Something New For Everyone
My choice for this week's story, was exactly that; it was mine. I wanted to do something different, read something I'd never personally read before, and see if my reactions and opinions would be in any way similar to the children's. It was as we say "a dry run," something I almost never do in the educational setting, but yes, I did do it; this time! I walked into that room completely unprepared, totally unbiased, and best of all, I actually had the pleasure of being a part of the group. Even better than that............. my kids accepted me in that role; they let me be one of them............ just for awhile!
The story was recommended, and although I admit to not having taken even a peek before hand; I did have a co-worker read through before I introduced it to the students. Inappropriate content would admittedly have "shortened" the short story. It simply would have disappeared, and never found its way into our weekly journey, and no one would have missed a thing. Our focus is "great literature," and "The Wicker Husband" will never find itself defined in that way, but it was interesting; it did have a theme; it did hold our attention, and it was based on certain life lessons that we tend to forget. I didn't love this story, but I did appreciate it, and in the end it's what the kids think that matters.......... I'm just the fairly quiet one who sits in the corner; the one who confesses to the immense enjoyment I get from stirring the pot.
Our Author, Ursula Wills-Jones
Ursula Wills-Jones grew from childhood to adulthood in Stroud, Gloucestershire. Her work is quite versatile; she is an author, an artist, and journalist. Willis- Jones' journalistic career is filled with writing articles and following the political arena.
She now lives in Bristol where she keeps herself busily involved in writing, and also runs a night of live short story performances called Heads & Tales. She is a fan of folk and fairy tales, ghost stories and Victorian adventure novels. She also spends time working in a variety of different aspects within her local theatre community.
The Wicker Husband/ A Summary
Our story begins in a small fishing village, and our main character is simply a girl. She has no name, her age is a mystery, and she is known in the village as nothing more than the "ugly girl." The ugly girl lives alone; she has no friends; she has no family, and she spends no money. Her house goes unrepaired, and she is reviled amongst the villagers because of the aroma that follows and clings to her as she moves through the village. The ugly girl gutts fish for a living, and the smell of brine cannot be washed from her hands.............. her clothing yearns for a good washing, and its cloth shimmers with the scales she fails to remove.
Weddings and parties come and go. The village girls get married one by one, and the old women take to gossiping just a bit more about the smelly girl who attends the weddings, but yet never moves beyond the back of the church. If she hears their gossip we aren't aware of it, but it quickly becomes clear that she not only sees her future as one of loneliness, but that she holds hope for little else. Why else would she visit the basketmaker? Why else would she offer him six pieces of gold for a husband, and why would the "ugly girl" be resigned to living out her life with the creation of a man she's never met............. and a husband made of branches?
The basketmaker took his job seriously, and he was touched that the girl has trusted in his ability to weave her a husband. He took his time in the husband's creation, and he made him perfect in every way. The wicker husband had broad arms and shoulders, an elegant neck, brown hair, and greenish-hazel eyes. When the "ugly girl" arrived to collect her purchase, the basketmaker told her that she'd meet him at the church the following day, that her future husband had requested just a little more time.
Before his arrival at the church the wicker husband stopped by the tailor for a new suit of clothes, at the shoemaker's for a pair of shoes, and at the village tavern for a good, strong drink. He set off alarms wherever he went; the villagers were both frightened and curious by his presence. Who was this man; what was this man, and where had he come from? When he finally arrived at the church, the "ugly girl" was pleased, and the husband she's had made to order aims to do just that; he wants nothing more than to please her.
Their marriage was an easy one, and they were both quite happy. The "ugly girl" no longer smelled of fish, and scales no longer covered her clothing. Suddenly, new dresses were being purchased along with ribbons for her hair. The wicker husband spent his days repairing their home, and the "ugly girl" would come home from work, put on her new clothes, and tie ribbons in her hair. She found that life could be happy, even if it wasn't perfect.
She learned to blush, she learned to dance, and she was suddenly seen as beautiful. What she didn't see were the reactions that her transformation had invoked amongst the villagers. Why would she notice that? Why would she ever think that the village gossip would be about her? She'd never noticed before, so why would she notice now? And furthermore, why would she think that what the villagers had always talked about with a tinge of disgust and possibly a smidgen of pity would turn to jealousy? Why would anyone be jealous of the "ugly girl? Why would anyone begrudge her happiness?"
Is Anyone Ever Happy?
