Skip to main content

The Red Pill: The Truth About Men

James A. Watkins is an entrepreneur, musician, and a writer with four non-fiction books and hundreds of magazine articles read by millions.


The Red Pill

The Red Pill is an award-winning documentary by Cassie Jaye about the Men’s Rights Movement. Jaye originally planned to expose the movement as a hate group, but the more she looked into it and interviewed people about it, she began to see that she did not know the truth. Hence the title.

Watching this outstanding film inspired me to research the subject. Nobody loves women more than I do. My two grandmothers were my favorite persons in the world, and I had ten marvelous aunts who helped rear me since I had a single father dad. I have five younger sisters and four daughters I love. Moreover, I adore my lovely bride.

If you tell the truth about men, the Left gets very hostile and starts shouting about ‘supremacy’ and ‘sexism’ and the dreaded ‘patriarchy.’ Leftists silence any talk about men’s rights and call the very idea of it ‘hate.’ The SPLC has named Men’s Rights a hate movement. Let’s pull back the curtain and look at some facts.


Men's Health

It has always been up to males to defend the home, village, and country from hostile invaders. Men have protected women and children since time began. Men do the dangerous while women seek safety and protection. It is always women and children first. Women have privileged protections men do not.

Men are 13 times more likely to be killed at work than women. Men are four times more likely to commit suicide, and three times more likely to be murdered. 98% of the people who die in war are men. In the Korean War 36,000 American men were killed and two women. In Vietnam, 58,000 men and eight women lost their lives.

Boko Haram kidnapped 300 girls as sex slaves in Nigeria, which rightly caused outrage in Europe and America. However, the 800 men they killed first were never mentioned in the press. The only mention they did get in the news called them 800 people—not 800 men. Fifty-nine boys in the village were burned alive. That fact was generally ignored but if reported it was 59 children killed—not 59 boys.

Men are 50% more likely to be homeless. Men get 63% more prison time as women for the same crime. Men are nine times more likely to be sent to prison.

Men are 60% more likely to die from cancer, but women's cancer (breast, ovarian) gets four times the government spending as men’s cancer (prostate, testicular). The feds have several offices of women’s health but none for men.

The most precious thing to all of us is our life and men die seven years before women in America, on average.

Nobody needs blue-collar American men anymore. They are replaced by legal immigrants, illegal aliens, machines, and outsourcing. The daddy state has usurped their roles as providers and protectors. Men are more apt to self-medicate and far more likely to become drunkards or drug addicts.

Cassie Jaye, Director, The Red Pill

Cassie Jaye, Director, The Red Pill

Toxic Masculinity

Recently, the American Psychological Association declared that “40 years of research” show “traditional masculinity is psychologically harmful” and “a mental disorder.” This is not science. This is the political position of feminism.

Traditional masculinity built Western Civilization, the greatest achievement of the human race. Traditional masculinity created America out of the wilderness—the most astonishing feat in history, and the one that has benefited the most people.

As Ben Shapiro writes in the Daily Wire: “Here’s the truth: men are looking for meaning in a world that tells them that they are perpetuators of discrimination and rape culture; that they are beneficiaries of an overarching, nasty patriarchy; that they are, at best, disposable partners to women rather than protectors of them.

“Giving men purpose requires us to give them purpose as men, not merely as genderless beings. There’s a lot to be said for the idea that our culture has ignored the necessity for men to become gentlemen — but that’s a result of a Left-wing culture that denigrates men, not a traditional masculinity built on the idea that men were born to defend, protect, and build.”


Fathers are Valuable but not Valued

The other big idea the Devil's womyn put forth was that fathers do not matter at all to the wellbeing of children. In this view, men are only useful as ATMs that must pay 18 years of child support or go to prison.

Scroll to Continue

The influence of radical feminism on family courts has made the courts treat men as an enemy. As Phyllis Schlafly said so well, "Fathers are opposed by a big industry of lawyers, psychologists, custody evaluators, domestic violence agitators, and government bureaucrats who make their living denying fathers their fundamental rights."

Fatherless children cause so many social problems for our society, making up the majority of kids who quit school, fail to succeed in today’s competitive job market, or end up in prison. Boys have been hit particularly hard by the family breakdown in recent years.

The social system to support such craziness costs hundreds of billions of dollars per year, which has helped create a national debt we may never be able to pay. Moreover, all of this stupidity has given the Almighty State an excuse to pry into our most private affairs and dominate our lives, as well as, to make a once independent and self-sufficient people dependent on the government teat for its very survival.

Children long to be loved by their mothers and by their fathers. They desire to experience both paternal and maternal love. Scientific research shows that premature babies are more apt to thrive; the more often they are visited by their fathers. A study of black babies finds that the more interaction they have with their fathers, the more intelligent they are at six months old.

First-grade children have higher IQs when their father lives with them. By the third grade, boys raised with their fathers get better grades and score higher on all achievement tests.

Elementary school kids growing up without fathers are absent more often and are less popular. High school students score higher in math and science when their father lives in their home, regardless of the quality of the school. On college entrance exams, students raised by single mothers score far lower.

A daughter raised without her father in the home often yearns for male approval and will seek it through early sexual behavior. Daughters without dads are three times more likely to have a baby as a teenager, and twice as likely to divorce as an adult.

