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18 Signs That Your Wife is Cheating


Signs Your Wife is Cheating

Marriage is made harder these days by the world’s view of men, women, marriage, and family. In today’s society, cheating is a major concern. I’ve given a few signs to look out for if you want to know whether your wife is cheating on you.

Change of Appearance: Pay attention if your wife suddenly starts worrying more about her physical appearance, because the longer a couple is married, they pay less attention to their appearance. If your wife suddenly starts dying her hair or start wearing contact lens instead of her usual glasses, it could be a sign that she is cheating on you because she might be trying to make herself look good for someone else. If your wife recently started buying lots of dresses, and dressing provocatively, especially with clothes that are revealing; instead of her former conservative clothes, it is a common sign of cheating, because women usually try to look their best at the beginning of new relationship.

Change of Perfume: Inhale her scent, because you must have been familiar with your wife’s perfume, if she has changed her perfume or wearing it more often, it could be another sign of cheating. This can be done to impress a new man or to cover up another man’s scent.

Working out: If your wife starts going to the gym more often than she used to, trying to shape up, she might be trying to make herself look more appealing to a new lover.

Lack of communication: If your wife suddenly stops talking about her activities or her thoughts or distant herself from you at home, there is good chance that she may be cheating on you. This evasive behavior may be because she is afraid of making mistakes or talking about the affair or she is getting the emotional support she needs from outside.

Making eye contact: If when answering questions about where she has been and what she has been doing, she avoid looking you straight in the eye, when that was not the case before, she might be cheating because humans avoid eye contact with others when they feel guilty or when they have a secret to hide. If your wife is cheating on you, there is a very good likelihood that she’ll find it harder to look you in the eye; rather she will be looking elsewhere when she is answering your questions.

Change in working habit: You should pay attention to a change in your wife’s working habit, like constantly working late, especially if she had not been a workaholic before or going on official trips. Depending on her career, these scenarios may not call for concern, because if your wife is a doctor, nurse, broadcaster, or secretary, she might have to work late.

Spending too much time with friends: Spending time with friends does not always signal cheater, but if she suddenly starts spending more time running around with social circles that don’t include you, that is a good indication that all is not well. Even if she claims she is hanging out with female friends, she may be economical with the truth.

Drinking and smoking habits: if your wife drank and smoked regularly before, you may not notice much difference. But if she does not smoke but come home smelling of cigarettes then she is seeing someone that smokes. If she never had interest in drinking alcohol, and suddenly begins smelling of it, she must be seeing someone who has taught her this new habit. Sex, drugs, alcohol and night crawling go together.

Movement: There is no reason why a husband shouldn’t know where his wife is, especially late at night or for long periods of time. If she keeps her movement a secret, and goes into a long complicated story about where she had been, chances are she is cheating. Her nervousness, will cause her to just ramble on.

Rumors: Cheating wife will want to distant herself from your family members and friends because she will be worried that they might pick up on the clues of her affair and inform you. Many women do get comfortable that they slip up at one time or another. Therefore listen to what you hear. If people are telling you that your wife is cheating, it might be time to investigate the information.

Change in sexual behavior: You should expect your sexual relationship to decrease in intensity and in frequency if she cheating on you because she has had her satisfaction outside the marriage. She could be doing something differently than she had done before, like asking for new technique you never did before or teaching you new tricks. Changes in sexual behavior are possible indications that there might be new influence in her life. Watch for affection toward you. If your wife no longer compliments you as she did before or does something as simple as pull away from your touch, an affair may be going on. Many cheating women try to avoid close contact with their husbands in fear of letting their guilt show. Conversely, a cheating wife may pay more attention to you, in a way to ease her guilty conscience.

Nagging: Your wife might suddenly becomes more critical of your behavior, like accusing you of cheating. If your wife accuses you of cheating, and you have not been displaying behavior that may lead her to that conclusion, there is a good chance that she is accusing you of cheating to make her feel less guilty.

We are just friends: when your wife start talking about a new male friend, that new friend might be more to her than she might divulge. If so, something may be up. But they don’t have to be new acquaintances. Office romances are common, where a boss have affair with his married secretary or junior staff. She could have been working with him for long time before the affair started. There are also cases of doctors and married nurses.

Instinct: Gut feelings are not something that should be easily dismissed. If you have reason to believe that your wife is cheating, investigate it. If need be hire a private detective to do the job. Gut feelings are often right on target. Confronting her without facts is silly, she will simply deny it. You would have succeeded in just putting her on alert and enabling her to better hide her tracks.

