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The United States of America: Watching My Country Die One Conversation at a Time

Social issues can only be remedied by a collective acceptance of those opinions we view as opposing our own.

America is dying, there is no arguing this point because it is becoming more and more self-evident as Americans become increasingly less self-aware. Each and every day there are millions, billions, trillions of social exchanges in the world; but here in America those exchanges are dominated by bitterness and spite. This isn't to say bitterness and spite are solely American traits, no, this is to say that Americans are letting these traits dictate nearly every interaction that isn't strictly compulsory.

Where once my country was a place I wanted to be, a land and people I would die for, it is quickly becoming the grounds for derision, division, and dictatorship.

A man cannot save his own life when even his leaders and role models are celebrating the plummet to their own demise.

Trickle-Down Cruelty

Recently I came up with a phrase to describe what it is I believe to be the root cause of the degeneration of America, that phrase is trickle-down cruelty and it encompasses everyone's behavior in America. When even your leaders are unable to act like mature, civilized individuals, how is anyone supposed to move forward into a brighter future? The answer is that you either get lucky, or you enjoy the fall to your demise.

Make no mistake, as our leaders lash out at one another with every word, sharpening them like blades to cut deep into their opponents with great effect, we are not victimless. These types of interactions are absolutely abnormal, and most of the world would agree with me when I say that; yet, most Americans would not sit and agree with these sentiments despite their blaring truth. A lack of agreement, an inability to meet in the middle-grounds, and a deep desire to destroy your opponents outright lies at the foundation of American societal collapse.

Let's discuss the topic of immigration for a little bit here, a topic widely used as a tool of trickle-down cruelty, and subsequently performative cruelty; you won't find a much more volatile topic than this in America. The President and his opponents frequently and with great fervor paint their views of this topic with as much controversy as possible. Their goal is not to present a solution, no, their goal is to garner as much hatred for their enemies as they can and send their followers out like wild dogs to attack the mutts of the other side.

This is American politics, it is trickle-down cruelty, and so long as people want to be the lapdogs of wannabe dictators the cruelty will only get worse. Our country is dying at the fundamental levels of society, and this can be observed well on the platforms most readily available for observation and use... social media.

Social Media Massacres

I don't just see mild, inconsequential bickering when I scroll through social media. It isn't like walking down a busy outdoor mall walkway and overhearing an ignorant conversation, then going on about my day without a care. No, I see attempted genocides all throughout social media on a myriad of different topics, literal attempted massacres.

Now this isn't because people are evil, disgusting creatures who thrive only upon the emotional and physical suffering of others, although some of them may be; this is because social media has allowed us to have a conversation with the world rather than just our immediate community. In an immediate community you cannot act this way and get away with it, but on social media you can get away with just about anything and have an army to applaud you and back you up. This is a symptom of trickle-down cruelty, it is performative cruelty.

Essentially, when people go on social media to argue they aren't out for reaching a mutual outcome that benefits everyone to the best of everyone's determination; people go on social media to hurt those they perceive as enemies as deeply and irrevocably as possible. How could they know any better? Even their leaders and role models want them to do this, and when mommy and daddy dictators tell us to do something, they encourage our thoughtless and insensitive behavior, so do we follow like good dogs.

The far-reaching consequences of what so many in America view as totally normal are taking their toll, and people need to recognize this sort of behavior is the beginning of the end of America as we know it. We already see the symptoms that are most readily observable, social media sites going out of their way to limit freedom of speech under the guise that we cannot behave properly with our rights.

It is time to shape up before the silent fear this behavior is creating offers a door of opportunity to tyranny, the same tyranny that has been knocking since the inception of our wonderful country.

Americans would rather tie you up like a hog, bleed you on a stage for all to see, than let you have a say against their beliefs. They do the same to one another, and their leaders use this to the advantage of tyranny.