Eighty percent of children under five in psychiatric care have an absent father, as do 65% of the youth in juvenile homes. Ninety percent of runaways have no father present in their lives.

In studies of elementary students, the ones living without dad in the house are about four times more likely to exhibit behavioral problems, and to wet the bed, suffer speech defects, be anxious, depressed, withdrawn, hyperactive, aggressive, hostile, throw tantrums, react poorly to criticism, experience frequent headaches, have more nightmares, and to have been hospitalized.

Ninety percent of arsonists, 80% of rapists, and 73% of murderers grew up homes without fathers.

Having a wife and children is a responsibility that makes men mature. Married men are far more apt to be employed, and earn about $16,000 more per year on average than their single or divorced counterparts. The promises given by a man to a woman in holy matrimony are to bind him to the social institutions of husbandhood and fatherhood.

Men have an innate need for the connection only the family provides. Too many today are isolated and estranged from their children; disconnected from the patterns and satisfactions of family life. As a result, we see a generation of men promised the Playboy Lifestyle of unending frolic, life made for pleasure with no commitments, who end up sad, lonely, and sometimes worse—society's greatest fear: a deviant or criminal man.


Misandry: Feminists Hate Men

Feminists hate men. Feminists have been demonizing men for 50 years. Feminists say there is nothing men can do better than women, but there is plenty men do worse.

Feminists wanted generations of fatherless children because they believed that boys reared without fathers would treat women better. Meaning they would be more feminine. It was feminists who fought and succeeded in changing the word ‘family’ to the word ‘household’ in contemporary political language, or NewSpeak.

The Feminist Movement succeeded in devaluing fathers. That has been devastating for children. The absence of a father is the single most reliable predictor for a whole list of adverse outcomes: low self-esteem, parental alienation, truancy, drug abuse, sexual abuse, and physical abuse.

At a significant feminist conference full of the spewing forth of angry rhetoric, every single speaker was introduced as "Enraged." Here are some quotes from famous feminists. I find it telling that I have never seen any feminist distance herself from these psychotic ramblings:

"I feel that ‘man-hating' is an honorable and viable political act because the oppressed have a right to class-hatred against the class that is oppressing them. We can't destroy the inequities between men and women until we destroy marriage.” - Robin Morgan.

“To call a man an animal is to flatter him; he’s a machine, a walking dildo.” - Valerie Solanas.

“Like prostitution, marriage is an institution that is extremely oppressive and dangerous for women. I want to see a man beaten to a bloody pulp with a high-heel shoved in his mouth, like an apple in the mouth of a pig.” - Andrea Dworkin.

“Rape is nothing more or less than a conscious process of intimidation by which all men keep all women in a state of fear.” - Susan Brownmiller.

“The more famous and powerful I get the more power I have to hurt men.” - Sharon Stone.

“The proportion of men must be reduced to and maintained at approximately 10% of the human race.” - Sally Miller Gearhart.

“Men who are unjustly accused of rape can sometimes gain from the experience.” - Catherine Comins.


Boys are Feminized at School

Our schools have indeed been feminized to the advantage of girls. Boys find it harder to sit still and listen to the teacher talk, but this is right up a girl’s alley. Hardly any girls are diagnosed as hyperactive and put on medication for it.

One of the planks of Feminism was to work through the government schools to feminize boys. It has worked. Young men were 20% physically stronger thirty years ago. In fact, their moms were as strong thirty years ago as young men are today. It takes the average boy ninety seconds longer to run a mile as it did in 1985.

Boys are nine times more likely to be suspended or expelled from school. Drop-out rates in high school run four-to-one male. Only 38% of college students today are male.

Boys are nine times more likely to be put on Ritalin. It appears Ritalin lowers testosterone and stunts growth. It may cause adult men to suffer low libido and impotence. It seems to produce men with less body hair, low energy, less masculinity—more feminine men.



As Erielle Davidson writes in The Federalist: “The crisis of masculinity may be exacerbated by such public shaming of masculinity—rapidly dropping testosterone levels from generation to generation. Over the past 30 years, men’s testosterone levels have been steadily decreasing.

“But why should we care about declining testosterone levels? For men themselves, decreasing testosterone levels can result in reduced sex drive, reduced fertility, lower muscle mass, increased body fat, reduced memory, mood swings, and increased risk of osteoporosis, to name just a few side effects.

“Some scientists suggest that the dropping testosterone levels may be closely related to and contributing to reduced sperm counts, which have also been steadily decreasing over the last 40 years (a precipitous drop of 59 percent between 1973 to 2011).”

As a renowned epidemiologist, Dr. Hagai Levine emphasized in Newsweek, “Reproduction may be the most important function of any species, and something is very wrong with men.”

The most famous study of testosterone levels found that the level of testosterone in men has dropped 1% per year since 1987.


Relationship Violence

Feminists describe domestic violence as “wife beating,” which obscures reality. The fact is that married women are far less likely to be abused by a man than single, divorced, or cohabitating women. So it ought to be called “non-wife beating.”

Contrary to feminist doctrine, getting married dramatically reduces the likelihood that a woman will be the victim of any type of crime. Moreover, lesbian battering is more common than heterosexual battering.

There are 700,000 false charges made by women against men every year for domestic violence. They result in restraining orders blocking men from their homes and their children. Do the women get in trouble for lying about it? No.

