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Ignore the in-my-face obvious issues and lend all of my attention to unwarranted, groundless non-issues? Not happening!


The Wrong Messaging

I was reading a story about a high school football team, here in my State of Florida. This particular football team, has had special t-shirts made for the kids they coach. However...these shirts do not mention the sport they are participating in, they don’t include any scripture which might give them comfort in getting through the game unharmed, and they don’t contain uplifting messages or reflect unity!

Although the word family is on the shirts, it is secondary to the primary focus and that focus is not reflective of community, sportsmanship, nor American pride.

The shirts are printed with the words Black Lives Matter, as if everyone on the team does not equally matter!

As if skin tone alone distinguishes one 'teammate' from the next, leaving those left out, coming up short, in making the cut! Coming up short, solely because of the skin God gave them, they've failed to make it to print...on the 'team' t-shirt!

I wonder if anyone bothered to ask these kids, individually, how they felt about it.

All this manages to do, is antagonize! How could it not?


When I played team sports, when my kids played team sports, everything was about the team, including t-shirts and jerseys.

The messages weren’t divisive, but rather unifying.

All for one and one for all type messages.

Playing as a team, winning as a team, taking pride in beating your local rivals and the constant reminder that there is no ‘I’ in team, even accepting defeat, as a team!

From the first time I heard the slogan, black lives matter, back when Barack Obama was President, I have found it deeply exclusionary, divisive, offensive and defeating!

Certainly not productive nor anything which keep us moving forward.

I never could figure out what this was all about; some still attempt to repeat stories about black lives ending too soon, simply because people with other skin colors exist....but, statistics and facts always lead away from this false narrative.

There is a problem, especially within our inner cities, due to gang activity and drug wars and turf battles, which leads to too many lives, in particular, black lives, ending much too soon. We hear the stories, almost every weekend of even babies and toddlers, getting caught up in the crossfire and losing their lives, before they’ve barely even begun.

This...definitely needs to be dealt with, no doubt about it!

  • But, taking it out of the context in which it belongs and attempting to make it about something else entirely, isn’t moving this Country forward, it is only dividing us...once more!
  • It is taking us back to a time, when there was segregation and ugliness and great division within this country.

But, we all worked together, to rectify that:

Remember the Titans

We Aren’t Each Other’s Enemy

Inner cities seem to have been left behind. They haven’t caught up with the rest of the Country that put the past behind and moved on, long ago! Too many so called leaders (Politicians) for whatever selfish reasons...are making sure they keep them under their thumb, stuck in the past, blaming things which are no longer the problem.

Why must all cities, towns, counties, communities, which aren’t experiencing the same inner city turmoil, join in the further perpetuation of something...which isn’t even the cause!

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Why indeed and who is really steering this?

Where are the trustworthy adults; community leaders, pastors, youth group leaders in these places where kids are growing up with the odds stacked against them, not because the United States has let them down, but rather because their own communities and corrupt politicians have constantly let them down and continue to do so!

Kids need to be in youth programs, clubs and sports programs which prepare them for life, for adulthood. Participating in team sports, building relationships, learning to have their teammates back. There are so many advantages to sports; when it is all about the game and the camaraderie.

What good does putting messages, which divide and discriminate...on the t-shirt or jersey of our youth (or of any other person young or old, for that matter) do?

What does it teach?

I am not seeing anything unifying or beneficial with this move.

I am not seeing this doing anything to help get past whatever is going on in inner cities, where babies are being shot on the weekends, by teenagers/young adults that may just live one block over. Their mothers and fathers are dealing with dead babies or toddlers because they dared to play on their own front porch or in their own front yard...caught up in deadly crossfire for living on the wrong street or on the wrong block!

I pray that someday they will begin to elect people that truly care about building up their communities and truly care about protecting everyone....especially babies and toddlers...playing in their own yards.

Our real enemies, those that hate what we’ve built here, what we have here, are loving that these kids are wearing these divisive t-shirts.

