusiasm. Women want to feel this from their man. Women do want sex but in a different form. Women read romance novels for a reason. Women crave romance and passion in their everyday lives and most are not getting that. Women want all of the things they read in their romance novels, like slowly kissing or gently touching. Many times it's an uptown quickie only, or if that at all. Women long for candles and soft music playing, with rose petals. Women want to feel like they are living a romance novel with their man.

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© 2012 Cristale Adams


Cristale Adams (author) from Florida on March 02, 2018:

Thank you for reading and commenting!

Employee Mangler on October 16, 2016:

Half or MORE of the items in the picture at the top are actually REVERSED for me and my husband (or are fairly equal), but the numbered items are spot on (except talking; I HATE talking. And cuddling, ugh, let's get to the main entree, am I right? ;) ). Admittedly, I'm already well-aware that I am NOT the "typical woman," but most of it still applies. Time, attention, and affection are the biggest three I can think of. Showing interest in her interests without making it about HIS interests is nice, too. Ideally, you want to do things BOTH of you like, but give and take is important.

Deborah Demander from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD on August 04, 2016:

Great article. I agree with your first statement, that women want more time with the man they love.

If I could have anything, I would spend more time with my husband. And I'd like it if he put his phone away when we do spend time together.

Thanks for writing.


Kenneth Avery from Hamilton, Alabama on May 02, 2014:


You are more than welcome. My pleasure to meet such a gifted writer as yourself.


Cristale Adams (author) from Florida on May 02, 2014:

Thank you so much for all of your support on HubPages.

Kenneth Avery from Hamilton, Alabama on May 01, 2014:

Hi, Cristale!

I just wanted to tell you how much I enjoyed this hub. Very well-written. Clean and exacting phrases. In a word, gangbusters!

Nice use of graphics and appearance.

I voted Up and all of the choices, because you deserved it. You are a very-talented writer. And I respect your work.

I left you some fan mail and became one of your followers.

I cordially invite you to check out one or two of my hubs and become a follower of mine.

That would be fantastic.

Keep up the great work.

Kenneth/ from northwest Alabama

Cristale Adams (author) from Florida on December 03, 2012:

Sounds like you have a good man, and some women do! Thanks for the read!

Shyron E Shenko from Texas on December 02, 2012:

I like number 2, everything else I have from my man. I don't think I ever asked him to take out the trash, if he does not take it out, I know he is not feeling well, and I take it out.

Good hub!

Cristale Adams (author) from Florida on December 02, 2012:

Thanks for reading!

Ingenira on November 01, 2012:

No 7 is so funny, but true!

Levertis Steele from Southern Clime on September 11, 2012:

Ok, good job!

Cristale Adams (author) from Florida on July 20, 2012:

Agreed! Check out my other hub about what men want. It is the same things, just on a manly level.

Shyron E Shenko from Texas on July 20, 2012:

I think a lot of men are as the same as women, but hide it because they think it makes them look weak.

Demas W Jasper from Today's America and The World Beyond on July 18, 2012:

If I had to guess, I would guess that women want to be equal partners in a romance, equal partners in a marriage, equal partners in a business, and ONLY equal partners in the care, maintenance, upkeep, cleanliness and tidiness of the home.

Cristale Adams (author) from Florida on June 29, 2012:

Of course the degree of the items listed is always dependent on the women, which differs from one to the next.

kburns421 on June 29, 2012:

I agree, for the most part. Being complimented too often though makes compliments insincere. As a woman, I don't want a constant barrage of compliments lol, but I definitely want some!

Mohan Kumar from UK on June 23, 2012:

Thank you for reminding us what women want. This a great insightful hub. Well written .It's all too easy to think we are doing a good job but it's always better to have a periodic review and get things right. So lemme see : Time: check. Attention: check. Affection: check. Compliments: check.Money : check. To make feel special: check. Sex: check. Can I get my certificate of completion please! Voted up/ shared too!

epigramman on June 23, 2012:

.....well I am a very smart man - lol lol - because I always listen to women - especially intelligent sensitive women who write like this - so yes I am learning and inspired here and will post this fabulous hub seminar to my FB group Let's just talk music or cinema with a direct link back here - and so nice to meet you - will use this hub subject for future reference, believe me, and yes you are invited to join my group on FB if you are so inclined - sending you warm wishes and good energy from lake erie time ontario canada 12:22pm

RunningDeer from Iowa on June 21, 2012:

I love holding hands :)

Martin Kloess from San Francisco on June 20, 2012:

Thank you for this. by breaking this mold is a legend born

jeevansathi from Noida on June 20, 2012:

Being a girl I can admit that these are the absolute right points mentioned as in what does a girl want from her man. Affection, love, attention, time and care are the most important points.

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