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15 Tips For Older Women Who Want to Date Younger Men successfully


15 Tips For Dating Younger Men

The age-gap between women and men in relationships does not matter anymore in the contemporary world. It’s no secret that a lot of women prefer or are dating younger men. Dating is the connection between two individuals. What was once thought of as unusual has now become commonplace. Current state of social consciousness has finally allowed all women an expanded freedom of choice as women are now willing to see younger men as an additional option for partnership. Older women are seen happily dating younger men. However, dating does not mean merely to hangout, it means to understand one another’s emotions, desires and expectations. Just like there are men who prefer to date younger women, many older women enjoy the company of a younger man for many reasons. This hub is written with intent to give older women tips about how to date younger men successfully.

Show confidence

In order understand how to date a younger guy effectively, you must know why the young man prefer you to younger girls. Many guys admit that confidence is one of the sexiest qualities in a woman. However, older women are mostly more mature and confident, and that’s what younger men find alluring and charismatic in older women. Younger girls are not confident, immature and often self-conscious. Thus, if you have a confident personality, a younger man will be attracted to you in no time.

Enjoy his company

When you date a younger man, you may be in for an adventurous and invigorating ride, because it’s not just about sex when you’re dating a younger man. One of the notable tips for dating a younger man is to enjoy and appreciate his distinct behavior, hobbies, likes and dislikes, even if it is totally a new experience for you. Younger men are as adventurous outside of the bedroom as they are inside it, and they’ll bring out a more youthful, vibrant side of you. Chances are he’ll be more spontaneous and adventurous than you’re used to. He may challenge your ideals. Being an older woman, you might like a candle-light dinner date or a walk on a sea-shore; but your younger man may like parties, going to clubs, drinking until late hours with his buddies, or is obsessed with things sports, and if you are not joining him, you might have trouble finding things you both enjoy — besides having sex. Be ready for unexpected date, going to the novel location and experiencing the unusual. If you respect his company and cherish every moment of it, he’ll come up with creative date ideas that bring back romance and youth into your life, and make you feel empowered and appreciated. Dating a younger guy this way will surely set you on a wholly new journey of experiences and memorable moments.

Share with him your experience and knowledge

While dating younger guys, older women must know that they are more senior with respect to experience and knowledge than those younger men and they should endeavor to share their experiences. No matter what his age, he is likely to be less experienced as you are. If he's never been married, had kids, been in a serious, long-term relationships, or had any real-life responsibilities, and you have. He will like to know your past experience which will help open his eyes to new ways of thinking, cause him to develop new interests and help him see the world through a wider lens. Thus, you must feel free to share your experiences and offer reasonable relationship advice to him. If he's never been married or lived with a woman, he will not know what is expected of him.

Different educational background

The chemistry may be undeniable and you’re on the same page about many things, but often your careers will be at different stages, which could lead to some challenges. The challenges will be bigger if you're highly educated, and he's still trying to figure out what he wants to study. But if he's smart, seen a bit of life, traveled around the world, enjoys learning new things, has a broad range of interests, then you'll probably be able to bond easily.

Take care of your physical appearance

Older women dating younger men must be concerned toward their health and physical looks. You must know that even though a younger guy preferred you for dating over other younger girls, he still wants you to appear presentable. He will be more attracted to you if he notices you’re healthy, and with good skin. So, for retaining his attention and attraction toward you solely, you must take extra care of your skin and figure. Use facial cosmetics that save your face from getting wrinkled. Eat healthy and fresh food. Go to gym for exercise in order to remain physically fit. This will make you appear younger and fresher.

Be fashionable

Being trendy and up-to-dated with latest fashion always assists older women dating younger men. A modern and classy appearance will make you look more attractive and stylish for your younger men but you must choose those that fit your physical features. Wear dresses in which your figure appear more hot and attractive. So, you must take extra care of what you wear. Visit shops and go online and search for latest trends in fashion. Wear jewelry which makes you appear more attractive.

Let him hangout with his friends

Older women dating younger men are often faced with problems because often their hobbies and personalities are different from each other. To avoid your relationship ending in disappointment allow your younger guy to do things he likes. If he wants to hang out with his friends alone, let him do so. Allow him to enjoy in his social circle alone whenever he wants. . Let him be himself, and allow yourself to be the woman you’ve always wanted to be.

Stage of life

Being older, you may be more successful and established, while he’s still climbing the corporate ladder or even getting a career going. Older women are generally at a point in their life when they’re established and don’t depend on a man for their daily plans and self-fulfillment. This will probably be the biggest consideration for you. He may not listen to the same type of music or use the same reference points in conversation that are familiar to you. He may have completely different views about the world and this will force you to see things differently and learn new things. You may easily discover your younger man is more enlightened than anticipated. He may be able to handle things in the dating/relationship process that you can’t. He’s apt to push you to a new understanding of a social situation, or open your thinking to a new perspective.

