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How Many Times Have You Broken up With the Same Person

Relationship issues affect many individuals. Learning how to be with one person is a key to an everlasting one.

Be patient in a relationship

Breaking up with someone more than once, and getting back together, or married again is a poor decision.

Did that happen to you?

You must have read it many times, either online or in guidebooks. Breaking up with a partner and not staying friends should be the best idea. You feel the same mistake will be repeated twice in your relationship, and that you don't need in your life.

Though that has been said, most couples break up, stay friends, and get back into their relationship. Sometimes marrying each other at a later stage is not the answer.

An example is as follows:

Angel was with her boyfriend for six months.

She broke up with him once before, and he broke up with her three times. These breakups happened in the first four to five months.

Somehow, they found their differences and decided to break up sadly this happens every day. Another couple broke up twice in a couple of months and still managed to get back together.

Sometimes you break up to spend time with other people and want to date different people to see how you find yourself in different experiences. You split from the relationship and get back together again.

Thinking it would work out the second time around.

It doesn't always work out, does it?

Yet you still choose to get back break up and get back again.

Has this happened to you in past dating experiences?

What are the most times you have broken up with someone, or with the same person?

When you broke up did you still speak to your past love?

For Example:

This is about an incident with a couple who broke up for a month.

One night she called him up and asked him to help her set up her television set. He went over to her place, helped her out with the task, and felt hungry afterwards.

They chose to go out for something to eat had a few snapshots of alcoholic drinks. He ended up sleeping at her place. She was insecure about sleeping at her new place and asked him to stay over at her place.

The experience had been taken as a mixed message to her. Thinking he wanted to get back with her. After their breakup of a seven-year relationship that can be a misleading thought.

Maybe you did not get back together self-respect counts doesn't it?

What makes you think it will work the second time?

Trusting somebody again is not always as simple. Such choices do not work out for everyone.

It is not worth going through a relationship after a breakup; it also, depends on the issues one had experienced. You can lose track of how many times you have broken up with someone.

Some couples have these experiences more than twice. This makes it hard to let go of certain issues. Thinking that someone is going to change for you, and to think the changes will be good again is a dream that will not be fulfilled.

Who will change for who or another?

Breaking up many times and getting back together with the same person can be most confusing.

Why do people date other people?

Why do people want to take the time out from each other?

Understand the meaning of dating. It is not just hanging out with someone on weekends dating is about having someone much longer in your life, and that can be for months or years.

A partner whom you can rely on, trust, have faith in and share you're a big part of your life. You can go on many dates until you find that someone you think is really the one you want in your life.

You would eventually want to have a family settle down and buy yourself a new home. Build a foundation and grow together.

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A commitment does not come lightly. People often go back on their word, and when you see that on your date you know that person is not the one for you.

Tolerating each other is a huge part of your relationship. Breaking upon numerous occasions is not going to do much right in your life or relationship.

You could have a poor marriage. If you get back together with someone who goes back on their word, it is not easy to live together again.

Problems can be overlooked if you don’t make the problem. If you don’t see your relationship as an experience, you could see your relationship as the problem then doesn’t get back together.

Respect is crucial in a marriage or any relationship for that matter. Accept each other, and you will see how much better you can be together with your partner.

A relationship of four years and has been on and off, he in his thirties, she is much younger and in her twenties. The decisions along the way went hand in hand until she broke up with him due to going to different schools.

She broke up with him three times, and he chose to be friends with her. He convinced his girlfriend they would be together again. You have shown her many good times while together.

You had made her see that only you can give her what she wants and needs and that nobody else can do that for her.

The problem is he has been divorced twice, and she has never been married. Her decision was not to be with anyone.

Should you try to keep someone who doesn't want to keep you?

Who is at fault when you break up?

How long were you be apart before reconciliation?

How many times can you break up and make up with someone before marriage?

When you break up for the first time and get back together that should be a lesson learned and you should not blame it on love. The second time you break up blame it on fate.

If you break up for the third time, then you can say you were meant to be together. In the process, you can lose more of your friends because of your miserable relationship.

The constant complaining and aching can be annoying to your friends. At the fifth break up your friends have had it with you. They will stay away from you until you work out your life.

Why would he or she be your ex?

There must be a reason for the breakup, it can be about your personality or behaviour. At any other point after the fifth time, you got to seek professional help. Move on to something new. Sometimes loneliness brings you back together.

There are a couple of important aspects one can learn from dealing with relationships, and with friends. Don't tell friends the unnecessary details. Focus on the most important details. They can get tired and bored with your complaints.

When you reach a certain age, you must work it out on your own. Find your significant other and move on. When you are young and in love, you think you are in a dream world.

Should you cut all ties with someone after a breakup?

You are not always ready for a commitment.

Do you fear commitment?

Many relationships don't break up in their first experiences.

Can two people love each other the same?

Why do you get back to the same person after so many breakups?

You are afraid of being alone. The fear of commitment, taking the next step, and dating other people, can make one feel insecure about another date.

Safety is another aspect of one’s life. Nobody will love you again or the same as he or she once did. You don't want to feel abandoned. Blame is not a healthy effect. Loving someone unconditionally is part of what you experience in a relationship. Holding on to what you have is most important.

Relationships are not for everyone


Breaking up with Your Partner More than Once

Breaking up more than once

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2013 Devika Primić


Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 21, 2016:

tamarawilhite thank you for stopping by here I appreciate it.