Silent and Unexpressed Fear

As the use of social media becomes increasingly prevalent, to the point where social media is the only social contact many people get in their lives, so increases a silent and unexpressed fear of real-life interaction. Many people are afraid to speak in public because of the shaming and performative cruelty they get from those who use social media as a shield to hide behind, and the trauma of repression is seeing a withdrawal from social interaction as a whole. This fear, I believe, is the driving factor in increased suicide rates and the ongoing decline of America's social infrastructure.

Suicide is the tenth leading cause of death in the U.S. and if you take a look at what many people say in their emotional posts on social media, the plethora of different calls for help, we'd be able to surmise collectively that the social structure of America is collapsing. You can't make a post, not a single post that calls for social justice, without someone attacking you for it. Here in America, the land of the free and home of the brave, we are slaves to our own cruel oppression and it is driven by our silent fears.

What are we afraid of? I'll tell you the answer to that concisely: We as Americans are afraid of being wrong!

Strange, don't you think? Yet if we look at what triggers people the most, what really grinds their gears and is the source of argument to begin with, is our incessant need to be right about every little thing. We in America fight tooth and nail for every little inch of what we believe in, and that pride is blinding us to those who'd stand right by our side if only we saw our common enemies.

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Alas, our common enemies are the Americans we hold so dearly, in positions we cherish deeply, and so we choose to distance ourselves into isolated echo chambers.

Social Distancing Without a Virus

I say that here in America we have been practicing the act of social distancing long before any viruses came along and demanded it of us. It's called the two-party system, and it dictates the very core of American politics and social infrastructure. You'll never see someone so bitingly bitter, even with their own friends as they feign camaraderie, than when discussing things from a partisan standpoint.

Sure, at the end of the day a rare few can pretend like they're friends despite their blaring differences in social belief, but if the minority dictated what was right and wrong in America then we'd all be better off. Things aren't all peaches and cream, however, because Americans are drastically abandoning community ideals in droves so as to pursue isolation from their countrymen who'd rather hang them than give them a voice.

Equally, those who find themselves brave enough to withstand the onslaught are really just jamming their fingers in their ears, spinning around screaming, "La La La La La La La, I can't hear you! La La La La La La!" and that isn't bravery, because as soon as their perceived opponent is done berating them as they twirl so do they take on the position of aggressor. No progress is being made, and at the end of this pitiful show they go back to their echo chambers and sob uncontrollably about how everyone is seeking to oppress them.

What many would call hypersensitivity, snowflakey behavior, or any other demeaning and hatefully connotative terms, has now become the fundamentals for the collapsing social systems in America and everyone is both victim and perpetrator!

How do you fight an invisible enemy that infects everyone at the social level, presents itself as friendly and progressive, all the while it derides and divides even the closest of relationships? With fair and impartial love, acceptance, and understanding!

Stop Before It Is Too Late

Each and every time you feel like you need to join in on an argument, to add your two-penny worth, to lace each and every sentence with hateful connotations and biting wit... take a second to stop and reword what you say. There is no reason we can't all have fair and impartial discussion, the type of discussion that brings positive change and understanding for the better of all. I mean come on, we've been taught these sentiments since the time we were able to talk.

At least I hope we have all been taught the elementary phrase, "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all," because it really does wonders as far as reaching healthy conclusions. You can say nearly anything you want, on any topic you want, without ever insulting anyone or trying to hurt them deeply. Heck, you could even hurt people indirectly if you so desire it, just by being better than them through love and acceptance!

All I ask, all I have been asking for years, is that we stop this collapse of America and that starts with individuals taking it upon themselves to abstain from the current downward spiral of the American social paradigm. An act of kindness as small as abstention can travel the entire world over. Imagine scrolling online and never feeling angry, sad, or full of pity for your fellow Americans as they attack one another?

Stop giving our leaders and role models reason to play on our frail emotions. Be America's strength in the face of its increasing weakness!

© 2020 Kyler J Falk


Jason B Truth from United States of America on October 22, 2021:

Okay. I'll give that suggestion some serious thought then. It'll require some research to produce it into an actual article, but I'll consider doing so.