In 43% of domestic violence incidences, men are the victims. There are 2,000 shelters for women, 1 for men. Our society completely neglects male victims and excuses female perpetrators of abuse.

According to a study on intimate partner violence conducted by scientists at the CDC, published in the Journal of Public Health, 70% of all violence in relationships is committed by women.


False Rape Charges

At American universities, there are 400 different Women's Studies Programs and zero Men’s Studies. Women’s Studies falsely claim that only 2% of rape accusations are false charges, a percentage invented out of thin air by the radical, godless, militant feminist Susan Brownmiller decades ago, and parroted every since by our universities and media.

The real number is likely around 25%! FAR higher than false reports of any other felony. Rarely do any women ever get into trouble for false rape allegations. There is no doubt that jealous or spiteful women have incarcerated millions of innocent men.

A US Air Force study found that 33% of rape allegations were false. A study in 1994 by E.J. Kanin found that 41% were fake.

One out of 23 American women have either been raped or been the victim of a rape attempt, but the media reports—and women surveyed believe—1 in 4 have. That is a phony number made up out of thin air by feminists.


Family Court: A Nightmare for Men

Half of all civil litigation cases in America involve divorce and child custody. These cases are usually acrimonious. Moreover, they employ an army of lawyers, judges, psychologists, counselors, mediators, social workers, and child support enforcement agents. The enemy of this army is the father. He is conquered and shuttled aside. Divorce usually means that fathers, in one way or another, are alienated from their children.

Family Court has become a nightmare for men. The female has every advantage. Men get the short shrift on custody, visitation, and child support.

In many states, men have been forced—under threat of prison—to pay child support for children who are not even theirs. In many states, husbands have no right to demand a paternity test at all. We might be talking about hundreds of thousands of dollars over 18 years paid to an adulterous wife.

There are men currently paying child support for children they can prove are not theirs. Some are in jail. One Texas man is paying child support for five boys who are not his.

It is no wonder many young men are hesitant to get married in the first place after observing what their fathers have been put through by family courts. When men don't get married, society suffers, as it is well known the presence of a child's father in its home is the single most significant determinant of their future.

The essayist Kay Hymowitz observes, "The Single Young Male is putting off traditional markers of adulthood—one wife, two kids, three bathrooms—not because he’s immature but because he’s angry. He’s angry because he thinks that young women are dishonest, self-involved, slutty, manipulative, shallow, controlling, and gold digging. He’s angry because he thinks that the culture disses all things male. He’s angry because he thinks that marriage these days is a raw deal for men."

Women file for 70% of all divorces. Why not? If a woman has found another lover, she has nothing to lose and everything to gain. She trains her child right away to call the new man Daddy. She may marry the new fellow. Small consolation to a father, since it is well known that stepfathers commit ten times the physical abuse and sexual abuse on children than natural fathers. How can a father stop this from happening? He can't. He is helpless to protect his children.

As Stephen Baskerville notes: "It is difficult to believe that judges are not aware that the most dangerous environment for children is precisely the single-parent homes they create when they remove fathers in custody proceedings. They have no hesitation in removing them, secure in the knowledge that they will never be held accountable for any harm that may come to the children. On the contrary, if they do not remove the fathers, they may be punished by the bar associations and social work bureaucracies whose funding depends on a constant supply of abused children.

"No-fault divorce allowed a mother to divorce her husband for any reason or no reason and to take the children with her. Child support took the process a step further by allowing the divorcing mother to use the now-fatherless children to claim her husband's income—also regardless of any fault on her part (or lack of fault on his) in abrogating the marriage agreement. It is collected at gunpoint if necessary, and nonpayment means incarceration without trial."


False Claims of Child Abuse

Seventy-five percent of child sex abuse claims made by women against fathers during divorce or child custody proceedings are false. Do they get in trouble? No. However, the men are presumed guilty until proven innocent. To “err on the side of safety.” Countless innocent men languish in prison.

Billions are spent investigating phony child abuse charges made by vindictive women against innocent men. There are 7600 reports of men abusing children every day, but only 400 prove to be true – in our country of 320,000,000 people.

A tiny proportion of sexual abuse is committed by natural fathers, though feminists use statistics to lump them in with boyfriends and stepfathers to make it appear that incest is widespread amongst them all.

According to the Department of Health and Human Services, “Children of single parents had a 77% greater risk of being harmed by physical abuse, an 87% greater risk of being harmed by physical neglect, and an 80% greater risk of suffering serious injury or harm from abuse or neglect than children living with both parents.”


Reproductive Rights for Men

Biological fathers have no say over their parental destiny. There are no men’s reproductive rights.

Fathers of babies—who are their natural heirs to carry on their genes and bloodline through the centuries—have no say in their extermination. In other words, if a child is killed, it is none of a man's business—but if a child is born, it becomes the man's business in the form of child support.

In one survey, 90% of married women, and 67% of unmarried women say that a man should have a say about the annihilation of his child. Seventy-two percent of men agree. Fifty-seven percent of married women felt men should have veto power over the abortion of their offspring.

Why should it be all pay and no say for men? The unborn child shares half its genes with its father. The father of the child does not have to give his permission for the slaying to be committed. Only the mother can either kill the baby or have it and force the father to pay for it for twenty years.

