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Valuing Womankind: How the Feminine Balances and Lifts up the Masculine

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"The test of civilization is its estimate of women." ~ George William Curtis

Feminine and masculine energies complement one another. In the medical symbolism, the masculine is symbolized by a straight line whereas the feminine is symbolized by a circle. The line of the masculine, being forceful, is naturally given to exertion and power. Ultimately, male energy strives to be released, whether for good or for ill. Thus, male energy is highly active.

On the other hand, the circle of the feminine encloses, creates, nurtures and inspires. Only the woman may nurture life in her womb. Feminine energy is highly potent but non-aggressive, as it must be, that it may nurture and create.

Masculine and feminine is a fact of nature which is required to perpetuate life. This balance is also required to create an equilibrium within the human species. It does not necessarily matter how we believe the world or the human race came into being. What does matter is that we acknowledge our distinct, unique biological differences and how these qualities can actually uplift mankind.

Medical symbols for female and male.

Medical symbols for female and male.

Imagine a World Without Feminine Energy

In his book, Hating Women, Rabbi Shmuley Boteach states, "If the world were comprised only of males and had no feminine energy whatsoever, we would witness male competitiveness, aggression, brute force, physical strength and domination---exclusively." Without the feminine influence to curb his aggression, the male is unable to become a more cultivated person.

According to Rabbi Boteach (paraphrase), "It is not unlikely that an all male race would have destroyed itself rather early on in the world." Thus, a balance of energies is always required to perpetuate life.

However, in a world full of females where no masculine energy exists, we might experience something quite different. I picture gatherings, homemaking, companionship, perhaps the occasional squabble and certainly some artistic expression. Life might be a bit dull, but efficient nonetheless. After a time, the female would die quite naturally of old age and her species would cease to exist.

"60% of men said that if they thought they wouldn't get caught, they would be willing to force a woman to do something she didn't really want to do/and or rape her."

— ~Mary Anne Layden, PhD, Director for Sexual Trauma and Psychopathology Program, University of Penns

Clearly, both male and female are required to maintain the human population. However, humans do not live only for purposes of procreation. Males and females also exist to make the others’ lives fuller, more passionate, and more creative.

When the masculine is influenced by the feminine, according to Rabbi Boteach, his “aggression is curbed” and he has the opportunity to become a more disciplined and “higher” individual – something beyond a mere brute force. Without the feminine energy, the male would not evolve upward. The masculine, on the other hand, provides excitement and physical pleasure for the female who would otherwise remain encircled within her capable but somewhat lackluster female community.

A gathering of women.

A gathering of women.

Well, you might think to yourself, what about monks and nuns? They live without the influence of the other sex and they seem happy enough. Yes, but the monk would not be a monk were it not for the existence of feminine energy. Without feminine energy, there would be no monks or any other spiritual male prototype. Instead, life would contain a purely restless and undisciplined energy.

On the other hand, nuns would go about their business doing what they always do, with or without the male. Well then, you may say, “What about the gay man? He's "feminine" and he isn’t trying to kill everyone off as you claim. Well, some do kill. However, the gay man has embraced the feminine, which is something he could not do if the feminine energy were not present in his brain while he was formed in his mother's womb.

Yin Yang

Yin Yang

Greatness Is Achieved Through Masculine and Feminine Energy

Generally speaking, both sexes need to develop either their masculine or feminine energy somewhat, depending upon the individual. A correct blending of opposite energies is what crafts human beings into more well rounded people. However, it is the feminine energy which inspires humans to sacrifice time for a worthy venture, while the male energy gives us the passion and stamina needed to follow through with worthy acts despite setbacks, trials, and major inconveniences. In other words, the male energy has the needed vigor to “climb any mountain or blaze any trail.”

However, a male may not be inspired to blaze a trail for a higher purpose were it not for the influence of feminine energy. Because of the feminine, men are motivated to compose beautiful works of art, inspiring music, amazing works of literature, build stunningly beautiful works of architecture---to name just a few of the creative feats men (and women) have accomplished. And indeed, when it comes to love, a man can be quite vigorous in proclaiming his loving feelings for a woman.

Inspired to blaze new trails.

Inspired to blaze new trails.

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Women Who Reject Femininity

Unfortunately, a number of women today are systematically throwing away their feminine selves in exchange for a masculine persona; she does so in order to excel in her career or to survive in this tough world. Also, she mistakenly believes that being aggressive is the only way she can be equal to a man. What she fails to realize is that with her true feminine energy intact, she is not merely equal to the man, she is....according to Rabbi Boteach, “already higher.” In other words, she doesn't need to act like a man. Given feminine energy, she already brings a higher value to the table.