Kyler J Falk (author) from California on October 22, 2021:

We've gone from discussing Canada and the United States as false equivalents, and now we are going to move to New Zealand as another? If you'd like to discuss New Zealand and its market economy, how that influences the many different facets it can afford, and its geographical location providing such boons and banes that'd be more than fair. However, if you'd like to compare a geographically isolated country with 5 million people to a landlocked country with 300 million, and two completely different economic systems as near-equals, I'm afraid I just can't take part in such a dead-end conversation.

Also, this conversation is a bit off-topic relative to the underlying sentiments in this article, though it was fun to discuss this with you nonetheless. Perhaps you could write an article on the topic, expand in a more meaningful way on your sentiments, it would do much more justice to both of our perceptions and feedback than this comment section could.

Jason B Truth from United States of America on October 22, 2021:

Kyler? I cannot remember the exact name of the YouTube video that I saw that compared the Canadian healthcare system with that of the United States of America. It has been a while since I have seen it. However, I do remember that the narrator cited reliable sources for his information. In any event, New Zealand has Universal Healthcare. People in that nation usually live past a 100 years old. Everyone who has ever spoken about the healthcare system in New Zealand has never had anything bad to say about it. In fact, all of them have said that the Universal Healthcare system there is much better than what the United States of America has to offer. While I highly respect your opinion in that you appear to have done your homework on the issue, I find it somewhat hard to argue with the success of the New Zealand Universal Healthcare system.

Kyler J Falk (author) from California on October 21, 2021:

The way you are simplifying the issues we have here with healthcare by comparing the solutions we come up with to entirely different economic systems, and doing so with utter confidence is concerning. Even more concerning is touting Canada's system using a Youtube video as reference, and stating that one never hears about psychiatric abuse in Canada. I hear about psychiatric abuse in Canada quite frequently, but much like Sweden they do quite well in masking the issues their system is creating, and thus we breed the most serious problems among the most vulnerable.

When gutting this information and whittling it down to its finer points, I don't see either system as any better than the other except in relative ways. One system is better in one way, another system does better in another, but all systems seem to fail in specific functions. To hone in on one as the shining example seems like some sort of shill attempt, and such an attempt can be called nothing more than disingenuous and lacking.

I agree that universal healthcare should be implemented, I would also agree that universal basic income should be implemented if ever it were discussed, but there are no systems in the world today that I could point to and say with any level of confidence, "We should be ashamed that we aren't living up to these guys and their system."

Everyone could be doing better, but realistically we must note that healthcare is ever-changing, and America is readily moving toward a more social healthcare system as we speak with group policies and drastic reforms at the private and state level. As for what makes the public mad at the government, I laughed out loud because everything makes some vocal minority mad at the government. Obamacare made little to no dent in the problems with our healthcare system, and those who are angry about it for its restrictive policies are justified in their anger.

It's a complex issue, and it would be compounded if we were to simply up and offer universal healthcare. Luckily, though, all hospitals in America will treat anyone who needs treatment without pay to the best of their abilities, and the government covers the bill at the expense of the taxpayers while creditors hound the one who sought treatment. I take respite knowing that there is room for improvement, and that changes are always being implemented in hopes of improving the system.

Jason B Truth from United States of America on October 21, 2021:

Kyler? Although Universal Healthcare may not be perfect, it is better than what currently exists here in the United States of America. Not too long ago I saw a research study on YouTube that stated that Canadians have a longer lifespan than Americans do because of their Universal Healthcare system. I'm not saying that such a system is without its problems and that incident that happened to your friend was definitely a miscarriage of justice, but it certainly is a better system of insurance in that nobody here in our nation would be uninsured if such a system existed here. Also, you never hear about psychiatric abuse happening in Canada, whereas here in our nation it's everywhere. The private health insurance industry has become like a wildfire out of control in our nation in terms of soaring costs and significant delays in vital treatment. But, yeah, I see what you're saying. If our nation were to acquire something like Universal Healthcare, it would be something that we all would have to proceed into with extreme caution. The individual mandate in Obacamare got many people angry at our government.