The forgotten victims of abortion are the fathers of the dead babies. Liberals have told me a million times that abortion is none of a man's business—even when the baby slated for death is his own progeny. But what about taxation without representation?

If the mother decides to let the child live, the father will be on the hook for twenty years worth of state-ordered support. Why would he not have any say in the decision? Feminists fought against laws that require a married woman to notify—not get approval from—the father of the child that it exists and will be or has been executed.



James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on May 06, 2021:

The influence of radical feminism on our public schools has hurt boys. As Anthony Esolen says in Chronicles magazine: “Think of boys who hear, without ceasing, that their sex is responsible for all the bad things in the world, and that even though men have laid every road, built every bridge, dug every well and mine and canal, and put their hands to difficult and dangerous work as hunters, fishermen, lumberjacks, construction workers, soldiers, and so on, though they have toiled like oxen beside the oxen they tamed to pull the plow, though they have graced the world with masterworks from the frescoes of Michelangelo to the symphonies of Mozart, they may not take any proper pride in it. For they did not permit their wives to hang in the air from scaffolding to work a half-ton stone into place, they did not permit their daughters to set sail to harpoon whales and bring back the precious oil; so their crimes are crimes, and their achievements are crimes. Think of the constant contempt and ingratitude and imagine how a mere child can bear it without becoming disheartened, sullen, and weak.”

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on May 10, 2019:

T ~ Thank you for checking it out for me. I like your response. Well done. And quite manly.

The Logician from then to now on on May 09, 2019:

I read it James and although I understand the points being made I could never bring myself to participate in what appears to me to be a “feminist like” approach to redefining the manosphere and masculinity. Asserting that men are “all that” and victimized by immoral woman in a movement just strikes me as men actually acting like whinning feminists.

I concede there can be a case made for their “movement” but I just can’t get over my feeling that as a man I just need to grin and bear it. There are much more important things to spend my time on as a man than acting like a feminist in response to feminism redefining manhood.

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on May 09, 2019:

All of you that participated in this conversation may be interested in this article I spotted:

I'd like your thoughts on it.

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on May 02, 2019:

Yves, no worries at all. You say anything you want. I too enjoy Frampton and SRV, and have played some of their music professionally, SRV not long ago. :-)

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on May 02, 2019:

I agree with you Paula that Wesman is a pretty good dude. We go back quite a ways on HP. And FB.

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on May 02, 2019:

Yves ~ Family Court should acknowledge mens rights. Yet Family Court works actively against men by denying that mens rights exist, and thereby deprecates the relationships of fathers with their children.

That said, I am totally on board with you that we need to look above and pray on these issues. I surely am against atheism and any kind of violence against women or mistreatment of women, as I noted near the beginning of my article.

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on May 02, 2019:

Wesman Todd Shaw ~ And that's not all! The woman's initial lies, combined with the visit from the victim's rights counselors, resulted in the man being banned by law from coming within 100 yards of his own home. Worse than that, he was charged with violating domestic violence laws and ordered to stand trial. He hired a lawyer and told her emphatically, "I will fight this to the Supreme Court!"

But the lawyer knew the system well and told him, "You don't want to do that. You can't win." The man was incredulous! "I didn't do anything," he protested.

"That doesn't matter," the lawyer said. "When you go to court there will be women's rights groups present who keep score on judge's sentences for domestic violence law cases. Mens rights are next to non-existent. The judge will have to give you a year in jail to placate the women's rights groups."

"But I'm innocent so I won't be sentenced because I'll be acquitted," the man reasoned aloud, believing that all he needed was the truth.

But the lawyer who knew better left him no hope when she responded, "Men rarely win any of these domestic violence law cases. The 120 pound woman gets on the stand and bawls her eyes out; the jury has 8 women on it. They look at you with a cold eye, 200 pounds and a man!"

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on May 02, 2019:

Wesman Todd Shaw ~ It is always a distinct pleasure to hear from you, my friend. I know a man who was attacked maliciously by his wife twice—and both times he went to jail. It didn't matter that he hadn't raised a hand to her. The jail cell was waiting for him.

What happened was simple: a woman was angry because Dad was out with his friends. When he arrived home; she kicked him, slapped him, and clawed at his face with her fingernails leaving welts that streamed blood. When she was done, she ran into the bathroom, locked the door and called 911.

The man sat down calmly and started watching television; he was completely unaware that the police were on the way. He had no idea what she'd done. Moments later, two squad cars pulled up and the police came into the house. Their presence must have given her confidence, as upon their arrival she made her way out of the bathroom and declared, "He is angry and I'm afraid of him."

The man was bleeding from the clawing on his face and arms. The woman had not a hair out of place—but that was of no consequence. The man went to jail. He protested he'd done nothing wrong, that he hadn't threatened her or physically hurt her, but the police just shrugged and told him, "Whoever calls in, the other party goes to jail, pal. That's the domestic violence law."

So they took him, and he was put into a 10X10 cell with maybe 20 crazy crackheads for the evening.

Meanwhile, victim's rights counselors visited the woman, and they told her it was imperative she file a restraining order. Why? Because in their words, "lots of men want revenge when they get out of jail."

