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People who wear pajamas in public are slackers, right? Just dirty, nasty, lazy slobs who should not be allowed in public until they can learn how do dress! One Louisiana lawmaker has even gone as far as introducing legislation that would ban the wearing of pajamas in public.
I think the disdain toward people wearing pajamas in public stems from a matter of perspective. When we see someone in pajamas out in public, it is easy to imagine that they just rolled out of bed that day and started going about their business without any thought to simple hygiene, which really is pretty nasty - especially if it is a conscious choice. But what if that isn't actually the case?
Will This Louisiana Parish Ban Pajamas in Public?
A Matter of Perspective
The late Dr. Steven Covey, author of the best-selling book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, gives one of the best examples of changing perspective that I have ever heard.
Dr. Covey explains that he was on a subway in New York one lazy Sunday morning. The atmosphere on the train was calm and quiet as people read, rested, or simply enjoyed the scenery.
At one stop, a man with children boarded the subway, and immediately, the ride turned to chaos. The man sat down next to Dr. Covey and seemed oblivious to the fact that children were yelling, hitting, and grabbing papers.. Dr. Covey became irritated, and he noticed that others on the train were becoming noticeably irritated by the atrocious behavior of these children. The fact that the dad just sat there in a stupor and did nothing about it did not bode well at all!
Finally, since he was sitting right next to him, Dr. Covey leaned over and politely asked the man if he could reign in his children because their behavior was disturbing the passengers on the train. The man seemed to slowly become aware of what was happening around him, and he turned to Dr. Covey and softly spoke the following words that felt more like a punch in the gut. He said, "Oh, you're right. I guess I should do something about it. We just came from the hospital where their mother died about an hour ago. I don't know what to think, and I guess they don't know how to handle it either."
Dr. Covey explains that in an instant his "irritation vanished. I didn't have to worry about controlling my attitude or my behavior; my heart was filled with the man's pain. Feelings of sympathy and compassion flowed freely."
What if the people who wear pajamas in public aren't lazy, ignorant slackers?
What if that pajama-clad person you are judging as lazy, ignorant, slacking, nasty, or whatever isn't any of those things at all? For instance:
- What if they recently lost everything they had in some kind of disaster?
- What if they are on their way to a pajama party?
- What if they just lost a loved one and it's all they can do to move much less worry about what they are wearing?
- What if it's someone who recently escaped an abusive relationship and had to flee with nothing?
- What if they are battling depression and haven't been out of the house in days, and it's a miracle that they are even out and about at all?
Why I Wear Pajamas In Public
I speak as someone who occasionally...ok, maybe frequently...goes into public with pajamas on. Here are some of the reasons why:
- I am a single mother with three children. If it is late at night, or early in the morning, and I am not otherwise getting dressed for something else, I have been known to run up to the corner convenience store for a gallon of milk or loaf of bread...or something else.
- I hurt my back. For awhile, anything that put just the least bit of pressure on my back would cause painful muscle spasms. During this time, there were times I had to go out in public and guess what was most comfortable to wear? You got it! Jammies.
- I quit smoking for 13 months. During that period of time, I gained an enormous amount of weight, and I couldn't fit into any of my clothes. Being a single mom - and recently unemployed - I couldn't just run out and buy new clothes to fit my new fat body. But guess what I COULD get in to...yep! My PJ's.
- Before I hurt my back, became unemployed, and quit smoking, I was working a full-time job, a part-time job, and going to grad school. I was dressed "appropriately" most of the time. But you add my full-time mommy job onto everything else I was already doing, and I spent the majority of what little down time I had in my pajamas. I guarantee you that if I had to leave the house for something - anything - during these times, I was going out in my jams if I was already in them.
- Sometimes I have been so busy with life that I have neglected to do my laundry until every presentable piece of clothing I had was dirty. If I have to run out for something at a time like this, I don't mind throwing on a pair of pajamas and handling my business.
I wear pajamas in public, and I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I do think there is something wrong with the fact that a person can make so many judgements about another person based simply on what they are wearing during the brief moment of time you may see them in a mall, store, restaurant, library, or anywhere else in public they may want or need to go!
If you are a person who judges others this way, I would just ask that you practice something for yourself. Next time you see somebody in their pajamas in public, instead of mentally judging them the way so many others do, simply say a prayer because you have absolutely no idea what they are going through! If you don't pray, fine. Offer them a smile...you never know, it might be the only smile they see all day!
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© 2012 Tiffany Delite
Tiffany Delite (author) from Wichita, KS on April 01, 2013:
wrenfrost56...7 habits is a great book :) i remember thinking "this is like a modern day bible" when i was reading it. anyhoo...love my pj's! and, yes, some jammies now days look very similar to a comfy everyday outfit...i already loathe the day i ever have to give mine up!!! blessings!
wrenfrost56 from U.K. on March 28, 2013:
I have 7 habits of highly effective people too it's a great book with plenty of thought provoking antidotes like the one you just mentioned. Anyway back to the PJ wearing situation, personally I don't mind if people wear PJ's in public (in fact sometimes they are more covered up then some people who are wearing normal clothes), but as you said I think that you have to draw a line with public figures etc. Also there could be a plethora of reasons why they are wearing pajama's, I swear some people don't even know it's pajamas that they are wearing!
Tiffany Delite (author) from Wichita, KS on March 05, 2013:
hi kathryn...thank you for visiting my hubs. i am delighted to know you enjoyed them :) i still rock my jammies, and if you have never done it...you should try it sometime!! *smile* thanks again...blessings!
Kathryn from Windsor, Connecticut on March 05, 2013:
That is an interesting viewpoint. Sometimes I wonder why people wear p.j.s in public, but I know that everyone has their own reason, and I would rather see that than someone wearing slouchy or low-slung clothes.
I certainly don't think their should be laws against it. People who wear pajamas in public are not doing any harm, and if they ban that, what else are they going to ban? Some things should not be the business of the government.
Tiffany Delite (author) from Wichita, KS on November 08, 2012:
MJC from UK on November 08, 2012:
:-) :-) :-) Love it!
Tiffany Delite (author) from Wichita, KS on November 08, 2012:
thank you for your comment jantamaya! i will forever rock the pj's :) blessings!
MJC from UK on November 08, 2012:
Tiffany please stay in your pj's. :-) I love my pj's too! When I see somebody in the public in their pj's, I don't judge them. However, on my own, I don't feel well in pj's on the street. It happens sometimes, when the mobile garbage bin has to be moved in front of the house in order to be collected by the garbage truck in the early morning. Your hub makes me feel better doing it (though most of the time my beloved hubby is doing it in his pj's :-)) Thanks for great hub. Loved to read it and voted it up.
Tiffany Delite (author) from Wichita, KS on November 04, 2012:
georgie...thank you for your comment! and yes, i agree, there are so many things worse than wearing pj's in public. i am quite tired of hearing people be so judgmental about those who step out in public in their pajamas! and i will forever rock the pj's! blessings!
Georgie Lowery from North Florida on November 04, 2012:
I don't think I want to move to Louisiana. I like wearing my SpongeBob pajamas in the Wal-Mart! It's not like they're see through or something! Personally, I'd rather see someone in pj's than jeans slung so low their bootie hangs out of them. I've seen more boxers on strange people in the last ten years than is normal for one person!
Interesting Hub, and you keep wearing your pj's! :)