Tamara Wilhite from Fort Worth, Texas on February 20, 2016:

If you have broken up two or more times, you are not a match and should move on to find someone else who is a better match.

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Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on May 10, 2015:

Great and so courageously thought of. A lesson learned always shows you the better side of you. Thank you

Anonymous on May 10, 2015:

I broke up with my girlfriend twice, each time it was due to me being afraid she was going to leave me, we're back together now. While I did want more romance and presence from her in her relationship, we both also realized that I have abandonment and self-esteem issues. I'm seeing a therapist, and she's communicating with me more/being more romantic. I hope it works out, if not, then lesson learned.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 25, 2015:

Hi Tony sorry for the late reply. It sounds like she is not sure of what she really wants. If someone really wants to be with a partner they don't behave in this manner. It is time she made up her mind of what makes her happy. Not being able to live without you is not the only part of a relationship. Dating before you means she wants to experience new dating partners. If she loved you truly she wouldn't date so soon.

Tony on February 21, 2015:

I've broke up with my ex about 3 times the last time I told her I wasn't happy with the relationship.and after two weeks she went on her first date but she claims theirs no one likens she can't live with out me and that I'm her everything but she started dating before me idk what to do help me ??

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 11, 2015:

peachpurple thank you for sharing your experience here

peachy from Home Sweet Home on February 10, 2015:

I broke up twice and still married the same guy

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on June 15, 2014:

Hi Samantha I think it is over for good he is not happy and not sure of what he wants. He comes to you and leaves you needing to be alone again. It is confusing but if he truly loved you he would not treat you like that.When two people love each other they don't just ask for timeout and come back again to each other. He will date again and do the exact same as before with you. Is that what you want him to do? It is time to move on. Sounds like love is only from your side he is confused boy and not about his dating activities.I hope i helped you with your thoughts thank you for sharing your story.

Samantha on June 14, 2014:

My ex and I dated the first time for a month, and I was too busy at the time for a relationship, so we broke up. 7 months later we reunited, we were extremely happy and lasted a year, breaking up in May 2014. He said he needed to be alone. He tried to date another girl, but two weeks into their relationship, he came to Mr. Told me he was with her and miserable because I'm all he wants. So after working everything out, we date again, only to last two and a half weeks. He said he can't stay happy, that we are great, and I did nothing wrong, he's just not happy. Everyone says he loves me, and I believe him when he tells me he does. he said we could stay friends, and maybe someday be more than friends

What if he dates again? We always manage to come back to each other. Is it over for good, or is there still a chance. Im so confused, because i love this boy a lot!

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on January 03, 2014:

Hi anita How Many Times have You Broken up with the Same Person is a normal issue in relationships it happens all the time but not every one will go back to the same person. Thank you for commenting I appreciate you coming by.

anita on January 02, 2014:

How can u have a realtionship no phone calls,personel letters nor via personal text,no dates no nothing im fed up,i need hands on realtionship not alien.i need a man who knows what he wants n mature enough to ask me out really take me.after a yr n nothings happen.ihavent even spent time with this guy its done.its no fool like an old

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 26, 2013:

Vinaya Ghimire you made a good point and thanks for commenting here

Vinaya Ghimire from Nepal on October 26, 2013:

This has never happened to me. But I think I will never connect with the same person again.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 25, 2013:

Pamela99 thanks for commenting on How Many Times have You Broken up with the Same Person, so glad you came by

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on October 25, 2013:

Relationships can be so complicated, and they sure require a lot of acceptance. I think the stars are sort of in another category because they often have so much money and a big fan base. They travel alone quite often also.

I think if you keep breaking up that you might as well move on. It is like banging your head on the wall sometiesm. Interesting hub.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 24, 2013:

Hello FlourishAnyway so nice of you to come by here, thanks for sharing your thoughtful message

FlourishAnyway from USA on October 24, 2013:

I tended to see break-ups as one-time things. On-again and off again and you develop such instability that I don't want that as the basis of any long-term relationship, let alone marriage. That kind of behavior was a deal breaker.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 24, 2013:

Jackie Lynnley so glad you stopped by thanks for commenting

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 24, 2013:

sheilamyers interesting relationships don't always work out the same for everyone thanks very much for commenting on my hubs

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 24, 2013:

kidscrafts good point you are the original thanks very much for sharing your comment

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 24, 2013:

Hi MsDora, you made a good point about the sex so true thanks very much for commenting

Jackie Lynnley from the beautiful south on October 23, 2013:

Yeah happened once to me, or twice, or

sheilamyers on October 23, 2013:

I've never been married and have never gotten back together with anyone after one or the other of us have broke off the relationship. Basically it came down to we weren't right for each other and I doubt getting back together would've changed that.

kidscrafts from Ottawa, Canada on October 23, 2013:

I know.... I will not be very original again. I never broke up :-) And I am very happy it's that way!

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on October 23, 2013:

DDE, sometimes if it's a sexual relationship, the couple gets back together for the sex, but the problems are still there and they resurface causing another breakup. There could be a host of other reasons. Thank you for making us think about it.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 23, 2013:

Hi billybuc you know it happens to so many couples glad it worked out for thanks for sharing part of your experience have a good day

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on October 23, 2013:

Now you are writing about Bev and me. We broke up four times before we finally settled down and made it work. Relationships are oh so difficult, especially when both parties carry so much emotional baggage. :) Great thoughts here.

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