These counselors are well spoken, and may even seem to be well meaning, but if a woman hesitates, they apply pressure such as by asking, "You didn't file a false police report did you? Well, if you were afraid of him then you need to sign this paper now."

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on May 02, 2019:

Yves ~ It looks as though you have spent a lot more time than I have looking into "MRM 'subreddits.' I don't even know what a 'subreddit' is. I do know that men's rights' were smeared right out of the box by the SPLC as a hate movement, as is the entire Christian Faith. Well,except for heretics and apostates.

I was very surprised to see that 70% of the men in MRM subreddits would be atheists, according to themselves. The only people I know personally who have been shafted by 'family court' and care about a better deal for men, especially about abortion, fatherhood, and false criminal accusations, are Christians.

I do not know anyone involved in Reddit or subreddit. I generally get my information from books not the internet or chat rooms. I have probably fifty books on the damaging consequences feminism has wrought on America, a fair number of them written by women, most of them by Christians, such as Mr. Baskerville whom I quoted extensively in my article, many of them about the damage done to children by fathers being removed from their lives, especially but not only boys, who grow into men.

As I noted in my piece, Eighty percent of children under five in psychiatric care have an absent father, as do 65% of the youth in juvenile homes. Ninety percent of runaways have no father present in their lives. Ninety percent of arsonists, 80% of rapists, and 73% of murderers grew up homes without fathers. This is serious business.

As the Christian writer Steve Doughty writes: “Marriage is as important to the future of the nation as climate change and poverty … the growing numbers of families without fathers are doing more harm to the next generation than other factors such as smoking, alcohol, poor diet and lack of exercise. A conspiracy of silence surrounds the issue because political leaders are afraid to say married families were better for children than cohabiting families or single parent families. Children of single mothers have greater problems than those of cohabitee parents, and children of cohabitees have greater problems than those of married parents. We are constantly admonished to take exercise, eat healthily, wear a cycle helmet, study the side of the package, stop smoking, recycle, combat global warming, brush our teeth, control our drinking habits and have health checks. But when it comes to the one issue that does more harm to the next generation than any of these – the absence of a father in the family – there is a conspiracy of silence.”

savvydating on May 02, 2019:

Ha! Well then....I'm not actually surprised, Paula. Besides which, Todd appreciates Peter Frampton and Stevie Ray Vaughn, my two favorites, so he can't be all bad.

Ooops. I promised James I'd lie low. Darn. Broken my promise already. Hate it when I do that. (Not)

Suzie from Carson City on May 02, 2019:

LOL.....Yves, my friend. Wesman is a sweetheart. For 8 years now, I have been on him about finding a sweet Texas fillie and settle down and have a little Wesman or 2! LOL....He has not taken my advice but I think he's a pretty happy dude. He has a great relationship with his family and is very respectful of women, from what I have seen.....or then again, he might just be afraid MY wrath too! LOL

He's content to live a simple life, play his guitar and have a few beers. I gave up lecturing him. One of these days some pretty young thing will knock his socks off!! LOL

savvydating on May 02, 2019:

"...the wrath of Yves." Lol. You're a funny one, Wesman Todd Shaw. No worries, though. I have the greatest affection for my HP men, although they probably adore me way less.....but I'm okay with that. ;)

Wesman Todd Shaw from Kaufman, Texas on May 01, 2019:

Eh wot, well....I can imagine someone claiming women to be more violent than men. I would further imagine this stems from a statistic I've seen floating around recently. I can not recall the statistic, or what exactly it was.

In this way I shall not incur the wrath of Yves.

Anyway, it was something to do with women initiating domestic violence. From there you know already the police show up, and more often than not, side against the male half of these disputes.

So she punches him in the nuts, or something. He throws a vase. The police say, 'Sir, did you throw this vase at your wife? Sir, put your hands behind your back.

There is a land, and in that land I am King. It's the land of Speculation.

I was completely shocked the one time it happened to me. A woman just up and punched me in the face. This was a close friend of mine. Her being a close friend of mine, in those days, was indication enough to everyone that she was unstable.

I've still never punched a woman....but I have spent some time in great regret for having failed to return a blow.

savvydating on May 01, 2019:

I just want to acknowledge Ken's comments and give credit to his concern. I think we all know I do not agree with hard-line feminists who devalue men, any more than I would support, in any way, MRM or MGTOW. (I know too much about them) Neither group actually values families, children or credible facts, despite their claims to the contrary. (Does anyone really believe women are more violent than men? Sorry, guys. Not buying it and I can prove it if needed....but I'll save that for another hub.) As an aside, it may be worthwhile to note that 70% of MRM are New Atheists. That is not to say that all atheists are bad people.

Furthermore, I seriously question either (the radical female or radical male) groups' proclaimed concern for children. What strides has MRM made? Maybe one...for the adult male. They found a way to pay a bit less in child support. How so? They convinced the courts that their offspring would be better off going back and forth between the parents. For example, in my office, I know of one woman who is divorced. Her ex-husband gets their 4-year old child on W, TH, SU. She gets him the other days. The poor kid is shipped back and forth, having to lug his toys, clothes, and suitcase from one parent to the other....because God forbid, the man should have to pay the woman more child support to have the child five days a week, during the school session.

And what strides has the hard-left feminist movement made, (many of whom are both male and female "intellectuals?") Well, they created Planned Parenthood, which claims to be a health organization, but which is actually nothing more than an abortion machine.