Kyler J Falk (author) from California on October 21, 2021:

My biggest concern with universal healthcare is the same concern I have with most other welfare programs, and that concern is the consequences of artificially inflating accessibility. By this I mean the issues we see in places like Sweden, currently considered one of the best systems in the world, where standards of practice are lowered drastically around the board to increase accessibility of services which become substandard due to the lax regulation. I am actually collecting documentation that shows the egregious levels of incompetence and inefficiency in these systems for the sake of an article, but I'll just comment on the gist of things.

Under these systems of universal healthcare, the most vulnerable within the population tend to suffer worse than in systems where the healthcare is privately owned. This is due to the overburdened system that now has backlogs of documentation it never catches up on, and it bleeds into other facets of society. Your comment about mental health brought this to the forefront of my mind, because in Sweden law enforcement oversees much of the most serious mental health cases and often makes damning medical decisions that prevent access to crucial medications for these vulnerable populations.

As a real-life example, my Swedish friend who we shall call Kam, was taken to jail due to his speech impediment and anxiety preventing him from being able to answer questions. He had necessary medication he needed to take each day, and law enforcement made the autonomous medical decision that he was abusing his medication due to showing symptoms that prevented him from properly cooperating with law enforcement. It took him over two years to prove his innocence, and still now he is on a strictly reduced and regimented medication schedule because his doctors have a large backlog before they can update his case properly.

I don't believe universal healthcare as we see it now in the world is an answer, because as the least vulnerable get their basic treatments, the real problems are swept under the rug, and those problems being swept under the rug are building up and attracting more problems.

Jason B Truth from United States of America on October 21, 2021:

Your article reminds me of this one statement that former Minnesota governor, Jesse Ventura, made about our nation being a two-party dictatorship, in a television interview. I do not disagree with him or with you. However, the bigger picture here is that the mental-health profession is contributing greatly to the problems that our nation is currently confronting, and it is bringing our country closer and closer to an all-out collapse. All you have to do is read the Mad In America website, and you will see that psychiatrists have abused and mistreated patients solely to serve their own greed.

People are being forced into psychotherapy that they don't need and cannot afford, and, therefore, falling into medical debt. Dr. Park Elliott Dietz is a predatory charlatan who calls himself a forensic psychiatrist, and he has gotten paid exorbitant amounts of money from our tax dollars merely for getting up on a witness stand and telling a courtroom full of people that a defendant whom he barely knows should be sent to the electric chair. The FBI, which is notorious for human rights violations, helped build this creep's career to what it is today. Dr. James Grigson got away with these injustice for years.

Abusive parents, especially abusive fathers, have clung onto a trend of shrinks misdiagnosing kids and even adults with Asperger's Syndrome, which by the way, I don't even think is a real disease. These abusive parents get to use the mental-health profession to add insult to injury to their children. Meanwhile, I have read true stories about psychiatrists blaming child-abuse and incest survivors for what their parents did to them during their growing years. I cannot understand why there are actually people who get all excited about being on the autism spectrum.

If our nation had Universal Healthcare, the Federal authorities would likely investigate all the fraud and abuse that goes on in mental-health profession in response to all the money that needlessly gets dumped into it as a result of psychiatrists' lies and greed. Our nation could easily afford to have Universal Healthcare if the mental-health profession was reformed in a way that would stop the atrocities that go on against patients throughout our nation.

Kyler J Falk (author) from California on June 23, 2020:

I'm also trying to take an active approach to recognizing that my abstract reality is not, in fact, reality itself. It is difficult, though, to write a piece and also explore that side of you that is wrong without waxing loquaciously, a problem I have even if I'm not trying to self-analyze. What makes it even harder is being attacked by people using their version of abstract reality as a tool for harm, rather than education.

