How Can We Make Dating Fun Again?
I enjoy dating, don't you? Getting to know someone you like, while doing an activity you like, is probably the epitome of happiness. We go on dates in order to have fun. We get dressed up (sometimes), put our best foot forward, and set out for a night of adventure and romance.
But here's the thing: if not done well, dating can become predictable, low energy, and boring. That's not good! How can you put your best foot forward if neither of you is actually having any real fun?
Modern men and women are growing tired of dating. There are numerous reasons for that. At some level, though, it is likely linked to the feeling that dating just isn't fun anymore! Dating may even be stressful on some level.
Well, I have some good news. Here are 14 brilliant, out of the box date night ideas for couples of any age, gender, or stage of relationship. These are about having fun, flirting, and enjoying life as human beings. These ideas take the stress out of dating and replace it with opportunities to ignite some chemistry or at least feel really good about yourself when the night is over. Enjoy and good luck!
For Blind Dates
Did you get set up on a blind date? Consider yourself lucky! That means someone cares about you enough to give you the chance to have a lot of fun for a night. It doesn't have to be stressful or nerve-wracking (though, you may be nervous which is totally natural).
Even if you set yourself up on a blind date through a dating app or something similar, you're in for a fun ride. Try one of these ideas on for size and watch the sparks fly.
1. Create your own pub crawl
The idea of this one is simple. Just pick an area of town with a bunch of pubs or bars, choose one to meet at, and then spend no more than one drink's worth of time at each. Hopefully there are at least 3 bars to visit. Use Uber to get from one bar to the next (and back home, if necessary).
Why this is great: Changing the scenery throughout the date can keep you both from fixating on each other, and that's especially good if you've literally just laid eyes on this person and aren't sure what you think of them yet. The beer goggles effect never hurts, either. The pub crawl keeps you both active, keeps the mood light, and will lighten the mood up quite a bit!
2. Go star gazing/full moon watch
Find a quiet place, such as a university sqaure or center, sit on the ground or a ledge, and watch the stars. If either one of you has a telescope, great. If not, there are some awesome star gazing apps you can find for your phone. If there's a full moon, even better. Everyone looks better in the light of the moon.
3. Attend a local artist's premier/opening
Small art studios typically have openings for new artists frequently, and this is a great place to meet someone new. Again, you're able to fixate on something other than your date - the art! Even if you don't like your date all that much, the art may be stimulating and will keep you happy. This is an excellent choice for quiet or shy people, as well. Either everyone around you will also be quiet, helping you fit in, or, everyone around you will be buzzing and hopped up on artsy vibes, and the pressure to be entertaining will be off of you.
4. Do dessert and drinks
This one is easy. Skip dinner, or better yet, have dinner out somewhere with friends. Get your fill of great food and put yourself in the right state of mind to meet someone new. Then, meet your blind date at a really nice restaurant and order drinks and dessert only. The dessert will provide a much needed endorphin boost. Who isn't happy while eating dessert? If it goes well, plan the next date around something other than sugar.
Ideas for New Couples
So you made it past the blind date your great aunt set you up on? Fantastic. Now, three to nine months later, you're settling into couple hood. You've seen all the new movies you can stand for awhile. And lately, Five Guys Hamburgers has been seeing a little too much of you guys. You're starting to get embarrassed at how routine this is becoming, aren't you?
No worries, because here are four awesome ideas for extending the honeymoon phase longer than it usually is. These are great for new couples who are beginning to settle in and getting used to having someone else around all the time. These scream romance. Keep it alive!
1. Create a four course meal together.
Plan the meal using online sources for a four course meal. Make sure it's food choices you both like, and can reasonably cook! Then go shopping for the ingredients together. Finally, come home and make the meal - together. It doesn't matter who does what. Keep it fun. Eating together is amazing, but cooking together takes it to a whole new level of intimacy.
2. Go on a couples scavenger hunt.
Search online for walking or city scavenger hunts. If during the day, you can separate and make it a competition, keeping up with each other by Facetime! Or, if it's at night, do this together and take photos or use Snapchat to document the date.
3. Play hide and seek.
You read that right. Grown ups can still get a kick out of hide and seek. Even better if this is a surprise to one of you. Do this in the house if you'd like, and be sure to have a nice kissable moment when whoever is hiding is finally found. If outdoors, make sure you stay within shouting distance. The idea is not to be hidden for too long!
4. Have a picnic at sunset.
If you live somewhere with beautiful sunsets, never forget to incorporate them into your dating life. Choose a bottle of wine, some hard cheeses like Gouda, Provolone, or sharp Cheddar, and have a picnic in a place where you can sit together and watch the sunset in silence. Enjoy the moments when the sun goes down and the moon is visible, and wait for the sparks!
Been Together Awhile? Here Are Some Fresh Ideas
If you've been together awhile, chances are that you've done all of the things that you've both wanted to, provided money and time haven't been obstacles. The good news about these 3 ideas is that they are pretty cheap, and you might not have tried them before! When in a long-term relationship, it's important to keep dating.
1. Look at old photos by candlelight
This is a great date idea I got from an article on inexpensive dates. How special would it be to take some time to relive old memories by looking at photos together? They don't even have to be photos of the two of you. Sometimes, it is beautiful to watch someone you care about get nostalgic. The look in their eyes and the smile on their face will be all the enjoyment you need
2. Take a Tango class.
Tango is a beautiful, sensual dance that cannot be done without being very close to one another. If you've been distance, perhaps this is just the sort of thing you need to rekindle the flames. Tango is great for fighting couples! There is a tug of war that happens with a Tango, and you might get some laughs out of seeing who wins the battle.
3. Make some magic with pottery.
Remember the scene from Ghost? Who can forget it. Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore steaming up the camera while making some pottery together. Well, you can make that Hollywood scene a reality in your own life (maybe not that EXACT scene). Contact a local pottery studio for classes, or, just tell them what you're looking to do. They'll make it happen for you.
Keep It Fun
Ideas for Any Age or Stage of Relationship
These date night ideas can stand the test of time and will be fun for anyone. Even if you are completely single, you would probably enjoy these. Remember, the key for dating is to have fun, let sparks fly if they want to, and make the most of a somewhat brief period of time with someone you enjoy - or someone you think you might enjoy. Life is quite short, and any amount of time we invest in doing something is precious time. Spend it wisely!
These ideas speak for themselves. Have you tried any of them?
1. Rent bikes and roll through town.
2. Go whiskey tasting and try cigars.
3. Go to a trampoline park.
Online Dating Fun Facts
Who's online dating? A lot of people! Here are some really fun facts about the subject from PewResearch.org:
- The biggest consumers of dating apps are "never been marrieds"
- At least 15% of adults have used online dating apps
- 80% of people who've used online dating think it's a good way to meet people
- 60% of people who've never used online dating this it's dangerous
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Dale Anderson from The High Seas on September 30, 2019:
I liked this. Thanks for sharing it. It helped me plan my next date night with my wife.