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50 Ways to Keep Your Lover

Linda (Kaywood) Bilyeu is a self-published author. Her books are available on Amazon. She writes from the heart—there is no other way.


Express Emotions Through Actions

Paul Simon sang about 50 Ways To Leave Your Lover. I'm here to share 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover.

Some of you might not be familiar with this classic hit, so feel free to watch the video beforehand.

It is so simple to say "I Love You." How about showing your love instead of just saying the words? Demonstrating your fondness takes effort, creativeness and a caring heart.

If you want to keep your lover you need to express your emotions through your actions. Don't take the easy way out, be adventurous and enjoy making memories!

Whether you are dating or married I hope some of my ideas will be useful for you.

I'm not an expert in relationships, but you can say that I've been there and done that.

In one way or another we've all had relationship experiences, whether good or bad, we live and learn. Hopefully we don't repeat the same mistakes.

If you have any suggestions that would help others keep their lover, please share them in the comment section below. We are never too old to learn something new.

So here goes, with my take of 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover.


How Many Ways Could You Relate To?

1. Give a gift just because. No need for a special occasion.
2. Alternate days for the TV remote. You might learn something intriguing and interesting!
3. Fire up the grill, learn how to cook. Don't expect to get served unless you serve others.
4. Connect by holding hands. How long has it been since you've done that?
5. Don't slip out the back Jack if an issue arises....confront the problem and then decide if you are going to make a run for it. Always have an escape plan!
6. Date night. It doesn't have to be extravagant. Whether at home or somewhere else it is what it is. No, I'm not going to plan it for you also!
7. Privacy. Give each other space. Claustrophobia in a relationship is taboo. Breathe!
8. Discuss much. Communication is a must. Did you follow that? Communication is a must.
9. Make plans as a team. Don't rely on one person to be the entertainer...which is why it's called teamwork!
10. Laugh and laugh some more, then laugh again. Laugh until your belly hurts.
11. Don't be coy, tell your mate what you want. Contrary to what you might have heard, mind-readers are far and few between.
12. Hold the door open. Pull out the chair. Yes, common courtesy still exists.
13. Take a walk and stop to smell the roses or apple blossoms!
14. Don't go to bed angry, get your point across and don't give in until the other sees it your way.
16. Don't always expect to fix everything, sometimes you just need to (see #15)
17. Give a shoulder massage! You never know when you are going to need them so show some love!
18. It's not imperative to always speak when alone, just enjoy the moment.
19. Speak more!
20. Ask about their day. Their tomorrows. Their yesterdays.
21. Try not to share bodily noises unless absolutely necessary, even then still try not to.
22. Take care of your health. It's not all about you, think of your loved ones! No one is invincible.
23. Always, I repeat ALWAYS have chocolate on hand in case ANY emergency should emerge.
24. Hop on the bus and take a road trip to anywhere!
25. Give each other the key to your hearts.


There is Always a Way to Keep Your Lover

26. Take random pictures of each other to laugh at later.
27. Roll out the red carpet, but never be a doormat.
28. Be spontaneous, but never combust!
29. Call or text just to say thinking of you, isn't that reason enough?
30. The best gifts are from the heart. So simple yet mean the most.
31. Never assume! Do I have to tell you what happens... U make an ASS of ME (meaning U)
32. Never say, "You look fine" with a quizzical expression....UH OH! Watch your back!
33. SMILE often and give each other reasons to smile.
34. more time....A-P-P-R-E-C-I-A-T-E!
35. Pssst....size does matter.
36. Never intentionally embarrass or humiliate your significant other (continued w/ #37)
37. Do unto others as others do unto you.
38. Honesty is the best policy. There are NO ifs, ends or buts. None.
39. Just be yourself. Don't pretend to be someone you aren't just to impress. It never works.
40. Don't just LOOK, see within the heart.
41. Be supportive. but don't smother unless one of you is on fire!
42. If you don't love yourself, you can't love someone else. So find yourself before you try to find a mate.
43. Dance! Who cares if you can't, do it anyway! In the kitchen, backyard, on the counter-top...just do it!
44. Walk side by side ... never behind or ahead.
45. Think before you speak. Trust me, you'll thank me for this one.
46. Share a hot fudge sundae, even if it's a weekday.
47. If you don't like being judged than don't judge others. Karma!
48. You can't change anyone but yourself. Do not commit to a relationship thinking you will change the person. That is not going to end well.
49. Say ONE nice thing to each other every day. It can be done.
50. Lastly, remind each other that you are together for a reason. If you don't have a reason watch video below.

