Love, as great as the feeling can be, can slowly fade away for some reasons. If you suspect your man does not love you anymore, and you still love him, you are in a difficult situation. How you will you know if your promises of forever will last? Find out how to know if he is not in love with you anymore, and make up your mind on the next step towards your own happiness.
1. Spends less time with you
Does he only spend a little time with you? Does he spend more time with other people when you go out? One of the first red alert signals that your man does not love you anymore is the amount of time he spends with you. In the beginning he used to take a minute from his lunch break just to talk to you, now he says that he is too busy to see you. He rarely takes you out on a romantic date. He no longer makes any plans for your future together. He makes a lot of excuses just so that he doesn't have to be with you. Men when they realize that they do not feel affection for you anymore will try hard to find excuse to not be around you.
2. Communication dries up
Does he call you to know how you are doing? Does he immediately pick up his phone and press the answer button when you call? Communication is a critical ingredient to build a great relationship. Before, he was sending you unlimited sweet text messages and calls you regularly, now he doesn’t even bother sending you a “good morning” text message. When you call him all you receive is his answering machine telling you call back later. If you text him you will have to endure waiting for at least day to receive a reply. If your guy changes his number, doesn’t take your phone call and cuts all means of communication, better start finding somebody else before he finds somebody first. He may love hanging out with his own friends and having a nice time. But if he cannot spend a few hours with you and does not really care about communication and being together then do not think that he is still in love with you unless one of you takes the initiative to come closer.
3. No affection
Does he still look at you lovingly in your eyes? When was the last time he took you out on a weekend getaway? When was the last time you had steamy nights together? Love when it is lost in a relationship is the beginning of fallout. In the heavy days of courtship, he cannot bear to be apart from you, he wants to spend as much time together as possible, but now he doesn’t find it that fun anymore and thus beings making excuses. He avoids all attempts of intimacy from you. He doesn’t touch you anymore in a gentle way. The shining shimmering sparkle that once was present in his eyes was gone.
4. You are taken for granted
When was the last time he gave you a compliment or appreciates something you have done? When was the last time he asked for your opinion or suggestion on something? When he doesn’t do these things anymore, you are probably taken for granted. He cannot remember specific dates and he forgets simple things about you - like your middle name, your birthday, and anniversaries. He does not give you amazing gifts and great surprises. If he ever breaks his promises then he maybe planning to break your heart too. Broken promises will eventually lead to a broken heart and end up with a broken relationship. The moment he taking good care of you, he does not love you anymore.
5. He has no respect for you
Do you argue a lot? Does he physically hurt you when he gets in rage? How many times has he made you cry in the last month? Love should never feel like a rusted nail is forcibly driven into your heart. If he yells at you, hurts you, degrades you, belittles you, makes you cry, then he does not love you. If he lies to you, then the relationship is not worth salvaging anymore. When he loses respect for you, he wouldn’t think twice about yelling or hurting you even other people are around. Can you still call it love when he does not even respect you?
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
Jah on July 03, 2019:
All five go for mw, im planning to twll him tonight that we need to part and i cant do this anymore, I'm thinking twice about it for its possible I'm pregnant and i wouldn't want that to be the reason he stay with me. I'm sure that the longer we stay together the more painful breaking up will be for me... Idk what to do because I'm unemployed at the moment.
Poppy from Enoshima, Japan on December 27, 2018:
I got married in September. We wanted to get married anyway, but we sped up plans because we were expecting a baby. We had a miscarriage, and things just haven't been the same since. He said that he was angry at me for losing the baby. Since then he's been cheerful. Too cheerful, really, because I never saw him cry even once.
We haven't slept together since before we even got married. He likes to go out a lot. A few weeks ago I stayed out at a friend's house all night to see if he'd notice and he didn't try calling or texting to see where I was. It's like he's stopped caring.
We don't even really talk properly anymore. He makes me angry for no reason, and I always end up feeling bitter when we've chatted. I've tried talking to him many, many times but he doesn't listen, it's like my words just wash over him before he continues with his day with this stupid smile on his face like everything is right in the world.