In contrast, those wonderful expressions of male wonder and awe of females who are feminine and "womanly" will rarely be experienced by women who knowingly or unknowingly desecrates the feminine. For example, when a woman frequents a strip club with her friends, all the while hooting and howling just like the boys, she is desecrating the feminine whether she realizes it or not. When she hooks up in the back seat of a car with a guy she barely know, she is desecrating the feminine.

Disrespecting Women

Disrespecting Women

American women were correct to insist upon the right to vote, claim an education and develop worthwhile careers, but women erred egregiously in deciding to devalue her feminine essence. In so doing, she actually made it easier for men to have the upper hand. The male no longer had to look up to women because, in the words of Rabbi Boteach, "She willingly came down to his level."

Consequently, when a hard-line feminist claims that a stripper or prostitute has the right to use her body as she chooses, she is missing the point. Yes, a woman has the right to choose to be objectified and viewed as a piece of anatomy, but if a she had any sense of self-worth or dignity, she would die rather than desecrate her body and thus, her feminine soul.

The fact is, most prostitutes and strippers come from backgrounds where sexual abuse was inflicted upon them in their formative years, which is why they have little or no idea of their worth as a human being. According to statistics, 60 to 80 percent of exotic/nude dancers were sexually abused as children. That's a huge number!

Women Have the Power to Give Men Purpose

Men are waiting for something or someone to give their lives purpose and meaning. The influence of a first-class woman has the power to thrust him upward instead of down into the gutter where too many of our men (and women) currently exist. A man cannot and will not admire, respect, or diligently pursue a woman who acts crudely----that would be like asking him to pursue a sleazy man.

Whether men realize it or not, they still have the need to revere womankind. Sadly, many young men have reached an all time low, having had no decent male role models in their lives to teach them anything about respect and also having been raised by women who have no clue as to the value of her womanhood. Thus, American society is suffering. We are raising too many insensitive, undignified, angry and confused young people. Children are taking guns to school and killing one another. Too many women have thrown away their feminine energy in favor of the masculine. The world is lopsided. Masculine and feminine, two distinct energies, are meant to complement one another.


It Comes Down to Having Respect

We can improve upon our society once women begin remembering their worth and begin insisting upon being treated with respect, instead of accommodating themselves as playthings and receptacles for the amusement and gratification of men. Once we truly understand our higher power to create and inspire, our men will eventually follow suit.

Feminine power is a gift and it is women who must guide her children toward recognizing the respect due to womankind. As for the male, it is his duty to offer his support in helping her to raise children who will become responsible and respectful adults. Thus, it is a ghastly error for any woman to throw her feminine energy away. Female is not a four letter word. The world needs higher feminine energy and masculine influences combined if we are to thrive.... now more than ever.


This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2013 savvydating


savvydating (author) on September 18, 2020:

The world is in dire need of balance as we speak. We, as individuals, are responsible for making changes, though.

Thanks for reading, Peggy. :).

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on September 17, 2020:

We all need to strive to work with our feminine and masculine personalities to achieve a better balance in this world. Your points are interesting.

Hillary Burton from UK on August 02, 2017:

Interesting but there are many counter calls in these comments

savvydating (author) on September 21, 2015:

Strength, drive and energy are all good things, whether they be in a man or a woman. I simply want all women to realize that we are the driving force behind the will to do that which is "higher." I mean, think about it. How many men have the ability to say "no" to sex. Very few, if any. It is the woman who has to say, "Hey, wait a minute buddy." She has to decide whether this intimate act, which is treated all too casually, is the right decision for her right now. The man will not stop to think about such things in almost every instance. Consequently, it is the woman who must "steer the boat," so to speak. Men get offended when I say these things online, but it is one example of the truth of how women can lift up and balance the man. Thanks for commenting, Jewel. Personally, I think being a tomboy is great, so long as you honor your woman's heart---which I am sure you do.. .

Jewels from Australia on September 21, 2015:

Full of necessary information, glad I found this one. I've struggled with this element having grown up with 5 brothers and I also have a strong Mars energy myself. I have difficulty internally and externally with the imbalance, ie personally and globally. Yet my Venus has major depth, with sensitivity to go with. Time to work on this more.

rose-the planner from Toronto, Ontario-Canada on October 02, 2013:

As per usual, this is a very insightful article on the value on how the feminine balances and lifts up the masculine. You showed a great deal of intelligent and interesting perspective. I really enjoyed. Excellent work! (Voted Up) -Rose

savvydating (author) on September 27, 2013:

Absolutely,, DDE. It's not just the U.S. Many, many other cultures have this horrible problem of disrespecting women. Feel free to call me Savvy, by the way. It's always good to see you. -Savvy

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on September 27, 2013:

savvydating interesting hub and we all deserve respect both men and women but unfortunately still in many cultures women are often seen as nothing else but to serve their men. You have clear points on How the Feminine Balances and Lifts Up the Masculine

Debra Allen from West Virginia on May 08, 2013:

Sparkster, then in your opinion, what is?