And so, James asks a poignant question indeed....."Is this a terminal illness?" If so, who is to blame. Neither radical side has any solutions as far as I am concerned. That is why we must seek our answers from above and always use our critical thinking skills to determine a true narrative from a false narrative. Furthermore, we must realize always, like we learned in school, that ANYONE can skew any facts or data to get the result they want. (Al Gore is a prime example of skewing data, big time!)

Whew! Okay. Now I'll get off of my soap box.

Ken.....Thanks again, you've stuck with me despite our disagreements. I appreciate you. And thanks, James, for this platform. I'll likely give it a rest, which I'm sure you'll find a relief. Tsad, I'm sure your comment about my not being a feminist was the height of praise for a man like you.

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on April 30, 2019:

Thank you, 'T,' for chiming in.

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on April 30, 2019:

Ken Burgess ~ I also want to concur with you that "the 'Men's Rights' movement has developed to counter something that has become too influential, and consequential in our society... it is a symptom that something is wrong, the question that remains, is it a minor cold, or a terminal illness."

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on April 30, 2019:

Ken Burgess ~ You ask good questions: "What is the 'Feminist Movement' about today? Is it the abolishment of families? Is it about the abolishment of the 'patriarchy'?"

I would say YES and YES. It is also closely linked to New Age Religion and goddess worship. In feminist theology, Dale Vree reports, "God's creation of man as male and female is actually an outrage. Here we see feminism's profound hostility to the natural order and the body. It’s also an outrage to feminists that God is our Father, i.e., the ultimate patriarch. So they replace God the Father with the goddess, synonymous with Mother Earth, as in Pantheism.

"God, the all-powerful Father, created the world out of nothing, intervenes forcefully in history, expects obedience, and punishes sin — all masculine images.

"But a Mother goddess is vastly different: She is the ‘womb’ of the earth, does not intervene in history, is ‘receptive,’ and accepts everyone unconditionally — all feminine images.

"The bottom line: God the Father is both demanding and powerful, and He can raise us from death to eternal life with Him, while goddess the indulgent Mother demands nothing — and delivers nothing. At death, you are simply reabsorbed into Mother Earth."

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on April 30, 2019:

Awesome Paula. It is always a distinct pleasure to hear from you. I like what you said. Well put.

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on April 30, 2019:

Yves ~ Thank you and you're welcome. I totally agree with you that "women propel men to do many of the good and valorous things they have done and that without that feminine energy or influence, the world would be much different. As George William Curtis stated so eloquently, “The test of civilization is its estimate of women."'


James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on April 30, 2019:

Vivian Coblentz ~ Thank you for coming back by to share that with me. Truer words have never been spoken than these by you: "too many people are afraid to speak out on stuff like this for fear of retaliation."

The Logician from then to now on on April 30, 2019:

Exactly, “people read into things what they want to” and I have encountered that on HP and especially on comments on James’ articles so I was just pre-empting that possibility. As I said, no reflection on your comment with which I totally agree.

Ken Burgess from Florida on April 30, 2019:

I don't know how you concluded that implication, or how anyone could, but then people read into things what they want to I guess.

Maybe I need to put a different spin on it?

MGTOW and Men's Rights didn't exist 50 years ago.

Now it does.

And there is a reason why it exists today, because it is a growing counter reaction to what is going on in our society.

The Logician from then to now on on April 30, 2019:

Good points Ken. And I know you don’t intend to imply Yves and Paula are participants in the feminist movement as you describe it (which is accurate).

I repeat, I know you aren’t implying that they are, but if anyone chooses to get that impression from any comments here I have to say I know these two ladies well and they are anything but “feminists” as we have experienced the movement!

Ken Burgess from Florida on April 30, 2019:

I am glad to see that Yves and Paula have taken the time to bring there perspective to the conversation.

Reflecting on their comments, I would say there are some extreme voices in the MGTOW/Men's Rights movement. And its obvious they do not foster a healthy family outlook, or commitment to society in general.

But I have always tried to point out, that this has become a 'thing', this has garnered a name 'MGTOW' and 'leaders' not because this is what many men who identify with it want... but in response to where our society has gone, and in counter to 'feminist' arguments.

What is the 'Feminist Movement' about today?

Is it the abolishment of families?

Is it about the abolishment of the 'patriarchy'?

Is it about making men doing 'women's traditional roles'?

Some of the the extreme 'leaders' of the feminist movement even want the population of men to be winnowed down to 10%... because they believe women can do everything better, and they just need a few men around for, you know...

Pointing fingers at the worst "leaders" of "Men's Rights" is not addressing the issue, it is choosing to ignore it.

MGTOW and the 'Men's Rights' movement has developed to counter something that has become too influential, and consequential in our society... it is a symptom that something is wrong, the question that remains, is it a minor cold, or a terminal illness.

savvydating on April 29, 2019:

Thanks, Paula. Appreciate it! James, Paula has seen me through many of my run-in's with MGTOW and MRM, who are actually closely related, and not in a good way. I didn't go to Reddit to find them. They came to me, due to my article. Guess they assumed I was talking about them when, in reality, I was speaking to women about how to stop attracting bad actors.'s late. Time for me to catch some Zzzz's, as they used to say...

