Grace has seen the negative impact of large families through her extended family.It's thoughtless to have more children than one can afford.
Women Who Incessantly Have Children
Underlying Factors in Women Having Large Families
Beginning in 1959 in the United States, women have been increasingly obtaining higher levels of education which included college and postgraduate education. With the increase in educational opportunities, there was a slow but steady increase in varied career options which have been traditionally the male arena. This new and varied educational and career options caused women to pursue more independent and less traditional lifestyles whether they were single or married.
Many married American women in 1959 especially those with advanced educations,had no desire to stop work in order to be housewives and nonworking mothers. These women started to realize that they could simultaneously have careers, be wives, and mothers. These women elected to branch into different arenas, doing things differently from their mothers and grandmothers.be mothers also. However, these women elected to do things differently than their mothers did. These women elected to have smaller families in order to devote their attention to both their careers and their children.
Sociological studies substantiated that there is a marked correlation of an increase of educational attainment of women and a decrease in their fertility levels and family size. This is the reason why it is important to increase the level of education of women and girls in developing countries if fertility levels and family size is to be reduced to ensure a high quality of family life.
Contraceptive methods have always been around; however, early contraceptive methods were very rudimentary to say the least. With the advent of more complex contraceptive methods in the late nineteenth and twentieth centuries in the United States, women who were highly educated and affluent started to have less children than women who were less educated and poor. Even though contraceptive methods were not as technologically advanced as they are in the 21st century, affluent and highly educated women had the smallest families whereas the poor and less educated women were often overwhelmed by their pregnancies.
Having excessive children became so prevalent in poorer neighborhoods in major American cities at the beginning of the 20th century that Margaret Sanger, a nurse and birth control pioneer and activist, began to educated poor, indigent, and less educated women on the importance of family planning and contraception. Ms. Sanger's goal was to educate poorer and less educated women how to have the amount of children that can be reasonably managed economically and emotionally in addition to have a high quality of family life.
Affluent and highly educated American women have always been very receptive to the concept of family planning because they knew that smaller families means better living conditions for parents and children equally. Children in small families live better, are healthier, and have more access to education. By the 1920s, highly educated middle class women started using contraception to limit their family size.
Throughout the middle twentieth century in the United States, families have gotten increasingly smaller because of the advancements in contraceptive technology. Women no longer had to be apprehensive regarding unwanted pregnancies and to be saddled with a lot of children. Now in the 21st century, there is a plethora of contraceptive methods to choose from.
Women in the 21st century are the most liberated and freest ever. Carefree sex and.or lovemaking can be done without any worrying about pregnancy There are various contraceptive methods including the rudimentary birth control pill, the after morning pill, the implant which protects against pregnancy for five years, and tubal ligation. In these modern times, having a small family is easier than ever and is within the purview of a majority of women in the United States. With the plethora of advanced contraceptive and sterilization methods widely available today why any woman who is supposedly intelligent and rational have a large family?
Let us ponder and analyze why women in the 21st century have large families when there is widely available and advanced contraceptive methods. Sociologists, psychologists, and social scientists call the recent phenomena of large families-megafamilies. With the plethora of advanced contraceptive devices which include advanced methods of the birth control pill and the implant which protects against pregnancy for five years, why would any woman in her correct and rational mind have a large family today?
Let us ponder this and analyze this question in depth. Sociologists, psychologists, and social scientists call the recent phenomena of women having large families or megafamilies superbreeding. Professor Helen Helen Fisher of Rutgers University called this modern phenomena of women having large families, littering.
There are many women who elect to have large families although there is plenty of contraception available. Some megamothers are following atavistic and medieval moral precepts in that the purpose of sex is solely procreation, not sexual pleasure. Other megamothers just passively get pregnant and accept it, whether or not they want the child. There are still a number of megamothers who are oftentimes too lazy to bother preventing pregnancies believing that being a wife is equivalent to being barefoot and pregnant.
A few megamothers believe that they must submit to their husband's constant sexual demands and that they have neither a say nor control in this. These megamothers view sex as their husband's responsibility, not theirs. In some ethnic and racial subcultures, a good wife and mother has a large family as a testimony to her femininity and her husband's masculinity. There are megamothers who follow religious precepts to produce large families.
Megamothers, on the whole, are more traditional, conservative, and less educated than the average 21st century woman. Megamothers usually are stauncly pro-life, very orthodox in their religious beliefs, believe in women being subordinate to men, believe in traditional gender roles, and believe that sex is strictly for marriage and procreation. Megamothers, on the average, are very out of sync in the urbanized and computerized 21st century; they belong to a more synchronized to a less complex era. Megamothers usually do not have jobs and/or careers. Many megamothers lead very insular lives with very few or none outside interests. The world of the megamother centers around her husband, children, and church.
