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10 Little Ways To Show Your Wife You Care


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Everyone likes to feel appreciated, and hard working women are no exception. When was the last time you did something sweet for the woman you love?

If you can’t remember, then it has been too long.

This is a lighthearted list of easy, painless ways to let your wife know that you love and appreciate all she does.

  1. Give her a genuine, sincere compliment. Saying “Gee honey, your butt doesn’t look that fat in those pants” will not count. That will set you back quite a bit, as will comments like “Those sunglasses look great on you! They hide the dark circles completely.”
  2. One night, just to be sweet, let her be in charge of the remote control, and don’t get all annoyed if you aren’t happy with her choices.
  3. Clean something. Anything, anywhere in the house will do. If you think everything is already spotless, be thankful you have such an efficient wife, and go clean out her car, or give the dog a bath. I know you are probably thinking that you don’t want her to get used to this help, and that is why you are terrified of doing it even once. Trust me, if she is an overworked wife and mom, she will be thrilled.
  4. Fix something around the house. Anything. If you are oblivious to what needs fixing, just ask her. I guarantee she has a list already prepared.
  5. Do the grocery shopping. Moms of toddlers especially appreciate this effort. Be sure to buy more than just beef and beer. She has a list for this too. While you are there, buy your wife something that is not on the list, like her favorite candy or other treat. Warning: Do not buy her favorite chocolate cake, or blueberry pie if she is on a diet, unless you want to wear it.
  6. Let her sleep late on the weekend, even if you can only keep the kids quiet for an hour. Bring her some coffee or tea in bed when you wake her. Feed the kids while you are at it, please!
  7. Pick up dinner on a weeknight so she doesn’t have to cook (or feel guilty for making you warm something up yourself). Pick up her favorite food, instead of yours.
  8. Tell her to go take a couple of hours for herself, while you happily play with the kids. The fact that you offered, and she doesn’t have to beg or look at a sour face as she walks out the door will do wonders for your relationship.
  9. Don’t nag her. Everyone always talks of nagging wives, but what about nagging husbands? Take a good, long look at yourself, just to be sure. Do you nag her? Let it go, just this once.
  10. If you have tried any of the suggestions above, you will now realize that you have much to be thankful for. Imagine how hard she must work to find something as small as sleeping late or having the shopping done a major gift! You are a very lucky man. Tell her.

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Herb and Bernie Hopkins from Clayton Alabama on August 29, 2013:

Good article...I've been married for 34 years and all of your points are part of our long lasting relationship. May I add one more that has kept our marriage "alive and well"? Your partner needs to partake in activities that you like, and vice versa!! For example, I love the beach, my hubby doesn't. He hates the salt water, the sand and sun. At first this did not matter. I would go with my friends. After the kids came, family was my focus and I wanted to share this "beach worship" with them instead of only my friends..My husband knew this and came up with a great solution. We started by going once a week with a picnic for dinner on the beach. And slowly he relented and started coming for "family functions". One year my friend rented a condo on the beach and invited us up for a nite. It was fantastic and he found that even tho he didn't love the beach like I did, he could compromise. We rented a condo for a week or two at least once a year after that!!! I can do the beach all day, and he can come out and play with kids, now grandkids, do our daily walks, and when he's had enough he just goes up and enjoys what he likes to do. "Compromise" is the key..

Hailey on June 17, 2013:

Great hub, absolutely loved it! It's not that hard to make something nice for us-girls, any sign of attention will be appreciated.

Voted up!

Cody on April 04, 2012:

I find this interesting . I am the one that keeps the house spotless . I do all the repairs when needed . I take care of our two little girls . I cook dinner every night .

I don't do the shopping thing but will from time to time in the future .

My wife hasn't done cleaned for years .I do all the cleaning and maintaining .

I asked her if I could get a motorcycle . she told me no cause Its to dangerous. I explained to her that i would ride it carefully and take a class to refreshen my driving skills of riding since its been awhile . She still says no . i do feel that she is ignoring the way I feel about this which is strong and its kind of pissing me off .

now she says that we cant afford it . okay then I will quit smoking and drinking ,punched the numbers and if i did that we would have saved over 250 bucks a month . The Motorcycle I've got my eye on would cost 120 month .so if affording it was the problem in the end after buying the bike we would still see 130 extra month .

She still says no . what can I do?

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I have figured in everything and am real passionate about pursuing this . I've wanted one for years and feel that I've waited long enough. giving in I would feel that this marriage will have become very one sided and I wont have that .do you have any suggestions ?

Crazy on December 09, 2011:

Women are like culture so they are dynamc with time. Do not over pamper your wife otherwise she will take an advantage of you.

I said it, and beleive that.