Catch you on another article sometime...

Suzie from Carson City on April 29, 2019:

James, in light of the fact that I am one of your many fans and truly appreciate your writing, I at least, want you to know I read this fascinating article. However, as the proud and devoted mother of 4 sons & totally enamored grandmother of 10 grandsons, there's very little I have to say in response to this topic. My common sense and honesty tells me that any opinions I might share, would be clearly translated as the complete bias of a proud, devoted & enamored mother and grandmother......and by the way, that's just fine with me! I'm with Yves....all the way.

Just in case you attract any bitter, angry, disillusioned individuals, I'm not one with whom they would like to do battle!!.......LOL Peace, Paula

Wesman Todd Shaw from Kaufman, Texas on April 29, 2019:

Write the letter, Vivian, please.

savvydating on April 29, 2019:

James….. I see where you are coming from and where your heart is. What I was trying to say is that I think it would have been fair to have revealed the darker side of the Men's Right Movement; that Paul Elam is a big proponent of it; that he is actually trice married, and a deadbeat dad who has issues with drugs and violence. Hardly the kind of man we want leading other men.

Anyway, as most people know, I adore the men in my life. I value all the things they do. I also believe women propel men to do many of the good and valorous things they have done and that without that feminine energy or influence, the world would be much different. As George William Curtis stated so eloquently, “The test of civilization is its estimate of women."

Also, thank you for the link. I did look at it. It did give a “fair” review.

Vivian Coblentz on April 29, 2019:

Get daughter came home today to tell me about her elementary's "field day" event in May. Her grade is competing against the same grade from another school in the district. Her entire grade will be wearing PINK T-shirts (provided by the school) and the other school's team will wear blue. Pink? Really? Pretty much ANY OTHER COLOR could be worn by both girls and boys, and the school chose pink? I'm debating whether or not I should write a letter to whoever is in charge, though they are probably tired of hearing from me by now. Parents of sons should be the ones complaining, but too many people are afraid to speak out on stuff like this for fear of retaliation.

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on April 29, 2019:

Yves ~ There is also this for a different perspective:

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on April 29, 2019:

Yves ~ You are welcome. Thank you ever much for swinging by to read my article. I appreciate your comments on it, as well. I read the review for which you kindly provided a link. I agree with one sentence in it: “This is how men’s rights activists view themselves: as heroes fighting the scourge of feminism for the betterment of humankind.”

I did look into what the term ‘Red Pill’ means, yes. My dictionary says, “A process by which a person's perspective is dramatically transformed, introducing them to a new and typically disturbing understanding of the true nature of a particular situation.” The Urban Dictionary says, “To open someone's eyes and mind to the secret truth of something important.”

I looked into Paul Elam and I do not agree with his views or that of his organization, A Voice for Men. That is why I ignored him and it in my piece. I had never heard of MGTOW until you brought it to my attention this morning. I, in no way, approve of their worldview. I believe in marriage and family and the Christian faith. I have never heard anyone describe Paul Elam as “the leader of the men’s rights movement.” I’m not sure it has a leader.

As I say in my Hub, the documentary was only my jumping off point to do research on my own into the issues that the men’s rights movement is about. But my wife and I both enjoyed the film and thought it was well done and needful. The woman who made it certainly does not hate women. We sensed no hatred in the movie at all. Perhaps the ‘Father’s Rights Movement’ is the subgroup of Men’s Rights that has the most appeal to me.

I have never been on Reddit, but I am sorry to hear men have treated you rudely there. Naturally, I am against such behavior from anyone towards anyone but particularly against a lady. Which you obviously are. As I noted in my article, I am far from a misogynist. It is the ideology of feminism that I am against, because its chief target is the Bible.

Here is a more even-handed review of the film and its maker.


savvydating on April 28, 2019:

James....An important topic. I do not know whether you have researched Paul Elam, the MGTOW movement, or the meaning of Red Pill. Obviously boys and men are valuable. I have a son and he is the light of my life. He respects women, but there is no way he would agree with Elam, the leader of the Men's Right Movement who has stated that he would defend a man who has raped a woman. As for MGTOW, which is an offshoot of the movement, they proposed The Red Pill philosophy, which basically tells men to be involved with or commit to any woman because all women are not cost effective and they are basically "whores who are out to get your money." In other words, they blame all of their woes on all women, especially feminists. Consequently, they recommend that boys/men take advantage of "hook-ups, prostitutes and porn for sexual satisfaction, because it is too "dangerous" to get married. The reality is that MGTOW attracts boys who do not know how to approach women and who feel rejected by women. These boys spend too much time alone, in their rooms.

You might want to go on to the reddit site and read some things for yourself. You will see what I mean. I have been called every vulgar name in the book by these men. As for the statistics you mentioned. Some of them have been cherry picked, while others of them, while real, do not reflect the context of our society. Yes, naturally, more men die in wars. That is because more men go to war. Yes, more men are in prison, but that is because more men commit violent crimes. And they were doing so before anyone ever heard of a feminist. As for courts, I agree that judges tend to favor women. Once again, this has always been the case. Judges tend to view women as being more maternal. However, the reality is that, in today's world, most divorced parents are sharing their children equally. The kids go back and forth, for the sake of fairness. As for abortion, you are correct there. Men have no say. That isn't fair.