The average megamother is often narrow minded with their purview being mostly their husbands and their children. Very few megamothers venture outside their neighborhoods. They are thoroughly domesticated. Oftentimes megamothers neither have any hobbies nor participate in cultural, intellectual, or volunteering activities which would keep them busy. Also they have no job and/or career interest to occupy them. As a result of no outside interests, the main preoccupation of megamothers is babymaking.
For instance, my maternal uncle's wife had no education beyond that of the eighth grade. Of course, she did not have a job nor did she wish to. She also did not wish to advance herself educationally. She neither read, had hobbies nor outside interests. All she did was stay at home and watched television all day. She was what one can describe as lazy. All she thought about was having children- she had eight children altogether.
Megamothers are usually not highly developed intellectually and emotionally. They do not have a curiosity about life outside of their husband, children, and home. Since these women do not have any type of hobbies and/or outside interests to occupy them, they sublimate all of their energy into having large families to fulfill themselves. Megamothers usually have a void in their lives which they fill by having lots of children. The average megamother often lead very insular lives with little or no outside friends and/or companions. They have large families to make their lives less empty and lonely. To the average megamothers, large families are their only means of status and accomplishment.
There are megamothers who have large families because of an incessant baby hunger. This is a pathology in which women feel that they must continuously have a new baby to love. However as the baby gets older, he/she is no longer a baby and the mother gets weary of him/her and becomes pregnant again with the hope of having a newborn baby to love. Megamothers such as Michelle Duggar, Kelly Bates, and Zynaida Chernenko continuously have children because of baby hunger. Ms. Duggar, Ms. Bates, and Ms. Chernenko feel that they must have a newborn baby to lavish love on.
Megamothers can also be classified as immature. Yes, I said immature. Megamothers are in love with having babies. Women who have large families are analogous to a little girl having lots of dolls to play with and dress up. What these megamothers do not realize is that children need attention, teaching, and acculturation.
Having children involves more that just physically giving birth. Individualized attention must be given to children. Also besides the rudimentary things like food, clothing, and shelter, children must have their higher needs must such as exposure to cultural activities such as overseas travel, dancing school, music lessons, going to plays and fine restaurants, and having the better cultural things that life has to offer. Also there must be financial planning done if a child is to have a college and/or postgraduate education.
Yes, these things are important to children! Mothers of small families realize this and plan for the abovementioned for their children. However, this concept of acculturation is an anathema to the average megamother. Megamothers have no concept of providing their children with individualized attention and involving their children in intellectual and cultural events as this is outside their purview.
The average megamother actually do not raise her children at all. Megamothers usually force their oldest/older children, especially daughters, to raise their children. Of course, this is tantamount to child abuse. Parents should raise their children, not their children raising other children. However, megamothers are not concerned about this, they are just in love with producing children without thought as to how it is affecting their husband and other members of the family.
It suffices that an overwhelming majority ofy megamothers are not involved in the nurturing and raising of their children. It is their belief that children should raise themselves. It is best to describe the parental style of the megamother as benign neglect and/or free range parenting as she does not do the actual parenting but leaves that to the oldest/older child.
Since the average megamother do not have outside jobs and/or careers, there is usually only one breadwinner in the family. These women are either too selfish or delusional to realize that raising, providing for, and educating children effectively takes money, lots of money. To reiterate, children need to be exposed to cultural and intellectual activities such as overseas travelling, dancing school, museums, theatre, and fine restaurants. The average megamother staunchly believe that all children need are the rudimentary things of life and other things such as cultural and intellectual activities are superfluous.
Megamothers are very passive regarding the issue of family planning. The average megamother just gets pregnant without much thought. All they think about is what they desire and want without considering how it affects their children who are already here. In the average large family, economic resources are severely stretched to the limit. Megafamilies usually are not economically affluent as small families are. They usually live from paycheck to paycheck with quite a few being impoverished. Common sense and pragmatic reasoning decrees that if one cannot afford a large family, opt for a small family . The average megamother is clearly oblivious to their children's intellectual, financial, and cultural future unlike mothers of small families. The mantra of megamothers is so what, let the children do the best they can. Another credo of megamothers is if their children suffer, so what!
To reiterate, megamothers are nonparticipants regarding childrearing. Megamothers usually have it the easiest of all mothers as they delegate the rearing of their children to their oldest/older child and/or children. Many megamothers have children for the purpose of having them and/or to fulfill the missing void in their lives. Megamothers are often neglectful of the children they already have. Megamothers subconsciously have symptoms of baby hunger which must be fulfilled at all costs. It is often said that children from large families do not have parents as their parents are seldom, if ever, involved in their daily lives. This is the reason why many children in megafamilies are hardscrabbled and rough around the edges.