Marc Hubs from United Kingdom on May 08, 2013:

I understand your points, it is indeed a difficult thing to try to pinpoint. However, this sentence from the hub:

"Mankind must understand the value of women and higher feminine energy, if it is to survive."

It's a derogatory and sexist statement which, whilst I understand what you're trying to say, puts femininity (and therefore women) up on a pedestal when in reality, masculinity and femininity are not the true source of the problem, or the solution.

savvydating (author) on May 08, 2013:

Thank you for commenting, Sparkster. I think what Wabond was saying is that there is a predominance of male energy in the world which is naturally given to force and exertion - and not always in a positive way, due to the lack of feminine intent or motivation inherent within each of his acts or decisions. Indeed, there are evil women, and one cannot label either sex as good or bad. Historically speaking, women are still less apt to commit violent crimes than males, although the number has risen in recent years. Those women who commit violent crimes are not in any way embracing their feminine side, to say the least.

William Bond from England on May 08, 2013:

Yes, I agree savvydating, that the feminine energy is not appreciate enough in our world, not even by women.

William Bond from England on May 08, 2013:

Hi Sparker. I am not labelling men and evil and women as good. I am just saying that the masculine is all about aggression and competition and when it goes to the extreme, it leads to violence, hatred and war. Men are no more evil than stags that fight each other every spring for dominace. The problem is that men fight with spears, swords, guns, bombs, aircraft, rockets and even threaten each other with nuclear weapons.

Yes you can have women who commit violence but only a handful of women do this. Over 99% of the violence of our world is committed by men.

savvydating (author) on May 08, 2013:

Hi Wabond. Thank you for kind comment. Yes, in the end it really is all about creating more balance between male and female characteristics within each of us. I appreciate both energies, because they are complementary. I adore you for understanding the worth of women and realizing that society does indeed need more feminine energy in it at this time.

savvydating (author) on May 08, 2013:

Hello Lady Guinevere. Thank you for for stopping by. Historically, women have had obstacles to overcome, and still do. Mostly, I was attempting to convey how feminine and masculine energy combined, are complementary and can thus create greater balance in the world when applied properly in our lives. But I see you point in saying that some women may be made to feel less than for staying home. They shouldn't. I stayed home one year with my young newborn. I wish I could have stayed with him a good four years longer.

Marc Hubs from United Kingdom on May 08, 2013:

Interesting. I'm sorry but that last comment (by wabond) is ridiculous, as soon as I read it a huge "WHAT???" popped into my head! Whilst there is some truth to it, you can't simply label women as good and men as evil. There are female psychopaths/megalomaniacs/narcissists/sociopaths in the world too, many of whom are also responsible for starting wars, violence, conflicted, hatred, etc.

William Bond from England on May 07, 2013:

Liked your article Savvydating. The way I see it, is that a purely feminine world would become so totally in harmony that everyone would be ONE with each other. So in the end, there wouldn't be individuals. While a purely masculine world will be in total conflict that they would end up destroying each other. (We can see this in the cold war, between NATO and USSR where man nearly committed global suicide through nuclear warfare).

So I suppose it is about the balance of the sexes. At present men are the dominant sex ,creating a world of conflict, fear, violence and hatred. So it is important that the balance is switched more to the feminine to create a more stable and loving world.

Debra Allen from West Virginia on May 07, 2013:

Great article. Raising children starts at birth when you think they are all cuddly and cute. They know what they are doing believe me. As for the feminist in the Bible....a whole heck of a lot was taken out of that Bible about women and their roles. It started n the 6th century when they were piecing together the books.

I see the difference in how children were raised and what their actions were from the moment women had to go to work outside of the home. Oh yeah I understand that some had to and then some liked it and some of us didn't want too. Now we are scourged to even think of not having a job in the outside world. When did that change? Men need to remember that without us women there would be no children, no more men and now women to love them. It is all because of women that this world even remotely survives, YET we are treated like slaves, beaten for our own views and raped because of our seemingly power that we supposedly have that they are afraid of.

