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Pet Peeves of an Older American White Heterosexual Male

Paul is a retired American expat living in Thailand. Besides being an English teacher and translator, Paul likes languages and most sports.

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This picture was taken in November of 2015.

This picture was taken in November of 2015.

An Older American White Heterosexual Male

I am a Caucasian male who was born in 1944. Since I have been married most of my life to only females, you can't help but call me an older white heterosexual male.

Frankly speaking, I am proud to be an older white heterosexual male. Since the founding of the United States in 1776, white heterosexual males spearheaded the western expansion of America and were chiefly responsible for its military and economic progress.

As rugged individualists in the 1800s, white heterosexual males were also responsible for helping the United States acquire and settle Alaska, Hawaii, South Pacific islands, and the Philippines outside of the continental U.S.

During my lifetime beginning in the 1970s, however, there has been a backlash by leftist liberal elements to demonize and denigrate all of the white heterosexual male accomplishments. These leftist liberal elements are made up of radical feminists, activist racial minorities, lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender activists, and socialists with a communist bent.

In this article, I lay out eleven pet peeves that have annoyed me for some time.

1. Political Correctness


Political correctness may be thought of as language, policies, or measures which don't want to offend or disadvantage any certain group of people in society. In essence, it is upholding a social taboo against language and attitudes that one could call bigoted. For example, when Donald Trump calls some women fat and homely, he is considered to be a bigoted person. Because the President of the United States doesn't want to offend Muslims, he will not say that ISIS has engaged in genocide. I hated political correctness when I was teaching in Thailand. Instead of writing that a student was failing in his coursework, I had to say that he or she needed improvement. Political correctness has gone too far in dictating what we can say and not say.

2. Affirmative Action


Affirmative action which was advocated as early as the 1960s is the policy of favoring disadvantaged groups such as women, racial minorities, and the handicapped who are now or have been the victims of discrimination within a culture. As an older white man in his fifties and sixties, affirmative action in the form of reverse discrimination affected me greatly when I worked for the federal government. Although I consistently received excellent work performances, I wasn't promoted from GS-13 to GS-14 during the last twenty years of federal service! Many women, members of racial minorities, and handicapped people were promoted over me during that period.

3. Rewriting of History


I am very upset that history books have been rewritten to marginalize the achievements of white heterosexual males and promote a politically correct liberal socialist and communist agenda that declares war on any conservative white heterosexual male thought.

4. Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Lifestyle Demands


When growing up in the 1950s, there was no public discussion about lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) lifestyles because this topic was taboo. In 2015, however, the U.S. Supreme Court legalized same-sex marriages and has also given equal rights to the LGBT. Just the same, I view same-sex marriage as immoral and also cannot condone any law which states that transgender and bisexual can use any public restroom of the gender they choose.

5. Women Who Value Ambition and Career More than Family Life


I am not opposed to a woman working to help a husband support a family. I draw the line, however, when women view their job or career is more important than marriage or family life. If women took more responsibility in taking care of their families, there would be fewer problems in society.

6. Illegal Immigration

A member of the Border Patrol

A member of the Border Patrol

I think it is appalling that the United States has eleven million illegal immigrants. When my ex-wife immigrated to the U.S. in the late 1970s, it took her five years to get legal immigration citizenship.

7. Disrespect for Police and Law and Order

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General disrespect for police and law and order started in the 1960s with the anti-war and civil rights movement protests. It has been especially bad since 2000 with numerous mass shootings and criticism and dislikes for police officers who work mostly in big cities.

8. Loss of Moral Values

Since the 1960s, there has been a gradual loss of moral values in society which has accelerated in recent years. With the breakdown of the family, there has been an increase in crime and drug use. A liberal media has also contributed negative role models like Justine Beiber, Miley Cyrus, and Rihanna who are setting bad examples for youth with sexually suggestive songs; dances like twerking; and advocating violence and disrespect for women in rap songs.

9. Predominantly Liberal Politically Correct Media


I am sick and tired of being exposed to media that is very unfair in the reporting of the news. Anyone who doesn't toe the line on liberal and politically correct dogma is called a bigot, racist, and fascist. After watching the media's coverage of Donald Trump and his political rallies, is it any wonder that Trump has a dislike for the media?