BILBO6934 on November 19, 2011:

Great hub! Amy i agree with most of the comments. I would love to see more comments on women appreciating their husbands as well.

marwa on September 29, 2011:

thank you ,I really love that

Deano on September 19, 2011:

I do all the above and take her out when I can but my health is not what it use to be so I can only do a few things a day to help out but I feel like we are drifting apart tbh I don't know any more your comments are welcome DD

who me? on August 25, 2011:

clean something, fix something, Do the groceries and take care of the kids.

lol. Something tells me this was written by a chick.

Oh wait. just saw the pic on the top right. Called it.

Don't get me wrong, this would be a great list if you renamed it 10 Little Ways to be Considerate or something

but not to "show her you care".

This list would have to be a whole lot more romantic, or at least socially involved to live up to that title. Stuff like the first two.

confused on January 21, 2011:

Our kids are 4 and 2. I get up with them every weekend and let my wife sleep. I do 90% of the laundry,90% grocery 75% of diners, 95% baths,brushing teeth and putting to bed. We both work. I don't ask for help, and I am more than happy to do these things, but when I fault at something and bring up how much I do on these things, I am told that she could hire someone to do all that and if I communicated I would realize all these things are not that important. I love my wife to no end, but I am always in trouble. I just don't know what to do? She is a great mom, but the kids always want daddy!

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on December 30, 2010:

Wow, Ryan, I don't think I said anywhere in this that "all men are lazy and drink beer all day," so I'm not sure why you are calling me narrow minded.

These are just my suggestions based on my own experience...

Guest on December 30, 2010:

very nice

ryan on December 21, 2010:

seriously? this is pretty sexist, not all men are lazy and drink beer all day, typical of a narrowminded woman to post something like this.

Mark C. on December 16, 2010:

Wow. I was really hoping for more. Maining because......I'm going %85 of these week in and week out. I do most of the cleaing. I'm the one that does the grocery shoping after work, etc, etc. I'm trying to be more romantic. I used to be really good at it but I've lost my touch. I know most women would simply appreciate a man that cleans and grocery shops but my wife needs me to be more romantic to show I care. AHHHHHH!

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yalenova on July 16, 2010:

I hope this tips is not just a little show. Everything must happen on their own. Looking forward

badshah khan on July 13, 2010:

such simple things i think they gonna work coz women don't expect their husband to buy her moon but rather a morning coffee would work just fine.

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on May 28, 2010:

Hi RIchard, I'm sorry that you are going through such a difficult situation. I think that making an effort to do little things to help out your wife and show her that you still love her regardless of how she has hurt you will help, but I don't think you should continue doing things for her for too long, if she continues seeing another man. While you should continue to be kind to her, please do not let her take advantage of your good nature.

richard on April 29, 2010:

i would like to know if i'm seprated from my wife and I due small things like getting up at 5am and pushing her car out of a ditch whenis snowing it tail off.Or I go and fix her lawnmower or give her money when she is broke and don't expect it back What about these kind of steps What I am asking is if I due these thing will it help my chances with her.Her b.f don't due anything like that for her I want to show I care and still love her. Please help

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on August 20, 2009:

Hi free4India - I would not advise you to lie to your wife, yet I don't think it would be a good idea to tell her that she does not look good either! Perhaps just keep quiet, or compliment her on some thing wonderful she did. All women have bad days and still need encouragement!

free4india on August 01, 2009:

Your tips are nice... but I always wondered whether I should say she is looking beautiful..... when I feel deep down that she is not looking good.... to keep her happy and tell a lie or be sincere and keep the mouth shut... on July 13, 2009:

Hi Firend sorry for interfearing But dear I Totally agree with you amy jane u have Good view

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on April 25, 2009:

Hi Marriage help- I agree, balance is important. Your spouse needs to be your first priority though, not your friends. I think you should spend way more time with your spouse then your fiends. After all, your spouse should be your best friend!

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on April 25, 2009:

Hi Chris - I don't thnk doing all those things makes you stupid - I think your wife is very lucky to have such an attentive husband! I need to write a follow-up to this article (coming soon) because there are certainly some important things that I left out.

Chris C on April 23, 2009:


Been married 15 years, I do the grocery shopping, cleaning, cooking, working, paying the bills, fix it man etc, etc. That doesn't make me All American, according to this it makes me stupid! How about bringing coffee and the newspaper in bed. Maybe rub her feet? How about drawing her a warm bath? or maybe taking her to the movies...Come on...I need something with more nuance

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on July 18, 2008:

LOL, Rmr! My husband wanders from the list and brings home lots of steak and beer. He is getting better now and gets other food to go along with it. Some women don't mind doing the shopping, I guess. I just happen to hate it! If I take all 3 kids with me, I can hardly have space for the groceries in the cart, because they all want "to go for a ride."It also becomes a very heavy cart to push. :)

rmr from Livonia, MI on July 18, 2008:

I do most of these. As far as the groceries go, my wife's favorite saying is, "If you REALLY want to help me, don't help me!" I tend to wander from the list.