In summation, despite the plethora of advanced contraceptive technologies in the 21st century, there are women who have megafamilies. The reasons for this varied from adherence to atavistic moral precepts regarding sex, marriage, and traditional gender roles to incessant baby hunger which must be fulfilled by continuously getting pregnant and having children. The average megamother is often either poorly educated, having a high school education or less. Megamothers usually do not have outside interests, viable jobs and/or careers so they continuously get pregnant and have children to fill the missing void in their lives. Megamothers either do not or refuse to realize how their incessant birthing is detrimental to their families.
Megamothers often do not raise their children but delegate that task to their oldest/older children. Megamothers clearly have mental and psychological issues in that they have more children than they can reasonably raise economically, emotionally, intellectually, and psychologically. Megamother are often selfish in addition to being lazy towards their husbands, placing the full economic burden on him to be the breadwinner when she is perfectly capable of working to help the family.
Megamothers are clearly not their husband's helpmates as mothers who have small families are. Megamothers believe in doing what they want to do without any consideration for how their act is affecting their husbands and their already existing children. In addition to being self-centered, megamothers are passive aggressive women who clearly do not care about their husband's nor their children's feelings, quality of life, and future.
Here is my editorial. If a women professes to love children as megamothers often profess doing, she would practice family planning and use contraception in order to have the amount of children she and her husband can reasonably raise, nurture, and educate. She would also provide a high quality of life for the child and/or children in terms of providing cultural and intellectual activities e.g. overseas travel, museums, dancing class, and/or attending plays. She would also have the amount of children she could raise without enlisting another child to raise the children thus depriving that child of a normal childhood and adolescence.
I further contend that if women had viable jobs and/or careers, participate and volunteer in cultural, intellectual, hospice, and charitable activities, they would not have time to produce large families as they would have other interests to occupy their time. Also there are children to be tutored and read to such as children in inner city schools, hospitals, orphanages, and in homeless shelters. One clearly does not have to be a baby machine to love children. Last but not least, if women obtain a college or a postgraduate education, they would see the negatives and detriments of having more children than they can reasonably afford and raise and see the benefits of the small family to themselves, their husbands, and most of all, their children.
Marie on September 16, 2014:
It sounds like you've done a lot of research on this, but there are some discrepancies with my experience and this article. I had to talk my husband down from 10 children. No joke. We both want a large family, but 6 was MY max! We have diligently planned each of our current four children, and are still planning for more when time and money allows. We use contraception and natural prevention until we are ready for the next baby. By the way, we met while attending the same university. I think you are unfairly generalizing and stereotyping. Also, I don't know if you've done your research on "baby bunching" but if a "mega-family" were to "baby bunch" then there would be no issues of older children bearing parental duties because the children would all be of similar age and developmental stages. Alternatively, if a couple spaces out their children enough, the older children aren't as demanding as the younger ones and don't need or require the same amount of attention (assuming there are no handicaps or disabilities with the children.)
Ok, food for thought from one of those moms you are talking about.
Concerned44 on September 03, 2014:
I'm sure some if not most of your article is true, and you "know" what you're talking about. However, have you ever considered that the husband may be more involved than you think? I'm sure there are mothers out there that continue having children for that new baby feeling but don't kid yourself...there are also men out there that are controlling & do not give their wives any say in the matter. I believe it is unfair to place the "blame" soley on the woman. There are also couples out there that decide together to have large families. I agree with the previous comment, these families shouldn't be lumped together. No one knows their corcumstances & others shouldn't judge. Just my personal opinion hope its not removed because it disagrees with the author.
Dena Ford Johnson from Charlotte, NC on April 08, 2013:
Naturally every family is unique and all "mega families" cannot be lumped into one category.
Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on April 07, 2013:
I would like to add that intelligent, educated, and thinking people DO NOT HAVE more children than they can support mentally, psychologically, and financially. In large/very large families, parents DO NOT raise their children whatsoever, it is the OLDEST/OLDER children who do that.
Also, large/very large families are impoverished or near that, they HAVE NO MONIES for the necessities of life. Large/very large families lead a hardscrabble life and the brunt of the financial responsibilities fall upon the husband/father while the woman does not care at all. She is just a childbearing machine.
Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on August 19, 2012:
Thank you, John, I have grown up around people from large to very large families and I have studied the family extensively in college. I KNOW what I am writing about! At least, you are not in denial like the majority of large families who commented on my hubs on the subject!
Johnthebaptist1 on August 19, 2012:
Maybe you've seen it but there is a book "family size and achievement " posted online in its entirety that has tons of supporting data re your position on this matter.
arusho from University Place, Wa. on November 06, 2011:
Excellent article. Although I'm not so sure my friend who is a mother of 7, and probably counting, falls into the category of lazy. She is well educated, met her husband in college, and a modern woman. I think the reason they keep having kids is their religion, Mormon, I think. Great hub!
quatrain on October 31, 2011:
So well thought out and well-written.