Cristale Adams is an online author and publisher. Her articles vary in topics and focus on real life. She always enjoys learning new things.
What is Love?
Love is not just a word to say. It is a special four-letter word that is used to describe a strong interpersonal affection, pleasure, and or personal attachment that a person has for someone else or something in particular. Love is also a virtue like respect, kindness, and compassion. Synonyms for the word love are tenderness and fondness, while antonyms are hatred and dislike. Studies and tests have proven that love does actually exist with people and within their hearts. The love that a person can have may pertain to personal relationships like family and friends. Love can also pertain to objects or food, like a child who loves a certain blanket and how adults love a particular hobby. Love is sometimes said that it cannot be described with exact words but indeed has many words used to describe that unique feeling that can happen, such as butterflies and warmth. Love can mean different things to different people and everyone expresses their love in different ways. The best example of this fact is how men and women express their love for one another differently.
Love is valued by many different cultures and religions around the world, like the Chinese culture and the Christian religion. For example, the ancient Greeks identified four different forms of love: kinship/familiarity, friendship, sexual or romantic desire, and divine love. The many different uses and meanings of the word love in modern-day language make love a very difficult word to consistently define. Many people do not honor the word or even put much meaning behind it.
Love is Life!
Everything in life has rules with consequences that follow, like the rules of the road and the rules of a courtroom. Love is no different because it is also a serious topic and also has rules that are followed by consequences, and many times it is serious. The rules of love apply to everyone and are mostly taught from a very young age, with sharing and kindness. We are all human and are going to make many mistakes throughout life, but the rules of love are the only thing that is easy to break and hard to repair once broken. Following the rules of love can ensure a happier and more fulfilling life by bringing more love into a person's life and relationships, instead of negativity, toxicity, and loneliness.
There are many different rules of love for a person to follow, some are more important than others. There are also many different thoughts, opinions, and even books about the many rules of love. While they are all true, there are only a few that are the most important to follow daily. These rules are unspoken but generally mutually understood and followed out of love and respect but also to avoid the consequences that follow breaking said rules.
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The Top Five Rules of Love
Rules of any kind are set in place for people to adhere to for proper and appropriate behavior, language, mindset, and attitude. Rules are meant to provide guidance and to maintain some type of structure at all times while setting respectful boundaries with consequences in place. The same is true with love and how there are rules to follow with consequences in that aspect. When dealing with matters involving the heart, emotions, and or feelings it is a very important topic and can be very difficult to explain. This particular type of set of rules regarding love involves other people's feelings, respect for those people and their opinions, and most importantly respect for oneself. The rules are simple and easy to follow if practiced every day and can increase peace in one's own life.
1. True Love is Unconditional.
The first rule of love is the fact that true love is unconditional. Love that is true and real will come with no judgments and is limitless. This love will be accepting and understanding. A perfect understanding of this type of love is demonstrated in a mother's or father's love for their child, whom they have bonded and have a connection with. A parent's love for the child is the truest and purest form of love. This special form of love can be hard to find these days, even among parents but it does exist. It is possible to love a person, but as long as there are stipulations or manipulations, it is not unconditional. It is also possible to love a person unconditionally and not agree. It is also possible to love a person unconditionally and not like them.
2. There's a Difference Between Love and In Love.
The second rule is the most important and many people do not understand this. Love is usually based on attachment and the length of the relationship. Being in love with a person is based on the emotional and physical yearning of wanting this person. A parent loves a child, because of the deep connection that has been formed over time. A man and a woman are in love because they want nothing more than to be with the other and think about the other constantly.
3. Always Be Quick to Forgive Others.
The third rule is the one rule that most people have a hard time following because pride and bitterness get in the way. This rule means so much because forgiveness can set anyone free. Letting go of the hurt and pain, putting it away and forgiving someone who has brought pain can free the soul from the past and all of the negative emotions. The first rule, the golden rule, and this rule go hand in hand because a person wants to be forgiven as much as the person who does the forgiving. This rule is showing love, and respect, for the other person and their feelings aside from the fact that they did something wrong and or hurtful. Forgiving someone for something small or very large can bring peace and reduce stress. This rule applies to both men and women.
4. And Quick to Apologize Too!
The fourth rule of love is the most important for having peace within life and relationships. Being the first to apologize is the peacemaker. This is the mature person that realizes it is not worth the drama that comes with trying to prove righteousness. There are two options in a relationship. Fighting about who is right or having peace. There are many things a couple will fight about, and most of them are petty. Who has had a disagreement with someone and don't even remember what it was about?
5. Actions Speak Louder Than Words.
This fifth and final top rule of love involves saying things but actually following through. For example, saying "I love you so much that I want to take you out." The next step would be to actually take them out. As in life, there are steps to every process. Like the first step, in-between, and the final step. Following through is the final step, which means turning the words you just spoke into reality. Many people can talk and say a bunch of things, but do they really follow through and finish the process with reality? This can damage a person's reputation and future relationships.
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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2012 Cristale Adams
HAPPY ISHAKU on August 28, 2020:
Never give up someone you said you love
Little Flame on March 19, 2020:
You should also never love anyone for just there looks
Nat Amaral from BC Canada on August 29, 2012:
Here's another rule: Be faithful to your partner so that he/she won't get burned.
Cristale Adams (author) from Florida on August 27, 2012:
Thanks for the read and the comment!
Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on August 27, 2012:
Great hub! You have discussed love in almost all its aspects. Thanks for sharing.
Martin Kloess from San Francisco on August 26, 2012:
Thank you for this. Just thought a love poet would stop by and get a few tips.