Jan has studied social science for many years. He is interested in providing solutions based on his experience.
1. Ghosting Reflects Negativity
Ghosting will always bounce back negatively, either directly to the one that did the ghosting or to other people in the sufferer's social circle since the person experiencing ghosting gets hurt a lot. There is no way on earth to assume that the one ghosted will eventually learn to get on with it and put on a smile along the way. It can and most likely will reflect in various ways – negative ones. It doesn't matter at all whether we talk about mental health issues or social difficulties.
Treat Others As You Would Want to Be Treated Yourself
People who ghost, in most cases, do not understand how the other part may feel. Sadly, they do not realize how their arrogant and ignorant behavior reflects on the other person. Some people may feel extremely sad, some will become very angry, and some will become both. Nevertheless, ghosting never is the right way to treat others. It makes them feel unwanted, unaccepted, and unimportant.
Before deciding to ignore a person, make sure to properly ask yourself whether you have enough reasons to do so and what those reasons are. If someone is mean to you, that's enough valid reason to ignore that person and push them away from your life. But if the person has been nice to you and treated you with enough respect during the time you two have been in contact with each other, then there's nothing that could defend your case in ghosting them. There are absolutely no excuses to validate such behavior.
If you're the one ending a relationship, always do it respectably toward the person you're deciding to end the relationship with. It does not matter whether it's a friend or love relationship. If they have not been abusive or mean to you, they deserve a worthy closure.
If you're an employer, always be sure that whoever offers you a job proposal gets an answer. Never ignore those who want to work with you, as that's highly unrespectable. It also shows no social etiquette whatsoever.
2. Ghosting Separates People
Ghosting does not bring people together. Instead, it separates them in the worst possible way. I see people nowadays fear being ghosted, thus experiencing social difficulties and not being able to open themselves or engage in activities that would help them find new people to form new relationships with. Of course, everyone is different, but I think that the trend is visible enough to consider it a problem worth discussing.
If you experience a lot of ghosting, your trust in people will eventually vanish during your life. It will become very tough for you to form new, strong relationships. You will always be on your guard and worried about whether the person you interact with means well and whether they will treat you with enough respect or disappear from your life when they want to.
3. Ghosting Leads to Mental Diseases
We need to put an end to ghosting. We cannot continue in this way. If we only consume relationships, do not take care of them, and value other people's contributions, then we will experience a very dark world. Such a world would eventually become filled with separation, hatred, and negativity.
What Does Research Say About Ghosting?
Since ghosting is a relatively newborn term, there have not been many research studies that would fully exploit the topic. Thus, forming a conclusion is a tough deal. However, some tendencies have come through, and that's what we will look at now.
Washington Post wrote about research focusing on the ghosting phenomena in which 76 college students got asked about their ghosting experiences. Sadly, a lot of students claimed that they did ghost others. Some of the reasons behind that behavior seem to be a lack of communication skills and the wrong perception of how harmful ghosting can be.
For example, an 18-year-old girl explained that she saw ghosting as a more polite way of ending a relationship instead of telling the other how things are in person or through text.
The research concludes that ghosting can result in some negative consequences for one's mental health. Ghosting can lead to low self-esteem, feelings of unworthiness, and the development of long-term mistrust toward other people.
Ghosting is dangerous, ghosting is disrespectful, and most importantly, ghosting is just the wrong way of treating people. See this as an appeal from me to you readers. Try to become more conscious of the ways you and other people are communicating with each other. Is there transparency? Can you talk openly about things? Is there enough respect? Ask yourself these questions more often.
It does not matter whether it's a love relationship we're talking about, whether it's a working relationship, a friend relationship, or any other relationship. It also does not matter whether it's a real-life relationship or a relationship that is based online. Always make sure you treat each other with respect. That's the only way our society can grove and improve. It's the only way to form meaningful, long-lasting relationships. It's the only way to create happiness.
This content reflects the personal opinions of the author. It is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and should not be substituted for impartial fact or advice in legal, political, or personal matters.
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