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on July 18, 2008:

Thanks Dabblingmum! Men need a little reminder - and a little push sometimes!

dabblingmum on July 17, 2008:

Gotta love these! Good ideas. Simple and easy.

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on July 14, 2008:

Hi Trsmd, you are doing all that already too? I will see if I can come up with some more suggestions for you...though I think your wife should be pretty happy with you!:)

Trsmd from India on July 12, 2008:

some of the above tips were already taken care by me..

Still more to please how?

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on July 12, 2008:

Wow Jack, that is amazing! I don't know any men that do all of the above. :) I'm impressed, but I guess you would hae to do something spectacular to impress your lucky wife!

Jack Smith on July 10, 2008:

What happens if you have already met all these steps ten fold. I am a very young husband (24, and she is 20). We do plenty back and forth. So I guess I have to REALLY go out of my way to impress. thanks for the heads up though

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on June 17, 2008:

Thanks TheCynosure! I hope he gets to read it too. This is important info! :)

TheCynosure from India on June 17, 2008:

I just hope my husband gets to read this. Nice work !!

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on April 15, 2008:

Thanks Sapristi! I love that commercial. My husband really wishes I would do all of those things so he wouldn't have to! Thanks for reading -glad you enjoyed it!

Sapristi! on April 04, 2008:

LOL amy jane, that Bud Light commercial just made the rounds here in my household. Thank you for reminding our caveman sweethearts that the little things will indeed make us happy. In particular, I am a huge advocate of men spending more time with their kids. It's mindboggling how many men just leave it all up to their wives. Though I don't have any of my own yet, the lucky future man had better take note ;).

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on April 03, 2008:

Slacker-taj, thanks for the comment. I agree that trying to "straighten" a woman to the breaking point would be a huge mistake. I think appreciating her the way she is (after all, she is still the woman you fell in love with) is the best course of action!

prasadjain, thank you for the compliment! This hub really seemed to strike a cord with alot of people. I didn't really think I would get such a great response, but I certainly appreciate it! Thanks for reading and commenting.

Dr.S.P.PADMA PRASAD from Tumkur on April 02, 2008:

My goodness! how many appreciations you recceived for this Amy!I envy you.Good tips for a hubby who wishes to maintain his family in a happy way. Similarly. your another hub for husbands also helps wives to keep their husbands happier.

Slacker-Taj on April 02, 2008:

Very sweet hub. If I may add:

I am a Muslim and we believe the first humans were Adam and Eve- and that Eve was created from the rib of Adam, just like the Christians and Jews believe. In our religion there's an explicit teaching for the men which states that:

The woman has been created from the rib and the rib is curved. If you try to straighten it, it will break- and if you leave it as is, it will remain twisted!

don't try to straighten it - advice for supposedly "macho" and "bright" men!

don't leave it as is - advice to not be a wussbag either!

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on April 02, 2008:

Hi Hazok, I think if you do all of these things, you should have a pretty happy wife on your hands! Telling her staight out how much you love her and appreciate her is a good thing too... Thanks for reading and commenting!

Hazok from Malaysia on April 02, 2008:

I have been doing all that, not all the time tho, before reading ur hub. Anything else?

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on March 31, 2008:

LisaG, you are very blessed! I think the fact that you don't take him for granted says it all :) Thank you for reading and commenting!

Lisakg from Caribbean on March 31, 2008:

You know, my husband basically does everything on the list. (Except give up the remote, but that's ok, I watch DVDs on the computer).

I am very thankful for him and his helpful ways. It is really a blessing when you have a mate who helps you.

So, I guess I am the one who needs to show him I care. ( I do you know, but he could be fussy sometimes. LOL)

Great hub amy jane.

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on March 31, 2008:

Your welcome, Pete. Thanks for reading :)

WeddingConsultant from DC Metro Area on March 31, 2008:

Good tidbits, thanks Amy.

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on March 31, 2008:

Thanks evenmurphy, I hope he listens!

evemurphy from Ottawa on March 31, 2008:

I'm going to print this out and leave it on the fridge for my boyfriend to read!

Nicely written hub.

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on March 30, 2008:

Thanks charlemont! :)

charlemont from Lithuania on March 30, 2008:

LOL guys need this list stick on a mirror in bathroom ;)

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on March 30, 2008:

Thanks Charmaine, I am glad that you enjoyed it! Thanks for stopping by :)

charmaine_zp on March 30, 2008:

Hi amy! Great hub! Really made me feel better about myself being a wife. I just wish my husband gets to read this hub too.. hehe... looking forward for more hubs from you.