I highly value that you can go out of your way to admit it, and even make me feel comfortable in admitting that most of what I say is not correct, but simply evolving away from being completely wrong.

Thanks for reading!

Rodric Anthony Johnson from Surprise, Arizona on June 23, 2020:

"You can't make a post, not a single post that calls for social justice, without someone attacking you for it. Here in America, the land of the free and home of the brave, we are slaves to our own cruel oppression and it is driven by our silent fears.

What are we afraid of? I'll tell you the answer to that concisely: We as Americans are afraid of being wrong!"

I love that! It is so true in my estimation. No one I have read seems to consider they may be incorrect about an assumption, including me. I am actively working on my ability to self-correct.

Leslie McCowen from Cape Cod, USA on May 18, 2020:

Oh please don’t humor me. Tata

Kyler J Falk (author) from California on May 18, 2020:

Whatever helps you to feel more comfortable, it seems you are unwilling to break away from prejudice behavior even when I go out of my way to humor you. I don't entertain dead-end conversations any further than giving the truth.

I hope you can escape your need to project partisanship on everything and everyone one day. Until then, see ya!

Leslie McCowen from Cape Cod, USA on May 18, 2020:

Well, they’re not dividing us, this is “ faster than Biden sneaks a whiff of a little girl's hair.”

That tells me all I need to know. No politician doing it whatsoever.

Your statement is not civil discourse, it’s divisive. And it shows no respect for me as a voter.

Which is ok, because I have zero respect for Trumpers, and don’t pretend otherwise.

If you just joined here, don’t worry. There are a whole lot of people who claim to be independent, equal opportunity haters, etc.

Inevitably, they all turn out to be rightwingers.

Sometimes we say more with what we don’t say.

“You play nice, while we smash your face” Is not gonna work.

Kyler J Falk (author) from California on May 18, 2020:

I'm all for taking a stand, and your conviction is admirable. Yes, I tend to be politically inclined, slithering through the garden of morality like a serpent; so your judgement of me is not misplaced, and I won't have it be said I'm not, at the very least, an honest serpent when challenged. If you want my real opinion on the matter of politics, the opinion I rarely express so I may virtue signal more than I am being wholly honest, then I'll give it to you.

I hate politics, and I hate all politicians. Where once I wanted to be a politician, I was unwilling to do away with honesty and that saw me ousted from many prestigious gatherings and groups faster than Biden sneaks a whiff of a little girl's hair. Based slightly in spite, peppered with envy, but overshadowed by a burning desire for transparency and verifiable change that affects the american people directly; I hope and beg for a violent revolution, a second revolutionary war.

In that revolutionary war I'd like to take my place as a squad leader, bringing back old training the government gave me and put it to good use for the American people directly. However, I have found that no matter which way I present my views, dulled down or fully heated like this comment, there will always be more against me than there are for me.

Case and point, our dialogue now shows that they'd rather see us divided from one another than rallied against them. I hope my candor is appreciated, but if not then c'est la vie.

Leslie McCowen from Cape Cod, USA on May 17, 2020:

That was a joke to you?

I found it offensive.

Trump is accused of much worse than “gripping and sniffing“.

Conveniently absent from your critique.

I’d say pompous ass is tame. You also said you’d like to “take Biden out”. No such words about Trump.

If you want to play the both sides game, fine.

But like all people who claim to be “both sides” here, their preference, and yours, is clear.

This is a war, and you have chosen a side.

That’s my opinion.

As the saying goes, there are no atheists in a pothole.

Too many Trumpers and anti Biden progressives on this site.

I am taking my stand.

Kyler J Falk (author) from California on May 17, 2020:

I think my exact joke was, "Gripper and sniffer," and within that same joke I called Trump a pompous ass. Luckily it was within context of a heated debate occurring on a relevant article, and I agree that not abstaining is just another part of the vicious cycle. We can't all be perfect, anyone who thinks so is delusional; but we can strive to be more fair and impartial.

I don't think many sane individuals would disagree with the vast swathes of ev