The "ugly girl's" contentment and new found smiles are more than anyone can handle. The wives from the village are jealous that someone so ugly and undeserving should have the "perfect" husband........... whatever magic has been woven by the basketmaker is no longer seen as magic, and it causes discord in each and every one of the villager's homes. The women want the perfect husband; they want their own husbands to act accordingly; they want what they don't have.
A man made of twined branches verbally shares with his wife that he was made just for her, that she is the reason he lives and breathes, but no one hears these words in the way they're meant; the villagers misconstrue the innocence; the villagers make their own interpretations about things they know nothing about. All in all............... the villagers could be anyone; the flaws of humanity are harsh; everyone desires the unattainable, and that is something that never seems to change.
As the story moves on the village women become increasingly vicious, and then their husbands join in the viciousness. Why? What are the men afraid of? Why join the women? Again, jealousy, the Wicker husband is an object of desire; the women actively try to take him away from his wife, and they become even angrier when they are unsuccessful. Suddenly, an entire village desires to destroy not only a marriage, but the man who was thoughtfully woven for the "ugly girl." A man who couldn't eat dinner with his wife, or even sit down by the fire to relax; a man who grew moldy in the rainy season and dried out with the changes in the weather, and yet, this man was a threat to everyone. He and the "ugly girl" had become the source of all of the village's problems, and they had no idea that they were either blamed or hated. They were simply living the best way they knew how, and they were happy.
The unrest of the villagers grew daily, and they collectively devised a plan to not only destroy the couple, but to rid themselves of the Wicker husband as well. The basketmaker was tricked by a deceitful, jealous woman; the Wicker husband was set up to be seen by the "ugly girl" as untrustworthy, as a cheat; the "ugly girl" is pushed to her limits by things she cannot understand, and she then seeks to destroy her one source of joy, but is she successful? Will she ever know real happiness again, and why would people who have never cared anything about her in the past strive to ruin her life? Why do people find solace in muddying clear water?
Towards the end of our story the basketmaker hears that he has been lied to, that the man he so carefully created has disappeared, but that the part he'd had in the villager's plans had backfired. The "ugly girl" had not been left alone at all. He wondered how he could make things right; he wondered if he'd be able to, and he sets himself the task to fix it all. One last job; one last goal, and then he could retire. He was done............... but he wasn't finished.
The basketmaker's last creation is where we'll end. You need to read the ending for yourself. All I can say is that his last creation caused many emotions............. and almost every one of the "seven deadly sins" present themselves before the story's ending arrives. Be careful what you wish for!
Discussion.............. Ummmmm, okay.... debate!
Our discussion began with some very simple questions, "Do we treat other people differently based on their appearance?" "If you're walking down the street and you see two people........ is there anything that would decide exactly who you would approach first? Have you ever knowningly avoided a conversation with someone because of the way they look-dress-wear their hair-talk-ecetera? Do you choose your friends based on how others will perceive your choices? Do you "not" choose to be friends because of those same perceptions? Exactly how much influence does the way a person looks have on the opportunities they're given in life............. and could your own appearance change the expectations you have of yourself? And lastly, have you ever done something to make someone feel bad about something good; have you ever been jealous enough of someone else that it made you feel better to cast shadows on their happiness........... and did it make you feel better?
Admittedly, the discussion had an extremely slow start. None of the children wanted to fess up and publicly concede that they are not always the perfect citizens they'd like to believe they are. What it took to get them to open up was my confession that I am not a perfect citizen all the time, and don't believe for even one minute that I didn't choke on that confession. My subject was someone the children knew, a substitute teacher who'd sporadically spent time in one or another of their classrooms for years, although she is now officially retired. Her name is the "Dum Dum" lady, a name derived from the ever present bag of lollipops that accompanied her everywhere. The children themselves never saw her "lack of teeth," and that was all I had ever noticed. All the kids had ever been aware of was the bag of candy, and all I had ever been aware of was that she came to work without teeth.
My confession drew a few giggles from the girls, and the boys, they wouldn't make eye contact. Told you my kids are bright; the boys weren't going to take any chance at all that they'd laugh, but I wasn't quite that smart........ I love eye contact, and I did laugh. I told the kids how difficult I had found it to take the "Dum Dum" lady seriously, and just for the record, she gave herself that name. I had no part in it, and neither did the children! So we talked about the "lack of teeth," the appearance, and then I told the children that no matter what she looked like, or what she had self-proclaimed herself to be.......... she was a great teacher, a sympathetic human being, and most of all, a really nice woman, but I had treated her differently, and so had many of my co-workers. No one had an excuse for how she was treated, and I will never try to excuse myself. She deserved warmth and welcome, and I gave her nothing more than a sterile professionalism; she deserved more than that from me; she deserved more than that from everyone.