10. Pro-Choice Advocates


All lives matter and life begins with conception in the womb. Anyone who is a pro-choice advocate is killing life through abortion under the guise of playing God as to who lives and who dies.

11. White Heterosexual Males are Privileged


As a white heterosexual male, I don't consider myself having had special rights and advantages during my life. If I had been privileged, why was I denied admission to medical school? Why was I drafted into the Army in 1966 before I enlisted in the Navy? Finally, why was I denied a job promotion during the last twenty years of my federal government service?


There has been a great change in the world and society since the 1940s when I was born. Everything in society is upside down now and the differences are as great as between day and night. With the pet peeves I have now as an older white heterosexual male, perhaps it would have been better if I had been born and lived in the late nineteenth and early twentieth centuries.

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This content reflects the personal opinions of the author. It is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and should not be substituted for impartial fact or advice in legal, political, or personal matters.

© 2016 Paul Richard Kuehn


Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on December 13, 2018:

Mike, I enjoyed reading your account of what the Ukrainian said about gay rights. Thanks for reading and commenting.

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on December 13, 2018:

I can see where you are coming from. Although I have been out of the States for 15 years, this has happened to me a few times in the past.

Readmikenow on December 13, 2018:

Good Article! Paul, I fit into your category of white, heterosexual male. I'm also a Christian. An older person from the Ukraine once asked me about gay rights in the United States. When I finished explaining it he said "You give special rights to people because of how they have sex. This makes no sense to me. How do you know people are having the correct type of sex to get these rights and are not lying about it? What happens if they stop having the right type of sex to get these rights? How would you know?" I didn't know what to say. I once worked for a Muslim and it was interesting how we had many of the same problems with things going on in the United States. I also lost out on getting a job because of affirmative action. Enjoyed reading this.

Wesman Todd Shaw from Kaufman, Texas on December 13, 2018:

Cops. I'm a pretty average looking guy. I'm not especially large nor small. I don't do anything at all, so far as I can tell, to draw attention to myself.

....but when I'm out and about, cops all try to stare me down. You'd think I was dressed in a Nazi uniform the way police look at me. And I live in a pretty small town where nothing much happens.

I think police look at average citizens disrespectfully, not the other way around.

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on December 12, 2018:

Thank you very much for your comments, Wesman. Which point are you in disagreement?

Wesman Todd Shaw from Kaufman, Texas on December 12, 2018:

Great article. I'm with you on all but one point. I suppose I won't elaborate on the one.

Demonization of the very demographic that founded western civilization just doesn't seem wise, and yet it is one of the major focuses of the Democrat party.

Amazing. Well, it's never too late to turn the nation around. I look at my dad sometimes, he's a pretty ...okay, extremely conservative fella; and I wonder how it was allowed to slide down to the muck our 'culture' is in now.

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on July 01, 2018:

Yes, technology is constantly advancing and we are entering a brave new world socially and technologically. In the light of all this, it will be extremely difficult to maintain traditional conservative values. When I was teaching English in Bangkok 5 years ago, I had my students read an article about the mind-boggling technological advances taking place. Thanks for these great comments.

Ken Burgess from Florida on June 30, 2018:

Paul, there is a lot in flux, more than most people can comprehend.

Technology is advancing at a pace where today's new breakthrough is antiquated (replaced by something more cutting edge) in six months.

Twenty years ago, cell phones didn't really exist, today they are more powerful than PCs were back then, plus they are portable TVs, cameras, and anyone in the workforce cannot live without them.

They have developed the ability to grow organs, operate on patients with nano-technology, and shrink a functional computer with more power than a human mind to the size of a pea. That cutting edge technology will be common place in a couple short years.

You can be anywhere in the world, in a few short hours, you can see anything anywhere in the world instantly on your Cell phone, and because of advances in reproductive sciences, there is no need for a woman to even have sex to become pregnant, or alternatively they can terminate a pregnancy at a whim in most of the 'Western world'.

Thanks to Obamacare, adults can now pretend to be children until they are 26 years old, and sponge off their parents' insurance. A growing percentage of adults now waste away their prime years in universities until they are practically in their 30s (or in their parent's basements)... never facing the real world, never accepting any real responsibility for anything.