They are loving that this has created strife within this country.

They want us weak and they have found a sensitive area, a vulnerable spot, because of our past, and they are using it to their full advantage, against us!
They have Intentionally and methodically brought it right back front and center, in order to destroy us all, whether we live in a big inner city where the colors of the local gangs rule, or whether we live in a small Southern County, where everyone loves their football.


Come Together

We have all heard the saying about not being able to see the forest for the trees. We are in the middle of that forest and don’t even realize we are there.

We are focusing on all of the wrong things, hating all of the wrong people, prioritizing things which divide us more; there is nothing unifying about messages promoting one life over another.

Our focus must be about losing destructive messages, no longer hyphenating ourselves, one from the other.

Our kids must be brought up to love, not hate. To be proud of where they live, whether in the city, in the suburbs, in the country. To grow up playing with the kids next door and...the next block over and then remaining friends throughout life.

Yes to being competitive and long live high school rivalries; shaking hands at the end of the game, win or lose. No to weekend shootouts, because of old gang rivalries and turf wars...that mean absolutely nothing.

  • Taking pride in one’s school colors, should be the focus, not skin color
  • Taking pride in one’s community, should be the focus, not gang affiliation
  • Taking pride in one’s Country, should be the focus, not this notion that we must hate, because outside forces are working against us, attempting to convince us, that we should

We need to take the time to understand what is really going on and fight back together, for this great Republic of ours!
It starts with each and every one of us, coming together as one member/one part of this Country, this one Nation under God!
We must be indivisible and acknowledge that liberty and justice pertains to all of us.. We aren’t each other’s enemy, we are all connected, but we must come together to defeat those who seek to destroy us, by convincing us...that we are!


This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 A B Williams


A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on August 10, 2020:

I think we all look back on many things we did or that were happening and we just shake our heads. We thought we knew so much! lol

Shannon Henry from Texas on August 10, 2020:

It is nice, but we can look back now and see how in some instances our cause for the protest was not a righteous one. Like when half the class staged a walkout in middle school during lunch because of assigned seats. We had assigned seats because someone started a food fight days before that. I didn't participate in either activity, but I remembered the food fight happening. A friend reminded me about the walkout and I reminded her why we had assigned seats in the first place. LOL

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on August 10, 2020:

Good Morning Shannon -

It is nice to look back on our memories.

ALL children should be able to look back on their childhood and their school days, without it haunting them. :(

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on August 10, 2020:

So Chicago, violence has broken out throughout the city, because police officers shot back when a suspect ran from them...shooting at them!?!

How do we ever move forward, if Police Officers cannot even do their job, protect the community, protect themselves!

What message are the children receiving, when ADULTS not knowing anything about anything to do with the details of the shooting....react with the looting of stores and the attacking of Police Officers, there in their city?

Shannon Henry from Texas on August 09, 2020:

Although, it does bring back memories from high school and middle school though. One year, my class handed out "soap on a rope" necklaces. I can't remember what the protest was supposed to be for, though. That's how important it must've been. LOL. But it sure seemed important enough at the time to some people. And then in high school, our class created t-shirts that were parodies of the Absolut Vodka label. We were told that we couldn't wear them to school or we'd all be suspended and not be able to walk the stage for graduation. The argument was that .00 proof (for class of 2000) really meant that we were non-alcoholic. The administrators didn't buy that argument. So some of the girls wore t-shirts with letters on them instead. They spelled out MOO when all lined up, I think, and something else. Basically, they'd called our class dean a cow without directly insulting her.

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on August 09, 2020:

Amen Shannon.

When I saw the story {about the shirts} I thought no, no, no...this isn't the way, it sets us so far back! But, sadly I know that they won't be the only ones to do this. :(

Shannon Henry from Texas on August 08, 2020:

I agree 100% that sports teams, especially children and teens, should be wearing team shirts that do not take a stance on any one side of a controversy. Controversies are by nature divisive and a team should be focused on the team, not social issues.

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