With that, the students began to open up. I mean, how much better does it get than hearing your teacher admit to her own flaws!?! The boys talked about how much easier it was to approach a pretty girl when she had a friend who wasn't quite so pretty; the friend was the perfect go between, and so much easier to talk to. The girls felt the same way; at this age it's all about crushes and so often about the crushes who in NO WAY deserve the attention, but it's the boys who maybe deserve that attention who are overlooked and become the means to the other. Ah, they have so much to learn!
From there we moved to the girl problems. Funny, boys this age never seem to have the same problems as the girls do; they simply don't care. Girls move in packs; they're like wolves; there is always an alpha and there are many omegas. Note that my comparison is not meant negatively......... anyone who has raised a daughter or worked with teenage girls knows this to be true.......... and let's be honest, I was a teenage girl once too. Uh, quite a while ago to be sure, but nonetheless I was, and I've seen both sides of the pack first hand. As a result we grow up wishing in many cases for the opportunity to say "I'm sorry," and also in a few cases to ask "why?" Unfortunately, it's more than occasionally we see that some of the "teenage" behaviors never seem to go away; I told the kids that I make it a point to stay away from the women I view as perpetual teenagers, and one of my girls looked me straight in the face and said, "Then you'd never hangout with my Mom."
Anyway, the packs, or possibly I should refer to them as cliques, change on a regular basis. The girls were open to discussion about the mistreatment of someone not quite so pretty, or possibly someone who didn't wear the appropriate labels, but they never applied it to themselves. That is where the debate came in........ my boys called them on their behavior, they called them out on the fact that they couldn't admit to being a part of the problem, and they both tried and convicted the girls in their presence. Not all of the girls mind you, just the ones that they felt deserved it. The boys were merciless, and they had no trouble at all talking about things that had been happening amongst the girls all year. They talked about how a very beautiful young girl had been ostracized out of jealousy, and how the boys had backed that same girl up and watched out for her, and how that had made it even worse. I learned a lot, and yes, what I learned has brought out the "protective" me; I watch and I listen, but sometimes I miss things I shouldn't. I guess I need to look a little harder, and spend a little more time listening.
The end of our discussion involved the behavior of adults, and quite frankly, it surprised me. They talked about their parents. The boys mentioned competitive sports, and their father's and sometimes mother's comments about their teammates. It seems that the boys are really not as envious of their peer's athletic abilities, as their parents are willing to demean those of their children's peers who are viewed as exceedingly talented. The boys appreciate their teammates' presence; they respect their abilities, and they see the comments made by their parents as downright ridiculous. One of the boys even described a parent who attends our school basketball games as someone who "waits for the best player to make a mistake so he can announce it to the entire gym." He talked about how this man's son was consistently humiliated by his father's need to humiliate. None of the children understand this......... but I do. Parents are the biggest downside to competitive sports; I stopped sitting in the stands at youth hockey games when my son was eight years old, and I didn't sit back down again until he turned eighteen.
The girls saw the same things in different ways. A mother's comment about a skirt being too short, and then the shopping trip in which a similar skirt was pulled from the rack, accompanied by the, "I think you'd look good in this." One of the girls said that she'd actually once told her mother that she'd said a friend had looked like a slut in the same dress she'd picked out for her daughter to take into the fitting room. I guess her mom wasn't happy, and needless to say, the dress wasn't tried on. That's motherhood; our children forget the things they don't want to hear or remember for only as long as they have no need to remember, but they do remember.
MY FAVORITE QUOTE OF THE DAY!
"EVERYONE GETS JEALOUS, AND EVERYONE ISN'T NICE SOMETIMES, BUT IT'S WHEN YOU CAN'T SEE THOSE THINGS IN YOURSELF THAT EVERYTHING GETS OUT OF HAND. WE NEED TO MAKE SURE THE THINGS WE DON'T LIKE IN OTHER PEOPLE DON'T SHOW UP ON US. NOBODY IS RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR HAPPINESS; WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THAT & WE HAVE NO RIGHT TO TRY to TAKE IT AWAY FROM ANOTHER PERSON."