© 2011 Linda Bilyeu


Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on January 31, 2015:

Thank Y'all for stopping by to discover new ways to keep your lover or to hope for a lover! :)

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Stephen J Parkin from Pine Grove, Nova Scotia, Canada on January 31, 2015:

Interesting useful and funny, but that is often what it takes to keep the ;love fire burning.

Kiss andTales on January 31, 2015:

A wonderful hub ,! Thanks for sharing!

Madeleine Salin from Finland on January 31, 2015:

Hi Linda, I haven't read this hub before. I really enjoyed it, and #23 is my favourite tip. Have a nice weekend!

Audrey Hunt from Pahrump NV on January 31, 2015:

Came back for a 'brush-up' in the event I find an old guy to be my lover. :)

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on January 30, 2015:

Paul Simon's song was my inspiration for this article! :)

Audrey Hunt from Pahrump NV on February 13, 2014:

You sure know how to keep your lover happy. What a lucky man :)

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on February 13, 2014:

Thank you for sharing your thoughts Suzette and Vellur :)

Nithya Venkat from Dubai on February 13, 2014:

Great hub, loved it. Anyone who follows your ways will never lose their lover. Enjoyed reading and voted up.

suzettenaples on February 12, 2014:

Fabulous list Linda! I agree with all of these. Been there, done that too, and they work! All you need is love! (I think someone famous once said that)

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on February 12, 2014:

Y'all come back anytime! Thanks Nell! :)

Nell Rose from England on February 12, 2014:

Came back for another read! Love them all! lol!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on February 12, 2014:

Hi Tills, Happy Valentine's Day 2014 to you! :)

Mary Craig from New York on April 29, 2013:

I dubbed you Queen of Lists without even reading this wonderful hub! And Paul Simon, well you know how I feel about him and his partner ;)

Keep on shining Sunshine.

Voted up and awesome.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on April 28, 2013:

Hi Nell, Thanks for sharing your favorites!

Thank you Rainpurplewine...that's a great way to keep your lover!

Elizabeth from ATLANTA,Ga on March 15, 2013:

Great advice,Great hub. No mind readers,yes that's a major one we can often forget. Do unto others, always..Really words to live by!

Nell Rose from England on February 11, 2013:

Hi Linda, my favorites are having privacy, laughing and definitely dancing! lol! great list!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on February 11, 2013:

Hey Doc and Mike ... Thanks for your comments! :)

Mike Robbers from London on November 07, 2012:

As much as we try sometimes we loose the ones we love :(


but then - don't forget! - we find some others to love :)

Mohan Kumar from UK on November 06, 2012:

How did I miss this before. Your 50th hub. Awesome, utterly truthful hub on enduring relationships. wonderful - as always!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on August 21, 2012:

Yay Keith I'm glad you could find these tips useful! :)

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on August 21, 2012:

Time flies when you're having fun Cogerson! :))

KDuBarry03 on August 21, 2012:

I'm printing and bookmarking this. I have a feeling this will come in handy! Thanks Linda :) #32 will definitely be useful...and holding the door...and texting "thinking of you"...and pretty much all of it haha

UltimateMovieRankings from Virginia on August 21, 2012:

Wow has it really been a year since I first read and commented on this page? Back to give more votes for this hub.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on August 01, 2012:

Hi Free2writ3, thank you for stopping by!! I appreciate your comment.

Free2writ3 from Sharon Hill, Pennsylvania on August 01, 2012:

Interesting hub. I look forward to reading more form you. Thanks for sharing.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on August 01, 2012:

Hiya Ida, calyxxx, naimishika, loveme!