Helen Reddy sang a song that would fit here in this hub and you can look it up on You Tube and it is called "I Am Woman".

savvydating (author) on March 18, 2013:

Good point. Certainly, the children of good parents do generally stray off into who knows what in their teens. But at some point, having been raised respectfully, they are likely to "see the light," as your children did. Then there are the truly decent parents who loved their children unconditionally, yet are now visiting their grown children in prison every weekend. So, as you mentioned, there are no guarantees.

However, when I mentioned parenting classes and such, I was thinking specifically about how families should have dinner together, how parents must tell their children they are loved, how parents should treat their children with the respect we demand from them.

In my case, my son acted somewhat ridiculous in his teens as well. He thought things came easily. After graduation, he went off to New York to begin his career. He sacrificed much, but enjoyed every minute of being in an exciting new environment. My point is that parents can give children wings to fly. On the other hand, kids who were treated badly or cruelly always have so many hurdles to overcome, until finally, one day, they may perhaps find their way to some real joy, inner peace, and the courage to be who they truly are... but they have to do it on their own - with no help from parents.

Once again, I appreciate your astute comments. You are so right. Life has no guarantees, and believing in instant gratification has brought our society down. Thank you for explaining the invisible system - it makes sense.

Sanxuary on March 18, 2013:

Personally I think the biggest problem for children is that they are taught the invisible system. My kids did great until their lives were consumed by school and activities. The result was the teen years and after they graduated they slowly reverted to their former selves. The invisible system is the belief that all they have to do is punch the tickets in life that they are told to punch. The belief is that success will be handed to them in the form of instant gratification. When they learn that the system is a lie and has no guarantees they finally become human. Each generation is learning this sooner one wonders what the future will bring.

savvydating (author) on March 18, 2013:

Sanxuary, your observations are spot on: equality vs fairness, having balance, relations unfortunately determined by benefits.

Having successful relationships requires a certain amount of sacrifice, not to mention having our act together enough to know that sacrifice does not mean giving up balance. Certainly, it doesn't require giving up our souls. That's where many people become confused.

Another related subject, I wish more parents would take parenting classes, or something. There are so many messed up kids out there who could have had a greater chance for peace of mind had they been raised by wiser parents. I got off on a tangent somewhat, but the matter of raising children well remains close to my heart.

Thank you for stopping by. I really appreciate your beautiful comment.

Sanxuary on March 18, 2013:

Excellent hub and insight. There is a huge difference in equality verses fairness. There is no such thing as equality because everyone is different but we all deserve the same things in life. Life requires balance and the ability to build personal sanctuary for ourselves and our homes to include our families. It requires both people to endure a life together and balancing our lives out. Its to bad we are trapped into the idea of competition, materialisation and relations determined by benefits and selfishness. Things no longer endure when the benefits end and sadly most of these so called benefits had nothing to do with satisfaction or bettering our lives. Those who endure the real test in life can never be closer to heaven.

savvydating (author) on March 04, 2013:

Hi MasonZgoda. Indeed, men and women are inherently dissimilar. Scientists have studied their brains, and found compelling differences.

Also, the feminist movement has unfortunately done incredible damage to romantic relationships, (which I write about in another hub) not to mention families. In fact, such was their goal. Linda Gordon, a radical feminist of the 60's stated, "...the breakup of families is an objectively revolutionary process."

Unfortunately, the feminist movement has had ample success in this destructive endeavor; the U.S. has so many broken homes and children without fathers. It makes me sad.

You have a lot of insight for such a young woman, and I appreciate that very much! Also, not all women are cut out for high-powered jobs. If women want to stay home and raise their children, you are correct in saying they should. No child wants to be a latchkey kid.

And just to clarify, I didn't choose the Kosher Jesus book that was on my hub. I am not Jewish. I guess when I was picking out "The Broken American Male," I must have inadvertently clicked on everything that came up, before checking on the results. At any rate, I have great respect for Judeo- Christian ethics, and especially Jesus, who willingly sacrificed himself for everyone.

MasonZgoda on March 04, 2013:

In biblical terms, this belief is called complementarianism. It's the idea that men and women are different and have different roles in society, not because one is better than the other, but because they are just biologically and inherently dissimilar. I think that the feminist movement has distorted this truth. While feminism began as giving men and women equal rights, I think it has become (to some, not to all) a movement to make men and women equal in every way. A women cannot be a homemaker or embrace her femininity by having children and staying home to raise them without being tortured by the "feminist" community for it. Women are expected to do exactly as men do, go to college, get a high powered job, and devote their life to work, or else they hate their sex. What could be more chauvinist than that?! I liked that this post came from a non-biblical perspective, because it shows that these truths are evident even to people who are not part of my religion.

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