None of these issues (or technologies) existed 50+ years ago, so we have literally massive amounts of socio-cultural changes hitting us almost daily... not generational, not even decades apart anymore, literally years go by and technology and the social changes brought by it, are non-stop.

In ten years typing on a keyboard like I am doing now will be obsolete, we will probably have chips in our heads, or some type of ocular device that can also read our brainwaves that does everything at the speed of thought... the internet will literally be in our heads.

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on June 29, 2018:

Ken, your assessment of politics and how the Democratic Party has changed is absolutely correct. I fear for this country if the Democratic Socialists like Bernie Saunders ascend to power.

Ken Burgess from Florida on June 28, 2018:

You are absolutely correct, things are entirely upside down. Well put.

And in politics, the quicker the over 50 generations can understand that the Democratic Party is no longer the party they grew up with and cherished, the better for the rest of America.

Simple stated, Democrats are now the anti-America party, and want to turn the country "upside down". And the Republicans are the ones that want to defend the Constitution, Liberties, and Rights, if any party does.

Used to be the Democrats were the party of the workers, and the Republicans the party of the wealthy and business interests, but in general they were all Americans working for America's interests. Those days are long gone.

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on March 01, 2018:

Hi, Paula! Yes, the picture of Miley was in this hub from the start. It seems like a lot of people today, especially the young, have redefined what is decent and indecent. Yes, God help us!

Suzie from Carson City on March 01, 2018:

Paul, I chimed in months ago here, but I need to ask: Was that photo of Miley in this hub from the start? I can't imagine how I missed it, if it was.

Ummm, yeah, OK, what can I say? Well Paul, there's a young (lady?) who can be so proud of herself, wouldn't you say? Oh and her parents as well, right? Every American Mom & Dad want their daughters to pose for a picture like that and display her intelligence and maturity level.

God help us. Paula

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on February 28, 2018:

Thank you for your insightful comment. I agree that we have to ask ourselves what we have the power to change.

Demas W Jasper from Today's America and The World Beyond on February 28, 2018:

I read through this again. There IS enough here to make you "fretful." Daydreaming that everything is just great wars with reality, but let's ask ourselves what we have the power to change, change those aspects of life, and realize that we are doing what we can while swearing off fretting about the rest that is beyond our ability to productively influence. Peace and calm can bring some serenity into our lives, however short it may last.

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on February 15, 2018:

I completely agree with your opinion and appreciate your comments on this article.

poetvix from Gone from Texas but still in the south. Surrounded by God's country. on February 15, 2018:

It is refreshing to know others find the current liberal politically correct disease that is eroding the rational, logical and moral fabric of America as offensive as I do. It's delusional and dangerous. PC ideology hides behind a guise of tolerance and respect but upon critical examination is exposed as the most divisive, fascist collection of hogwash to ever hit American soil. God help us.

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on June 28, 2016:

Thank you for your comments, big E.

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on June 28, 2016:

Thank you very much for your comments, Wild Bill. I really appreciate them.

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on June 26, 2016:

Yes, freedom of expression is one of the great things about life in the States. Thanks for the comments!

big E on June 08, 2016:

You know my solution. Figure out a way to change appearance to black. Black skin will give the white man more power and flexibility.

Wild Bill on June 02, 2016:


Thank you for saying this! I am a younger whiter heterosexual white male and I deal with that backlash on an almost daily basis, whether at work, on the street, or in the news (for the generalized white male).

The funny thing is that I have always pointed my same traits to others except with a few tags added: White, Heterosexual, Christian, Southern, Conservative, Male.

Despite the fact that I have a race, ethnicity, gender, sexuality, and creed; I can still have bias against me because my labels are not protected by political correctness. Racism, sexism, heterophobia, and anti-theism don't apply to me because I am considered 'the oppressor' in the public eye. Forget the fact that I am just a guy trying to make my way in the world and do the best for my family.

Demas W Jasper from Today's America and The World Beyond on May 24, 2016:

I don't know where the "pet peeves" leave your voting instincts in 2016, but I can guess.

Isn't it great that we can live in a free country where we can express ourselves freely and even receive comments from our peers!