I'm glad you all found humor in this list. I did also as I was creating this hub! :)

Lovelovemeloveme from Cindee's Land on August 01, 2012:

thanks for the hub! lol if ever u find a man that can follow the above instructions, please forward him to my address. lol

Venugopaal from India on August 01, 2012:

If you have plenty of money, vehicle, style, connections etc. you will win the war of love.

calyxxx on August 01, 2012:

Nice job on the hub:) I also like the emergency chocolate-a total must have!:D

blessing980306 on August 01, 2012:

Great Hub I will have to try some of the things you wrote about!I love the one with EMERGENCY CHOCOLATE that is a classic.:)

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on August 01, 2012:

Thank you for sharing Nyamache! Well said and I (we) appreciate it!

Joshua Nyamache from Kenya on August 01, 2012:

When a woman is talking and complaining about things, she does not mean that you as a man to fix the problems. All she wants is for you to listen and comfort her either by hugging her or holding her. And when a man is salient do not mistake that he is ignoring you as his woman. All he wants is space for him to sort out whatever is bothering him. So do not try to get attention from him when he is silent, leave him alone and he will come out of it and he will get your attention the way he always does.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on July 31, 2012:

Yay Josh! Way to go being my 100th comment! You are such a rock star! Great comment also! :)

Joshua Zerbini from Pennsylvania on July 31, 2012:


I missed this hub! :) But guess what? I gave it an even 100 comments! WOO HOO! :) #15, excellent advice Linda! Listening is a dying art in relationships these days. Everyone is selfish and wants to talk, talk, TALK! Sorry, but that ain't going to result in a blossoming relationship! Informative hub Linda!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on July 31, 2012:

Thank you Michelle for stopping by! I agree, every little bit helps :)

Michelle Liew from Singapore on July 31, 2012:

Thanks for the tips, Linda. We should make it a point to do little things to keep our relationships going!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on July 31, 2012:

Hi Mary, Audra, Jools, LaThing!

Your comments are appreciated. I hope you found some of these tips useful :)

LaThing from From a World Within, USA on July 31, 2012:

Great points! Who said you don't know much about relationships, you are a pro at it! Enjoyed it very much..... Voting up and useful.

Jools Hogg from North-East UK on July 31, 2012:

Sound advice Linda - it's all too easy to start 'coasting' when you've been together a while and taking one another for granted.

iamaudraleigh on July 31, 2012:

Love Paul Simon! My just got a lyric book of PS! %0 a great song! I like how you brought the happy parts...full of sunshine into your hub! You are right...chocolate should be kept on hand! Fun and important hub for a relationship! Great idea!

Mary Hyatt from Florida on July 31, 2012:

You made a good list here. I think one of the most important things is to make sure your body is clean and your teeth are brushed before getting into bed with your partner!

Great Hub. I voted it UP

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on July 31, 2012:

Levertis, Thank you for adding your excellent advice and tips! Well done! I appreciate it!

Levertis Steele from Southern Clime on June 24, 2012:

22. "Take care of your health." That should include personal hygienes: dental (brush teeth, floss, mouthwash, visits to dentist), grooming hair (washing often, combing, styling nicely), regular baths/showers, feet and facial care (women and men).

I have known many women and men to be pushed off because of poor body maintenance. I know a young lady who ended a relationship with a very nice and handsome young man, and I thought that she was pushing away her soul mate. He seemed like such a good guy. She explained that he had a problem brushing his teeth and taking regular baths. She added that she was tired of reminding him and sick of the odors. She made much sense. We can change ourselves, but we cannot force change on others.

Your 50 ways are on target! I enjoy reading them.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on May 28, 2012:

Hi charles...You don't have to agree with all of them, but I like the ones you elected to agree with!:)

charlesxavier04 from London on May 11, 2012:

Nice hub. Can't say I agree with all of your ideas, but I do wholeheartedly agree with

'Hold the door open. Pull out the chair. Yes, common courtesy still exists.'

I'm yet to have a proper girlfriend, but I always get smiles from girls when I open doors and offer them my coat!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on April 23, 2012:

Thank you Chrisam and Maria! I'm glad you both enjoyed this hub!:)

Maria Jordan from Jeffersonville PA on February 18, 2012:

Oh, how I love my 'musical sister...'! I laughed like a hyena as I read your first sentences... as I had just commented in lyric format on FB for you to 'make a new plan, Stan!'

Wise suggestions from a wise woman! Voted UP & Awesome.