E.B., TWELVE YEARS OLD.
TIME IS UP.......... FOR TODAY ANYWAY!
An hour isn't an awful lot of time once you get the kids talking, but you have to end it somewhere, and there's always another story. The conclusion of our discussion was based on the age old saying, "be careful what you wish for." That this is an accurate statement was unanimously agreed upon, but I can't tell you why because that would give away the story's ending. Seriously, wishing might just get you the one thing you want, and then again, it might also get you something you want nothing more than to give back. If you're wondering who this woman is, give The Wicker Husband a closer look. You can find it online, and the ending is worth it!
Next week........ The Rocking Horse Winner; by D.H. Lawrence
Kaie Arwen (author) on June 07, 2011:
fadi abo eljood on May 24, 2011:
nice one THANKS
Kaie Arwen (author) on February 24, 2010:
GPAGE- I am so glad you liked it.......... and yes, it was intriguing to say the least. A very interesting take on jealousy and wanting what someone else has........... and the visual aspect of the story; it was fabulous!
"Parents in sports," they are an entity within themselves. I believe your son is far from alone in his decision, and yes, it's sad.
Again, I thank you for the mention in your latest Hub, but more than that I thank you because of the respect I have for the woman I've come to know through her own......... it was indeed an honor.
GPAGE from California on February 24, 2010:
Kaie........brilliant hub! Really liked this one. The story The Wicker Husband" really intrigues me. The visual of it all! Fantastic lesson there for sure. Funny how you mentioned "parents" in sports. I can go on and on about that! My son literally quit baseball because of the parents! NOT the game......sad.
I mentioned you in my latest hub for a reason. You are truly a gifted writer.
Kaie Arwen (author) on February 20, 2010:
Thank you............. I am now one of your followers and will be over to read your Hubs very soon!
The Donkey from Little Rock, Arkansas on February 19, 2010:
You're a great storyteller. I'll definitely be reading more of your hubs.
You should follow me and read some of my hubs.
Kaie Arwen (author) on February 12, 2010:
Breakfastpop- Thank you, as always! I'm always happy to capture your imagination; you capture mine on a regular basis, and I do depend on you for all of the news I miss!
Gifted? I don't know about that, but I have received some of God's most precious gifts. I am a lucky girl!
Thanks again, see you soon!
Kaie Arwen (author) on February 12, 2010:
habee- I think you will like it! Do that.........
Kaie Arwen (author) on February 12, 2010:
Katherine- Thank you.......... I always enjoy your Hubs as well!
Kaie Arwen (author) on February 12, 2010:
James- Your compliments are appreciated as always. There's nothing like having someone whose writing you respect completely give you an "extraordinary" in a comment. May I say that you get the same right back, and then some!
So you enjoyed my confession? ;-) I have to admit, I find solace in the fact she never knew how I saw her, and that she always knew I respected her.
More often? Sorry, just a little busy for that, happy busy, but busy, and I will be sure to let E.B. know that you appreciated his thoughts. He can tend to be rather quiet most of the time, but the times he finds it within himself to chime in a bit are a revelation. Powerful just might be an understatement......... I might give him more than that considering he has more sense than most adults I know!
And again......... thank you......
Kaie Arwen (author) on February 12, 2010:
dohn121- Thank you!
It is an interesting story, and the ending is definitely worth the time! I'd tell you what it is......... but that would defeat the purpose!
breakfastpop on February 12, 2010:
What a fantastic hub. You captured my imagination from beginning to end. You have a gift, you really do.
Holle Abee from Georgia on February 11, 2010:
I've never read this, but it sounds interesting. I'll have to check it out!
Kathy Love from Harrisburg on February 11, 2010:
very well done!
James A Watkins from Chicago on February 11, 2010:
You are an extraordinary storyteller. Your sheer intelligence shines through your words on this page. You drew me right in to several layers here and I was moved by the substitute teacher with no teeth, as well as the "The Wicker Husband." You have a gift that I feel you should exercise more often. And the quote at the end by your student is powerful. Thank you.
dohn121 from Hudson Valley, New York on February 11, 2010:
You certainly looked at this story from both sides of the coin and so certainly expanded it and applied to the daily grind of life (which most people cannot do!). This sounds like an interesting story and you said just enough about it to compel me to read it. I like your viewpoints! Thank you for sharing this one!