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5 Ways to Spice up Your Marriage

Mary has written tons of articles encouraging families to get involved in activities that bring them together.

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I had no idea why there were tons of marriage advice articles until I took the plunge.

In the most basic sense, getting married only means you've made your relationship 'legal,' but the reality packs so much more. In my case, I realized marriage meant I was now spending most of my hours with one person, and it was way too easy not to put as much effort into a date as back when the date was the first time you'd see each other in 5 days.

Marriage is for better or worse, till death do you part; yeah? Since it's sure to be a really long ride, you might need some tips to keep the journey smooth, exciting, and as thrilling as when you two just met.

Find out five fantastic ways to spice up your marriage, and be lovey-dovey while at it.

1. Hold Hands. Share Hugs

Do you still remember how exciting it was when your spouse first held your hand? No matter how little the act may appear, showing your lover affection is a simple way to feel closer to them. A simple means of showing your love is to hold hands when walking the dog, cuddle on the sofa while watching TV, or play footsie beneath the dinner table. The power of touch can often solve most problems – or at the very least, ease the tension and make it easier to fix things. It follows that having a plentiful supply of it is a fantastic strategy to maintain or even strengthen your marriage. Talk less and simply hold the embrace. Wrapping your arms around that special someone will make you both feel good from head to toe, whether it's a lengthy, warm hug or something brief and sweet. Guaranteed.

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2. Don't Wait for Big Occasions to Do Stuff

Cook your spouse's favorite dish or get them a present right away; don't wait for a special occasion. Write your partner a love message and place it in his briefcase, or one day on your way home from work, stop and pick up her favorite flowers. Simple actions can go a long way in showing how much you care.

3. Get Physical with Your Spouse

In the early years of a relationship, most couples can't stop touching each other, but as time goes on, it's common for physical intimacy to wane as individuals get preoccupied with daily tasks.

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Although it's also quite vital, this isn't only about having a good time with your partner. Oxytocin, the 'love hormone,' may be released with even a brief back massage or tender hand caress, and relationships in which spouses touch each other often report increased relationship satisfaction.

Set a target of, say, 10 meaningful touches every day with your spouse and see how you and your partner feel after a few days (and nights!) of purposefully heightened physical love. Physical affection grows on itself.

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4. Go beyond the "I Love Yous"

It's probable that you say "I love you" every day in relatively routine circumstances, such as before you part ways in the morning before you turn off the lights at night, and as a normal closing statement in messages and phone conversations. The fact that saying "I love you" may become a reflex without having to stop and think is evidence of the intense sentiments two people might have for one another.

But here's the thing: Stop and think! It often loses some of the intensity and oomph that it had when you and your partner first spoke these words since it has become this habitual call and response routine in long-term relationships, isn't that right?
Bring some flair and energy back!

Consider sayings like "You still mean the world to me, you know that?" or "I am so blessed to have you," or any other unique little expression that you may interject in place of "I love you." By saying more than just "I love you," you ensure that they understand the passion behind the affection you're sending their way.

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5. Switch It up in the Bedroom

Even though it's beautiful to get to know each other's tiniest likes and dislikes, and to craft the ideal routine to communicate your love physically, you sometimes need to try something new. The degree to which you choose to get funky is totally up to you and your partner's comfort level, but remember that stepping a little bit outside of your comfort zone is the greatest way to get out of a rut!

Ask your lover to come along as you browse for lingerie and accessories on some entertaining sexual websites in the privacy of your own boudoir. Enjoy it; there is lingerie for every occasion. What could be more fun than Christmas-themed lingerie?

If you're feeling really daring, put some strategically positioned mirrors nearby to give the encounter a new depth. You may even redecorate your preferred sexy-time area by adding twinkling lights and candles for the ideal mood lighting. There are numerous methods to increase intimacy in a relationship, and changing things up in bed increases desire and closeness!

Need More Ideas?

Here's a list of more fun things to do with your partner that will keep those sparks alive!

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