Love, Maria

chrisam01 from Los Angeles, California, USA on February 17, 2012:

Awesome ideas and awesome hub. Loved it!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on February 17, 2012:

@PDX see #1...duh!:)

@Faceless39 Thank you for the votes and compliment!:)

Kate P from The North Woods, USA on February 17, 2012:

What a cute, funny, and totally useful (and true) hub! Rated up, awesome, funny, and useful. Good job.

Justin W Price from Juneau, Alaska on February 17, 2012:

linda, this is a great list. I agree with all of it, but, I'm curious... why isn't sex on the list (or does this go with 36???)

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on February 02, 2012:

Ardie ~ Alocsin ~ Rose ~ Tammy thank you for your comments! Tammy TMI Hahaha! :)

Tammy from North Carolina on February 02, 2012:

This is an awesome list and so many of us forget to do these things and become complacent. I think I have finally discovered a great way to keep my lover. I stopped that flowery massengil crap that men secretly hate. I have started using steak and potato wash. Guys love that. Yeah baby!!

Rose Clearfield from Milwaukee, Wisconsin on February 02, 2012:

Great inspiration for a hub and a wonderful nod to Paul Simon (one of my favorites)!

Aurelio Locsin from Orange County, CA on February 02, 2012:

Some excellent ways for improving my relationship. I'll try some of these out. Voting this Up and Useful.

Sondra from Neverland on February 02, 2012:

Oh hahah I thought this was a new Hub for your 50th, Im such a do-do. THEN I saw the comments from months ago and realized I am stupid :P These are all great ways to stay close with your significant other :)

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on November 12, 2011:

Hey Gus your name is actually in the original song! "Hop on the bus Gus!" How fun is that?!? I like your two pointers also. Very valid!!! :)

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on November 12, 2011:

You are too funny Susan...I'll consider it:))

My curls ain't going anywhere Charles but don't tell Susan! LOL and Thank you! :)

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on November 12, 2011:

Thank you crjames and gregoryy for your comment:))

Charles Hilton on November 12, 2011:

Excellent advice and don't you dare cut those curls---they look great on you! ;-)

Gustave Kilthau from USA on November 12, 2011:

Howdy Sunshine - That's quite a list. From a wee bit of experience (like 59 years counting this year...) I can state that there are probably two ways to keep your lover... (1) Pay the rent and (2) Keep your big mouth shut. Those two do not seem to be all that "romantic," but, as the psychiatrists and the like are wont to tell us, "When you remove the feathers there is actually some chicken meat there to either work the bird the way it likes or to cook the thing the way you like."

Gus :-)))

susan54 on November 12, 2011:

Sunshine625,Every word is so true! You are one of the most talented women out there.Vote up! And cut them curls off! LOl

Gregoryy on October 27, 2011:

Great Hub!!

crjames on October 26, 2011:

Congratulations on HUB #50 Sunshine!!! (what an appropriate name, btw)

Great list with an emphasis on 1, 10, 15 and 49.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 25, 2011:





What better way to bring in #50 then with a Paul Simon tune :) I'm glad y'all enjoyed it! Thank you!!

Rose Clearfield from Milwaukee, Wisconsin on October 25, 2011:

What an awesome idea for your 50th hub! Like other commenters, I am a big fan of Paul Simon. I love how simple so many of these ideas are but still so important.

Cindy Murdoch from Texas on October 25, 2011:

I think 49 should be done several times a day. What a great hub. I love that song. It was great to hear it again.

You are so creative and witty. I like your style.

Happy fiftieth, and here's to 50 more.


Voted up and all the way across!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Mamadrama from Upstate NY on October 25, 2011:

Great hub! Great read! Great writer!

Husky1970 on October 25, 2011:

What an excellent way to celebrate your 50th hub, Sunshine625. I am also a fan of Paul Simon and Simon and Garfunkle before that so I enjoyed a few of the ways to keep your lover that included references to a line or two of a song. Like "hop on the bus" and "slip out the back, Jack." Congratulations on your milestone!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 15, 2011:

Thank you for all of your comments, thoughts and additional ideas...they are much appreciated :))

september girl on October 09, 2011:

Very nice! : ) Voted up and interesting. I need to bookmark as a daily reminder. Thanks for sharing it with us.

daniellehorgan on October 05, 2011:

This is such a good hub!! I'm definitely going to bookmark it and try out these tips over the next week or so, thank you! Voted up and beautiful!

pinkish on October 05, 2011:

Beautiful hub! Thanks for sharing your great advice! Up and up!