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on May 02, 2016:

Thank you very much for your comments! I was born a few years before you and also strongly feel that everything I was taught no longer exists anymore. Everything is upside down from when we were young and I really am upset with the liberal lifestyle today which is debunking all of the morals we learned as kids.

stella vadakin from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619 on May 02, 2016:

I must agree with some of your thoughts and the disrespect for others. Miley is a poor excuse for kids. The media seems to be against parents who are trying to raise kids.I was born in 1950, and it appears that everything I was taught no longer exist anymore.

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on April 17, 2016:

Hi Shyron, The way I look at it, everyone has their price. Miley quickly found out that she could make mega bucks by advocating disrespect for herself. I'm happy you found this hub interesting and well written.

Shyron E Shenko from Texas on April 16, 2016:

Hello Paul, I don't think Miley Cyrus was advocating disrespect for females in general, but she was advocating disrespect for herself.

This is very interesting and well written.



Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on April 16, 2016:

Thank you greatly for your comments, Rajan! Yes, the times have certainly changed a lot with many things not to our liking. I appreciate you sharing this hub.

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on April 15, 2016:

I can certainly relate to many of these pet peeves as an older male in another generation. Times have changed and many of the things along with, not to our liking though!

Great hub. Shared on facebook and Pinterest.

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on April 13, 2016:

Thanks for your comments. I certainly will find out about any privileges I have when I travel to the States in May of 2016.

Catherine Giordano from Orlando Florida on April 12, 2016:

Hip Hip Hurrah for the older white hetero-sexual says an older white heterosexual female. Please don't feel put-upon. Older white heterosexual people still have plenty of privileges.

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on April 10, 2016:

Thank you very much for your comment, Bill. Yes, it is possible that some of those "older, white heterosexual males" were closet gays.

Bill Kasman on April 09, 2016:

Homosexuality isn't a new thing so it would be interesting to find out how many of those ''older, white heterosexual males'' were in fact closet gays. Unfortunately any answer can only be speculation - we shall never know.

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on April 04, 2016:

&Rj Schwartz , I'm sure that @Greenmind agrees with my pet peeves because "could not disagree" means "agree."

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on April 04, 2016:

@greenmind , I sincerely appreciate your comment and thank you for reading and commenting on this hub.

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on April 04, 2016:

@Au fait, I really appreciate your comments and must give you special thanks for sharing and pinning this hub.

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on April 04, 2016:

@Jodah, I am very pleased that you find this hub well written, It's obvious that the concerns and peeves I have are not limited to life in the United States. Thank you very much for the comments!

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on April 04, 2016:

@RJ Schwartz , I really appreciate your comments and they will give me more inspiration in my future articles!

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on April 04, 2016:

Kim, thank you very much for your great comments. I'm extremely happy that you liked this hub.

Paul Richard Kuehn (author) from Udorn City, Thailand on April 04, 2016:

Paula, Thank you very much for the great positive review of this hub. By the way, are you voting in the New York State primary on April 19?

C E Clark from North Texas on April 04, 2016:

An interesting point of view and well written as always. Sharing with followers and pinned to Awesome HubPages.

Ralph Schwartz from Idaho Falls, Idaho on April 04, 2016:

Greenmind - I'd enjoy, as I think everyone else would, if you might share some of your rationale on why you so vehemently disagree.

GreenMind Guides from USA on April 04, 2016:

I am an older white heterosexual male, an American history teacher, and I could not disagree with you more.

John Hansen from Gondwana Land on April 03, 2016:

Good work, Paul. I am a white heterosexual Australian male born in the 50s, but I can still relate to many of your concerns and peeves. Well written.

Ralph Schwartz from Idaho Falls, Idaho on April 03, 2016:

This is one of the best Hubs I have read in some time. You are speaking the words so many of us are feeling. Being demonized for being who you are and carrying strong values is simply amazing. Keep fighting the good fight!

Kim Bryan on April 03, 2016:

All I can say is, "Wow, you took the words right out of my mouth."

Suzie from Carson City on April 03, 2016:

Paul.....KUDOS!! BRAVO!! I respect and appreciate that you speak for "Older-American-White-Heterosexual-Male." This might just be the easiest, quickest reply I've ever posted.

From an "Older-American-White-Heterosexual-Female"~~DITTO.

Peace, Paula

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