Computer Usage: If your wife spends too much time on her computer and when you ask about the new habit becomes defensive or simply says “nothing” or “not your business”, something may be going on. If she shut off the computer or try to block your view of it when you walk into the room, she may be sending emails or chatting in one of the social media with someone she wouldn’t want you to find out.

Change in phone habit: If your wife spends more time on phone, and automatically hang up the phone or lowers her voice, or leaves the room to take calls, whenever you walk in or you heard her sounding flirtatious on the phone, these habits could suggest that she’s talking to someone new in her life that she does not want you to know. If it seems your wife’s phone habits suddenly changed; including frequency of calls, time of calls, tone of the voice she uses or change in text messaging habits could all signify that she is cheating.

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Check her expenses: One of the simplest ways to catch a cheating wife is to take a peek at her receipts and credit card statements. A substantial increase in the amount of money she spends could suggest that she has been spending some money on someone new, because having affair cost money. There might be expenses listed for hotel rooms, vacations, restaurants, or anything else that you have no idea about. If so, your wife may be cheating on you.

Check mileage coverage: check her mileage coverage; you might notice she has been covering more distance lately, going to their rendezvous. Install GPS in her car, if you can, it will show where she’s going with the car and how long she stays.

The above mentioned signs are just few indicators that your wife is cheating on you. Just be sure to keep your eyes and ears open and confirm it before you act. Fortunately, the cheaters often make mistakes. If you know what to look for, this is when you may be able to catch your wife cheating.


Anthony Modungwo (author) from Benin on October 26, 2017:

James thanks for contacting me. It is my interest to see that marriages are blissful. Read this if you are convinced your wife had an affair: If you are in doubt then read this and get back to me: wish you a happy married life.

James Smith on October 26, 2017:

I have a real issue with trust for my wife. 6 yrs ago I caught my wife in a lie. I notice a charge to a hotel was done the morning she was visiting a friend. The friend told me they weren’t meeting until 1230-1p. The charge was done 930-10a. When confronted to her she told me it was a guy from high school and swears nothing happened. Flash forward today. Recently our tracked her mother to tell her something. Our daughter came to and said why is mom at the local movie theater parking lot. 20 mins, again she was caught in a lie. Confronted her and response was I’m

Paranoid. She also talked about splitting up and the spark is gone. She later everything was ok and blamed it on her hormones. Different other vibes she lets off raise red flags. Deleting history on her phone and computer, change of appearance, going to the gym, a dress I never see before looks too provocative. Any help will do. Help!

Anthony Modungwo (author) from Benin on September 27, 2016:

Deborah thanks for your encouragement. I quite appreciate your comments.

Deborah Demander from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD on September 27, 2016:

I'd agree with the above statements that the best indicator may be your gut instinct. This article is good, and many of these signs can be used for husbands or wives who may be cheating.

Thanks for writing.


Anthony Modungwo (author) from Benin on October 28, 2015:

Thanks kevinhauser1989 for your comment. It is good you took out time to find out and save yourself of lifetime of pains. I am happy you have decided to choose your next g/f more carefully. Getting her from the church is not a guarantee she is going to be faithful, just monitor her character. People go to church for different purposes. "Sometimes the truth hurts but you need to find out one way or another" is a very correct statement.

kevinhauser1989 on October 27, 2015:

The number one sign is your gut tells you not to trust her.. The first time I took a girlfriend out to meet a guy friend of mine she ended up getting drunk, started a fight with me then cuddled with him in front of me. I was so disgusted I left the room and they ended up hooking up in my own living room. Stupid me I gave her a second chance but was still suspicious so I hired a professional service to test her loyalty using facebook. I used They have good looking m/f's that will contact your gf/bf on facebook messenger and flirt with them Then they send you the screen shot of the conversation. This was the proof I needed to finally break up with my sneaky girlfriend.. Sometimes the truth hurts but you need to find out one way or another.. I may end up starting to go to church to meet my next gf..

Anthony Modungwo (author) from Benin on September 18, 2015:

Thanks Sarah Yao for your contribution. Obviously this is technological age and this can help. Offering the download for free is equally thank of you. I hope my readers will find it useful. Warmest regards.

Anthony Modungwo (author) from Benin on January 14, 2015:

If you read this hub you'll be more sure if your husband is cheating on you Even if handle the situation discreetly. Find out what you are not doing right and correct the situation. Divorce and separation have their own problems.

Jacob on January 14, 2015:

I'm going through the same thing with my meiuyrsots husband. He is never home, works late hours and comes and goes as he pleases. He is very protective of his cell and the only way I can find out anything is through his phone but he has a password on his blackberry and there is no way I can get in. I'm so frustrated with this and have found other clues to his weird behaviour I just wish I could find out and have proof. Its tearing me apart.

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