Pamela N Red from Oklahoma on October 05, 2011:

Such a great idea, I love this. People seem to be in a love 'em and leave 'em frame of mind and it's refreshing to see someone looking to ways to keep things together. The title is great too. I also love Paul Simon.

Julianna from SomeWhere Out There on October 05, 2011:

I like these and #47 is a wonderful one, "Don't judge others.". Holding hands is also fantastic! Congratuations on your 50th hub, I am looking forward to #100. :)

davidparklg on October 05, 2011:

That's great. You've perfectly got the opposite of the song.

mustanggirl427 from Florida on October 05, 2011:

Congtars on #50!!! Love this one :)

tamarindcandy on October 05, 2011:

Thank you for sharing, it's adorable.

Marisa Hammond Olivares from Texas on October 05, 2011:

Brilliant! I loved this! I had not caught this one until I spotted it on the feeder screen today. I'll be singing Paul Simon all day now...hehe

I've been married 21 years and was glad to read this refreshing refresher.

Keep these hubs coming!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 05, 2011:

Thank you all for stopping by and for your creative comments :))

StephenSMcmillan on October 05, 2011:

Wow. They are all sweet and lovely. Thanks for sharing. I'll bookmark it.

alvinalex on September 09, 2011:

Nicely created, Great Hub Thanks to share and congrats to reach on your 50th Hub. Keep it up

Deborah Neyens from Iowa on September 08, 2011:

Congrats on reaching 50!

Arlene V. Poma on September 07, 2011:

Happy 50th, Sunshine. And many, many more. How about 50 ways to DUMP your lover? Wait--I wrote the book on that! Hahahahahaha.

ExoticHippieQueen on September 07, 2011:

Congrats on your 50 hubs! Your list is great....figured I needed some help! First I have to GET a lover, lol!

Hanz16 from Olongapo City, Zambales (Philippines) on September 05, 2011:


Mark from Alabama,USA on September 04, 2011:

Nice Hub, I'm glad you made it 50 ways - That is also a cool song

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on September 04, 2011:

Dear Gypsy Willow, pedrn44, poshcoffeeco and naomi's banner...Thank you my friends for your lovely visit :) Always a pleasure to see you!

Naomi's Banner from United States on September 04, 2011:

Wonderful Hub Sunshine625. I like it ... I like it a lot! I do remember this song and I like it better your version. Keep up the good Hub writing!!!

Steve Mitchell from Cambridgeshire on September 04, 2011:

Happy days Sunshine625. A nice achievement. I had better get writing to try to catch you up....I don't think.

Sandi from Greenfield, Wisconsin on September 04, 2011:

Congratulations on 50 hubs! I always enjoy your writing. This is great!

Gypsy Willow from Lake Tahoe Nevada USA , Wales UK and Taupo New Zealand on August 23, 2011:

Great reminders Sunshine. Must try harder!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on August 22, 2011:

Thank you aphrodite! In the song the lyric is "drop off the key Lee and set yourself free" which is how I came up with #25 :))

Aphrodite Venus from Orlando on August 22, 2011:

Vote up awesome! I love it. #25 is very original. thanks for the fan mail.

Stephanie Henkel from USA on August 22, 2011:

Thanks you Sunshine! and thanks for a great hub!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on August 22, 2011:

Congratulations on your 50th wedding anniversary Stephanie :)

Stephanie Henkel from USA on August 22, 2011:

Your list of 50 Ways to keep your lover is wonderful advice! My husband and I have practiced much of this advice for years - might be the reason we celebrated our 50th anniversary this year!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on August 20, 2011:

Thank you all for the comments! Always appreciated :)

Ruffridyer YES a LOT of wives and mothers are like that! When my daughters bring home a random gift ... I ask "What happened?" or "what's wrong?" :)

ruffridyer from Dayton, ohio on August 16, 2011:

Sometimes after work I stopped by the flower shop to bring something home to my wife. I didn't do it very often because every time I did she would ask me, "What did you do Wrong!"

I later found out ALOT of wives are like that, no wonder they hardly get flowers.

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