I'm only 25, I don't want to be divorced at such a young age. I want to try to make the relationship work, but I feel like a failure and ugly because he barely looks at me or touches me. I feel bitter because I've lost my chance at being a mother. What should I do? Can you help me?
JH on December 27, 2018:
To KLC - ditto. after 15 yrs. I'm too loyal of a friend to walk away--and there are kids involved. So I've just decided we can share the same living space and he lives his life and I live mine and we avoid fighting. Try not to let it destroy you inside.
Lola on November 25, 2018:
This is something that I do because I no longer like my man anymore he is always clingy on me and I feel like he is like this because he wants me to give him attention and once I do he wont be as clingy because I’ve tried it before and maybe he does this because he wants to know he’s loved ? Or does he want me falling in love so that he can hurt me ? Well I know for a fact that he doesn’t want to hurt me but sometimes I don’t open up to him because opening up to him has always been difficult for me I just feel like he wouldn’t be able to help me because I just feel like I need to help myself but I know that sometimes it is better to have some support. I mean I really love him as a person he is nice and everything but I just feel like we have differences but when I open up to him he tends to help me I feel like at this point of time I don’t need a guy in my life but he still wants to be a part of my life I feel like I don’t open up my heart enough and I tend to get scared on doing so I need some advice
Gattry on May 28, 2018:
I don't want him to state obvious that he don't love me, but he must confront
Aline on May 11, 2018:
If you see all these red signs then you should also be able to see that yoi worth a lot more. To all the ladies here. You all deserve real love and appreciation. First tell your guys abt the thungs he stopped doing and how he needs to do for you to make you feel good. Still if he dont follow better to dump him straight.
KLC on March 26, 2017:
Nothing hurts more than when you love someone you gave your heart to and they obviously don't feel the same anymore... Sadly after 10 years of marriage with my hubby he fits all five of these now and I have no clue why or what went wrong... It's hurts when you're married and feel lonely 99% of the time...
jiminie on March 19, 2017:
i'm sad... it's too accurate
Christy on November 25, 2016:
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now.... he never tells me I'm petty or beautiful or sexy I guess he did maybe 4 time in 2 years I always tell him he is my sexy man or how good he looks I always say something like that. .I never here it from him ...he tells other women they are just not me. He tells me he loves me a ND does not want us to break up at all.... when I stay at his place and then be for I go home evert me before I go home he starts a fight about somthing. He always has me crying about something that I did or just because I want to here him say just once ha baby your looking fine or beautiful or sexy any thing just once I don't feel I'm beautiful any more at all.I feel like I'm dog poo.
dorz on February 28, 2015:
tsk,5 out of 5... so sad,i need to accept that my husband doesn't love me anymore.
married for 6 years with 2 kids, i think the love is gone,but i still love him but unfortunately he cannot reciprocate that anymore for me.
TheHoneymoonIsOver on February 19, 2015:
All of the "red flags" in this post sound a whole lot like my marriage....
it's just molly.. on December 16, 2014:
we've been dating for five months.. and now sadly everything on this list is true.. he doesn't comfort me when i'm sad, he doesn't text me unless i initiated.. and even then he takes awhile to reply, never complimented anything, forgets to say goodnight. i know he's busy with family (since he said he is).. but it's just too much. dumped him last week. i think now i made the right decision.
maggie on November 26, 2014:
I notice this, and it s very difficult for me now that my boyfriend for five years doesn't love me anymore, I feel very bad
Mr on September 15, 2014:
Very true, from last couple of yr , I can notice in my husband . Many arguments, not spending time, spending time on phone .less communication.
rabi on August 14, 2014:
These all are true for life faileure persons like .....my mom!!!....
mhine on July 04, 2014:
anonymous on January 04, 2014:
This list is very true.
keis on November 06, 2013:
monirah nantale on September 08, 2012:
love is really complecated