You may not be the one in control

Never believe you will be in control because you are older. The only thing you can control is your own life. Not his. Don’t equate youth with simplicity. He may have more confidence than you expect. Your younger man may surprise you with an unexpected level of self-awareness. As an older woman, you’ve had the added years of self-reflection to have learned your truth and live authentically. You’ve become less reactive, taking on life with a greater perspective while taking yourself less seriously. You’ve won enough battles to know your strengths, and lost enough challenges to know your weaknesses. Younger men are the product of an evolving world. Resist the temptation to mold him into the rigid dating versions of the past. Don’t allow the old roles to limit your vision. He may possess an emotional capacity you didn’t anticipate. Don’t assume this younger man is a toy or easy prey. By assisting each other and working together, you can create the version of dating/relationship that works best for both of you.


Never believe because you are older you’re the one with all the greater sexual experience and that the young man is sexually naive. Age doesn’t equal sexual experience. Younger generations have grown up with a more open attitude toward sexuality. We always hear that older men are better in bed. I’ve heard far too many complaints from women to believe it’s factual. In the arena of sex, older doesn’t always mean better. The fact is that younger guys have more stamina. Sex with a younger man is awesome. They tend to take more pride in their stamina and athleticism in the bedroom and are more likely to wait until the older woman has been fully pleasured before they allow themselves to climax. Well ladies, many of you dating younger men can confirm this.

Do not be ashamed

You should not be ashamed because you are dating a younger man. Rather, be proud that you found someone that is youthful. Younger men come from a different generation, therefore, they have different perspective on life than their older counterparts. Perspective is how each person sees the world and how open to new ways of thinking a person is. If the two of you are more open-minded than most and enjoy learning from each other's differences, then your uniqueness can help you bond because it adds an element of fascination.

Less baggage

Younger men tend to be more open minded about having new experiences and are less set in their ways. For women, a younger man also brings less baggage and a less demanding schedule, so he has more free time to attend to the needs of an older and established woman. This may also mean the younger man lacks relationship skills, such as communicating and resolving problems and conflicts. The younger and less experienced he is, the more open he’ll be in his relationship with you because younger man comes with a cleaner slate upon which the two of you may design the finest romance imaginable.

He may be scared of commitment

For young men, being in a relationship is more about having someone to go out with and to have sex with. So you must decide whether your "younger" man is someone you want as just a playmate, or a serious, long-term relationship. Most of them are not ready to settle down and they certainly aren't ready for marriage and babies. He’s not ready for all of the pressures and responsibilities that go along with a committed relationship because his emotional maturity is not fully developed yet. He’s either scared of love or loves you but feels like marriage means giving up his freedom. What attracts a younger man to an older woman is the lack of games. He lacks the polish his older counterparts possess in countering your moves. So take what stage of life he's in very seriously because if he's still "sowing his oats" and you want the coziness of a committed relationship, then he is not a good match.

Having kids

The younger men you date may be unwilling to have kids; feeling he is not yet ready while your biological clock is ticking away. So if you want kids, it could be several years until your youthful partner is ready to face the reality of raising one.

The mommy relationship

For women who decide to date a younger man, it’s important to keep in mind that sometimes a large age-gap can give some challenges in the relationship. He may not have money unless the older men who are more financial stable with more money and life experience. In some cases, older women often do various things while dating younger guys that show they are being a motherly figure. Don’t become his mommy. If he makes a mistake, you don’t have to yell at him or start advising him as his mother will do. You must respect his inexperience. This will keep your relationship healthy. It can get confusing who picks up the check at dinner. When it comes to emotional maturity, younger men have not learned to control their passions or tempers as well as older men which can lead to jealousy and possessiveness.


Anthony Modungwo (author) from Benin on October 13, 2017:

Jeams thanks for your comment, however, I don't involve myself in match making. Best wishes.

Jeams on October 13, 2017:

I'm 20 years old looking for older women

Anthony Modungwo (author) from Benin on November 26, 2016:

Thanks dashingscorpio for your great contribution. I completely agree with you.

dashingscorpio from Chicago on November 25, 2016:

Great advice!

One other thing I would suggest is that these women live in the moment and enjoy the ride. In most instances young guys end up settling down or marrying women their own age or younger when they decide to.

The age gap is perfect for women who find men their own age to be too set in their ways, lacking physical energy, only interested in younger women. From the young guy's point of view dating an older woman involves much less "game playing" and manipulation.

The older woman most likely has already had the "big wedding" or children and is no longer obsessed with (finding a man to marry her).

The older woman doesn't use sex as a tool to reward or punish men.

She loves her independence and sexual freedom!

The biggest danger for either of them is when they expect each other to behave or have the same desires as someone their own age.

People often say what is it that you have to talk about when there is an age difference.

The reality is most conversations don't begin with: "Do you remember?"

Conversations are usually about what you did last night, work, news/current events, movies, weekend plans, things going on with their friends and family...etc This explains why co-workers of different ages are able to become friends.

Age for the most part is just a number until the older person starts to have serious health issues or the younger one wants someone their age.

Most relationships fail regardless of age!

That's just a reality.

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