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on March 30, 2008:

Write On, lol, that is an excellent point! My husband's sense of smell seems come and go when he is taking care of the baby. It usually returns as he is handing her over to me. Thanks for the great comment!

Write On! from United States on March 29, 2008:

Amy Jane:-)

Great reminder Hub on how doing the simple things for people you love makes all the difference.

A little note to the guys who are kind enough to let your wife sleep-in that extra hour or so, and feed the children... please be brave and IF you have little ones still in diapers - CHANGE IT! LOL


amy jane (author) from Connecticut on March 29, 2008:

Thank you, John, you are very kind!

Hi prems4u, I have taken your comment and questions seriously, and will be posting a hub later today that will answer your question.

Thank you, Neil! I don't blame you for avioding the grocery store :)

Hi Jason, thank you so much for the comment. I love the idea of the emotional bank account.

You are welcome, Penmanzee, but I am sure you were doing quite well already. :)

PenmanZee on March 29, 2008:

I thought I was doing well until I rated myself against the list. Thanks for the tips. Great hub Amy.

Jason Stanley on March 29, 2008:

The all time best seller business book, 7 habits of highly successful people, talks about having an emotional bank account. When someone does good stuff they make deposits. With enough deposits in the bank, a mistake or outright idiot move can be recovered from. Your hub here is great for ideas on how to make those deposits for the clueless.

proudgrandpa from Charlotte, NC on March 29, 2008:

Good post, good content, good everything. I am relatively new on hubs but I can see you have a lot to teach me and you entertain at the same time. Thanks Neil

Ps. I get a passing grade on all but two, Our kids a grown and I hate the grocery store.

prems4u from KERALA Cochin on March 28, 2008:

Hi All Female Hubbers are supporting You .....But

How will You show Your care to Your Husbands...?

Do You help him in Office


Allow him to take rest in home after the busy works in office ?

John Chancellor from Tennessee on March 28, 2008:


Could you share where you get caught in these tornados? I know plenty of women who will be lining up.

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on March 28, 2008:

Maggie, thank you! I am glad you found it useful and I hope your husband lets you sleep late tomorrow :)

Ooo - I like being called a rockstar!

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on March 28, 2008:

Wow, Rob, i totally agree and will be sure to show my husband your comments! Helping out with the kids in the morning would be tremendously helpful :)

Erinn, thank you, you are too sweet! Unfortunately, I think my husband may have developed an immunity to my charm. :) Plus, I look like I've barely survived a tornado at the end of the day!

virtuallymaggie on March 28, 2008:

You are such a rockstar! I sent the link to my hubby right after reading! It was like you wrote a list straight from my head. Great job!

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on March 28, 2008:

Thanks, John!

And yes, we do think alike, Steph :)

Peter, you are a good guy for sharing the remote- she will appreciate it so much more when the baby arrives (especially the sleeping part)!

Erinn Soule from Los Angeles on March 28, 2008:

Amy, you are brilliant! I love this one! Thank you so much for putting quality articles on here for all of us to read!

Also, you are so beautiful, that your husband must always do nice things for you! :)

Rob Jundt from Midwest USA on March 28, 2008:

This is a great list. Acts of kindness top my wife's list. I can do anything around the house she would normally do and life is golden for us. Thankfully, my habits have grown just knowing this about her. I would encourage all husbands to begin looking for small things to do that would take any burden from your wife. My short list includes: Cooking meals, getting our kids ready for school, bathing our kids, cleaning up after dinner or any other meal, and making sure the house is tidy when I leave. Of course there are numerous default items as well. The bottom line is a willingness to contribute and be a team. Great hub as always.

Peter M. Lopez from Sweetwater, TX on March 28, 2008:

Thanks for the advice. I'm sure it will come in handy, but I do 2, 5 & 6 regularly. Should I tell her she needs to appreciate those more? LOL!

Stephanie Marshall from Bend, Oregon on March 28, 2008:

Amy Jane - that is priceless! Great minds think alike! :-)

John Chancellor from Tennessee on March 28, 2008:

Amy ... good suggestions. Guys, if you are dumb enough to ask what needs fixing, then you deserve what you will get. In case you don't know, it will be a list a mile long.

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on March 28, 2008:

Lol, Steph! I should have added "give her some quiet time alone with the computer to create hubs!"

Stephanie Marshall from Bend, Oregon on March 28, 2008:

Very sweet and right on the money! Going to email this to Mr. Hicks right away. :-)

amy jane (author) from Connecticut on March 28, 2008:

Glad I could help, Shadrack - the little things matter :)

Shadrack on March 28, 2008:

Wow, I have leaned so much from this hub, some of the things I used to do like breakfast in bed, and now it looks as if I have forgotten. I am definatedly going back to that.

Thank you ,Kind Regards


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