Here's the thing, James. I have two nephews. One of them just took his SAT's. He is in the top 3% in the United States. He's doing just fine. The other one is a freshman in college. He gets A's and B's. He's an athlete. He's a happy kid. He doesn't know or care anything about MGTOW because he is happy. The same goes for my son.

What I'm saying is that while society has changed, only 10% of the so-called far left intelligentsia think the way hard-line feminist think or even the way hard-line MGTOW men think. Both philosophies are radical and destructive.

However, most of us are in the middle. We're still living our lives, happy to have a family, still planning weddings, birthdays, and all the rest.

We're not stuck in front of a computer all day, angry at the world because of the view of a small minority. The good news is that some companies (who all have ads) are starting to catch on. They're beginning to realize that these loud voices are monopolizing the internet, especially Twitter. They are beginning to understand that their comments are mostly worthless. It's regular people in the center who matter most.

Here is a review of The Red Pill. Take it for what it is worth:

Thanks for listening.

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on April 28, 2019:

Ken Burgess ~ Thank you, kind sir, for taking the time to read my article. I enjoyed your keen insights in your comments below. I will look for the article you mentioned.

I love your closing line, "the sickness within our own society has not gone away." As darkness creeps across our land. And isn't it sad to admit how right you are that "The very types of people who built, pioneered and revolutionized our society, industry and technology are now considered the problem, the oppressors."

Well said.

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on April 28, 2019:

Thank you, Wesman Todd Shaw, for your awesome accolades. Yes, the Hispanics do seem to be big on family. And I'll tell you who else are: Asians. And they are the most successful group in America. Well, besides Jews, of course. Family has a lot to do with success. I've never known anyone who followed God's plan who ended up impoverished.

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on April 28, 2019:

Thank you Vivian Coblentz ~ We are members of the Moody Church and we do take a stand. God Bless You and your congregation.

Ken Burgess from Florida on April 27, 2019:


Once again I must tip my hat to you, when you decide to write on a topic you delve deep and bring some powerful facts to pillar your position.

Yves has an article "Why-Women-are-Frustrated-and-Confused-about-Men-and-Dating" where in the comments section you can see a long drawn out 'discussion' about many of these issues, you might find it an interesting read.

Western Civilization was founded/created/expanded and brought to its current heights by men. It was the Tesla, Edison, Rockefeller, Carnegie, types that built this nation, even today it is the Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk types that have reshaped our world and our reality.

In today's culture, such individuals at a young age will find it harder than ever to achieve such success and status... our society today has shifted immensely from the ones they were brought up in.

The very types of people who built, pioneered and revolutionized our society, industry and technology are now considered the problem, the oppressors, etc. I don't see the end of the world coming... but I do see the end of Western Civilization as it was known, and the eventual bowing of Europe and America to a more solidified and united society such as China. Trump has delayed this political and economical decline, but it is only a delay, the sickness within our own society has not gone away.

Wesman Todd Shaw from Kaufman, Texas on April 26, 2019:

Knocking it out of the park and into the cheap seats, as usual, I see. So glad you're being very active here again. There's so much left wing crap published around here, but it all pales in comparison to your much more thorough and rational work.

Feminism is obviously social cancer, but that Men Going Their Own Way thing is basically the exact same sort of thing. Or seems to be.

Here in Texas you see how the Hispanics are thriving, and if you get to know some of them, you will very quickly see why. Hispanic folks are so focused on their families. It is pretty sad how my own family pales in comparison.

Vivian Coblentz on April 26, 2019:

Our church is in southwestern Ohio. I hope more churches will take a stand!

James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on April 26, 2019:

Vivian Coblentz ~ I sincerely appreciate you taking the time to peruse my piece. Thank you for your lovely laudations, as well. I love what your church is doing. May I ask what part of the country your church is in?

You are right on target with your comments: "it all circles back to the same old devil doing the same old trick on a different platform--trying to ruin God's original design on everything."


James A Watkins (author) from Chicago on April 26, 2019:

T ~ Thank you very much for reading my article. I enjoyed your keen observations on it. As you said so well, "Like we’re not going to go out of our way to demonstrate men are being discriminated against, we just figure take it like a man and don’t complain." There you go.

Vivian Coblentz on April 25, 2019:


This article will blow liberal and feminist minds because it is filled with so many facts that obliterate their false narrative. You address points I hadn't even thought of! As we've discussed before, it all circles back to the same old devil doing the same old trick on a different platform--trying to ruin God's original design on everything.

Our church is offering a course to men to teach them about their God-given roles in light of this attack on masculinity. Something needs to change to bring things back into the order God established!

Another stellar job, James.

The Logician from then to now on on April 25, 2019:

More factual information here than I ever dreamed existed on this topic James, and I read every word of it!

I guess a lot of men are like me, they know that the feminist movement is nothing but a facade for the promotion of left wing ideology but our mentality was “what else is new?”

Like we’re not going to go out of our way to demonstrate men are being discriminated against, we just figure take it like a man and don’t complain to the left who wouldn’t listen anyway.

But you have presented a case that frankly I didn’t know existed to the extent you take it. It really makes a guy think about what the media never reports on unless it’s lies and distortions characterizing men in general.

Thanks for another eye opening piece! I don’t know how you do it! :-)

Related Articles